Your ex posts about you to their hundreds of followers in ways that make them look like a great parent and make you look like a negligent, terrible parent, but they have to lie or misrepresent the truth to do it
The power and control dynamics underlying Ye’s behavior are the same power and control dynamics that characterize all abusive relationships, and you are likely overlooking it as it happens to people you claim to love right now.
When you do not approach co-parenting exactly the way they are asking - such as shifting your/your child’s schedule to fit theirs exactly - they berate you and accuse you of “keeping [them] from the kids”
You stayed with your ex for a very long time, likely working very hard to avoid this behavior which you knew was coming if you separated. For that reason, people see you as acting “out of character” or believe you to be lying about abuse you hadn’t previously mentioned.
Your ex takes “offense” at who you have around the kids during your time, be it family, friends, or a new partner, and threatens/berates you because of it
They might say things like “she knew he was like this” OR they may say things like “she was just posting a few months ago about what a great dad he is!” not understanding that you did that to avoid the very behavior you are currently experiencing from your ex
Your ex shows up unannounced to demand time with the children. If you do not allow it, they may threaten you, cause a scene, or (again) post to social media about it. They may even get law enforcement involved.
Your ex accuses you directly - or, again, perhaps in social media posts - of breaking the family apart. They make overtures about wanting their family back after separation, often while simultaneously exhibiting abusive behavior.
Your ex galvanizes other people to say harmful things about you, often publicly, furthering the idea that you are not acting in the best interest of the children. You might hear things like, “children need their fathers!” that do not acknowledge a history of abuse.
I am reading Wash U’s statement about complying with the abortion ban and thinking of all the talented OB/GYNs and other providers who just had it confirmed (again?) that their institution doesn’t have their backs.
“Being pro Israel is good politics” which is why they poured $14M into this race on messaging that did not mention this issue at all and instead distorted the sitting Congresswoman’s face and commercials that misrepresented her time in congress to confuse your grandma
Congratulations to pro-Israel progressive leader Wesley Bell on your victory tonight against anti-Israel Squad member Rep. Cori Bush!
Being pro-Israel is good policy and good politics!
When I imagine a world without police I imagine Adam Toledo going home to play with toys and Daunte Wright snuggling with his baby and Breonna Taylor waking up next to her boyfriend but I'm arguing with people who are like "but who will I call if someone steals my car"
I think the relief we are seeing so many people expressing is not about a person going to prison, or a person deserving criminal punishment, but relief that somebody believed a black woman and held the person who harmed her to account
I support Cori Bush for CD-1. She’s my Congresswoman, she’s doing a great job, and she’s wildly popular in the District.
Supporting her opponent is absolutely a litmus test and I absolutely am taking names and I absolutely will not forget.
The wealth of WashU and BJC is incalculable - who better to ensure the protection of providers who will be tied up in litigation for choosing to treat their patients who need abortions in compassionate, humane, professional ways?
Instead they abandoned some of the most talented and influential providers of health care in the country, including abortion, and I wouldn’t blame them if they started looking for institutions elsewhere that will welcome them with the love, support, and gratitude they deserve
@tinakim
The closest thing to a manual is everything
@LBancroftquotes
has written. Do you have his books? Especially this one: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
There’s a reason Jay Ashcroft is pulling out every illegal trick and stall tactic he can think of to keep abortion off the ballot.
Because whatever straightforward language we put on the ballot to restore abortion access for Missourians will win.
My coparent, who has our son today, just sent me an angry text because he had to do homework with him tonight. He also cussed me out because he forgot to pick up our son’s shoes and because I didn’t send him $20 to get our son a haircut. But hard to say.
Me, on December 1st: ...and I’m taking the full two weeks off at the end of the year to recharge
Me, today: I’m booked up most of 12/24 but could hop on a call at 10pm if that works for you
A little bitty in a stroller…maybe 20 months? Kicking and smiling. Mom starts the joke and I am confused.
“Why do ducks have feathers? Because they want to cover theiiiir…”
She turns to the baby.
“BUTTQUACK!”
We all belly laughed. Very well executed.
This city rejected Clay for Bush and Reed for Jones so if you are a man trying to run citywide I suggest you get your stuff together or just stay tf home, we are not doing legacy candidates ANY MORE
Your annual reminder that when you read those “real life haunted houses in STL” pieces, the man who “disappeared” from the exorcist house in Bel-Nor is my ex father in law and we know where he is. He’s okay
I let Noah say the f word at the abortion rally tonight.
First it was in a chant
Then as we were walking back to the car they said “maaan fuck these abortion laws”
And I was just like you know what, true
I am holding several thoughts in my head at once:
STL has a violence problem.
MO has a guns problem.
People feel unsafe.
When a business moves their conference out of St. Louis because it is too dangerous, that’s a different problem rooted in racism and capitalism.
Jails should not be a death sentence. Jails should not exist.
