I talked to my therapist about the chronic pain I live with post-transition.
#Binding
my breasts from 2015 to 2019 fucked up my ribs. I started crying when I talked about how when I am hugged too hard it hurts or if my nieces jump on my lap and they accidently press into my ribs.
@HazelAppleyard_
Fr when you are trans there is very few who are interested in dating you. This should be disclosed before consent is given for any form of medical transition. I can say dating as a detrans person is much easier because you arent living a lie
This is a wonderful example of disinformation. People can't come up with a damning (real)
@jk_rowling
quote from The Essay proving transphobia so they find on op-ed she wrote for the UK Times and cut a sentence in half making a cute infographic
The actual quote below π§΅
Damn trying to find a therapist as a detransitioner is literally HELL. I am ready to just curl up and cry. Every god damn therapist now has something like Trans Ally in their profile to score woke points when that just makes me nervous they are going to victim blame me for
I am not a queer, I am a lesbian. Queer IS a slur. If you are a homosexual and want to reclaim it for yourself that's fine, but don't go around calling others queer. It's offensive and alienates older gays and lesbians. Please stop βοΈ π
I have been ghosted 2 times and now got my first rejection letter from a medical malpractice office that said "Regrettably, we do not feel that this is a case that we are able to assist you with." Does anyone know of how to find a lawyer in Alberta who would take a detrans case ?
@RexDraws
@jk_rowling
A year into detransing I was like okay what did JKR actually say? I was told that what she said was dangerous and killing trans people. I read it and found myself agreeing with her. I was shocked to say the least.
When people say don't read something, go and read it ASAP
I am a suicide survivor and it's weird to think people would have said it was due to transphobia not the complex mental health issues I have. I survived and can explain what led me to that attempt. Its so important not to give simplistic answers to why people end their lives
@ilovepreserves
@Serena_Partrick
I dont want to date a "person with a vagina". I dont have a genital preference / fetish. I want to date a whole woman. The whole experience. Voice, hands, skin, hips, the small of the back, breasts, neck, female genitalia. The sex differences are so much more than just genitals
I launched a website today! I want to add my voice to the
#detrans
people speaking about how transition harmed them.
This article is obvs my personal experience and doesn't invalidate story's of
#transsexuals
like
@BuckAngel
So I tweeted about my voice pain and my rib pain. I have one last chronic pain related to transition and it is intimate. Basically testosterone weakens and dries out your vaginas mucus membrane. I also had a total hysterectomy leaving an small incision scar in my vagina where my
Gender-affirming care is institutionalised conversion therapy from the left. I went to a private specialist for help and was referred to medical procedures to help me present as a straight man. What I needed was ACTUAL evidence based therapy backed by reputable research.
#detrans
Gender-affirming care saves lives.
Gender-affirming care saves lives.
Gender-affirming care saves lives.
Gender-affirming care saves lives.
Gender-affirming care saves lives.
@babybeginner
When I detransed one of my trans friends (exfriend now) said "so your *just* a cis woman"
I think that in itself speaks volumes to how cis is a slur.
But I know I lost something. I am blessed to have an understanding and loving partner who loves me as I am.
None of my complications were covered in "informed consent".
#detrans
#posttrans
"Sex offenders have historically been found among social workers, teachers, priests, doctors, babysitters, school caretakers, celebrities and charity fundraisers, yet no matter how often the scandals break, the lesson appears never to be learned:Β it is dangerous to assert that-"
-any category of people deserves a blanket presumption of innocence."
That doesn't look nearly as bigoted or damning so just chop of the context like it is a trans identified woman's breasts<-- π ββοΈthis is a joke about my own amputated breasts if I don't laugh I will c r y
bodies?
If we lived in a world where developing breasts wasn't inheritantly traumatic for young girls would they still want a masectomy?
What can we do to improve the quality of life for women and girls with breasts?
Why is the male chest default? Where are the nonbinary males
getting breast augmentation to affirm their nonbinary identity?
Why is "unisex" clothing cut for male bodies?
Why is male fashion dress clothes (suits and bow ties) acceptable for both sexes but female cut dress clothes are viewed as hyper-feminine?
#detrans
#sexbasedoppression
@masakatsu
@Rothmus
That's so fucked up. I was assisted by a rape crisis centre and their was a long delay in care because they had so many people accessing services. I can't imagine taking services because I was upset with a man
Improve my quality of life. The true cause was no longer wearing a binder. All the benefits of so called top surgery were explained by no longer wearing the constrictive garment and having a flat chest.
