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She/Her/Dude. #ADHD , #ActuallyAutistic , demisexual. Still yelling about COVID. Listen to disabled people. pfp: @alohasushicore

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People with executive dysfunction are often seen as weak-willed, but to fail at starting something, over, and over, and over... And then having to DEAL with all those failures, and keep trying, despite how hopeless everything feels anyway? That takes SO MUCH mental fortitude.

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Having ADHD is like, "I have a thing I have to do in four hours, so I don't have time to do anything before that happens."

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"My child isn't traumatized." Your child automatically thinks that if a person does things Loudly, that person is angry at them.

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"You wouldn't need ADHD meds if we weren't living in a capitalist hellscape." What if I told you that I also have trouble initiating things that I LIKE to do?

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Someone else: "Let's set up a phone appointment at 1:30." My brain: "Don't do anything before 1:30, got it." Why.

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Bro I have to use a controlled substance just to fold my laundry.

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“i replied in my head but forgot to actually send the text” ok well do you have difficulty performing other simple everyday tasks as well ??

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Delayed emotional processing sucks because when people ask, "Why didn't you tell me that bothered you earlier?" you need to explain that it normally takes 3-5 business days to realize you were bothered.

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I read somewhere once that some people see joy as an inherently childish emotion, so they see adults that regularly experience joy as immature.

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I just told my neurotypical partner, "I can't 100% trust my memory recall to tell me to do important things. I HAVE to rely on external reminders. It's not that I don't believe in myself, it's that I know myself well enough that it's better not to try." I think I blew his mind.

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I drive for Amazon, and I just learned they're bringing back the "Thank my Driver" promotion! Use your Echo device or Alexa app and say "Thank my driver," and that will give your driver an extra $5 at no cost to you.

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@AlixEHarrow A while back I heard a story about a grown man having a tantrum about masks in a convenience store and a woman who taught preschool said, "It sounds like you're feeling some really Big Feelings right now! Why don't you take a moment to feel your feelings and then come back?"

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It's ADHD awareness month, and my ADHD is aware of too much. It needs to calm down.

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Sometimes I think about when my ex was bragging that he was able to see what needs to be done at work without being told what to do, and I said, "It's interesting that you do that at work but not at home." And he paused and admitted he didn't have a good answer for that.

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"But four hours is a lot of time?" No, four hours is nothing. If you're not thinking about the Upcoming Thing constantly, you will blink, and then all of a sudden it will be right in front of you.

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"My child isn't traumatized." Your child never had a rebellious phase as a teen because their faun stress response to your disapproval overrode their desire to express themselves.

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Every now and again I hear someone saying, "imagine needing to take a medication for the rest of your life just to function," and I sigh with exasperation. If you say that about meds but don't balk about someone having to wear glasses every day, I invite you to ask yourself why.

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@AlixEHarrow Apparently the man turned bright red, left the store, and came back 5 minutes later... also wearing a mask.

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There's a form of OCD called "magical thinking OCD" that causes you to be hyper-concerned with your thoughts... lest they accidentally "attract" the wrong thing. "Law of Attraction" shit did this to me when I was younger. Your thoughts should be a safe place.

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PSA for non-European folks: This logic also applies to the word g*psy. They are Romani/Roma.

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i HATE when people find out esk*mo is a slur and then go “but in my language it’s not a slur so i can actually call you a racist slur cuz i’m not american and english isn’t my first language” I AM ALSO NOT AMERICAN AND ENGLISH IS MY 3RD AND ITS STILL A SLUR. do NOT call me that.

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My opinion is that different people sometimes need completely different advice. So, my default stress response is to freeze. Being hard on myself only paralyzes me; "extreme" gentleness helps get me out of a freeze state. I gave a friend this advice, and it only made her worse.

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🔴Anna 'unavailable' Lencioni ➡️ ENCELADUS V🚀🪐✨

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I'm gonna soapbox a little here but I think "it's okay if you don't get out of bed today, be gentle with yourself uwu" culture did irreparable damage to the people who really needed to hear "self care is pushing yourself to make that scary phone call actually"

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Why NTs think you need to try harder.🧵 People that don't struggle with executive dysfunction (specifically, with initiating) assume that we're not trying hard enough because the space between "trying" to do something and doing it is so small, it's imperceptible to them. 1/6

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CW: Child neglect, vomit mention You wanna fuck up a kid's relationship with food? This is an efficient way of doing that. Sitting at a dining room table for hours trying to choke down squash & not throw it up did not help me learn to enjoy eating squash.

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@alxndra1998 As a former child I see nothing wrong with this.

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#ADHD mood: Having hours of free time but being indecisive about what to do, so you think about it for hours.

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Listen I hate capitalism as much as most leftists, but even in an environment where all my survival needs are met, I'm still gonna have ADHD. Sometimes my inertia will just be too strong, until some external stimulus gives me a push.