Holding people for years pre-trial only for them to de in your custody waiting for their day in court should shake you into action.
This system is violence. So is our leaders’ silence.
My family didn't argue about politics at thanksgiving dinner but I did have a heated discussion about feminism and power dynamics in M/F relationships because I told my little cousin not to make her boyfriend's plate for him
Some people got engaged in the stands on the Jumbotron and Yadi smiled and then he literally hit a home run and the Cubs lost and that’s why I like baseball
At a bar (happy Friday) and a man just announced that he needed to close out because he has to “babysit the kids” tonight and all the women LOST THEIR SHIT
Nature is healing
Shout out to abortion
Shout out to birth control
Shout out to divorce
Shout out to having as much sex as you want
Shout out to all of us with the shared experience of misogyny who were taught we were going to burn for all this but realized this is part of how we get free
Meanwhile, the people of St. Louis have raised their expectations and had them met by
@CoriBush
’s representation. Folks will soon realize that the access they think they traded for is nothing more than trademark obsequiousness to get to his next political milestone.
I don’t care much about the VP ball or its debutantes participating in it because their parents are part of high society or whatever. I care very much about how the VP org’s leaders shape daily life to STLians and control resources. If you don’t live here, then you be quiet.
About two years ago, Uncle
@GeeDee215
told Noah "I want you to just notice the times when you're the only black person around, or when a place has a lot of white people" and honestly this is exhausting racism is exhausting come get him UNCLE GENE
What is very wild about the Harvard/n-word kid is how early non-black children learn to flex that “I would like to speak to a manager” muscle. KK is already adept at writing a tersely worded letter demanding something he doesn’t deserve.
Wash U takes on the language of community to preserve its relationship to the IRS but at the end of the day, it’s a business with customers.
Wash U’s most important customers are its DONORS.
I pushed “hide camera” instead of “mute” on a zoom today and my whole team heard me say “Noah, I know you are frustrated that I can’t give you the attention you want right now and I’m sorry” and they laughed and laughed and whew buddy it could have been SO MUCH WORSE
Saying this out loud because I needed to hear it and maybe you do too
I don’t feel powerless today
There is a clear path forward and a bunch of folks standing in the way who want me pregnant and poor and disempowered
I’ve got abortions to fund and organizing to do
@emilynussbaum
I’m 39 and spent the first decade of my career in repro orgs in which my coworkers were peers and near peers - but political strategy is often set by older, more senior people in these orgs who favor more conservative approaches/status quo, so that anger feels majorly misdirected
I read this yesterday, and the framing is really bugging me. No, folks are not “over it,” even if the primary is over. Boiling this race down to friends disagreeing or why people are being mean to Stacey (🙄) misses what’s at stake in our politics
@jdesmondharris
There’s a through line from school assembly topics to behavior I use to weed out dating prospects. Like “he’s nice but he didn’t cut up his soda rings”
We will always need abortion. Even if contraception is accessible. Even if pregnant people’s partners support them. Even if we provide resources for people to help them raise their children. People need abortions when they are pregnant and don’t want to be or cannot be. Period.
Kindergartner.
Why did the chicken cross the road? To get some bones. 😐
You have to make the face. It only works if you’re five years old and you make the face.
Outlets starting to call the MS gubernatorial race for the R incumbent despite the fact that counting is just now underway in the most populous part of the state - because they had ballot shortages and long lines that folks left all day
The game is rigged and we need the VRA
Here is the thing you need to know about sex and pleasure. Most folks want it and are seeking those experiences. Sometimes they end in mistimed or unwanted pregnancies, heartbreak, STIs, embarrassment. Love, euphoria, joy, gratitude. These are fully human experiences.
Police don’t keep us safe. We keep us safe. Stop telling your kids that they need police when there’s a crisis. They don’t. I overheard one of my white neighbors telling his white children once “you never call 911. Even if you think you need the police, you don’t.”
I said this in a reply and it’s worth repeating: racist pandering aside, if your analysis of ESTL is that its public services went away which led to collapse, and if you see that as a potential fate for STL and not a current reality for so so many, you are not ready to lead here.
John Doe was like “hey PUBLIC OFFICIAL remember that time I did a bribe and you were there watching”
And PUBLIC OFFICIAL was like *leans into John Doe’s shirt* “YES”
Unearthed video: JD Vance attacks women “who can't have kids” because they “passed the biological period when it was possible” as “miserable” people who “have no real value system” and struggle to find “meaning”
I am struggling mightily this morning with the fact that the loudest pro-public/anti-charter voices are the folks who are least impacted: white adults, people with no children in public schools, etc.
@CoriBush
Anyway,
@WesleyBell4MO
, you have real live constituents now. Real committee assignments. Real colleagues who watched the race you ran. Show them your latest report card.
Hello, I am an actual expert on nonprofit governance and management, ask me anything
Like literally I will answer your questions please stop this nonsense today