so I've been noticing a bit of a theme in my follower trend.
A: "this girl legit likes hardcore/punk music, rad!” *follow*
B: "this girl is into in theology/Jesus, nice!” *follow*
..
A: "wait, this is a Christian girl?" *unfollow*
B: "wait, she likes screaming music?" *unfollow*
hey “modest is hottest” people:
what if—and just plz hear me out—we didn’t automatically assume that being “hot” was the primary objective for why women wear what they wear… like… at all? 🧐🤷🏼♀️
hey Twitter (esp. fellow ladies)—
any advice on finding the balance between not shaming my body for the 18lbs I gained during Covid//being comfortable in my current skin *AND ALSO* wanting to be healthier, exercise, & fit into the clothes I already own?
super struggling w/ this.
I’m 34 &still have not experienced “baby fever”. some (older) people in my church have decided to tell me that is because I am afraid.
I think it is perhaps bc I am called to do something else w/my life, which includes being more of a spiritual sister&mother than a literal one.🤷🏼♀️
so… umm… I feel like I (or *anyone*) shouldn’t have to say this, but:
if you’re a pastor calling a woman a “sl*t” for ANY reason—that’s a real big indicator that actually, you probably should NOT be a pastor.
@JarredH
@AidannWv
@dougdagnabbit
not “a good chance” - this is exactly what happened. she said it on stream, & I’m friends w someone who works for her. it was him who forced her to say she was single. she asked to stream WITH him & tell people about them for years. he refused saying it would ruin the “brand.”
@Apeiron99
@Jenn25141494
@LevanCarrie
my first year as a FULL time teacher in MULTIPLE subjects at a high school in CA was $29,000. it was insane.
I still make less than $50,000 and I’ve been teaching in California for 11 years.
hey friends. have any of you ever learned that a person pretty close to you — someone who was an Important Person in your life at one time or another — did something very very bad? how do you reconcile realities? how do you process? this is new to me. it sucks. I feel conflicted.
wait—I’m confused. I thought I wasn’t supposed to accentuate my “feminine form” because of, you know, the whole “modesty” thing?? 🤔🤦🏼♀️
what I’m seeing in these spaces is that women are at the mercy of arbitrary takes on what’s too much—or not enough—in regards to what we wear.
I am about to share something I never have done so publicly, but I feel compelled to now.
In early 2016, I was drugged & sexually assaulted by an acquaintance. I woke up the next day in a state of confusion, anger, depression, & disarray. I was in NY, away from friends & family.
I’m 33 years old and I’m going over to my parents house rn for a homemade meal of fresh fish my dad caught in the ocean and roasted veggies, to snuggle their animals, eat chocolate chip cookies, and watch the masked singer.
all jokes aside, this truly is a form of self-care
not only walked me back to the station, but stayed on the train w:me back to my hotel to make sure I was safe/comfortable.
I never even emailed them to say thankyou, ®ret that to this day. I may not have made it w/out them.
@timkellernyc
—your church is doing something right.
I WAS TODAY YEARS OLD WHEN I REALIZED//FOUND OUT THAT SIA IS THE COUSIN OF PETER FURLER FORMERLY OF THE NEWSBOYS
INTERNET, HOW DID I MISS THIS FOR ALL THESE YEARS?!
Hey everyone. Please pray — there is an active shooter at a local high school right now. I know people on site. And students of family friends. We are massively worried.
hey twitter. asking for some serious prayer again. (🧵)
1) both parents have covid for the first time. dad just started the harsh chemo again, so he’s super weak, but my mom seems worse. hasn’t left the bed in two days. they’re old (70/71). I’m scared.
I don’t have any spicy takes on smiling at people while driving or bad tastes in alcohol or whatever thing everyone is on about now.
tonight I’m just sad.
I’m sad I bought into parts of toxic fundamentalist theology for so long, & even shared it w/ my students.
my heart hurts.
unpopular opinion (apparently):
Men should be disqualified from the pulpit if they are abusers, bullies, misogynists, or if they cover up or excuse any kind of abuse 🙃
do you know how much privilege and wealth you have to have to even be ABLE to be a “stay at home wife”? also why are all these tradwives white, young, and look like models? I just. I cannot take them seriously. 🤷🏼♀️
welp. just got that scary call from my mom that the doctors found a tumor and my dad is going into surgery first thing Friday morning & will be in the hospital for a few days after that to recover.
needless to say, I’m worried.
appreciate prayers.
alright Christian twitter, I have a question for you! :)
what is a book that you read at some point in your life which helped you feel more confident in your faith, in trusting scripture, in following Jesus, etc.? and what specifically helped you? thank you in advance! :)
Currently remembering that one time some troll on here told me it was “apparent that” I am “not qualified to discuss theological issues”—bc of my (then) profile picture (attached).
