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@bigeyekwse

2 years

I’ve directed 4 funerals in 2 days and I was reminded how CHILDREN PROCESS AND DISPLAY, EXPRESS GRIEF IN DIFFERENT WAYS THAN ADULTS. And taking cues from children can sometimes help adults. I just want to share a couple of observations and ideas…

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remember to sleep when you’re tired, or at least rest your eyes. it’s ok to feel guilt. it’s ok to feel hungry. it’s ok to feel confused. it’s ok to feel angry. it’s ok to feel anxious. it’s “normal” to feel as though you’ve lost something, because you have.

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One little girl today was REALLY struggling and I gave her some cards and crayons so that she could make a card for her great-uncle to have with him in his casket. It offered mom an opportunity to get herself together and the little girl was able to draw out her feelings.

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Stepping outside to watch the sunlight flicker through branches, listen to the wind blow, birds chirp, just to ALLOW THEM TO USE THEIR SENSES will help ground you both/all. Remind them it’s ok to cry. It’s ok to hug and get snuggles (from y’all). It’s ok to ask for water.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

When you’re in courses to prepare you for Mortuary Sciences (or psychology) your death & dying courses will teach you that “most people”, meaning dominant culture in suburban communities, will be introduced to death around age 8yo & often through the loss of a grandparent or pet.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

Some funeral homes have children’s books that address exactly what you’re struggling to talk to your kiddo about, from many different cultures and backgrounds. Bring snacks. Sit down with your children JUST before the service begins and ask to sit in the back for a quick exist.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

Most funeral homes will have a private room you can take your children to, or a hospitality area. Children are just little sponges they’ll pick up on everything! Including the stress, pain, angry, grief, and anxiety in the caregivers who are around them.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

don't y'all always wonder what our lands would look like without colonization & capitalism

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

Remember children might not be able or ready to verbally express their feelings so you may see them act out their feelings and emotions. Even older children (6,7,8+) may resort to behaving like toddlers or younger to get the attention they cannot ask for.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

If it’s an open casket and you haven’t talked about death, dying, corpses then take a few minutes to prepare the children in your care. If you are at a loss and you’re not sure what to say or do then ask your funeral director and funeral home staff.

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2 years

That wasn’t my experience, I’ve always been around funerals and death, but I keep that info in mind when I’m at work. It’s important to remember that if you’re making a service a FAMILY event: be patient with infants, toddlers, children who are attending the service.

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@bigeyekwse

1 year

please stop romanticizing “resiliency”, i am so tired. we are exhausted.

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1 year

As a parent, who also happens to be a funeral director/embalmer, I have strict rules on things I will just not allow my children to do. One of the biggest rules is: I will NEVER let my Children go swimming with a School, Daycare, organization i cannot be present and with them.

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2 years

I just wanted to remind anyone who might’ve forgotten that the term “Indigenous” isn’t exclusive to the Americas, there are approximately 370 million Indigenous people across 70 countries worldwide.

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3 years

STOP TELLING PEOPLE ALL INDIAN BOARDING SCHOOLS ARE CLOSED. Not all schools have closed their doors, there are a lot more schools still open than you may think.

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@bigeyekwse

1 year

I have witnessed people drowning, I have assisted in performing life saving measures, I have witnessed the result of those efforts failing. I do not fck with water.

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1 year

if you’re interacting with Native/Indigenous people, or anyone whose ancestors came through colonization, please be mindful of how you approach names…it might sound silly, but can and will lead to some very uncomfortable situations.

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3 years

please, for the love of all that's sacred, DO NOT use the phrase "build your tribe" as part of your professional team building language.

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1 year

Hell no to motorcycles, ATVs, unattended around windows and blinds, and knowing how offer life saving care for children and infants is a MUST.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

@KidarWolf @AshleighWildest Such an important reminder. Thank you for sharing this with all of us!

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

remember the land in all of this. the lands have held every one of them. the land has cradled their bodies, their bones, their names, their stories. the lands have held on to who did this and knows their faces & names as well. the lands will listen & hold your grief too.

