These threads always boil down to men shaming women and girls for getting "fat."
So there's always an argument between men spouting oversimplified bad advice, vs. women.
It's not about health.
Fatphobia is a tool of sexism.
@DianeNoMoreLies
@AOC
Being literate will not protect you from being a refugee when conditions become dire. That you automatically associate literacy with wealth and privilege tells us something about you, not them.
@Ikler32
@Ancommiey
Intersex people exist. Also called DSD, the numbers can be googled. DSD's don't exist because of politics. If you're going to say bimodal sex distribution requires binary gender, you're claiming you have the only true culture and we all have to comply, which is colonialism/fash.
@ThisisDavina
@Lauren1485
If women arenโt cautious and frightened, we get accused of bringing violence on ourselves by being careless. If we are cautious about men, we get accused of man-hating. We literally canโt win. Women get blamed for male violence because thatโs how power is enforced in private.
@Janee_Al
@DianeNoMoreLies
@AOC
Thank you. They are so resistant - I donโt understand. The closest thing to it I know of is a cult. Itโs the mindset Alice Miller described. Deconversion is hard work and goes far beyond politics.
@AnAltarEgo
@BrujaAnon
This doesnโt make sense, many teenagers have irregular cycles, as do teens with conditions like PCOS. This is a huge breach of medical privacy. I would not allow a teenager to compete in school sports under conditions like this.
@NoRaLoRama
@MNateShyamalan
Hate to be pedantic, but autism isnโt a personality disorder, itโs a developmental disability- itโs brain based. The term is used as an umbrella for multiple conditions, so Iโm not interested in anyoneโs anecdotes.
@JustinMerriman2
@Janee_Al
@DianeNoMoreLies
@AOC
Thanks, thatโs really true. If Trump got a heart attack tomorrow the machine thatโs in place would just rumble along without him. Weโve got to get it subject to the rule of law before they try to change the Constitution itself, as some of the hard Right want to do.
@pwrof_1
@SOFRASER04
@peterdaou
My friends and I have theorized it's malignant NPD, which is to say a classic abuser. It's thought by some to be caused by abusive upbringing, which is common among authoritarians. Alice Miller described that upbringing in the 20th century. Ex-evangelicals say it's common there.
@Xia__25
@FromAerin
@breezybl2029
A lot of people have emotions that donโt work this way. Telling myself I forgive someone will not cure any PTSD, and I donโt have the physical energy to nurture a grudge or choose a bitter emotion. Youโre assuming everyoneโs emotions work like yours.
@EnoughInsanity
@caustic_muse
@Esqueer_
@Target
Abprallen does excellent work but I also have not seen his art at Target. I have never seen โdecapitationโ are you also afraid of Black Metal T-shirts? This is a standard pop art style these days.
@ashura_stuff
@dreamy_run
I had a Stage 3c cancer and would have agreed with you. But when suicide is offered to disabled people who can't get safe housing or enough to eat, I can't trust the ethics of this society anymore.
@herzauskupfer
@punishedmother
You're so close to getting it, given the overlap between abolitionists and suffragettes in the 19th century. They were opposed to the people who didn't want rights for either slaves or women and who eventually started a civil war. My ancestor fought for the North.
@buggbabe
@NeuroRebel
A very basic principle of allyship is not speaking over disabled people. Autism Speaks has been the source of so much anti-autism stigma I've even felt the effects in my life as an older adult. This isn't helping anyone in the long run. We're allowed to talk back. We are equal.
@ChrisAlvino
I had an elderly friend who was in terrible pain after a similar eye surgery, and no one would even acknowledge it. It was one of the saddest things I've ever seen.
Disruption of routine can make it impossible for me to keep a schedule and can lead to shutdown and burnout. Now the cause is illness, but itโs even worse if itโs other people. The reason I isolate is people who donโt believe I have disabilities. They donโt respect my needs.
@ElizabethGiddi1
@redheadranting
@BellaLucyBee
This says something really sad about your social milieu.
When I was 19 and a ballet major I was wearing something not unlike a swimsuit every day of class. Getting into an actual swimsuit and swimming was a pleasant connection with nature
Now I'm 61 and more modest but not dead!
@Grummz
Iโm an older person who learned how to survive adversity in real life. But that now means I am too disabled for some games. If a developer wants to include easy mode and get my business, more power to them. I donโt need games to train for real life.
@acetone_kitten
@julia_doubleday
I'm already physically disabled and I live in congregate housing. So I don't have a clean airspace anywhere and I can't mask sleeping with a cpap. I get sick every couple of months and I can't do anything about it. We are getting thrown away on purpose.
@RogLem0186
@piper4missouri
Paedophiles do exactly that, along with anyone who marries a child too young to consent, divorce or go to a battered women's shelter. This is sexual slavery. Forced birth is a way to compel women of any age who can't bear to lose custody to an abuser. This is as ugly as it sounds
@WesleyKushner
@bibicosplays
@GardonDeLait
You just wanted your excuse to dunk on a disabled person.
