bell hooks extends so much space and grace to men/boys for mfs to not acknowledge how Black feminists have cared about everyone’s experiences under this patriarchal society.
Y’all are silent about black femicide and BW high rates of dv, sex abuse, etc. so think about what you are doing when you demand BW center everybody else’s deaths and suffering over their own.
“Men who are afraid to feel must keep women around to do their feeling for them while dismissing us for the same supposedly “inferior” capacity to feel deeply. But in this way also, men deny themselves their own essential humanity, becoming trapped in dependency & fear.” - AudreL
@CeciATL
BW no longer want to be our helpmates, punching bags and stepping stones and have the audacity to not accept blame/sweep under the rug our toxic behavior towards them.
@evelynvwoodsen
Often times, they get attention by antagonizing, harassing or threatening women in real life. They don’t view women as humans deserving of decency, but objects to conquer or objects to martyr for them.
Let black people be xenophobic and nationalist like everybody else. Stop putting them on moral pedestals b/c of alleged understanding of oppression and you wouldn’t be disappointed.
One day y’all will have to admit you’re in an identity crisis and these wounds are self inflicted. You can literally do this style with rollers but also so what if you can’t?
It’s obvious that most people are encouraging men to become better solely for the purpose of romantic relationships and not so women can just exist amongst them w/o violence, intimidation, harassment, stalking and abuses of power at work or in politics.
Let’s unlearn using “easy” as an insult in regards to sex. It should be easy in the sense of intentional, consensual, honest/ transparent motives and communication to get sex. Sex is not a conquest or reward.
Niggie A: Hey Black people! It’s a nice day outside!
Niggies: Theres no days or niceness just whiteness. To be nice is to be white and uphold respectability politics that our ancestors fought to abolish.
Niggie A: ☹️
@LittleMammith
Top top it all off that aide didn’t even touch his switch or not follow the iep. She was just doing her job and got attacked. It’s insane that b/c he’s Black they’ll center racism but ignore misogyny when shes the victim that almost died. They’re sadists not sjws.
We need affordable housing now. Mfs are forced to stay with abusive people for housing security because landlords require 2-3x your rent and mfs wages are low.
It’s never not wild to me that so many people, especially Black people, have to learn how to be just decent and humane towards BW. It’s not automatic or just seen as what you’re supposed to do.
Prison abolition is great, however, don’t be upset at people that are concerned with their safety especially since people aren’t also talking about dismantling our violent cultures or belief systems that leads to so many people doing the things they did in the first place.
This may be uncomfortable for a lot of y’all to accept, but self love, platonic love and community will NEVER replace romantic love. It’s okay to want romantic love. I get the frame work some of y’all are building, but let’s be real here. None of these can replace the other.
Black people that don’t mention femicide, domestic violence or sex trafficking outside of deflecting or derailing the convo to absolve or minimize their participation/enabling if it claiming they put the race over the gender is…
Calling BM weakest links is dishonest and shallow. They’re mostly charlatans, opportunists, grifters and self-serving. There’s nothing to link in the first place.
When that Indian man has money, wants marriage, knows about career and education opportunities, he’ll go to his fellow Indian man. But when it’s one sided help, he’s coming to your Black ass and you’re not offended?
Wait ladies even if you have a healthy, loving romantic relationship you should still have boundaries and say “no” if you want to.
You don’t have to do or be everything to anyone except yourself ❤️
No matter what personal experience you could possibly share, if you’re non-Black you don’t talk about Black men being violent or misogynistic, cishet or not. Same for ppl who are non- Indigenous when it comes to Indigenous men.
@Lamiasdottir
No but can we discuss the obligation to like parent-child dynamics in hetero couples and how incestual that is. To add on like the expectation to see your man in the same realm as your dad.
@NoEmmeG
We gotta also remember some of these men only wanted kids to be able to control and access the women. Reproductive coercion isn’t discussed enough b/c like to say women, especially BW, just choose wrong or are naive.
@Ayishat_Akanbi
I’ve been screaming this. Shared racial identity does not equal shared capacity for empathy, compassion, intelligence, integrity, honesty, etc. A lot of sociopaths, psychopaths and narcs gravitate towards activism b/c it allows them to build a respectable image to get victims.
This is also apart of police brutality and why they aren’t efficient in intervening in domestic violence situations or protecting the victim in the process. Brutality isn’t limited to murder.
@gettinscared
This is so common in black households literally sexualizing kids dancing and body movements under the guise of “not raising any fast girls/hoes”
Men reject men all the time. It’s not rejection they hate it’s the fact they see women as energy sources, surrogate moms and objects to use/discard as they please. It’s way deeper than rejection.
Abuse aplogism isn’t a necessary part of growing. They’re a plenty of Black female victims of that age and younger that are suffering from people like that around them being enablers. Y’all wouldn’t excuse a white 19y/o’s racism (hopefully) but anti-Black misogyny is cool?