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bigeyekwse

@bigeyekwse

3 years

just a reminder. you don't need to have a Black Native/Afro-Indigenous partner, kids, cousins, family, to stand up to Antiblackness in our communities, including online spaces. you can take a stand against Antiblackness b/c it's just wrong and we need to cut the shit

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

"melting pot" is assimilation

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

i'm 41 and my little brother and i were the last in our family to go to boarding schools. they had "in house" punishment, which i often had. my dad named my youngest sister Whisper, as a reminder for how we kept our language and names alive during residential school.

daanis

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3 years

Every native person you know has a story about residential school. Every single one of us. Grandparents. Aunts and Uncles. Relatives whose names are whispered. Relatives who never got the chance to become ancestors. Every. Single. One of us.

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3 years

a love letter: your ancestors were uncertain at times too. they felt those same feelings of impending doom & hopelessness, but they kept on it, just like you are. they knew about you then, just like you know about them right now. some things are absolutely certain.

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@bigeyekwse

1 year

If our names, first or surnames, “sound Christian” or “white”, you’re correct, those names came from Genocide, Removal, Persecution, forced assimilation, violence. And revisiting those origins in a casual setting because you “didn’t really think about that” can be uncomfortable.

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2 years

I want to share a short story about Baby Kikwé and my experience with the state of VA trying to take her at birth. This photo, and I have more, plus video of OB/GYN care I had while pregnant 2018 in Virginia.

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@bigeyekwse

1 year

I’ve seen this on the TL and wanted to add a different perspective, as a Funeral Service Professional and someone who meets with vulnerable families at the time of death, making arrangements for services and final disposition for loved ones who had violent deaths…

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@bigeyekwse

8 months

Indigenous people understand and RESPECT their relationship with the land. Our languages are built around our ancestral lands. We are in relation with the land because it IS our ancestors who returned to that land. The land holds our bones, bodies, joy AND we share grief.

Karim Wafa-Al Hussaini

@DrKarimWafa

8 months

I don’t know who needs to hear this but indigenous people do not burn their farms, poison their rivers, or emit toxic chemicals in the air. Whoever does that is the oppressor.

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3 months

Please buy my earrings so I can pay my bills. You will have cool earrings and we will have our house and utilities.

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This store front slangs mixed media visual arts, poetry, and beadwork.

www.melancholynow.com

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

@heather28df It’s unfortunate he chose to wear it and remain a member of the church

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@bigeyekwse

3 months

#SettlerSaturday support Indigenous artists! Potawatomi made. You get dope earrings and I can feed my Babygirl.

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@bigeyekwse

1 year

I cannot stress how important grief work is throughout life. Processing Grief isn’t exclusive to death and dying. Grief work applies to loss of self, jobs, major change, trauma, abuse, relationships transitioning, birthing, aging, it can also apply to celebratory events.

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@bigeyekwse

1 year

you’re not having a powwow, Barb. you’re having a regularly scheduled staff meeting, you up-tight, bottom feeding, Starbucks drinking H.R. nightmare.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

sheet ghosts. buy Native. support Indigenous creators. support small businesses!

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@bigeyekwse

1 year

listen, if you’re Reconnecting i think that can be beautiful and healing, but you also have to keep in mind that healing work is grief work and it can be messy, brutal, painful, uncomfortable, and heartbreaking and the journey won’t leave you the way it finds you.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

I’m a single Potawatomi Mama. I’m a funeral services professional and full time student. I’m missed out on some work due to sickness. my toddler turns 4 this weekend and I’m trying to make some extra money for bills and presents. I have some earrings available….DMs open.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

FCK Keeler. FCK her list. FCK the NYPost. FCK her book. FCK the discount they have on her book. FCK all you cornballs who are supporting that shit too.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

We had a funeral for a 35 year old woman this weekend who died of covid, one of her children who was a second grader, said goodbye to his mother at our funeral home just weeks before Christmas and it was heartbreaking to witness.

