She/Her. Author of 'Divorce is Normal', published by Penguin. Mostly exhausted, sometime enthu. Vegan. Occasionally, I love to sing. 🌻
Writer | TedX speaker
Yesterday things felt very real! I walked into a bookstore and saw my name sitting there on the shelf. It's now out in the world, and all the emotions I'm feeling constantly are an intoxicating blend of excitement and nervousness. As of today, my book has officially launched! 😍
Dear women,
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE IS EVERYTHING.
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE IS EVERYTHING.
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE IS EVERYTHING.
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE IS EVERYTHING.
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE IS EVERYTHING.
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE IS EVERYTHING.
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE IS EVERYTHING.
Been looking for plasma donors, and my no has been around in some groups + stories. I've fielded calls from men asking me if I'm single, if I can share photos, my dp is nice etc, and 1 "friend" who said he'd help if 'at least now you go on a date with me'
Some men are DISGUSTING
Such a fitting reply from Music Academy, showing they have a spine and can stand up to these bigots with a vile personal vendetta. Happy to see this.
Please return awards, stop performing, whatever. The trash is finally taking itself out.
More and more power to
@tmkrishna
❤️
In the midst of a family medical emergency, I'd passed out my number and received wildly inappropriate calls, video calls and dick pics.
I wrote about this harrowing experience on
@viceindia
. Thank you for giving me a safe space to channel my anger.
Today, i turn a year older. This is the happiest I've ever been.
The last three birthdays sucked, i was crying on all of them. I was so sad, so unhappy. But today, I'm smiling ear to ear; genuinely from the bottom of my heart. YAY FOR ME. 🌟🎉🙌🏽
Yesterday, I attended a wedding of this FAB human from my divorce support group. Her 9 year old son said "I'm so excited amma is getting married, now we can all be one big family" 😭
If this isn't hope, then what is? 🥺 Heart is a PUDDLE.
#happilyremarried
#divorceisnormal
Women can't even step out and enjoy a game of cricket. Women can't do anything without men objectifying, ogling or stalking. UGH.
So disgusted. Please report this thread and hope better sense prevails?
Put one tweet about divorce and I have men asking me for sex because I have "prior experience". Indian men have zero chill and their behaviour doesn't even shock me anymore. Hitting the block button lyk anythinggggg I swear.
A ladies loo on the go, in Pune. They're charging just 5 bucks, but it's extremely well maintained and clean. And they roam around areas where it's otherwise tough to find loos easily. Also, sanitary napkins and Wi-Fi available for free. So well done! 👏🏼
This is a bus. Honestly feeling way fancier than most airlines these days. I'm extremely anxious about buses, but this is the most comfortable I've ever felt.
Apparently others are finding this useful, so putting it here. If i can pretend to walk around like a normal person while my uterus is killing me internally, it's because of this product. It's a heat pad that can be stuck, and remains hot for 8+ hours, numbing most cramps.
I thought it wouldn't get worse, but since this morning, I've received (on whatsapp) 3 dick pics, and 7 men trying to video call me continuously. Even in a medical emergency, men think only with their genitals.
Women: NEVER, EVER let your number out in public forums.
Been looking for plasma donors, and my no has been around in some groups + stories. I've fielded calls from men asking me if I'm single, if I can share photos, my dp is nice etc, and 1 "friend" who said he'd help if 'at least now you go on a date with me'
Some men are DISGUSTING
Surrogacy, adoption, natural birth, let it be whatever. Simply don't poke nose. Privacy is a joke only. Let the family be! They'll share what they want to, if they want, and whenever they choose. 🙄
#Nayanthara
Monsoon is arriving, and here's a friendly reminder. Cats try to avoid the water and rain, they climb on top of car tyres and sometimes even sit inside, near the engine for warmth and dry. PLEASE honk a couple of times before you start driving. It doesn't hurt to check. 🙂
The funniest thing that happened today at my stall
Lady: cheese can't be vegan, this is a scam
Me: you could try it if you wish to, we have tasters for all flavours :)
*2 mins later*
Lady: i was right, it tastes like cardboard
Me: ma'am that's the ice cream spoon for the taster
Weekend activity involved harmonising and singing one of our favourite, underrated
@arrahman
songs. 🤗🤗 Kadhalikkum Pennin (Kadhalan).
So. Much. Fun! And special applause for that puppy in the middle for being extra chamathu.
Earphones/headphones highly recommended. 💌
If you're feeling low on confidence this morning, pls remember that in Dhoom 2, Sunehri didn't even know that the precious sword would be guarded by an alarm, but Mr.A still said she's a great thief. World's 2nd best thief, to be precise.
We've got this. Let's Monday.
