adulting can be lonely. if you're not actively creating the life you want, you will end up doing nothing. life will not come to you. you need to make plans, stick to them, get up and execute.
when someone says that you've hurt them, do not defend, justify or make it about you. pause. listen. reflect. feelings are truth, whether you agree or not to the reasons.
i used to feel most helpless when waiting for people to choose me, whether for personal or professional reasons. i no longer wait. i state my case, share my feelings, and keep it moving. you'll have to catch up when you wake up.
time to get serious about high priority items in your life. get active. eat healthier. start therapy. work harder. be diligent. process feelings. resolve issues. rest regularly. do you. be the best version of yourself you can be - start with the next decision you make 👊🏽
it's toxic comments like this that make people drown in debt trying to impress strangers. yes kay, a YARIS! and?! i refuse to "hustle" anything. if it happens, great! but i'm gainfully employed and know where my priorities lie. my self worth isn't wrapped up in what i own.
before you lose patience with your aging parents, remember how patient they were with you when you were an infant & toddler. the switcheroo is deep, when the child becomes the carer.
people who lack empathy are so destructive! they will hurt you, over & over again, and not have a clue about why you're upset. to top it off, they'll defend their behaviour. once you've identified who they are; avoid, avoid, avoid!
the thing about getting used to being alone, is that you get addicted to it. no one can "threaten" you with withdrawing their presence or company because you're good being on your own.
a black man loving his woman proudly and loudly is a rare sight. one of the reasons why black women celebrate him, is that he was an example of the validation they yearn for 💔
#shonaferguson
it's ok to let someone share their story, without you having to top it with your 'better' story of the same experience. some people are compulsive "toppers of others' stories" people 😷
humans are not one dimensional. the selfish can be kind, the funny can be serious... allow people their duality, accept their duality - stop boxing people with comments like, "i didn't expect that from you"
learn to be on your own. cultivate self love. go to interesting places. treat yourself to nice things. observe humans being silly. laugh at your own jokes. be selfish with your time. love lives in you too you know 😉
when you know what it takes to host a live show, then you'll come to the very factual conclusion that
@bonang_m
is exceptional in her execution of her duties!
#misssa2019
we have no idea how hard the most successful people work, how long they've been hustling, what they've sacrificed, and how much they lost along the way. ease up on the envy. focus on your path.
i used them for my son when i was really, really broke. i was so defeated by my situation, but my mother was so happy to use them (and waterproofs) because for her, hanging them up was such a loud & proud sign to the village that there was a baby in tha house! 😂🙌🏽❤
to the lady handing out free biscuit samples in the sweets aisle at the strubens valley makro, who said that if she squints at me sideways, i look a little like claire mawisa, have a great weekend ❤️😂
south african women are rocking my world so much, it gets me emotional! peggy-sue, minding her business while making epic moves. the effervescence of sho madjozi. nomzamo keeps gaining momentum. dr tlaleng championing us globally. yesses, man! look at you black woman! A FORCE!
the thing about life is that you will eventually learn to live without the thing you thought you couldn't live without. you deal. you cope. you manage. we are wired to survive.
when people find out that i live alone, some are so curious & quick to ask, "what do you do by yourself?!" me, i find it strange that people have never lived on their own or have no idea what to do when they're alone.
some people who don't like you, are paying attention to every little thing you're doing. the time & effort they're giving you, is like a deformed type of love.
ALL my life, i've known i share my birthday with archbishop desmond tutu. EVERY year i declare to the universe i'm available to celebrate together. LOOK 👀 AT 👀 GOD 👀
the popi act needs to start popping again, because WOW, the unsolicited telemarketers calling, texting, spamming... feels like it's at an all time high 😖
people who make you feel like you're difficult to love, are injecting poison into you. the resulting self doubt & self loathing leave a psychological stain that never ever truly washes out.
in 1994 jane raphaely emphatically declared that a 14 year old black girl would be the new face of beauty in south africa, forever changing that child's life. no matter where i end up, i will forever be grateful to where i started my journey; at cosmopolitan. my heart is sore 💔
during tough times, stay grateful, even if it doesnt make sense to do so. rejection could be saving you from further adversity. in your darkest moments, you have no idea what you're actually being protected from. just stay grateful.
spotted a beautiful man in traffic today. imagined a whole entire relationship with him, from meet cute to romantic getaways. but then we went through a messy imaginary breakup, that made me wish i had never met him. then i felt relief because i never did. what a roller-coaster!
broaden your definition of success to not just be about the money, but to also include health, wellness, awareness, gratitude, patience, grace, generosity, empathy. then, you can be successful every single day.