This is what I mean. Why is femininity assumed to be a “performance”? Why are women so ready to self identify as something innately unaesthetic and disgusting that has to hide to appear presentable? I have no desire to be “gross” ever. Maybe don’t be something you find gross?
Most of you have a really unhealthy relationship with your own appearance, I guess? I find that acting like this is some compulsory tax you must pay to get a date, and the protesting too much about how you don’t care to be two sides of the same coin.
@wendchymes
I knew we wanted a Shih Tzu, so I called around asking if breeders had any older dogs. One of them was so delighted to hear that, as this poor little girl was returned after 9 months for “having too much energy.” Her name is Evie, she’s my love 💕
Forget men for a second, who cares about men. If YOU find yourself lying on the couch all day watching Netflix with your beer belly hanging out while stuffing your face with Cheetos and not brushing your hair all weekend or something gross…maybe don’t do those things?
This goes for personality traits too! I am so tired of everyone assuming as a baseline that everyone is actually disgusting inside and must hide for social reasons. If you feel like you are something you must hide from the world, that this is your truest self, maybe change?
@vitalgeist
It’s not just her though. Feminists have seemingly convinced women to over identify with their worst and ugliest moments and define themselves entirely by them. Like who you are when you’re taking a shit is the real you! Everything else is a performance! It’s sooo toxic 😬
Most of you have a really unhealthy relationship with your own appearance, I guess? I find that acting like this is some compulsory tax you must pay to get a date, and the protesting too much about how you don’t care to be two sides of the same coin.
Women doing beauty stuff for men is like men learning game to get women…it never exactly works right because it’s an unnatural impulse that they’re performing. You will always attract trash. Quality people can tell if you’re performing.
Nothing smells as bad as trying too hard. Trying too hard to seem like you don’t try may be even worse, as it’s even faker. Some women genuinely don’t care. They are a rare minority. Most of the women who “don’t care” are counter signaling at the top of their lungs at all times.
What makes you vain in the bad way is gaslighting yourself out of caring because it’s “shallow”, then turning all that resentment and repression on other women and the world. Nothing could possibly be more shallow or vain than virtue signaling while shaming yourself and others.
There is nothing shameful about wanting to be pretty, or doing things to be pretty, or enjoying being pretty. It doesn’t make you “vain” in the bad way.
@dumbbitchcap
I find moissanite so tacky for reasons I can’t even explain. If you want something besides a diamond get another stone that looks different…
The Grove is the last bastion of civilization. If you don’t have a mall like this, are you even a real city? I officially like LA better than the Bay Area.
On the other hand, the women going over the top with it with the specific goal in mind to attract men have the aura of a Venus fly trap. Nothing could be less attractive than the masculine quality of performing beauty for a cynical material goal.
I’ve realized that stagnation of any kind is what will straight up destroy your life more than anything. Avoid at all costs. Making a risky move could be dangerous, but is at least dynamic.
There is really no self-help solution here, idk why everyone needs there to be one. You either have the right instincts or you don’t. I’m not really sure what you’re supposed to do if you don’t. Sorry if that’s not inspirational. Not everything in life is inspirational 🤷🏻♀️.
Sex positivity, sex negativity, porn addiction, OnlyFans, PUA, dating discourse, etc etc
Can’t we just be normal about sex?
It doesn’t have to be like this 🫤
I searched “dessert” on UberEats and I get why everyone is fat now. They will legit bring you an entire cake at midnight, like just bring it to you, you don’t have to answer any questions or anything. I feel like each of those should come with a complementary wellness check…
Fraxel results are amazingggggg!! 🙌🏻✨
Still a little red, but my skin is so smooth and my pores are so tiny!
It even got rid of some broken blood vessels! My face was INSANELY swollen for 3 days, and it lightened a few beauty marks I liked :( Small price to pay! 10/10
“A healthy society is not a society where there is no sexual degeneracy, but one where such desires are regarded as counter-cultural and kept a bit underground.”
@dash_r_media
Relationship advice books are typically written by deranged people though? Those who can’t teach etc etc
Like does she think those Cosmo articles are real life too and people are out here doing or expecting that?
I've been watching show "Gossip Girl" I think is very well-made, entertaining and has unusual sensibility, very much like anime show with Azn-Japanese social morality and flavor. I recommend...I like amoral character Blair Waldorf
I forgot to get pics last night, so here’s me trying on my crazy outfit. The only pic I have of my makeup is my proof of Covid test. I’m an idiot lol
Now back to sleep 😝
@oystergirl33
I am for sure a woman lol I understand it, I just don’t agree with it. I have never felt like that. Anything that isn’t completely “natural” is not a performance. All of modern life is unnatural. I identify more with chosen behaviors than my natural state Many people do I think?
Why is every other event/party in SF some kind of theme party where you have to play a little game or cosplay or do something for 8-year-olds? Can we not have parties without a gimmick anymore? It’s so exhausting. I just want to sit there and talk to my friends, plz…
Me at 15, the most goth person who ever lived, obv. Was def going for this vibe. My bff and I made the first Instagram filters by putting a clear piece of tape over the flash of our digital cameras and coloring it with a marker to get a color wash. We took this very seriously 😝