What Sha’Carri said about abuse/sexual assault was 100% uninformed. But I’m willing to extend grace to her as a young Black woman. But to think she went through rounds of prelims at the US trials just to be cancelled from the Olympics by Twitter is just... 😭 get a grip.
The best part is the denial of their ideologies or motives. When they get you, they’ll be simply reduced to trauma, self hatred, daddy not being there b/c evil is only white.
How am I supposed to be in community when y’all believe b/c the white man denied you mortgages in the 60’s you get to commit mass shootings in predominantly black neighborhoods today?
I think school spirit is weird. I think it’s fine to be proud of your educational accomplishments but to rep institutions as a statement of your personhood and not just a place you attended for networking, learning and that paperwork is... a lot.
You not getting another Malcolm X, Fred Hampton or Kwame Ture outta these niggas. You can get an Eldridge Cleaver though, but that’s as radical it’ll get.
They’ll listen to victims just to gaslight and blame them. These folks are hypocrites and see Black victims with Black perps as disposable, traitors, and entertainment.
It’s only ever “gender wars” because you don’t want to listen to victims. What is there to argue about when one side got shot and one side did the shooting.
How is misandry not a reasonable response to misogyny, sexism, patriarchy, conservatism, war, abuse, capitalism, borders, etc? Like how could you not look at this shit and reach that conclusion.
So this is a great time to discuss narcissism and sadism. Also, how people say “Black community” when they mean collective narcissism (Black males = golden child and Black females/lgbtqia = scapegoats) and cult of identity. This is very common esp. in his genre of music.
Angela Davis asked Cube why do black women have to look up to black men (in his words) and why can’t we look at each other as equals together and this nigga said if we look at each other as equals it’ll cause a divide. Nigga said equality is a divide wtf.
That movie was trolling and paternalism and misogynistic. It’s not informative nor supportive of BW like y’all claim. It made it seem like our beauty practices were so silly silly and not needed to be able to survive/access resources due to anti-Black misogyny.
@vlvtrse_
That plus everybody took what she was saying out of context. In the 90s, with record high homicides mostly stemming from gang and drug wars BM created and profited off it significantly and targeted Black people as “workers” or users literally preyed on them. They rap about it.
I mean the history of marriage is literally owning women for domestic servitude which is why the bride price/dowery exist(ed), weddings paid by fathers and women take men’s last name. This is what marriage traditional is. People made it a romantic fairytale recently.
I mean when Lauren Smith was murdered they said that’s what she get for being w/ a WM so I think it’s just a tit for tat when interracial relationships go fatal.
I think the worse part about discussing misogyny is that people make partnering with men the solution. We describe their anger, lack of self control, violence, dysfunction and resentment of women and the. response is to find one not like that?????
I’m very cautious of the “food is medicine” crowd. While they’re food and nutrition related issues, food is just food. We eat food not only for energy and sustenance but also community and culture.
Spoke with the principal and she informed me that she believes my daughter, but she had to get both sides of the story. She also had to speak to some other kids to corroborate one of their stories and confirm my child did nothing to provoke him and the boy wasn’t reacting to her
“Healing” and “therapy” are starting to be used to dismiss valid critiques of our social and cultural systems that cause us to have to heal in the first place. Ending systems of domination and replacing them w/ systems of equity is preventive and proactive for our well-being.
It’s a circular conversation discussing gender violence b/c they always make it personal and never systemic. Then get mad at people for calling out the men who are dangerous, but then say everyone isn’t like that so it’s like we’re talking about the ones that are.
Imagine a man who helped to create you actually giving you great advice, being empathetic and supporting you through whatever comes your way. Can’t relate, but that’s great for y’all.
It’s never accepting women’s/girl’s “no” or following up the “no” by claiming you’re hysterical, traumatized, unintelligent, etc. it’s both making you the authority and infantilizing you at the same. It’s making you work harder to learn and then demanding you teach (unpaid).
First off him having a female barber is a great thing b/c he won’t be influenced by “barbershop talk” and he’s supporting a woman owned business like let’s go feminism.
I don’t defend female abusers, predators or pedophiles so it’s weird how males have gender solidarity at all times. Wild that they “have to stop” defending them after cases upon cases of allegations comes out like why did you ever begin defending them. Is it to spite women? Yes.
I hate how Twitter is seen as a leftist echo chamber like the physical world isn’t a conservative and sometimes centrist echo chamber w/ a way more severe material impact. Literally life or death.
Niggas will set you on fire.
Record it and post it on social media while laughing in the video.
Then years later say “I didn’t know I was wrong. I’m sorry. Can’t people grow?” No you can’t. Some things shouldn’t have been say or done in first place.
If Hitler would’ve been given a chance, niggas would’ve gone into those ovens too. Why is this lost on you? Actually, I think I read an article that said he did.
I love how they claim it’s anti-community to get the cops involved but assaulting and stalking your community is just no big deal. Then they assume the victim can fight, owns weapons (thus going to prison for self defense), or people will help her instead of going to cops.