I can't drive anymore and rely on grocery delivery. There are no stairs here, but I would need it even more if there were. Some older towns have lots of stairs everywhere.
@terraistrying
@tylerblack32
As someone who was bullied and was an undiagnosed autistic - I hope you can get the resources to homeschool or unschool. The damage from bullying impacts adulthood. One can finish schooling later, if necessary. My folks had to move to save me from violence.
@JamesCa31215897
@LA_Knight89
@EnbyRocMarciano
This kind of uneven ability can be a sign of a disability or a distraction like having to work full time to survive. I sometimes did poorly, and then pulled through with a crunch at the end. It was the amount of time I had to give.
@hollowood_zoe
@scottishliberal
Blocking necessary healthcare from women who want and need it, because you think they owe someone fertility, is pure misogyny. At what age do we magically get permission to escape disabling, painful illness?
@l_u_n_a13
@siderealmaven
@sicmundustj
Truth. This tells us something about our critics rather than something about us neurodiverse folks. As a bottom-up autistic thinker, if I know the work I do for survival is actually harmful, thatโs enormously stressful for me.
@LKB64
@MoiraDonegan
They should listen to women who have been both traditional wives and single Queers. My husband was not abusive, but I had no career as a military wife and divorce left me in poverty. The security of the tradwife is a gamble that can go wrong: see also cancer divorcรฉes.
@jszcee
@gayspyalex
@AlletsonTracey
@estherk_k
Nobody is claiming they are medically different than what they are, and the rest is just culture. Youโre upset because someone doesnโt use your culture ideas, not because they are unscientific. And you know it.
@yearningjon
@notcorry
Meanwhile the same conservatives support cosmetic surgeries on intersex children, which can cause lifelong damage. Honestly I think parentsโ rights should stop well before doing damage to a child for any reason. But blocking precocious puberty is not damage, itโs temporary.
@Ikler32
@Ancommiey
You're arguing against a strawman. Binarist gender is cultural, but you want to derive it from physical sex in an effort to impose it on other people. This isn't science. It's just fash. Nonbinary gender is in subcultures/cultures other than your own, so is none of your business.
@bloodtypeblue1
@MorgothArc
@BuckAngel
Binary biological sex is a massive load of unscientific bullsht. You canโt claim sex is irrelevant to gender conformity, and then get upset anyway when people go around it. Itโs terfs that believe in sex/gender roles, to such a degree that you canโt see any other point of view.
Thank you.
This helps me against gaslighting,
as a female and a Queer I couldnโt get necessary healthcare from โChristiansโ who donโt really think my disabled, wrong religion body deserves to live.
They think if you canโt earn your life by being used by them, you should die.
And I think the appropriate sort of response to all of this is anger.
I mean something specific when I say "anger," by the way: something observant, expectant, restorative, and appropriate.
So let's talk about anger:
@chromesthesia
@dropdeadrian
They managed to yeet my uterus fast enough when they found I had cancer, even though I was fat. I hope you can find someone who will.
@richyrich323
@Malibubarbarian
@ProtonInspector
Being able to marry the boyfriend OR girlfriend of my choice is a big plus for me. Also if I ever get to tourist in Hollywood, I'm checking out some night life!
@Zvbear
You don't seem to know I can be 60 and Autistic and Bigender all at the same time. I was all of these things when I reached adulthood in 1980, they just didn't have names yet. In the Nineties I could say I was an Aspie who was Genderqueer. Language changes.
CW: my whole tweet stream is a big content warning. I consider kyriarchy, patriarchy, narcissistic abuse and religiosity to be basically one phenomenon that weโre giving different names in different settings. /1
@SLP506
@FaeJohnstone
Whatโs sad here is that someone felt free to verbally abuse a child. I am old and this is not the feminism we fought for. terfs donโt care who they mow over to get what they want.
@bloodtypeblue1
@MorgothArc
@BuckAngel
This is the infantilization again. In the eyes of terfs Butch women and girls are so helpless and easily led that they can be talked into being trans men even if theyโre not. You can only believe this if you donโt personally know many Butches or trans men because itโs insulting.
@AnnMemmott
@EbThen
@maireaddempsey2
@OT_Expert
All they seem to be teaching is that some people are allowed to dish out cruelty, and if youโre the wrong person you will be forced to absorb it, and smile about it.
@AnaMardoll
Good for her! If heโs so controlling now he wants to take away her inheritance and living, itโs very possible he would get abusive once he gets control. She dodged a bullet.
@talleyberrybaby
I can't speak for other people, but a lot of nonbinary people don't want to be out to the boss or the customer.
I wouldn't even give the customer my full name and I was merely working a phone. All AFAB and Queer people are at risk when they are outed this way.
@JaneKin54322448
@PatrickLenton
This. Every time terfs define womanhood, they use bodily fertility or not being โmasculineโ as part of their metric. Only Sunday School femininity is really a woman to terfs. Children, church, kitchen. 1 of n
@jereichwrites
When I was your age we had to run off the bisexual agenda on a mimeograph and post it on the bookstore bulletin board! None of this internet stuff! And we had to walk six miles in freezing snow to get there! Uphill both ways! And we liked it!!!!!
