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Em

4 years

The dangers of erasing sex workers’ consent-a thread. 1) it filters down to clients as they believe the societal view that we don’t have boundaries and money has bought consent to anything. (Also this can’t be divorced from the fact that most civvies don’t understand consent

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@grumpyhooker

10 months

He hired sex workers and assaulted us

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@dilanesper

10 months

One point that might be worth making- Brand is a rich man. If he just wants to have a lot of sex with different women he can hire sex workers and do that. The thing that screams out at me is the coercion is part of what he gets off on.

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It’s good that ballet forces women to have eating disorders and we should maintain that, isn’t a take I was expecting but here we are.

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Right, I’m going to have to do a thread as people still don’t understand the difference between decriminalisation and legalisation of sex work. Decrim means that sex work, as a starting point is not a crime. Any laws are worker centred. Workplaces are subject to the usual laws

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Sex workers are such great comrades that they will milkshake fascists for you and still you shit on them.

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4 years

Some new advertising on the Victoria Line...

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Sex workers are workers. Cops and landlords are not

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Jean says police unions don’t count because cops aren’t workers

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5 years

SWERFs and their “cam girl” privilege discourse. I started in sex work as a cam girl and lasted two months. For me it was far more difficult and draining work than being a prostitute. Yes are you are much less risk of in person violence but begging, abuse in chat...

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The framing of this is wild. What about the risks for the sex workers?!??

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I’ve found that the hardest thing about dating as a sex worker is people (of all genders) assuming that you are super sexual right away and know if you fancy someone right away. I am not my job. It takes me ages to warm up to people. I cannot tell from an online profile

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It’s always “the sex industry existing is harmful for all women” and never “how sex workers are treated is harmful for all women”. If people think they can talk over us and implement policy over our heads it indicates is how they’d like to treat other women who “step out of line”

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3 years

So that’s everyone in food related industries then? Everyone in jewellery, clothing etc etc?

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@grumpyhooker

4 years

@carolynharris24 @DianaJohnsonMP @GayeDalton @ronniecowan @jessphillips @SarahChampionMP I sat in a room with you Carolyn. Lots of sex workers spoke about why the Nordic model harms the most marginalised workers and you ignored it. We talked about friends who had died and been harmed due to the laws. This is incredibly upsetting.

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3 years

Some people need to re-read this

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3 years

And again; if a client rapes me, I don’t want him charged with buying sex; I want him charged with rape. Imagine the plea bargaining. It criminalises our workplaces, undermines our safety strategies, but you view those strategies as trivial.

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@RadfemBlack

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“tHe nOrdiC mODeL eNDaNgErS sEkS wUrKeRs” The Nordic Model PROTECTS prostituted people from violence to begin with because it levels the field and allows them to threaten buyers and pimps with arrest, as they are already criminals.

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Hotel with keycarded lifts are whorephobic

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5 months

And marriage and the family but I don’t see you saying we should criminalise marriage

bree 🍉

@esbreeon

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Marx literally said prostitution would be abolished with capitalism

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4 years

Just remember that when sex workers ask for decriminalisation as a first demand, all we are asking for is the same rights as other workers. That’s it. Is that really that outlandish?

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5 years

Risk of outing, risk of sessions being taped, the need to keep the energy up while dealing with tens of people were all too draining. Stop trying to divide sex workers and also acknowledge a) that lots of us move between different types of sex work esp in this shit economy

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3 years

Marxist feminists who support sex workers having rights aren’t saying it’s empowering, they are saying it’s work.

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4 years

SWERFs and Nordic Model supporters often think that sex workers don’t understand consent but we understand consent on a level that they will never be able to comprehend.

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SWERFs will claim that it can’t be done

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b) that our work personas are marketing and also don’t reflect our journeys c) that the risks we face are a reflection of the risks that all women face when having sex with men and non sex workers won’t be safe until men treat sex workers better

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3 years

Comparing sex workers to horses. Not misogynistic at all. Is he saying he’d whip a sex worker who refused to “perform”?

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1 year

Murders of trans people are political. TERFs saying “don’t politicise this” are trying to absolve themselves.

