Book update! We now have a title. The Missionary Kids: Unmasking the Myths of White Evangelicalism. Preorder coming in January. Description from the publisher:
Still waiting for evangelicals to realize how absurd they look complaining about Amy Grant after celebrating Trump for the last 7 years. Guys, read the room. You have no moral authority left. The more you talk, the worse it is. Try quiet service for a time, see how that goes.
Evangelical LGBTQ views are fueled by fear, and fear easily breeds bigotry and hate. But I think secular folks misunderstand the fear. Itโs the fear that their entire scriptural framework, which insists on certainty and lacks nuanceโlacks faith in factโwill come crashing down.
The real reason why evangelicals increasingly stay in increasingly separate enclaves isn't bc "the world" is so terrible and ugly. It's because it's actually not, and if their kids will find out how much beauty and love exists outside the church, it'll destroy the whole system.
@brhodes
I am not a lawyer, but I am a historian, and I can't for the life of me understand where a so-called originalist gets an unlimited individual right to any gun they want from the 2nd amendment. Makes zero sense.
@adelphean70
Sheโs hosting her nieceโs gay wedding. Which apparently is way worse than trying to overthrow democracy, hanging out with nazis, sexual assault, endangering national security, using us foreign policy as a political tool, lying constantly, stealing, fraud, etc.
@AmbJohnBolton
@WhiteHouse
@Twitter
The deeply inspiring struggle to get your twitter account back is truly fascinating, however, I think folks are more interested if you're going to join the struggle to get your country back.
Here's more unsolicited thoughts and advice for evangelicals. By the way, I was once you. I am a freaking missionary kid so I know the ropes. I still aspire to be a Christian. But I'm petty and sarcastic, so it's a challenge. Thread:
And, yes, for some, many, itโs just fear of other and hatred. But having been homophobic myself, i can tell you the foundation is a demand that scripture function as a kind of easy guide to human existence, morality, death, everything.
Anything and anyone that scrambles that, that indicates thereโs revelation and truth beyond scripture, that scripture isnโt clear in fact, that God is more inscrutable than a character in a book, that easy answers arenโt within reachโthatโs terrifying for someone from that world
Periodic reminder to deconstructing friends/exvangelicals who want a church (if you don't, that's fine! Do your thing!): Mainline churches very much exist and are not all "dead" and empty the way you have been told. You can be a Christian w/o being evangelical! It's true!
@megynkelly
@gtconway3d
Ever heard of a PhD Megyn? an EdD? Mine took 8 years of ridiculously hard work. If i want to go by Dr i damn well will. Because I EARNED IT and so did she.
First of all, you don't need to become a Democrat. that is not the point. It's not so much your vote for Trump that has ruined you. It's your vocal, constant, outlandish, obscene, unquestioning support for and defense of Trump.
It's your embodiment of Trumpism. The lying, the cruelty, the bigotry, the corruption, the misogyny, the self-righteousness, the arrogance, the inability to admit wrong or repent in any way, the lack of introspection, the flaunting of rules, the disregard for democracy.
@sheilagregoire
the other thing I find offensive about the longer clip--it reinforces the idea that the pinnacle of a woman's life is her marriage/wedding. Which of course reinforces male power. She's lucky to have a man.
@MuellerSheWrote
@EricTrump
Iโm not fabulously wealthy but Iโve got plenty. Tax me more so everyone can have good healthcare, please. Also not having a racist national security threat as potus would be nice.
Instead of defending your support of Trump, you need to grapple with the results of that support. You have indeed lost all moral authority. You may think that is unfair, but that is the truth. So maybe work on that.
vote how you want, but maybe just shut up about it. In fact, just shut up altogether. Listen, don't speak. Serve, don't preach. Trust God to sort humanity out. He really, really can do it without you. Really. Focus on being the best you you can be.
Iโm honestly sad for my non affirming evangelical loved ones bc most of them ARENT hateful. Itโs their instinct and nature to love and accept. But their theology limits them. I know how that feels. I hated how it felt. Now I just feel free.
@sheilagregoire
@bethallisonbarr
and others have been discussing complementarianism that is functionally egalitarianism. That's mostly what I experiences in evangelical spaces, but it's no less insulting. Here's a convo I've had a million times:
@joshtpm
These people are basically to Christianity what Al Qaeda is to Islam. Sure, they aren't directly killing thousands of people, but they are killing our democracy, the full damage of which is yet to be calculated.
It is freaking EXHAUSTING to be an evangelical. To constantly have to control and police and be right and have all the answers and crush any doubt or any difference or any departure. There is so much fear in it.
The sins you should prioritize are those that hurt others. Abuse, that really can't stand. Go hard after that. Go hard after those that harm other people. Sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, abuse of power. Racism, sexism, bigotry.
Let go, my friends. Find faith in an actual sovereign God. Let him sort out the world. You are called to love. That's it. You are not God. Let God do his thing. Do you believe in God or do you believe in yourself and "your people"?
A faith that must be enclaved and hidden away and protected--from modernity, science, education, information, the stories of people outside it--is weak, uninspiring, unsustainable, impractical, and useless.
And that issue, among many others, did indeed change how I approached scripture. But instead of losing my faith, it transformed it into something much more grounding, peaceful, meaningful.
Take a very good, long look at yourself, your institutions, your culture. Then, try to repent, try to repair, try to make whatever you find there better, more loving, more right.
@matthewjdowd
Answering on behalf of my evangelical friends and familyโabortion. Thatโs it but thatโs literally all they care about. Oh and they donโt want to be forced to bake for gay people.
Go easy on people whose "sins" aren't harming anyone, and in fact those who are often maligned and abused for those "sins." Try to understand their experience instead of judging and excluding.