Aunt passed away this afternoon battling
#covid
. Thank you to everybody here who helped finding a ventilator, hospital bed, A+ blood donors, plasma, and everything else. Grateful. Please arm yourself with Covid related sources, stay home and be safe. This is scarily difficult. 😔
If this poster design could get approved for one of the biggest movies ever, then brand managers should stop caring about making logos bigger.
#PonniyinSelvan
#floatinghead
Day 1 of living on my own. First time that I've moved out of parents' home. Good thing to tick off my list before I turn 30 this year.
Feeling very very very adult on this fine (albeit exhausting) Monday. It's a new beginning and I'm rather excited. :)
Excited beyond belief that I'm taking the conversation about divorce to a whole new platform! Tentatively titled 'Divorce Is Normal', my first book is to be published late 2022 by
@PenguinIndia
. So thankful to
@ShreyaPunj
💘Cannot believe this is happening, let's get cracking! 🐧
And I watch
#NerkondaPaarvai
and I absolutely loved it. What wonderful acting and such a powerful script. Bawled through most of the movie. Other than two crying irritating babies, the entire theatre watched in silence and full concentration. Thankful for such movies.
I didn't watch Pink fearing it'd be too triggering. I really want to watch
@nerkondapaarvai
though. How to prepare well before getting to watch it? Share tips and tricks please.
The number of people I've had to block today after announcing that my book is almost ready for launch has been appalling. Just a reminder of how stigmatized divorce is in our society. I cannot even have a conversation about it without being villified. Just imagine. 🙂
Been talking to one more woman who wants a divorce and can't get one. Why? Because her mother refuses to let her.
"He's beating me" "yeah, but it's not that severe"
"He's saying vulgar things about our family" "just ignore"
"Mom, I'm unhappy" "life isn't fair, beta"
Held my book for the first ever time 🥺 This feeling of reaching the finish line, after 2 challenging years of balancing work, my personal life, and the constant emotional upheaval stirred by such a sensitive topic, is beyond words (pun intended).
I was travelling by local train today and it was pretty crowded. A Hindu woman with a small child in her arms started asking for seats. While she did that, a burkha-clad muslim woman offered to hold the child on the lap while the mother found a seat. This is the India I want.
Featured in today's
@timesofindia
, Delhi edition. So heartening to see many other fellow women opening up publically. Unless we talk, the stigma won't end. Thank you for listening, encouraging and being part of change.
#divorceisnormal
(check tag on insta), hell yes it is. 🌟🙌🏽
Posted on instagram about the harrasment I faced from men when I put my number out for a Covid emergency. Not only have the "Not All Men" brigade arrived on the comments section, I'm getting harrassed even more.
And then you wonder why victims don't speak up.
MY HEAD HURTS. 😵
Hi! I'm looking for any help that's available in Mumbai/Navi Mumbai to help women in abusive relationships at home. I'm trying to help someone who's locked herself in a room away from husband who's beating her. Please help me with numbers/helplines. URGENT. Thank you.
Just can't understand why celebrities are asking regular people to donate while they're sitting on crores. We're slogging out butts off to do bare minimum, help others. People have lost jobs, shut businesses, industries have collapsed.
No Virushka, you and I are NOT the same. 🙄
My aunt needs to be on ventilator urgently, her husband may have to be admitted too. So need an ICU and regular bed urgently. They are currently in
#Dombivilli
#Mumbai
- but can be admitted anywhere that's got a slot. Any contacts who can help?
#COVID
@SOSSaviours
@mybmcHealthDept
Hi! I guess this is me finally putting myself out here. As a small business owner who's been affected by the pandemic (I've had to shut shop), I'm looking to be a part of content/branding/marketing projects. Pls RT, and DM with any leads. Any help is appreciated. Thank you! 🌻
So "Bombay Kalacharam" = pubs/sluts/girls who ask for it?
"Chennai kalacharam" = culture/sex-after-marriage/girls who are totes safe?
SURE, WHY NOT! Why are these people taking up space on the internet and doing this to us?
The irony in using "tiger love" on a post that is so blatantly cruel. Tigers are drugged and forced to pose. There is nothing funny or brave about this. If anything, it's the most cowardly thing to do for a social media photo op. Please do better, humans.
I do want to go on a fun date! Nothing serious, just eat good food, have a drink, laugh a lot and feel comfortable. Too much to ask for? Twitter, do your thing and help a bored girl out no. My friends say I'm a little bit quite nice. 😌
Need A+ blood donors URGENTLY at
#Dombivili
,
#Mumbai
- must have completed 28 days after recovery from
#COVID
for my aunt who's critical and on ventilator.
#plasma
Please amplify and help. Thank you.