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1 year

It’s just the ballet exams, not dancing at the Opera House. This is saying that no one who doesn’t fit the ballet “norm” should be allowed to pass the exams. I’m overweight and I’ve taken ballet lessons and loved them

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10 months

Most sex workers aren’t high income and trying to say that “sex workers earn way more than other people could ever make” is a shit take based off a small sample on twitters

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2 months

And yet you still don’t respect sex workers

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Took down a former President of USA.

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5 months

Some of these baby Marxists need to try paying their own bills before they decide to tell sex workers how to pay ours

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4 years

in an unpaid context either. A scary amount of people think sleeping in the same bed is consent) 2) it says that we are too poor/marginalised/deluded to know when we are consenting. This means that other women esp marginalised women are viewed as not knowing their own minds eg

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3 years

You were the boss of the brothel. I’m an actual sex worker who has had sex for money with hundreds of men. I do not support the Nordic model and you don’t get to use my experiences to lobby for harmful laws and make a career for yourself. The grift

Andrea Heinz

@heinzsight2020

3 years

People will usually always support “sex work” because they’re shielded from it. But once you watch repulsive 50+ year old men coerce impoverished 18 year olds into private rooms to touch them against their will time after time again, you can’t stay in a state of ignorant bliss.

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3 years

It’s always very odd to me that in a country where child marriage is still legal people are mostly silent on that and screaming about 18-20 year old sex workers instead

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@grumpyhooker

5 years

And of course there are different levels of risk at all levels of the sex industry but dismissing someone as “too privileged” based on their twitter persona and what they want to reveal publicly is not helpful. We shouldn’t have to perform our trauma for you (which you weaponise)

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3 years

Right, let’s take today’s awful observer article apart will we? Migrant workers presence doesn’t equal trafficking. How many people making your coffee in the morning are from Eastern Europe? The PTSD study is from Melissa Farley and is widely discredited .

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3 years

You know who fucked me up more than sex work? Dating men for no money

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3 years

The SWERF rhetoric often hinges on the idea that sex workers are irrational and we don’t know what we need. This manifests in a variety of ways

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3 years

Legalisation treats sex work as contagion not work. Most sex work is criminalised. You can only work legally if you comply with certain restrictions eg being a cis woman, being registered, mandatory STI checks, working in licences premises. All other sex work is illegal

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@grumpyhooker

4 years

working. We are viewed as being complicit in our own abuse. Our images are used non-consensually by artists and filmmakers. We aren’t believed when we are raped. 4) we are viewed as being unable to make decisions about our own lives.

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Domestic violence survivors not having their needs centred, drug users being treated like small children. 3) if we don’t know what consent is then we are also viewed as fair game for not being treated with consent by others. We are told we can only access services if we stop

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3 years

So who has Bill Gates as a client then?

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5) if we are unable to consent due to economic coercion isn’t that true of every woman who has an abortion due to economic circumstances? (Don’t give the right wing ideas)

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3 years

I’m not going to link to the story, but it appears that Couzens didn’t pay a sex worker (ie rape) and she resorted to turning up at Bromley police station (he paid her). We are, as ever, the canaries in the coalmine

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3 years

Sex worker activists often don’t do activism under their real name (for obvious bloody reasons). Posting real names is doxxing and “abolitionist” accounts should condemn it

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3 years

I’ve just seen a stat that 1/3 women who use dating apps have been assaulted by someone who they met on an app and 1/6 have been raped. It’s almost as if the men and not the money is the issue

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10 months

NGL, it’s all a bit too much this weekend. Sex workers raised the alarm. It was ignored. Now “good” women are raising the alarm and only some people are believing them. A standing ovation. Don’t tell me that most people care at all about sexual assault if their mate did it.

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3 years

Think of how abortion is treated in many countries. It’s still illegal unless you have one in a certain way. (This includes England, Scotland and Wales). If it was decriminalised there would still be regulations but it’s be regulated through healthcare not through criminal law

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3 years

So much of the hate sex workers face from SWERFs on Twitter is that we dare to show any joy, humour, intelligence, empathy. They only want us to be miserable.