Then life led me to a place where I couldn't ignore myself anymore. And in my humility and repentance, the most amazing thing happened--I learned to love. I stopped being afraid. I learned to let go and just let people be.
Consider that you don't know what it is to be them. Consider that you could not do any better. Consider that God alone knows their heart and yours, and that he might come down harder on you, actually. Just consider the possibility.
God reveals himself in the whole of creation, history, human existence and experience, and culture, and if your faith is a walled-off faith, you ultimately cannot grasp what God actually and entirely is.
I have found in my life that once you have really, fully, and honestly confronted your own failings, it's really really hard to come down hard on others (abusers excepted, see above). I have found you instead identify with them, have compassion.
Faith will allow you to love. And love will set you free, for real and for true. Just try it, friends. You might even get some moral authority back. Merry Christmas.
I really do feel compassion for you, too, because I was once just like you. But there's a better way than the path you are on. It's called faith. Like for real. Faith does not need to control or be right or have power.
I didn't have a single non-evangelical friend before I went to grad school. hadn't ever met an openly gay person or atheist. How shocking it was to be loved by such "lost" people. How lost I turned out to be when confronted with that.
Before that happened in my life, I was just like you. I spent all my time preaching at other people, scapegoating easy targets, the gays, the fornicators, the addicts, the liberals. I used my energy trying to fix people instead of dealing with myself.
@EvanMcMullin
Yes, this is the part I donโt get. I get a charismatic figure gaining power by exploiting fear and prejudice. But most such figures have some talent or intelligence or looks or something. He is just a clown.
OK, well going semi-viral has been super fun, but I'm going to get on a plane now. Please follow me and check out my blog. I'm trying to get a book contract for a book about the missionary kid experience, so it will help me out. Of course some of you don't like me and that's fine
This is absolutely me. Do i think Biden is the best potus ever? No. Do i adore the Dem party? Also no. Will I tunnel through a wall w/ a spoon and crawl through raw sewage to vote for any and all of them? Yes yes yes
@AdamKinzinger
Paul? My mom? The dude who lent me an umbrella at church? The other dude who invented coffee? Literally most anyone regardless of faith? The list goes on
More recently, however, after i knew a few folks, my inability to be affirming was very much based on a fear that reassessing that issue would unravel how i appeared the scripture and therefore my entire faith. And that terrified me.
@brhodes
Dear God please be right. Iโm so tired of dashed hopes. And watching this guy treat American democracy like toilet paper for year after year without consequences has got to be one of the most enraging things Iโve ever experienced.
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@RandyRainbow
Iโm in adrenal failure right now. My face is covered in cystic acne. Iโm having trouble sleeping. Iโm drinking too much. I can barely read a book anymore. Sleepy joe sounds heavenly.
I love evangelicals telling me God is punishing America for its moral decline and Iโm like let me blow your mind and tell you about this slavery thing.
Them: I would accept my God-given role with thanks and praise!
Me: No you wouldn't. Y'all men don't accept any amount of powerlessness. Y'all shoot up schools and blow stuff up and kill, rape, and pillage and vote for racist sociopaths. Trust me, this wouldn't go over well.
@MuellerSheWrote
I read he was escorted out for getting honey potted by Russian hookers who took is phone and laptop. He violated rule number 1 of being a nat sec official: avoid Russian hookers.
@wrdcsc
@hughhewitt
Also, if Hunter is a criminal, isn't DOJ the appropriate investigative avenue? Foreign Corrupt Practices Act anyone ? I don't think there is any scenario in which the USG would need a foreign govt to investigate a US citizen, is there?
I just speak from my experience. Early on i was legit homophobic and bigoted. All my influences were such. And I didnโt know a single identifiable queer person.
Me: So we are both submitting our wills to the other one. It's mutual submission.
Them: Well, no...not really....He is to love you, and you are to respect him.
Me: But aren't I also to love him, and shouldn't he also respect me?
Me: So why don't you just say that and leave it there. Why do you insist on all this patriarchy language and stuff that just really makes women feel like crap and makes a lot of men think they can treat us that way?
@stuartpstevens
I was a bush gal in 2000 but did not feel these high stakes. I have generally believed we will be fine no matter the outcome of elections. That changed in 2016.
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Listening to the 14-degree wind howl here at my parents' house in Texas and hoping they have upgraded their power grid since last time it was this cold here. No? Oh right, the anti-trans laws will keep everyone warm. Got it.
Me: Or it might be because telling me I am subjugated to men is actually really insulting and crappy. Tell ya what, Preacher Dude, take some time to think about how you might feel if the tables were turned.
So you are telling me I should submit to men just for the sake of it. Which in a way, is even more insulting. At least the Southern Baptists just straight up tell me I'm only fit to teach 5 year olds and organize potlucks.
@cmclymer
I think this guy adores his country and feels a personal responsibility to do everything in his power to save it. Maybe that entails running again, maybe not.
Me: OK, but I don't feel exalted. I feel like crap. Because you are telling me I'm inferior to you, even though in practice, there's really no difference between you and me or even how we are supposed to act
Them: That's great!
Me: That's egalitarian.
Them: Well, it LOOKS egalitarian, but it's not. Your husband is showing leadership by considering your needs. You are submitting by considering his needs.
@RepValDemings
Why didnโt i think of this. My kids regularly consult for my motherhood business on dinners they wonโt eat and things I should buy them.
As the ship goes down, I want to say thanks to
@kkdumez
who, in addition to offering laser sharp rebuttals and commentary, is incredibly generous with every writer and scholar who ever contacts her, to the point where I have grown concerned about her ability to sleep.
Them: It's a huge deal. It means they are ordained. Unlike the women.
Me: So, again, it's a basically meaningless designation that nonetheless makes women feel like crap.
Them: No! the biblical view of gender is exalting of women! We've been through this.