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It's like your schedule of daily tasks is made up entirely of weeping angels. /Doctor Who reference

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"How do you know so many random things?" I get dopamine hits from learning things, and I have a raging case of ADHD.

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You know that thing, where if someone has chronic pain for a while, & they sometimes don't realize that certain activities aren't normally painful? There's a similar thing for tiredness.

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I don't think ADHD and autism are "trendy", I just think a lot of us are staring to be a little bit more okay with ourselves, a little more publicly. And I think some folks feel uncomfortable with that.

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I think disability twitter had played a huge part in me not getting COVID so far because holy hell the amount of misinformation out there is astounding. I told my family I didn't want to eat fast food inside a restaurant, and one of them replied, "Well there's hand sanitizer."

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"This is manipulative" Boy do I have news for you about the MANY people that do actually experience this and are in abusive relationships.

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Delayed emotional processing sucks because when people ask, "Why didn't you tell me that bothered you earlier?" you need to explain that it normally takes 3-5 business days to realize you were bothered.

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@fiImgal I will never understand people being so phobic about getting wrinkles by making normal human faces. Heaven forbid your body carries evidence that you felt emotions!

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While I'm on the topic of sleep, I'll never forget the time I was describing to my ex how I normally fall asleep, and he said, "I think that's part of your issue: You don't go to sleep, you just wait until you're so exhausted you pass out." Me: "...There are other ways??"

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Regarding ADHD symptoms, I never used to think I had "racing thoughts" because my brain has always processed stuff at around the same speed. How am I supposed to know anyone's thinking speed baseline other than my own?

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CW: Disordered eating Probably the most impactful thing that helped me with my orthoexia was learning this: It is more unhealthy for you to *not eat enough*, than to eat foods that are "bad" for you. (Excluding things like food allergies, obv)

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Executive dysfunction is like being unable to get up because you have a cat on your lap, except there is no cat and sitting there is not enjoyable.

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Reminder that abuse isn't a necessary requirement to be traumatized. All it takes is your nervous system being unable to process something it perceives as big and getting stuck in an emotional boot loop.

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I may be wrong, but... I think I finally figured out that the questions, "Are you doing anything fun for the weekend?" and the same questions framed in past-tense, are social cues that just mean: "I'm fishing for a small talk subject. What's exciting for you recently?"

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Him: "But... How can you remember to write things down to remember?" Me: "NOW you are beginning to see my problem!!!"

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Me: Remember when I put that mail in the middle of the floor, right outside your home office door, and you asked why, and I said, "I put it there so you would see it ask me about it, and I'd remember to talk to you about it."? Yeah I need to do that for myself for lotsa things.

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What non-ADHDers don't know is that "applying yourself" also requires the right amount of the right brain chemicals. Doesn't matter how hard you turn a car's key to start it, if the ignition system is faulty.

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Having ADHD often means being told that you are “wasting your potential.” That you’d succeed if only you’d “apply yourself.” That you are full of natural talent and boundless creativity… …but are simply “too lazy, stubborn, and unmotivated to do anything about it.”

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The "I'm a Highly Sensitive Person" to "I relate a lot to autistic people" to "Oh wait I'm autistic" pipeline.

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@123itsmeMary Motor vehicle accidents can fuck you up so bad, and people seem to be so casual about it for some reason? I honestly think it's good that kids aren't in a hurry to be responsible for driving a hurtling chunk of thousands of pounds of metal.

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Me last year: I'm not autistic, I just have a lot of autistic traits and really relate to autistic people. Me in the present: Oh.

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Protip from someone very experienced in losing things. Never put things in a safe place. Put things in an obvious place.

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My wallet’s been missing 3 months. I felt so feeling guilty bc my adhd ass lost something AGAIN. Hubs just FaceTimed & yells “guess what I found?!” MY WALLET IN HIS GLOVE BOX. Turns out I didn’t lose it bc I’m too irresponsible! I lost it bc I was trying to be responsible! 🤣😭

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Does a culture of capitalism make my executive dysfunction worse? Absolutely, I'm not denying that. But even in circumstances where little is demanded of me, it can still be really hard for me to do things.

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As someone who was in a cult and has watched family and loved ones fall into cults and cult-like thinking: If you think you're too smart to join a cult... you're vulnerable to join a cult. Cults use that certainty to avoid detection like a cloaking shield.

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@ScottPresler @AOC You can care about more than one group of people at a time, you know.

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I've been saying for YEARS that there needs to be a thing like a "financial therapist." Someone who can not only help you with the methods to manage money, but also help you manage the depression, anxiety, and shame w/💰 things. Y'all. THEY EXIST!!! #ADHD #ExecutiveDysfunction

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@harkshetweets I was able to deescalate a situation at a laundromat where the guy was punching a machine so hard his knuckles were bloody. Long story short he just needed someone to listen to him for 5 minutes, and someone to tell him his quarters weren't working because they were Canadian.