And: currently feeling very thankful that my bosses & seminary professors don’t feel that way. 💁🏼♀️
when I was in hyper-conservative theological spaces, it always bothered me how poorly many in those camps talked about more progressive brothers & sisters in Christ. but lately, I’ve been seeing it hard the other way around, especially here… and it hurts to watch just as much.
hey friends…
I cannot believe I am able to write this, but as of 11am PST, our massive $7000 bill from our plumbing disaster is 100% funded. I am crying.
any extra will help w/repairing the damages under the house, front yard, & walkway that they had to tear up to do this. 😭💛
when it rains, it pours,
or leaks 3 gallons of water a minute. 😩😭
they have to destroy our front yard to get to pipes to repair it. underneath house is flooded.
cost? $7,000. due TOMORROW.
more than our entire savings.
I am devastated. I don’t know what we’re going to do.
hey friends!!
I’d like to share some news.
.
two days ago, I had my contract meeting. I was nervous.
it only lasted 18m.
found out I got a small raise & was elected Teacher of the Year.
(our admin gets to choose a teacher only every 5yrs via this Org.)
humbled & grateful. 😭🥰🥹
@Shorty2Rad
@HeyAprill
yes—she literally DID micromanage by saying no. my students don’t even have to ask me to use the restroom—they know they can just take the bathroom pass and go.
the cousin of a good friend of mine has been in the ICU w/ Covid. he went to a church where they told their members from the pulpit that Covid is a hoax & the vaccine is the govt trying to control us.
he died this afternoon.
Christians, your misinformation is killing people.
I wish this wasn’t the update I had for you who have asked & prayed & supported me, but my dad has been diagnosed with severe colon cancer which has in fact spread, & will need to undergo chemotherapy very soon.
asking for prayer again, & any resources to process/navigate this.
Friday night, I submitted my very last paper ever for seminary.
I. Am. Done. 😭😮💨🥳
so yesterday, for my first day as a true seminary grad, I spent the day in SC. it was delightful. ended my evening grabbing dinner w a friend at a new spot w/rad decor & great food.
v happy.
anyone have tips for dealing w/ an emotionally, verbally, & psychologically abusive parent, who absolutely does not respect your feelings or believe they ever do anything wrong, but you still want to maintain a relationship & create healthy boundaries w/ them? asking for a me. :/
hey friends,
I'm sorry I don't post or interact here much these days. I used to want to be this theologically engaging account, talking about rad things like women in leadership & the wonder of scripture, but I just can't keep up. it's gotten rough, & I'm tired. that being said:
another thing - I know I am a female. wearing more androgynous clothing does not diminish that a single ounce. I have often worn men’s button up shirts to work *because* I feel like they are more “modest” for my particular work environment.
like—what??? we just can’t win, man.
my sister’s husband (who I do appreciate, but…) just told me,
“megan I liked your longer hair better”
😐
like… 🤔 okay? and????
what am I even supposed to say to that?!! 😅🤷🏼♀️
bro, I didn’t cut it for your approval! nor did I ask you!! 😂🤦🏼♀️
so… I usually just text personal pals for this stuff but I feel like more prayer couldn’t hurt rn. having an incredibly rough morning at my church (which I love), but needing strength & wisdom about a situation. been crying alone in a staff member’s office for the last 30m. :/
they said, “it sounds like you were sexually assaulted.” I burst into tears. I got the number of a church counselor & was told they could meet with me the next day. she did. she met w/me for 3 hours. she called my husband w/me to tell him what happened. she prayed over me, and
psst. hey you guys!
it’s my 9 year wedding anniversary today. ☺️
I don’t think I’ve ever shown a pic of my spouse here (his request) but I asked today if it was ok bc I am so happy & thankful & I just wanna celebrate a lil w my twitter friends. 🥰
so, wanna see young meg & T? 😅
hey men, guess what? it’s possible to affirm women in their character, intelligence, & worth *without* being flirty or creepy.