The real questions should be: Why do young females feel alienated from their
cervix was when the surgery was performed. I am sure you can imagine where I am going with this and how it affects my sex life with my partner. I never really got to have a sex life with someone I am attracted too with a healthy vagina so I don't really know what I lost.
"-predators, any more than we believe that all men are predators"
This is the problem with cult survivors, apostates if you will, we know the tactics. We were fooled. We were true believers and we know the con.
#detransition
#detransTERFalliance
It takes like 30 seconds to type out the quote and find the source. You might even stumble across her following sentence for further context!
"This shouldnβt need saying, but in the current climate, it does: literally no feminist Iβve ever met claims all trans women are -"
How the chronic pain I live with from breast binding affects my relationships and quality of life. For the first year I wore a binder I bought a handmade one I wore occasionally on
@Etsy
and than I had
#G2CBbinder
that I wore daily to work. My breast amputation in 2019 did
@HazelAppleyard_
Being trans gave me weird anxiety like that but I kept it to myself because I knew it was unreasonable. She is overthinking because she subconscious knows she is female and putting herself at risk by using men's spaces
It is just such a fucking trap: we are told transition or die, than if you end up with regret and need support, the same people who tore your body apart just flip it around like you are the problem. I am tired of being told I am "actually nonbinary" or "I must not have real
the trauma I went through. IDEK what to do at this point. It seems like there is help for people like me in Europe but Canada the water is more murky with the Conversion Therapy law being as vague as it is. (I am in touch with Genspect dont worry)
gender dysphoria" because transition made it worse. It was real enough to be diagnosed and affirmed by every professional that saw me and still causes me issues. I just have more reasons and insecurities now to think I am a gender failure, not a proper woman,
@MalesOfReddit
Growing breasts is mortifying for preteen girls idk what this person is on about. Who tf was looking up massages and ways to stimulate growth?
I listened to some of the only audio that exists of my pre t voice. I quit singing that year due to what
@TTExulansic
calls trans man voice disorder. I was told it was normal for male puberty and I would able to sing again once second puberty was over. Now singing is painful.
@MalesOfReddit
We use to joke my friends Bird was a TERF. She was afraid of and attacked all men except transmen π she was afraid of transwomen too. Guess which friends were offended by the bird π€π€π€
distress around my birth sex but my doctors were very resistant to my detransition. My endocrinologist still passive aggressively suggests I am nonbinary after over 2 years. I graduated from DBT a few months later. With a new sustainable hope for a life worth living
I want to make peace with my body and the truths about me but I cant do that without finding a good therapist. I can't find a good therapist because the TQ+ have spread queer theory like a plague through our universities so it is impossible to find a therapist untouched by their
When I was able to accept my birth sex and realise gender is sex stereotypes, I needed to detransition immediately. It wasn't like the slow indoctrination of becoming trans identified. I was certain detransition was necessary. I immediately affirmed when I sought out help for
@ShayWoulahan
It doesn't matter how "gay you look", what it comes down to is a very simple question:
"Are you same sex attracted?"
If the answer is yes, congrats you are LGB! πWe are not stereotypes, we are a diverse group of folks who have been oppressed due to our same sex attraction
@VeniVidiVicki
I questioned everything during my detransition I searched the Internet for
@jk_rowling
being hateful and found myself agreeing with what she said. I now ask people why they think she is hateful and for their sources but no one can supply her hateful rhetoric. Its just misogyny π€·ββοΈ
@detransaqua
Mine won't release my therapy notes to me unless she talks to me over the phone and I just cant face speaking to her. The trauma is too intense. She knows I have a therapist to talk about the notes with
@HazelAppleyard_
Canadian here. My step grandfather chose to pursue MAID when he was diagnosed with brain cancer that was untreatable and would cause him to die a horrible death. He got to die with the people he loved around him instead of slowly degenerating. The new MAID laws are despicable
that I should have been born male. And when I spiral the only people I have to talk to will never understand the trauma I went through. It is a weird loneliness because I am with people and loved by them but I might as well be in Azkaban having all the positivity sucked out of me
@eva_kurilova
As a detrans suicide survivor,nothing makes me madder than this dangerous abusive and reckless that the weaponisation of suicide and attributing death by suicide as having 1 clear motive. Major violations in safe reporting guidelines leading to clusters and copycat suicides
@asilverfairy
Bi-Lesbian is homophobic af and validates male beliefs that lead to fetishization, sexual harassment, and corrective rape of real lesbians who can not feel sexual attraction to men. Lesbian is female homosexuality and/or women who love women. 'Non-men' centres men in lesbian love