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If a kid has recurring "needs to try harder" comments on their report cards, they should probably be evaluated for ADHD. If that kid happens to currently be an adult, I think that still applies.

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Being neurodivergent on Twitter means learning a phrase that you thought was neutral... actually has negative connotations, every other week.

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Every time I think about how "sleep hygiene" was pushed on me, I get angry. Once I got a CPAP machine, I was able to sleep consistently BECAUSE I'd get consistent quality sleep. It wasn't that didn't sleep well because I stayed awake; I stayed awake because I couldn't sleep!

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Reading stories on reddit about people getting wiped out for a week light exercise, and they're blaming themselves because they think they "just" exerted themselves too much... I'm like... Friend... needing a week to recover after 30 mins of cardio is NOT deconditioning... 😬

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For the record I agree with this. It's dystopic as hell.

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@dreamsofskies This is great, but couldn’t they just give you guys bonuses without making y’all beg customers for app engagement?

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@agenderfox Much love to pregnant folks, but every new thing I learn about pregnancy is horrible.

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This autistic girl just did FIVE job interviews today. I've never had that many even in a week. Please clap.

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But for those that don't struggle, the space between "initiation.exe" and "Doing the Thing" is so microscopic, it's essentially imperceptible. Meanwhile, those of us with executive dysfunction try to launch initiation.exe, and the the program lags... or outright freezes. 3/6

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One time when doing for a walk in a park with my dad, he asked me how I know so many plants. I was like, "I just... find one that I don't know, and then I look it up?" Some people apparently just don't feel compelled to know things?? Seems fake.

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"How do you know so many random things?" I get dopamine hits from learning things, and I have a raging case of ADHD.

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@StephanFrost @ADHD_Alien If he tells you something is hard, believe him the first time. Don't tell him he's not trying hard enough. He's the only one that can tell you if something is hard for him or not.

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My official position is "Fuck Amazon but I will take their money."

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If you struggle with initiation, starting something looks like this: "I want to do the thing" ➡️ "launch initiation.exe" ➡️ "I am now doing the thing" 2/6

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Before anyone comes to defend this man, you should know he replaced the toilet paper roll a total of 2 times the entire time I knew him, and one of the (many) reasons I left his ass is because he started idealizing me as a future tradwife.

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They think you're not trying hard enough, don't want it hard enough because they *literally can't conceive of task initiation any differently*. They have no idea that there are actually 3 steps, and their brain-hardware handles step 2 seamlessly. 6/6

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One time when I was a 7-year-old, my mom found out I was lying to her to get out of doing something. She asked me angrily, "Why didn't you just tell me that you didn't do the thing before!?" (A "processing my thoughts in front of strangers" thread.) 1/17

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It was never a communication problem. I bent over backwards, tried ALL the methods to tell/remind him of what needed to be done. The only reason he slacked off on domestic duties was pure entitlement; he fundamentally felt too good for them.

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There are several skills that fall under executive function. To name just a few, there's prioritizing tasks, another is organizing, and another is task initiation. I'll say that again. Task initiation is it's own DISTINCT skill under executive function.

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So because those that don't experience executive dysfunction don't even know that the middle step of the brain initiating exists... well, they only see doing something as a two-step process, not a three step one. 4/6

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People with executive dysfunction are like, "I know a place," but then they forget they were texting you, and don't follow up... and then they feel awkward and like a bad friend thinking about picking the conversation back up weeks (or months) later, so they don't.

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I wonder if part of the reason ableds fantasize about getting sick is b/c we're so entrenched in a capitalist hellscape, rest for its own sake (without any "excuse" for needing it) is practically a foreign concept. Like, "You're only allowed this if you can no longer work."

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One time I was grocery shopping in the middle of a busy day, and I pulled out my phone to check on something. An older man about a dozen feet from me saw this and said, "Millennials and their phones..." loud enough for me to hear him. I was using a grocery list app.

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🧠: You fucked up that interaction and that person hates you now. Me: No I'll talk it out with them, it will be fine. Me: *talks it out* 🧠: Okay, so they didn't hate you, but NOW they think you're weird for being so sensitive and needing reassurance. Me: Oh COME ON

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Fun fact: There's a reason the number that's circulated is specifically 10k. It's not based on any scientific research, someone just wanted to sell more pedometers and it was a nice round number.

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Does 10k steps per day help? Or does having enough leisure time that you can consistently walk for 2 hours help

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@soft_bb_bug What gets me is that they apparently don't want us driving drowsy, but if we find a place to park to take a nap so we can drive safely, we get harassed. There's no winning.