((a low bar? yes. but I am still sooooo exceedingly thankful for the men (mentors, profs, pastors, friends) in my life who actually know and do this.))
some happy news:
my dad who has stage 3 cancer was able to reduce his chemo treatments 9wks ago. he went from not being able to get off the couch to… this. 😭❤️
the last time I was in a boat on the ocean with my dad, I think I was 12. today was special. 💛
I’m in awe.
in 5 hours, between twitter friends, strangers, & my seminary cohort, we now have enough funds to pay over half of this nightmare. 😭
I am so overwhelmed & grateful. we not only can pay a huge chunk of this bill, but I can also continue my grad school program. 💚
when it rains, it pours,
or leaks 3 gallons of water a minute. 😩😭
they have to destroy our front yard to get to pipes to repair it. underneath house is flooded.
cost? $7,000. due TOMORROW.
more than our entire savings.
I am devastated. I don’t know what we’re going to do.
wasn’t sure if I was going to share this, but here we go:
I went to a PCUSA church today. it was VERY liturgical, & VERY Jesus-centered. I loved it more than expected.
idc if you’re conservative or progressive. if you’re making much of Jesus & loving others, you have my respect.
the friend I was with stayed at her bf’s house that night. she had no idea. she still doesn’t.
I didn’t know what to do. that Sunday evening, I went, alone, to
@timkellernyc
’s church. I walked up to a pastor there. I was in shock. I asked for prayer. I started explaining.
@lindsayfickas
this is unfathomable to me. he wants her to “anticipate” his “food needs”…like… that’s what a parent would do for a child. he basically said, out loud, that he wants her to treat him like a little baby man child.
what.
HEY EVERYONE PLEASE SAY CONGRATS TO MY COWORKER AND FRIEND
@difficultpatty
WHO IS DONE WITH GRAD SCHOOL TODAY 😍🥳
(we are having celebratory beers rn!!)
someone tell me that not going to the river with my friends tomorrow (who are ALL insanely thin &/or super fit humans) bc I am depressed about how I look in a swimsuit & don’t fit into my old shorts is stupid??? bc I’m literally crying on my floor rn & I hate this
in about 30m I will be going to my friend’s funeral service. I’m going alone, so I won’t have any kind of emotional safety net, but there will be many people I haven’t seen in years there. I’m nervous. lots of feelings for this already-emo lady. could use prayer. thank you.
shoutout to it being my ex-boyfriend‘s bday today: dude who had the decency of breaking up w/me when he wasn’t feeling it anymore, being clear//concise, &realizing that his absolute abhorrence for ska &hardcore would be a deep detriment to our relationship. happy birthday, buddy.
I wish this wasn’t the update I had for you who have asked & prayed & supported me, but my dad has been diagnosed with severe colon cancer which has in fact spread, & will need to undergo chemotherapy very soon.
asking for prayer again, & any resources to process/navigate this.
welp. just got that scary call from my mom that the doctors found a tumor and my dad is going into surgery first thing Friday morning & will be in the hospital for a few days after that to recover.
needless to say, I’m worried.
appreciate prayers.
friends, we’re allowed to disagree with each other on non-salvific issues (Jesus-being-God, etc.) without disrespect, negative assumptions, reading into words, & attacking authenticity of faith. NONE OF US have it 100% right. we all need a huge dose of humility—myself included.
“what kind of music are you into?”
“oh, I like everything! but I mostly just listen to the radio” 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
girl on twitter: “she shouldn’t have left her husband bc abuse isn’t biblical grounds for divorce & forgiveness requires restoration”
me:*gives example where forgiveness does not require restoration*
her:*appeals to biblical literalism*
me:*asks her about head coverings*
her:🦗
@NathanielJolly
@freedomsbride
@Pastor_Gabe
dude, are you freaking kidding me? this doesn’t sound like an “enemy of Christ” to me. maybe ask instead of assume next time… oh, and also, truth isn’t slander.
so. popping on quick to ask for prayer again. my boss was in the ER this morning w/breathing issues, & tested positive for Covid. 4 staff were already out. we are going to distance learning. please pray for our tiny school—all students were exposed—& the principal’s recovery. ❤️
@freedomsbride
@VictorLee
Hannah-Kate.
despite the deep betrayal by people in your life, you seem to continue to point to God’s faithfulness (even using flawed humans!) over&over. you challenge & encourage me. you don’t owe us ANYTHING but you let us see your heart, &it is beautiful, &so much like Jesus.
