doms need aftercare too man fucking hell. to any doms, i hope someone pets your hair and tells YOU you did a good job, that you didnt really hurt them, that it was just a scene. that you deserve to be vulnerable. that you deserve to be loved.
things that dont make a VA your friend:
1. talking in a server
2. them following you/interacting on twt
3. complimenting you, being in their dm once or twice
things that do make a VA your friend:
1. them literally saying it lmao
i have been keeping this in for so long out of pure fear. i am losing my sanity, but if i get shit for this i do not give a fuck anymore. TW just in case.
maybe haven was so fearful because i used to be his domme and he made me believe he had feelings for me + we were exclusive then i suspected he was with someone else, so i confronted him and he was with not one, BUT TWO OTHER WOMEN. AND ONLY ADMITTED IT BC I CALLED HIM OUT
TW // racism, death threats
@CrunchyVA
@MrDeadlyLucky7
@RumncokeVA
just wanted to let yall know this is what ur fans are capable of :) i hope your “communities” burn in hell 🙏🏾
things that arent cancel culture:
1. losing support for being shitty
2. being exposed for something bad u did
3. people being suspicious of you
4. a demographic telling u ur not being a good ally
i could go on.
for many, going online and interacting can be a form of escapism from the shit we deal with in real life, especially racism. then we get on here and have to deal with it all over again. so dont fucking ask me why i care.
ykw lemme say smth. a lot of the time when black people flock together in a space and rejoice in their shared experiences, other people get uncomfortable. if you wanna know how you can support us? let us have our MOMENT.
and to whoever made that account since they follow a bunch of us. i want you to know we don't support you. we don't want or need that energy and you've made it impossibly harder to be listened to. you should be ashamed you're fucking embarrassing
last thing i gotta say (hopefully) is ffs. dom/mes are allowed to go through shit too. we need affirmations and to be told everything is gonna be okay too. if youre not willing to give your partner that but expect them to be in the mental space to dom you, you dont deserve them.
ORRR OR when i was so traumatized by life and the community that i couldnt dom bc i thought it wouldnt be safe, so he dropped me bc our “trauma wasn’t compatible” 🤨 from the bottom of my heart that man is a coward and a liar and i hope he cries ab this tonight.
“I wanna apologize to all of you for what I did it was very wrong and I am very sorry. I just would like to move on and lead a normal life. You know get a job and a wife and change my ways. And I hope this apology impresses you even though my grandmother made me do it-“
hello! as someone who can have a panic attack upon seeing so much as a certain name, pls be sure you're doing TWs right. putting asterisks in names or words isn't recognized by twt as a muted word. please just put
TW// full word/name
and then continue the tweet. thank you 💖
sexual coersion is such a fucking ISSUE that isnt talked about enough. the wondering if youre overreacting and why you didnt just say no. not wanting to talk bc you dont think people will believe you. it fucking hurts. fuck this. blocked.
personal opinion? the whole "tell me if I make you uncomfortable" thing is sweet and I say it too but it isn't enough. not everyone is capable of that. recognize where your own behavior falls short. don't make it solely the other persons responsibility.
i may be outspoken about issues but there are lines I do not cross and doxxing is one of them. don't act like you're helping us. you just made it so much worse.
the way mfs need to realize that things that happen online can escalate to having real-life consequences. what you say and do here MATTERS. these are real people and just bc you are hurt doesn't mean you can get careless with peoples lives and wellbeing. get it the fuck together-
churro said it but i cant rt so i just wanna reiterate and i hope thats okay but pls do tag your posts for TWs fully spelled out so ppl with muted words wont see it! its a matter of emotional safety pls
and non black people: it is NOT our job to make you feel comfortable when we talk or even joke about our racially charged experiences. this is exactly why we feel the need to create spaces specifically for black people.
disagree if you want, but im tired of seeing people say theyre going to continue supporting bad creators bc of their “community”. would you not rather find a community facilitated by someone who makes women and femmes feel safe? who can you possibly feel safe there?
lurking in crunchys chat to see everyone being like "omg take care you smol bean drink water I'm so sorry for what you're dealing with 🥺" from the bottom of my heart, go to hell LMAOOOO
gonna make this clear. if you are still in any of the servers or support the vas that have been exposed for predatory, manipulative, abusive etc. behavior? do not touch this account. i do not want you in my space. i do not like you.
what is the hell gave any man the idea that they deserve MULTIPLE beautiful women at the same time without their knowledge of each other 😐 fucking bums istg
im telling yall. your reddit followers, your twitter, your moans? none of that makes you untouchable. watch how fast you crumble when the people you hurt can find it within themselves to speak up.
its funny when ppl are like “i didnt think youd wanna hear the toy/the sounds” NAHHH GIMME THAT. GIMME ALL OF THAT ACTUALLY PUT THE PHONE CLOSER SL- ahem.
no bc how are u, as a white person, going to speak on a racial issue and call everyone rightfully calling him out toxic bitches? if you said youre new WHY WOULD YOU SPEAK?
the fact of the matter is, it is a privilege in itself to be able to choose when you want to speak out. your job as an ally is to choose to do it anyway. if you choose not to, youre not an ally.
no matter how many audios a VA posts, listeners DO NOT own them and arent entitled to any information from them. no matter how much they interact, listeners are not entitled to ANYTHING from them.
idk if this opinion is popular or not, but enjoying someone’s content and being a FAN is different. abusing power and having a genuine relationship between a listener+va is DIFFERENT. this implies no listeners can be friends or have relationships with VAs and i dont believe that-
loving that so many of my friends are in relationships but I hate that ppl see you as bitter if it makes you sad, I'm happy for THEM and sad for ME leave me alone bnjfgbkgf
im so sorry but willow just reminded me, he also tried to use being poly as an excuse for essentially cheating 🙏🏾 and i didnt wanna invalidate that so i was stuck 😁okay nowww im done
this is definitely an "if the shoe fits wear it" tweet but have yall ever been in a vc with a male va and hes trying to make his voice all deep and sexy but he just sounds hes auditioning to be a clicker from the last of us
also if youve said anything along the lines of “im sorry, i support you” and i havent replied it is bc i appreciate you but dont know what to say 😅 its hard to accept i deserve support when i put down my trauma a lot so. i see it and i value it, still learning to value myself 💕
i fear for my brother, my cousins, my friends, my parents. i fear for myself. ill be rting and signing and donating what i can. other than that everyone please take care of yourselves ill be away.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with changing opinions. no guilt necessary as long as you have an open mind and are willing to listen. it becomes a problem when you listen to respond instead of listening to understand.
i really wonder how yt men in their mid to late thirties expect anyone to accept their “i didnt know better” excuse for being racist, ignorant, or prejudiced. YOU ARE TOO GROWN.
im ngl guys. ive been spreading myself incredibly thin and my friends and therapist helped me realize that i dont take care of myself enough when i do. so if i am not as outspoken for just a little, im not hiding i just need to breathe without speaking.
enemies to lovers n they have to get ready for a formal event together and shes tightening his tie bc hes fumbling n theyre late and he says something cheeky so she slightly chokes him with the tie and loosens and secretly he likes it, smiling down at her