#Mumbai
, Sunday protest is happening at Thane. Those of you cribbing about how far Thane is, please kindly note that a LOT of us travelled over 2+ hours to get to August Kranti the other day without one complaint. So please take a train/bus/cab whatever and be there to fight.
A friend's aunt works alone at
#Vizag
. She is 57 and contracted
#covid
4 days ago. Her oxygen level is low at 78. She need IMMEDIATE care.
All the hospitals we contacted are full. No beds are available.
Any leads for hospital beds? Please contact 8520999632 if you can help.
Two long years since my boy crossed the rainbow bridge.
Time has gone by, but the tears will never dry up.
Love you forever, my baby Calvin. I'm glad you're pain-free and cancer-free.
Dear men,
If you are going to make advances at women online, please remember a few things:
- we tell our friends
- it takes only a few mins to find out if you're married/comtd
- if you're poly, let us know upfront
- if not and you're crossing boundaries, we'll tell your partner
Lost a big part of our hearts, and an incredibly loved family member this morning. Rest well, in peace, and pain-free, you lovely boy. He's left us with 15 years of memories, and so much love. Painful, but so grateful for his existence. 🥺❤️
Had breakfast at The Filter Coffee, indiranagar yesterday morning and I have to say that finding fantastic Tamil sambhar in Karnataka is a thrill like no other
Possibly the best experience of my life. Thank you for the opportunity, Flame University. 🙌🏽✨
This was fantastic. Video will be out soon. Thank you for all your wonderful wishes and encouragement. 😊
"Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk." Really.
#divorceisnormal
#tedx
TIL that the word "kedi" is actually KD, an acronym for - Known Delinquents, a term used by cops during British era for criminal records. Very pleased with this history lesson today da, kd buggers. 😂
I still can't understand why relatives need to comment on your weight first thing when you see you after a while. Do they think we don't have mirrors? Or a weighing scale?? Or the fact that we just don't fucking want to hear their opinion on what we've put on or lost???
Woke up at 6.30 (I'm not a morning person), started looking for a cab at 7.50, found a cab at 9 and now my plans of reaching work early and leave early is all for nothing. Maybe the trick is to not sleep and look for cabs all night. Your city sucks, Bangalore.
Was talking to a male friend about how upset and angry I've been feeling the last few days with the
#MetooIndia
storm. He at first agrees with me (I stand up for women etc). After a while asks, "hey is it that time of the month? You seem really upset."
Friendship cut.
Crushed a workout today, on second day of period and after a full working day. Proud of it. 🙌🏽
On days we can, we do our best.
On days we can't, we take rest.
💁🏽♀️🌟🌹
How much we have normalised the injustice that women, mothers in particular, go through when all of this labour just gets conveniently tagged as "unconditional love" 😖
Fellow entrepreneurs/freelancers/work-from-home-ers or just anybody who spends a large part of the day working alone - how, just how, JUST HOW, do you deal with the crippling loneliness that comes along with it? How to live a non-existent social life? How do you cope? Tell me.
Putting myself out there in just one tweet got me SO much leads, and wonderful people with exciting opportunities. Thank you all for your support, motivation and love. It's helped me greatly.
I begin something new today. :) Wish me luck!!
Hi! I guess this is me finally putting myself out here. As a small business owner who's been affected by the pandemic (I've had to shut shop), I'm looking to be a part of content/branding/marketing projects. Pls RT, and DM with any leads. Any help is appreciated. Thank you! 🌻
Connected with an entire family on Instagram whose daughter went through a divorce. She celebrates her freedom today and they video called me right after court and we did a little dance together in happiness. I watched the parents go from nervous beings to confident, happy ones.
Just heard a song that I associated a lot with the ex after an incredible long time and felt...nothing. Just enjoyed the beautiful song for what a stunner it is. So empowering.
Wish you healing and the strength to move on and never look back too. Happy Monday.
how I've survived 4 years without my favourite goofball, I don't know. grief is so complex. celebrating Calvin everyday. love you so much, my baby boy. ❤️
Good people of twitter, please help!! Looking for a single room occupancy in a 2/3 BHK around Khar/Santacruz/Goregaon from March/April. Rent: 20-27k ideally. If you're looking for a flatmate or know someone who is, please put me in touch? Kindly RT! 🤠
#Mumbai
#flatmates
Happy birthday to the father, who consistently reminds everybody it's not the time to be apolitical or sit quiet and watch the world burn down. Forever inspiration.
He doesn't like to be wished, and there's no mood to celebrate anything, but here's a toast to a good human. ❤️
I'm taking the divorce support group online today and the first session is going to happen in a couple of hours. Safe to say I'm quite nervous and I just hope everybody finds it useful. Please do send some happy vibes and good thoughts my way if you can. Thaaaaaaanks!