My daddy had opened a laundromat and put my momma through law school. My brother bought my SIL a brand new house as his wedding gift. My BIL regularly balls out on my sister.
Don’t tell me my standards are unrealistic when the men closest to me are doing these things.
Man high self esteem is a life saver. Cause in the face of rejection, bad news, things meant to break me down, I really think I’m still worthy and going to win at this thing called life.
I literally do not care what folks do at their wedding as long as there is an open bar.
Also y’all wouldn’t leave a Jewish or Indian wedding if the folks started breaking out the Horah or Bhangra so plz
Folks are so accustomed to (and expect) Black women and girls being in positions of struggle and labor, that seeing them being “spoiled” is a huge issue.
Women who never fully experienced the level of male validation that they *wished* they did in their youth/young adulthood, turn into desperate predator aunties.
Very no foundation and red lip energy.
This new generation of men really grew up watching their mom slowly lose her sanity to keep stomachs fed and ashy feet in J’s. Now they expect some young lady to continue the legacy.
A tragedy.
This new generation of females depend on niggas to much anyways. I watched my moms work her ass off to do everything she wanted to do, get what she wanted to get , with or with out a nigga. That’s what real independent women do, but ya know ... y’all wouldn’t know bout that. 😂
We hear paradoxical rhetoric and virtue signaling about educated women being seen as “good girls”, yet we still see concerns about being emasculated by some letters. Smh.
From friends that tell you your standards are “too high” to strangers on the internet insulting you, your significant other and/or your family, because they choose to love you out loud with material things...the reciepts are there.
Nothing sucks more than really healing from an awful experience with one person, working yourself up to really feeling good about yourself
...to just end up feeling small, stupid and insignificant again.
When I said that’s exactly what these tweets be about.
Feminist language as a guise of one-upsmanship through a man, making the full circle back to misogyny.
i can’t impress upon y’all enough how much your “monogamous” relationship would not stop your man from fucking me if that’s what i want lmao. but they know that. and that’s why women are desperate for other women to take responsibility for making sure their man doesn’t get fucked
Thank you for all the men literally proving their emotional fragility re: educated women with their responses, red herring arguments and projections.
As you go to type a response, just know the jokes literally write themselves 😂
“You bitches are fatherless” - a nigga who’s 3 generations deep in fatherlessness and poverty, and is now passing the gift on to Man Man, whom he hasn’t seen since the child was in utero.
I ended my first year of college with all D’s and F’s. I was depressed, and isolated being 1,000mi from home. I spent the remaining yrs pulling up my GPA, & graduated with a 2.9.
In 2022, I’ll be Dr. Siiddartha. GPA on it’s own is not an accurate measure of future success.
The peer pressure part to “give someone a chance” is the worst. I used to really hate it in high school & college, because I don’t have to force myself to like anyone back because they “like” me.
I insinuated that many men are not emotionally mature nor intelligent to process their own feelings re: education, intelligence, power and what that means for their masculinity.
Cussing and acting crazy in my mentions proving that right there lmao.
Also, the original tweet was taken out of it’s original context. One of your fellow black mens said y’all were all poor, uneducated & incarcerated, and unable to be “breadwinners”. I came in with examples to defend my black kangz. Y’all niggas so unappreciative.
In an attempt to say femme humor is stupid, now y’all getting ate tf up in these boy math tweets.
Shoulda sat there & ate ya food with one of them two forks and bowls you own.
My favorite Twitter scam was the féminité coaches.
Wigs glued askew, always in Rainbow but had the gworls PAYING to learn to walk and dress like a Grand Theft Auto street walker.
Anyway, I’m stepping into my identity where spoiling is my love language.
I’ve been spoiled my whole life. I will be spoiled by a man who loves me. I will spoil and upgrade my parents. I plan on (reasonably) spoiling my future kids & grands ‘til I lay in my spoiled rotten grave.
I’m not against inter-racial relationships, clearly. But am I the only one noticing lots of commercials with Black women in relationships with white men?
Wonder what the targeting is for that?
I watch mostly sports TV… 🤔
I’m seeing tweets insinuating she set him up & should d*e…
Very unwell that an innocuous post by a woman is bearing more blame & anger than the senseless violence, an act that could’ve been enacted with or without a social media post.
RIP and blessings to his fam.
@___bba
I didn’t miss anything? Afrocentric features are beautiful, but I mused out loud (on the wrong ass platform) about how the prevalence of tiny noses in the media has us thinking these noses are big. They’re average Black noses to me.
Men: I wanna be able to give my kids anything and teach em they deserve to be spoiled
Also men: Y’all dads spoiled you into thinking you deserve things
I thinking bragging about having sex with any man is weird. It’s even weirder to brag about having sex with someone who is in a relationship, because it’s almost always said in a context to down or hurt another woman. Just weirdo behavior all around.
To round this bad boy off, idc what unhinged internet strangers think. The ones upset, are the very ones I’n describing. Step ya self-esteem up, broke bwoi
Tbh, every guy I have dated has been at the same educational level as me (at the time we dated), or financially comfortable enough to never have to go to school.
So the “your poor judgement” tweets not hitting. I have eyes and tweet on what I observe lmfao
I believe the obssesion with being head of household stems from families being one of the few places some men can exert power.
Can’t do it in the workplace, or social settings, so home life gets the brunt of lost feelings of control. Don’t @ me idc idc idc
Spark notes: folks are/were arguing that she could code as another race because of her facial features. She has her mom’s facial features.
People mean to say ethnically ambiguous, which I don’t disagree with. The problem = calling her racially ambiguous when she is not.
My unofficial theory is that some YT women wanna cash in on the mixed baddie aesthetic so bad. The ones with money transform themselves into it. And the ones who can’t/don’t just seek to procreate and live vicariously through them kids.
Men don’t even slap like that.
It took me a few years in my 20s to realize many are playthings you pick up + put down when they no longer serve you.
You do this until there’s one that compels you to stop playing with toys.
@OhEmmeG
Sex can disrupt the lining. So if ya uterine lining is already thin/ready to slough off for ya period, a paynus knocking into your walls will disrupt it and make it fall off —> “early period”
Ok, after 17 applications, interviews, rankings, and lots of tears + perseverance, I matched with my
#1
choice for my psychology doctoral internship.
I’ll be at one of the top pediatric hospitals in the country. God is gewd.
Ok, just finished Little Fires Everywhere and I hated all the characters in some unique way. Which just goes to show they put they FOOT into character development.
Yesterday, Hanifa’s marketing team messed up the release time for their sale and today there’s an open position for social media marketing manager.
I am screaming.
I now profoundly dislike when people tell women to date outside their type. If they’re gonna be disappointed, let it be with someone they find attractive.
Nothing worse than going out of your comfort zone to be played by Shrek.
I insinuated that many men are not emotionally mature nor intelligent to process their own feelings re: education, intelligence, power and what that means for their masculinity.
Cussing and acting crazy in my mentions proving that right there lmao.
I think a large part of Bey’s visuals (in general), is unfamiliarity with southern Black Creole/Catholicism & spirituality, and how damn syncretic it is with the religions of the various West African groups we descend from. I think ppl think this only exists in Caribbean.
I’m all for Black girls in luxury. I hate that it has become a dogwhistle for either men who believe we should represent struggle, and women who think only certain types of BW should be in luxury.
You and I both know this isn’t a question about us, and more about some men’s inability to cope with feelings & thoughts re: status, intelligence and power that educated women elicit
I really don’t care enough to lecture other women about their “choices”. When all is said and done, folks get wrapped up in fairytales, and learn hard lessons.
However, the usual glee y’all have in pouring salt into a wound is alarming.