@CaryLoughman
@gulityparty
@BernieSanders
Literally nobody in a job like that is going to be hired based on whether they still fake their customer service attitude while theyโre at home off the clock. And *everyone* is faking it. Itโs not healthy to have to be nice to assholes all day.
@leoniedelt
Jen, with all due respect, this ainโt it. Iโm hyperlexic (in those days we called it high IQ) and was somewhat employable, but Iโm also sometimes the person rocking in the corner. Donโt fall into these narratives of comparison. We are not only our masks.
@theAmanda_Jules
@windupgemma
In my jurisdiction it *is* rape.
This is some out of date UK law the GC/terfs are exploiting to claim females can't rape and trans women all do.
It's patronizing misogyny.
@jrj1130
@kenklippenstein
@alexsalvinews
Youโre going to get ratioed by the very many middle aged Gen X / young Boomers who have been wiped out by medical expenses (many of them were insured)
@jennyoun
@laurenancona
Also Meals on Wheels is not free, at least not for anyone I know who gets it.
It's cheaper for me to order TV dinners from Walmart and have Doordash deliver them, though that would be too much salt.
I rely on Walmart grocery delivery to eat.
@dark_saberblade
@AmoneyResists
Too late now, it's happening already. Some of you Right wing people didn't understand that no exceptions really is no exceptions.
@soapachu
@RhetoricalHype
They don't know about languages that don't even have gendered pronouns. They certainly want to ignore traditional cultures with respected multiple genders. I can't help but think that some of this is the idea that only the English have the right culture.
@petalquartzdove
@EFJBGC
Exactly. I donโt think right wing people think mental illness is real. If they accepted minds are in brains, they would have to accept spirits and ghosts arenโt real. So they have the medieval idea mental illness is a sin fixed by praying. โMental illnessโ is really Thought Crime
@NeuroRebel
I donโt feel much pain or express a lot of emotion, when I tell them whatโs wrong many of them donโt believe me, even when itโs documented in my medical records. If Iโm in enough distress that my mask comes off, they blame everything on โanxietyโ so being expressive wonโt help.
@millieevemarie
@monets_nymph
@ASnilloc
@_celia_bedelia_
Iโve thrown out panties. But Iโve also carried a baggie or a plastic container and carried it home in my backpack. I have never, ever seen anyone washing anything in a public bathroom sink. Itโs not clean enough for that. I also carry hand sanitizer.
@mariahmac12
@IsTrumpCareDead
@mattbc
But it's just the kind of attitude that medical people use when they blame and shame sick people limited by the symptoms of our illness. If willpower fixed everything I would never need a doctor again. But in the real world it doesn't.
@bloodtypeblue1
@MorgothArc
@BuckAngel
While weโre at it, what about autistics? Iโm autistic. It doesnโt make autistic AFABs legally incompetent persons who canโt be allowed to make their own medical and gender decisions. This manages to be ableist, transphobic and misogynistic all at once! A trifecta of fascism.
@Econpolicy
@ponygirl923
And only because the fetus might be an able bodied male. So since the mother is not, she's disposable.
I really don't think Christofascists acknowledge women are human.
@Faiththecat
@windupgemma
You're including the Philly Pride flag like the racist you are.
British GC seem to have a really bad reaction to the Philly Pride flag.
@scuba_tony
@umairh
Sea Surface Temperatures are now higher than in a very long time. I wouldnโt want to be living in the hurricane shooting gallery this year.
@Ikler32
@Ancommiey
You haven't corrected me about science. What's your claim, other than your attempt to derive binarist gender from an outdated view of sex?
@CaryLoughman
@gulityparty
@BernieSanders
This tells me the demand to be excessively nice to the customers is not for the customers. Itโs for pandering to the egos of bosses and old male customers with limited ideas about women should act in service jobs.
@yearningjon
@notcorry
Terfs are concerned about the fertility of white trans people they see as young women. Itโs the same forced fertility/forced childbearing that we see from other fascists. They see becoming a trans man as an unacceptable rejection of pregnancy. Same reason for opposing abortion.
I have had a parallel experience with a different cult. The persona has a life of its own. Iโm still unearthing myself in my later years. Thank you for this tweet.
As cult members, a lot of us had to suppress our authentic self in order to survive. You end up in this dissociative state where youโre two selves. Your authentic self and the self that is created in the image of the cult.
#ExMuslimAwarenessMonth
@EMacskasy
@chronicallybeee
@hobbyhorrible
Oh look it's a man here to inform us with his manly views.
Hint: almost everyone complaining about this problem is disabled in bio and/or has a girl name.
Doctors are *prejudiced*
@Lerienperce
We had our workplace shut down from violent threats, but your minimizing means we're standing right in front of you and you don't even know.
You think you're cool but everyone in the room isn't telling you everything.