@janeelisabethh
Yep, like when
@timkellernyc
’s church was there for me the day after I was sexually assaulted and never once made me feel like it was my fault. I will never forget what they did for me that day.
ladies, genuine Q:
is it chauvinistic for a man to step in (to address/protect/defend, etc.) when another male is being creepy or aggressive toward you? does it communicate allyship & care, or does it imply he thinks you can’t handle your own battles & need a man to “save you”?
this girl had assumed she’d be home all night finishing her final research paper for grad school - but guess who just hit submit and is now 100% done?! (now I get to go meet a former student for a beer! hooray!)
this debate is easy. if you were into pop-punk it’s relient k. if you were into indie or alt rock, it’s switchfoot.
I was into ska, so my answer is clearly
@fiveironfrenzy
. I know where I stand.
(but… between RK & SF it’s still
@relientK
) 🙃
broke: debating whether tillich or barth was the greatest 20th century christian theologian
woke: debating whether switchfoot or relient k was the greatest 2000s christian band
before the plumbing fiasco//flood under house//$8000 nightmare, back in May, I bought tickets to a hardcore show where the headliner is an aggressive pop-punk band
anyway—I can actually enjoy it tonight bc I get to stay in grad school & also pay for gas.
still so thankful. 😭💛
the person I live with & am legally married to & I are both so busy w/multiple jobs & opposite schedules that we have to make plans a week in advance to even eat together. not ideal, but when we get to hang out we are both SO EXCITED & talk nonstop until one of us has to go. 😭💕
PSA: it’s possible to push back on something, like an article, without making assumptions about someone’s sex life or motivations or relationships.
can we critique content without attacking a person? seriously. :/
locking down twitter again. maybe for good, at least for a long time. should have kept it locked. people really, really suck.
PSA: making assumptions & then acting on those can literally get people killed, fired, or harmed. any Christian who does that is no follower of Jesus.
PSA: I’m allowed to dislike and strongly disagree with John MacArthur *AND ALSO*
1) still be friends with people I attended his school with,
+
2) not hate or regret my entire experience there. 😊
just wanna point out two super problematic things w/this having nothing to do w/clothing:
1) literally implies lighter skin=more godly. I know its maybe alluding to a fake tan, but STILL. 🤮
2) implies that unnatural lighter hair is less godly & intelligent than darker hair. 🙄😑
you guys.
a graduating senior just came by on a day she didn’t have to be at school and gave me these.
what a joyful surprise, especially after yesterday. I am humbled, and so grateful.
2) yes, this is the dad who is also verbally & emotionally abusive. it doesn’t mean I want him to die, though.
he had gone over a year without an outburst like that at me. growing up, it was weekly. so YES he has gotten better, please don’t tell me to cut contact. I saw growth.
TW: suicide
.
today I got a video message from a friend I haven’t spoken to in a year, asking for advice. some church leaders told her students that their friend is in hell for taking her own life. where does this theology come from? because it ain’t in my Bible. this isn’t okay.
yesterday, I got to inform my students that saying “Xmas” is not, in fact, canceling our Jesus. today, I got to inform them what a conspiracy theory is. doing the real work out here. 😅
oh and ANOTHER cool thing that happened yesterday!!!! my buddy Max who owns a local coffee shop and does professional B&W photography as a side gig took some rad photos of me that *I actually like* !! 😱
so yeah. not bad for a Friday. 😊
@timkellernyc
@drewdyck
@RedeemerNYC
Thank you so much, and I wish I said thank you years earlier. If it wasn’t for your pastoral and counseling team, I may not have continued in ministry. But God is so good, and the body of Christ is so beautiful when lived out in faithfulness.
you guys. I’m at a restaurant w/ my spouse; this song comes on. I make a comment about it being a classic. he says he’s never heard it before. I thought he was making a joke & laughed.
he… was not.
is this not a well-known song?? am I the weirdo here???
@drewdyck
Thank you.
There are so many problems in church leadership when it comes to sexual abuse, so I felt compelled to share my story about how good church leadership literally heals and saves lives. I am forever grateful to the pastoral & counseling team at
@timkellernyc
’s church.
so I’ve been back on twitter for A SINGLE DAY, and the way that men treat and speak to women on here makes me feel like I’m living in a freaking fever dream.
was it always like this?
do the gals in their lives know they talk to other women like that?
how is this even real? 🙃