And than I am okay for a while. I survive The Spiral, I tolerate the distress and rumination, I use skills, I scream in a pillow, write, or whatever I need to to reign it in. But the loss, grief, and trauma is there in waiting until another spark ignites it
@VienneseStrudel
@francesweetman
LMFAO yeah so after I detransed I borrowed a 'cancelled book' from the library and was blocked by my friends a year ago. π so it is also bigoted to read them from the library even if you don't give money directly to the author π
Transition ravaged my body, left me broken and distrustful of doctors. It nearly broke my family, I lost almost all my trans identifying friends through my detransition and deprogramming. Accepting myself as a lesbian and rejecting sex stereotypes was all I needed
I got a second chance to live and tell my story, to love and be loved, to actually heal. I have not felt suicidal since DBT but I do have the thoughts. My brain created and reinforced pathways that ending my life would end my suffering. If I went through DBT
@ShifterofShapes
I am detransitioned but half my wardrobe is mens clothes, i dont remove my body hair, and i dont have breasts. Detrans doesn't mean gender conforming, it is a radical acceptance of our sex. Sending you the positive vibes you deserve β¨οΈ
@MDayCassandra
If I could go back that would be the main thing I would try to teach young me. You are your body, be kind to it, and there is nothing wrong with you π
first I would have never transitioned. I obviously can't prove it but I started feeling reverse dysphoria and regret a few months into DBT as i was becoming more connected with my body and inner self. When trans ided I viewed my body as my flesh prison.
@N4R0G8
Same I dont even know how to quantify the harm done to me by that surgeon. I had only been on horomones for 10 months. I was 26. How could I consent to all this shit no one told me about. No one said the words surgical menopause or ANY of the known health risks. Its sick
I feel like I should add the spin of her meaning legal innocence until proven guilty and not basic safeguarding (which is obviously what she is talking about with context) requires the removal of the first half of the sentence to hold any water.
@HazelAppleyard_
Ironic calling you "gayphobic" when you are mutual with (actual) homosexuals.
These people saying I have to suck the girl dick are the homophobes
living as her birth sex. Not because she found God or some BS but because of regret. Through her I learned what detransition was and found the r/detrans community. They were a life line and helped my accept my birth sex. It was a space for critical thought and exploration.
@jalisavine
I am going through this too Jalisa, I am 30 now, in surgical menopause since I was 25. I was on T for 3 years and on estrogen for 2. If you come across any menopause gems please share them! π
Each milestone didn't bring me the internal peace I was seeking. I couldn't see that my mh was declining. The doctors neglected to see that treatment was worsening my condition. None of them ever bothered to consider if what they were doing was treating my gender dysphoria
experiences as a transman became apart of my identity as a woman. I was no longer a woman inspite of my transition. I was a woman from the morning I turned 18, through my experiences while trans identified, and after I accepted my sex.
@LadieLabrys
I can understand, when I was in the cult it was so hard to be my friend / family member. The victim mindset ruined so many relationships and repairing them has been so hard and so rewarding. I have 2 close trans men I am friends with but they are older and not in the cult.
@sometherapist
Not talking to people like Turban and conserving your arguments for people that aren't too far gone is logical. Nothing anyone says or does will change Turbans mind. He is a shill for the transition industrial complex
But as transition didn't help my distress, my mh was rapidly getting worse, I found myself trapped in this delusion. I believed 100% that I was trans and didn't believe in transition regret. I would occasionally search for ex-trans stuff to validate my status as true trans.
I have to seek justice for what happened to me and to start an inquiry into the care being provided. I had that realisation in the middle of the night tonight. π
#detrans
When I first saw a YouTube video from a trans guy I watched , when he expressed transition regret due to sexual trauma, I was already living with that regret and wishing I never transitioned. I had been in DBT for quite some time
@EllePalmer1
was the first detrans woman I saw,
My sense of self was separate and distinct from my body. My previous name, identity, etc was dead. I was able to kill Jessica and live as someone I could like? Who I should have been, if I wasn't born female. This death and rebirth gave me hope, it gave me a purpose in my life.
@duchess_elle
I would even be willing to concede that after a successful transition transwoman occupy the same social role of women eventhough they ate biological males
@HazelAppleyard_
That would be much so much more destabilising to the child. Being told that their dad was always a women and was in disguise their whole life. How will the child be able to discern who is and is not in disguse?