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3 years

Motherhood. Check and mate

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2 years

If Nordic model supporters thought about it for more than five mins, they’d realise that sex workers’ experience of violence is influenced by the same things that affect all women’s likelihood to experience violence at work or home. Namely rights and coercion

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3 years

Nordic model supporters and abusive clients have so much in common. They both project onto sex workers what they think we should be and are. Neither group likes it when we talk back. We are meant to be symbols to back up their beliefs

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4 years

As an eg of the non consensual behaviour towards sex workers that flows from this attitude, here’s a news story from India were sex workers successfully argued that they shouldn’t be detained in group homes for “rehab”. There are over 100 of these homes

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Strippers have won cases against bosses. Us prostitutes cannot improve our workplaces formally because they are illegal.

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4 years

Sex workers raised over a quarter of a million quid for other sex workers this year. Sex workers are constantly providing mutual aid to each other. We arrange breakfasts, safer sex supplies, lie and say that we employed someone so they can have a reference for their CVs.

Toxic 🖤

@adwhoreable2

4 years

This was said with the belief that the sex workers "piling on" couldn't compare to her altruism. As if we haven't been fundraising mutual aid, running needle exchanges and dispensing condoms, childcaring and covering for each other not just through a pandemic but for decades

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2 years

Questions that Nordic Model supporters never answer. 1) do I advertise myself to be raped? 2) why do I offer specific services if it’s all rape 3) which laws that criminalise indoor workers are repealed under the Nordic model

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3 years

Can someone please start making these again?

Daniel🎗🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 ॐ

@DannyDutch

5 years

Brothel Candles were once used as a timer. A man can pay his dues and then light the candle. Once the candle goes out, the session is over. Each candle will last ~7 minutes 😳 (I have no info on what happens during the remaining 6 minutes)

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This is how radfems speak to sex workers. They think we are being raped multiple times a week and this is how they speak to us

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@grumpyhooker You’re spending a lot of energy trying to talk yourself into believing that you’re freely choosing to let men invade your body. I don’t think you’re actually convincing yourself. I hope you can get out of it some day.

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So nia who call all sex work exploitation and support the Nordic model, are recruiting for sessional workers. The pay? £10.85 an hour. Below london living wage. #feminism

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Sugaring is a great example of how not naming something as work leads to more exploitation not less

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10 months

Your country turned back ships full of Jewish refugees

Aleksandra Ray 💋 NE Philladelphia

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@JaredHaim My country didn't surrender our Jewish people to the Nazis. I won't give up on them now.

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This hands power to bosses as sex workers need them to provide legal workplaces. Eg turkey, Switzerland, Germany, Netherlands, parts of Nevada

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Dommes and hookers. Dommes: paid to hate men but love them really. Hookers: paid to pretend to love men but hate them really.

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@bindelj The workers are unionising to increase their power at work. Why are you being a scab?

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MPs are very lucky that sex workers don’t kiss and tell

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Hey Chrissie Hynde, get fucked

Chrissie Hynde says 'if you dress like a sex worker, you'll be treated like one'

The star was previously accused of victim-blaming.

metro.co.uk

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Part of the reason swerfs get so angry at us is that they hate to think that any hooker is smarter than them

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@kevinhargaden But trafficking is rife in nail bars, building work, labouring, agriculture, abattoir work. You do release that most trafficking into the U.K. isn’t into the sex trade don’t you?

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Hope all the people QTing this in support are pushing for sex worker rights to be supported by their union/political party etc

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The Daily Heil accidentally making her even more iconic.

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Also, for the smart ass liberals, we are liable for tax no matter the legal system imposed

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I’m so tired

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The term “fully legalised” is a nonsense as legalisation means most sex work is illegal.

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When we are called “trash” is it any wonder that we are murdered?

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There will be licencing involved but for premises involving third parties not individual workers. Workers can work together or alone and not be criminalised. Eg NSW, New Zealand, Northern Territory

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5 years

I’m sick of privileged white professionals telling sex workers that we need to be rescued. Let us speak for ourselves and stop using harms of our job to advocate for more harm and precarity. We need rights not rescue

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No it depicts sex work as pretty meh but it depicts sex work as being a way to pay your bills and not instead rely on a relationship with a man.

ceo of furiosa

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ok actually my main criticism of poor things is how it handles sex work and sort of frames prostitution as something empowering to women although it's not super clear about it it just kind of glosses over any potential downsides so. hmm

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Does this poster know that that “research” was by a discredited researcher? That it was “exhibited symptoms of PTSD” not “has PTSD”. That no questions were asked as to whether it was pre-existing? That someone tried to repeat the research and got a much lower number?