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@MarcSallinger

3 years

A 2nd grader named Owen is one of the first public speakers talking against mask mandates. His dad is holding the mic for him “I’m adorable. Why would you want to cover this up?” He says speaking against wearing masks “It’s Christmas. Can’t our present be no mask?” #9News

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6 months

praying for Navajo Nation and the land as they navigate this oil leak in their community.

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@bigeyekwse

8 months

Collective Grieving is very real and an extremely appropriate response to everything happening to Indigenous people, globally.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

well shit. i was exposed to covid at work and i just tested positive.

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@bigeyekwse

4 years

sharing your summer mission trips to "the Indian reservation" don't make me wanna open up and talk to you

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

"Stay home" I can't. I'm a funeral services professional. YOU stay home so I don't see you from the outside of a body bag.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

mispronouncing someone's "non-white sounding" name after they've taken the time teach you the spelling, pronunciation, even the history of the name and the journey the ancestral name has taken, is discrimination

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@bigeyekwse

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I survived an abduction and violent assault in Wyoming on Wind River Rez almost 2 decades ago and you know who refused to even file a missing person report on me? All local authorities. Evidence, including my clothing that was cut apart and shredded was destroyed by authorities

IllumiNative

@IllumiNative

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Taylor Sheridan's recent claim in @THR is nothing but a lie. The Native community & decades of advocacy work are responsible for the passing of #VAWA —not a movie that centers a white savior narrative & perpetuates false notions. #TaylorSheridan #WhiteSaviorComplex

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I’m QT & adding this here bc some of the replies are weird. Prior to becoming a Funeral Director I worked in the mental health field for 19 years and am still a mandated reporter. Reminder: most children who are abused, molested, neglected, raped killed, are hurt by family

LeafLee’s🌈SweatShop🌻🚩🏴🧶🧱

@LeafLee6

1 year

I want people to know how easy it is for your child to be molested in these same care situations Sure be scared of your children drowning But be scared of them getting molested &listen to them if they tell you they have. Don’t sweep it under the rug or you’re being a bad parent

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

sheet ghost. 👻

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

my candles came out beautifully. sweetgrass & wild rose candles, with cedar and rose buds and petals on top. they're in teal tins with lids. they'll be listed later today. support small Indigenous owned businesses! (Bodéwadmi ndaw mine Mshkwedéniyek ndebendahwes).

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

If you pray I would appreciate it if you'd say some prayers for my sister and my niece's baby. They were hit by a car today and my sister has been hospitalized; baby has been discharged, my sister was able to push the stroller out of the way before she was hit.

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my son has PTSD from being in a school shooting last year and he cannot be in crowded spaces without having intense flashbacks and his current school is not his former experiences. this is a HUGE issue with hallways and dismissals and taking attendance.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

They absolutely place Indigenous children in white families; on paper Indigenous children also come w/ a higher pay per day on beds while in placement. I personally experienced this when I was placed in a home & that influenced my career as a youth advocate where I witnessed this

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

i wanna have a paranormal show & work with a buncha badass Indigenous MFs

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

"I have Native blood." brought my Native Blood earrings back! DM if interested! and fck Blood Quantum Laws!

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

she's so lovely 💀

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@bigeyekwse

4 years

made some lil cloudy earrings ☁️☁️

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

I was taught not to stop at rest areas along the highway/interstate. Just curious if any other Native/Indigenous people were taught the same thing.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

as ya may know Baby Kikwé was a lil warrior before they even arrived, kicking cancer's butt in utero & overcoming s'much. covid pushed back some treatments & surgery and tomorrow we have an appoint. to see where we're at. if you can say some prayers for the babe we'd be grateful.