@Sidewalk_Steve
@detransaqua
Do they not realise how much hate detransitioners get??? Alot of us are rebuilding our lives. If I started doing detransition advocacy like Prisha they would try to get me expelled
@LadieLabrys
Developing breasts is a trauma and imo the end of the innocence of girlhood. It is when you lose your humanity to men, when you experience objectification. Breastfeeding is a time when women in my life have healed that trauma, their breasts had function and purpose
@steviepatrick77
@L__G__B
Very angry. He has no idea what female homosexuals go through. The idea excluding all males isn't inclusive enough is just the modern iteration of "you just haven't met the right man yet"
No I just don't date males because im a lesbianπ€¦ββοΈ
I was cat called for the first time months after this photo was taken. The men who do this to little girls are pedophiles. It is about power and status. They are sexually attracted to children. Look at this photo and tell me she isn't a child
transphobic opinion.She told me everything done to me was a womans experience. Only a woman can have a hysterectomy. Only a woman can have a masectomy. These experiences are atypical, sure, but they are only possible if you are female. It was the first time that all my ...
The most powerful moment in my detransition happened in a play room. I shared with my sister why I got an X marker instead of going back to a F. I said I had felt too far gone to be a woman again. She finally felt like she could be honest with me, prefaced with an apology for her
@incelReplies
This is why I would never let a male baby sit my child. There are a few that are dad's I would trust, but as a general role, NO. No male nanny's, no male babysitters, no male daycare workers. I know its
#NotAllMen
but it was ALWAYS men.
Instead I can never have children, I will never be able to forgive and accept my breasts. I lost years of my life. I am shy under 30 and menopausal, on estradiol, and on an arrayment of mental health medication. I did a 13 month therapy program at my local hospital
@HazelAppleyard_
It is irreversible when puberty is suppose to be happening. You are delaying development in a time sensitive window. 7 year old girls aren't suppose to be hitting puberty. Lawsuits against Lupron from adults who had precocious puberty date back years
@HazelAppleyard_
I got misgendered at the pharmacy yesterday. I just brushed it off and went about my day. A random pharmacist who think I am a man really doesnt impact me that much. I just showed my ID and it matches the account information so I got my meds π€·ββοΈ
I cant scream and talking for extended periods is painful which will limit my career. I can't just walk in and get a job in retail. I couldn't get through a work day without being is extreme pain. When I visit with family I leave in pain. I am happy and love our time
@Woke_Misogyny
All the comments are women believing the girl because they know the damage porn is doing and men denying this happened so they can continue looking at porn π€£
@HazelAppleyard_
Your history of transition is part of what makes you you Hazel. Same with my medical transition. It makes our voices more powerful as we try to protect others from being harmed.
@Mr__J__Prime
Probably getting cat called by adult men for the first time when I was 12. I didn't care either way about my developing breasts but that made me deeply ashamed and scared of what was happening to me.
@MalesOfReddit
From what I have read penis - anal sex is alot riskier for females because of the differences in our pelvic floor increasing the odds of things like incontinence. Probably best to stick to hand stuff back there
I will post more blog posts on topics related to detransition, gender ideology, mental health recovery. Any topic requests are appreciated as well as feedback, follows, and if you like the content shares <3
@AnnabelTheRose
@Ollie_Bun
@Genspect
is helping me pay for 10 sessions of therapy for the medical trauma I endured while trans identified. I start next week. Without their help there is no way I could afford it this care. I think it's pretty shitty to say they aren't the answer when they are the only 1/2
@ruwbyrin
Misogyny is an ingrained prejudice against women. He knows what it means and so does she. I agree she got emotional because she saw what he was doing. I dont think yhe definition of misogyny isn't widely known π€·ββοΈ
@MalesOfReddit
I have a natal vagina and have never been fisted. I dont think that is something most women aspire to do. π€·ββοΈ
I am glad at the beginning of my transition an older trans guy warned me bottom surgery is a death sentence and the only SRS surgeon got the nickname the Montreal Butcher
@HazelAppleyard_
π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£ I can't believe I managed to go to the grocery store after, than make dinner, than work on my studies. I was basically genocided
@JamesCantorPhD
I remember wishing I had nothing down their after I was SAed by a close guy friend at 17. I think this surgical procedure preys on victims of CSA and stops victims from healing
It is backed by science and going through it would have saved
#AHS
tons of money on two unnecessary surgeries performed on me. Instead they paid for two surgery's AND than an non-invasive thearuptic treatment that saved my life
@InconspicuousJJ
Women have body hair. Smooth and hairless is the pre-pubecent state in humans and sexualising it is creepy. Men who *require* women to shave are big red flags
I am attracted to women and body hair is a part of her natural state. Finding peace in our bodies is our freedom