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SWERFs in a nutshell

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Begging should be negging in that first tweet BTW

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We are taxpayers too. I suppose our safety at work isn’t important though. Wrong type of women

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NEW: The taxpayer is giving £1 million to a university project that evaluates "what works best to improve sex workers’ safety and mental health." The project is funded by the National Institute for Health and Care Research (funded by the DHSC).

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We are the only group of workers who are not allowed to speak about bad experiences at work without the risk and people trying to introduce laws that increase that harm.

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Again sex workers are not therapists. Saying “well some sex workers have therapy qualifications” isn’t a gotcha as any accrediting body would revoke licences if you were shagging your therapy clients

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The amount of girl boss hookers who think that being a landlord is work is 🤮

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Also, why does the presence of money make sex work more unsafe than unpaid sex? Hint: it’s not the money, it’s attitudes to sex workers

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Lots of work is “inherently unsafe”. It’s why workers in those industries found for strong union rights

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This is what “rescue” and “re-education”’of sex workers over looks like. Colonial NGOs forcing women to work in semi slavery producing your clothes under threat of criminalisation

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2 years

This whole thing today about that councillor talking about “prostitutes crying rape when a client doesn’t pay” is really triggering for me as I have indeed reported a client for rape for failing to pay me.

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Sex work is just work for most of us. If you think sex work is some magical, fulfilling “essential service” great for you but, it really isn’t for 99% of us and it’s not a basis for building a workers’ struggle one.

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I’ve said it before send I’ll say it again, a lot of middle class women don’t want to face up to the fact that we’d rather fuck men for money than work for them.

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I wish that the Nordic model “abolitionists” would put this much energy into abolishing marriage and the reality that for many women “romantic” relationships are still a survival strategy.

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Nordic model supporters seem to think that if you get rid of those pesky hookers, men will behave better, I’ve got news for you? They treat us the way they would treat you if they could get away with it.

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That’s capitalism, bro not sex work

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Did you ever know that the women you watch in Hollywood movies are now dead? Linear time, drugs, suicide, violence.

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Once again, OF is not criminalised. The OF workers can talk about decrim if they want but the idea that the sex workers who are doing the hard work on decrim day in day out aren’t prostitutes is utter nonsense.

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I have no doubt in my mind that Brand will have assaulted sex workers who couldn’t report

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Dear Nordic model supporters please tell me how you’ve directly supported sex workers to survive during the pandemic. Please and thank you.

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This. I like to say that sex work increases my ability to have consensual relationships. It does this by enabling me to rely on my own income and no one else’s to pay my housing costs. The idea of my housing relying on a relationship is terrifying

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Universal housing would rock the dating scene baby. So many relationships and reasons to marry would fall apart if folks could truly afford to live well.

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So nice to see all the Nordic Model supporters set up funds for OF creators who will be forced into poverty/other forms of sex work. Oh wait

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Supporting sex worker rights doesn’t benefit men. Criminalisation aids abusers

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@jk_rowling

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Men who support women's right to things that also benefit men (abortion, contraception, sex work) but dismiss as trivial nonsense issues that benefit only women (women-only spaces, lesbian dating sites, maternal health, women's sport) are telling you clearly who they are.

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Sex work isn’t work but this is apparently.

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🚨DISGUSTING @CamdenCouncil DESTROYS THE TENTS OF THOSE EXPERIENCING HOMELESSNESS.

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“Im not a sex worker as my clients don’t only come to me for sex”. Like, I go to my hairdresser in part because I like chatting to him but if he didn’t cut my hair I’d be a bit miffed

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Stigma helps the violence breed. See my pinned tweet. Why are men more likely to assault sex workers than other women? They know we are less likely to be able to report and we are less likely to be believed when we do report. Stigma means we aren’t believed

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@RadfemBlack

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“sTiGmA kiLLs” Absolutely batshit. SEXBUYERS KILL. And ~destigmatizing~ “sex work” (NOT “sex workers” themselves) only helps them by normalizing their violence and legitimizing their entitlement. How tf is ~stigma~ against violence worse than violence itself 🤦🏾‍♀️

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