Male half of monogamish soulmate couple. BJJ black belt exploring self actualization through movement and the body. Connection, not distraction. 🦍🍄❤️🔥🫶
Uhhh…we just picked up a girl at the bar for the first time! She ditched her Tinder date for us! (To be fair we are a 2-for-1 deal so that’s pretty good value)
We have vanilla company over and Mrs is naughty texting with a boy. She’s trying to hide it but I can tell from her coy smile while she taps away on her phone. 😈🎅
Real talk: Nonmonogamy has given me the gift of being able to truly deeply love my friends, especially women.
We just had two friends over for Easter brunch, one that we actually met through the lifestyle and another that has no clue about our extracurricular activities.
In the nonmonogamous lifestyle, we’re free to be our authentic selves.
When we connect with others in the tribe it’s likely to be their authentic selves too.
True self meets true self.
This is why we can connect so deeply, so quickly.
My vasectomy is tomorrow 😳.
In the meantime I’m indulging in some bareback fantasies to get myself through. It’s not something we’ve ever done but with the right special someone… 🥵
Swinging would be the most popular form of nonmonogamy if it didn’t have shameful connotations.
It’s great with me if it stays taboo so that it continues to only attract the open minded, the self confident, and the adventurous.
The lifestyle never ceases to be interesting…
A year ago we met a local couple and while there didn’t seem to be play chemistry, I kept running into her at the gym and we had some really interesting conversations - it felt like we could actually become pretty good friends.
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Miami:
We accidentally broke our marriage due to vigorous play last night.
My response: “worth it!”.
As this is the SECOND time this has happened, I think we’re getting wedding band tattoos.
We just had a semi-difficult conversation with close lifestyle friends that turned out really well.
While we’re mostly compatible there are some key differences in our play styles.
Talking through it, we connected more deeply and leveled up this foursome relationship.
There is a piece of sexual etiquette I would like to normalize in group play situations:
If you arrive after play has begun, do not attempt to insert yourself into the action. Wait until someone specifically invites you and then interact only with them.
It feels silly and obvious to admit to fully loving my friends, but I honestly wasn’t able to do this until recently. I look around and highly doubt most partnered people are able to fully connect with their friends, especially of the opposite gender.
Mrs and I are going to hell.
Apparently our mojo has been shining a bit bright lately and we’ve each garnered interest from people who should be off limits.
Will we take a bite from the apple or play it safe? 😇😈
I’m going all in with my lifestyle tribe and deleting my other Twitter account.
I deeply appreciate the friendship connections we’ve made, especially through
@PaloozaPodcast
and
@NaughtyGym
. I can fully be my true self with y’all, free of the burdens of “normal” (boring) ❤️❤️❤️
Mrs and I did molly yesterday, threw on tux and wedding dress and had a wedding ceremony for just the two of us. She cried through most of it. Had an amazing day.
Later we met our boyfriend & girlfriend for dinner. We consummated our marriage by fucking them first 🤷🏼♂️
I’ve really resisted identifying as a “swinger”, but when I look around I realize most of my favorite humans are pineapple people. While it’s still not a “lifestyle” for us, I’m falling more in love with this tribe day by day.
I don’t have a single “type” that I’m attracted to.
Just like “love is love”, “chemistry is chemistry”.
This is also why I really don’t mind if someone isn’t into me.
You can’t predict these things…and often I won’t fully know until our first kiss.
I love them both. It is only through the security and deeper intimacy my wife and I have gained through swinging that I’m able to fully open my heart to these (nonsexual) friendships.
So, I officially have a girlfriend ❤️
That was unexpected.
I still don’t identify with poly thinking or rules - I just really like her and want her in our life.
Mrs must have legit gone 14 rounds yesterday with me and a friend. I have never seen (or heard of) anything like it. She usually isn’t multi-orgasmic but had dozens.
I am in awe. Oh, and it’s our wedding anniversary! 🥳
@Aella_Girl
It would be interesting to plot body count velocity by age.
Probably a burst in the early 20s, then a lull until people really begin to self actualize in their mid 30s.
I think we’re done with the dating apps.
We already have a beautiful lifestyle network and meeting new couples outside of large events just doesn’t seem worth the effort anymore.
That said, if you know someone we should meet and might vibe with, please introduce us 🥰
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takeover this week is clothing optional and it wasn’t until this morning that I gave it a single thought - hanging out naked with my friends seems like the most normal thing in the world.
Hopefully no one is stressed - it feels totally normal pretty quick.
Going from swinging to poly is fucking challenging. I’m up for the challenge but this ain’t easy.
Honestly, if you just want a diversity of sexual experiences, swinging is the way to go.
Today we’ve been married 20 years. The lifestyle has been a huge part of our growth and discovering the deeper strength in our union.
We’ve learned that our relationship isn’t conditional on society’s rules and we each fully support the joy and self expression of each other.💕❤️
So I’ve played with a single gal 4 times now, my only separate play experiences so far.
Tomorrow we’re planning to play but first I want to check in and make sure that she’s OK that my life, family, etc is quite set and I can never solely meet her sexual (or companionship) needs
One amazing thing about being married to my soulmate is that others can be their own interesting flavors to taste rather than “the entire package.”
It allows me to allow them to be their genuine selves and just appreciate them for exactly who they are.
I’m going in my first solo date tonight!
To ease her nerves, Mrs requested that I also set her up with a solo date at the same time. She has played with this guy before but he is extremely busy and often unavailable. I don’t know who is more excited!
I’m very disappointed in myself that Mrs Honeyspoon had to cajole me 4 times before I finally got naked and jumped in. I obviously need psychiatric help.
The house is doing all sorts of creaking and popping as the wood and metal contracts.
The cat is extra snuggly with us warm humans. It will be a good day for blankets and board games on the floor.
Mrs mortified a vanilla friend at our local sex shop today, offering him unsolicited assistance in selecting quality items.
As a thank you the owner sent her home with some stocking stuffers (stocking fluffers?)
A month ago vs today. I probably lost 4 lbs in the last 7 days and have been feeling incredible. This has been my easiest rapid fat loss cycle yet as I’ve been just eating 1-2 meals per day and just staying hungry as late into the day as I can manage.
To our friends on here, if there are ever adjustments you’d like to make or expectations you’d like to (re)set, please tell us. Don’t keep it to yourself.
We know life and the lifestyle is complicated and we’re here for the whole mess.
Mrs and I did an MDMA session together yesterday, the first one with just the two of us in 8 months.
It was extraordinary and showed me just how far along our growth journey we have come.
All sense of lack or insecurity is just gone. Love and abundance is what remains.
“Comets” are my favorite relationships. It gives plenty of time between meeting to let the energy build and reflect on previous encounters. How about you?
I’m starting to nail down my relationship orientation - not monogamous, not poly, not open marriage, not (quite) swinger.
The descriptor I’m using now is “open circle”.
I got this idea from
@casualswinger
‘s suggestion to practice “opening the circle” at lifestyle events.
There is no better feeling than being on the receiving end of your soulmate’s compersion. It is the most sincere display of true love.
#polyamory
#swinging
My opinion of the Scarlet Ranch in Denver has greatly improved since the last time we were there 4 years ago. The lighting was better, music was better, crowd was hot, and they did a nice job of decorating for the holidays.
We’re definitely bumping it up on our list of LS clubs.
Looking in the mirror just now: “I might actually be an attractive guy.?”
Very weird realization. I was always scrawny, awkward, nerdy. After years of consistent work, I’ve changed, but I still see myself as my old self.
Not sure if I can let this sink in. Weird.