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And if step 2 of 2 is the end goal, and they see you not getting to what is their step 2, well, obviously you must be struggling with step one: "I want do do the thing". 5/6

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"You say this while living under capitalism." I mean I don't have a choice? I'd love to have all my needs provided for and be proven wrong but... you'll just have to take my word for it that I know what I struggle with.

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@SzMarsupial I *think* they think they're portraying "grace" and a lack of need to use effort. It's supposed to look "easy". Ballet is supposed to do something similar, but dancers actually execute it well. In the tradwife videos, it just looks like they're sleepwalking.

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Everyone's stress responses and coping mechanisms are different! What helps one person can make another one's life more dysfunctional. Not all advice is universal. If you follow advice and it doesn't work, maybe that advice just isn't for you.

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CW: Disordered eating "So I looked at those vitamin D gummies you bought. Did you know they're mostly sugar?" ... Yes. Yes that is the entire point of gummy vitamins.

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Wild to me that a parent will see their kid's body physically rejecting food and think "this is a moral failing on their part actually".

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For her, that advice made her feel not as motivated, and she ended up falling behind on a lot of things that she used to do every day. She told me, "I can't do that anymore... I *need* to be able to have clean dishes, and they just don't get clean this way."

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The comments in this reddit thread are the main reason why I've been trying to avoid COVID the whole time. Some say their ADHD meds can't even touch their brain fog anymore. Having my ADHD become even more disabling than it already is terrifies me.

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CN: finances I know we tend to joke about the "ADHD tax" like, "oh oops I have to pay a library fee now, lol," but I wouldn't be surprised if it also screws people up REALLY BAD, and it's just not talked about. Because financial shame is a bitch.

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Also disclaimer since the original tweet is gaining traction, I wrote that as self-depreciation rather than as a rule.

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@saddymayo This is what healthy eating should look like IMO. Lots of variety, eating what you enjoy, eating when you're hungry, and enjoying your food without having anxiety over it. It's refreshing to see other people eating like that.

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One of the things that I hate about executive dysfunction is that if I'm struggling with a task and put it off... When I finally, FINALLY am able to make myself do it, it's hard to feel proud of myself. Because it feels like everyone around me is just annoyed it took me so long.

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PSA: If you find yourself asking this, you're not lazy. Lazy people wouldn't care about how much they need to Do The Thing all day.

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Am I Feeling Sad, or Does My Body Need Something and is Being Vague About It? — a memoir

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The ADHD urge to bookmark important tweets and then never look at them again.

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So then I explained how I wasn't worried about fomites because #COVIDisAirborne . Thankfully everyone was okay about using the drive-thru, and eating in the car instead. (It's not the first time I've told them, either...)

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@BlackPnwLady [Abuse] I see parallels to domestic abuse here. Abusers often appear nice in order to have a believable "good person" image. Because they were abusive 100% of the time, it would be a lot easier to see them as abusers. Abusers can be nice, but that doesn't make them good.

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@StephanFrost @ADHD_Alien It took me until adulthood to realize how hard I was trying all along, because all I heard growing up was I needed to apply myself more. Help him feel validated, because he'll inevitably meet people telling him to try harder that will cause him to doubt himself.

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Some sleep hygiene advice is also kinda ableist? My therapist told me to use my bed "for sleep and intimacy only" and I gave her a hard no. Sometimes I have back pain, sometimes anxiety attacks, sometimes I need to cool off after a meltdown in a dark room.

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@roryreckons My last therapist tried to help me with sleep hygiene I think most of the "bad sleep hygiene" stuff exists in the same sphere of "laziness": It's not that people are being lazy/unhygienic on purpose; there are usually unmet needs going on and it just *looks* like bad habits.

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To this day I'm still not sure what exactly he meant?? What I've gathered is that other people apparently go to bed way before they feel like they're running on fumes, and they relax enough that sleep slowly takes over? It sounds made up to me. lol

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Huh, my local Target has 3-packs of 3M auras on the endcap of the cough & cold aisle now. That's relatively new.

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On an average day my brain fog is so bad, it's hard for me to recognize and organize the thoughts I have unless I spend a TON of effort, or I take my meds. My "glasses" are simply chemical, and they help me see my internal world instead of my external one.

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If your ADHD app has a limited free trial, and it doesn't remind me when my subscription is about to renew, your app isn't ADHD friendly. I said what I said.

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Sketchy mental health apps that claim to help ADHD symptoms simply to make sales need to go away, thx.

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If I wasn't in touch with this community I shudder to think about relying on, say, advice from the CDC.

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Yes, I can technically "squint" to get by... but I don't want to spend my entire life squinting! If you think my squinting my entire life instead is virtuous somehow, that's ableist.

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I was so deep into it I was scared of saying the word "don't" because of some bullshit rule akin to: "Say only what you do want, not what you don't. Saying what you don't still makes you think of it."

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