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

they’re having a powwow here in Va at a plantation and asking for blood cards for dancers…and i think it’s a ticketed “event” WTF

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

🦋🦋🦋🦋

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@bigeyekwse

1 year

Medicines in use are living, they are our relatives. If you’re not a part of the group who participate in this belief & you’re just waving “an herb” around for “protection” and you have no knowledge or respect for that relative’s origin story, their purpose, then walk away.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

reminder: grief is not linear grief work is lonely. grief won't leave you the same person you were before you started healing. grief can be as beautiful as it is painful.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

my brother, sister & niece and i came out to watch the sunset and were talkin bout how our people used to come down to gather medicines and foods and how many medicines we used to have compared to what we have now

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

i don't know who else is hanging on by a shoestring, but keep holding on! we got this! you're doing all you can and that's just enough for right now.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

bring me the head of whoever said time heals all wounds

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

I know a lot of people may need to hear this right now, as we approach the holidays: SAY NO. If you're uncomfortable going out and grieving the loss of your loved one/s. SAY NO, 1. No I don't wanna go 2. No, I won't pretend to be happy to make you okay in my presence.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

just say no to podcasts of yts talking paranormal in Indigenous lands.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

"I went for a walk in the dark and found the sun in my pocket. So I put it on my face and now I'm ok." -Baby Kikwé, 3 years old

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

If Black Natives are sharing their experiences, perspectives, critiquing Indian Country or "Native Twitter" regarding anything, especially Antiblackness and YOU consider that threatening or an attack then it speaks to the truth of what they're saying.

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@bigeyekwse

4 years

grief is a perfectly appropriate and normal reaction to 2020, and the year's ending.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

i made some moon earrings cause the moon sings my most favorite love songs 😍

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@bigeyekwse

2 years

y’all…WE HAVE A HOUSE!!!!!!!!

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3 years

THEY OFFERED ME THE JOB!

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

a love letter: i am so proud of you for stating your needs and advocating for your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and social health. it's tough to be honest about what you need to be "ok" & that was very courageous.

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@bigeyekwse

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I was always taught that you don’t take from the land, you have an exchange. I grew up learning to leave an offering. You always ask permission too. Consent is important with non-human beings and the earth is no different.

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2 years

natural and understated in their beauty...

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@emmatsalageek trauma

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@bigeyekwse

8 months

I’m honestly so sick of hearing about “Wannabes” and “Pretendians” Here’s a thought, as a Native who works in the Funeral Service Profession, for #NativeAmericanHeritageMonth : Advocate for your “Race”/Races to be Accurately documented on your demographics of vitals at death.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

giving people space to mourn and grieve is essential in healing, and that includes healing for the living. grief rituals & ceremonies for the spirits, the living families & communities, and the land typically take precedence over attempting to "seek justice"

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@bigeyekwse

5 months

Would anyone wanna listen to a podcast created by two Indigenous LGBTQ2S Funeral Service Professionals?

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@bigeyekwse

4 years

i've always asked people not to call me "Wap", shortening my name for their convenience cause Wapshkankwet is a family name, the name my grandma carried...and now it just really has a whole new meaning. like bro, you can just call me Sarah. white washed or not, idc.

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There’s typically very few closed & locked doors at a funeral home, so when you encounter a CLOSED or LOCKED door. Leave it alone & walk away. If there’s signage that reads: private or staff only or a little red light indicating the room is occupied: LEAVE IT ALONE & WALK AWAY.

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As the survivor of a violent assault where I was stabbed & dumped on my Rez I can't even begin to imagine how this ruling over two decades ago would've have changed my life. They couldn't even make an arrest. After an investigation I was taken from my family & put in a group home

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In unanimous ruling, SCOTUS affirms authority of Native American tribal governments and police forces

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if someone is grieving its okay to HUSH. hold off on your unsolicited advice, your own personal stories that are irrelevant to their loss, and just be present. HEAR: listen. be patient. even listen to the silence. if it's ok & appropriate a hug/caring gesture goes a long way.

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I do not support the making of a "Pretendian" list, I haven't seen it, I don't need to or want to see it, I've seen tweets about it tho. I think the word "Pretendian" needs to be retired.

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Non-Natives, please remember not to corner that one Native you know from work, school, social circles, to confirm or dispel some weird ass Anti-Indigenous myths you've heard. At least don't do it without warning & consent.

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my mom died in dec of 2018 and i just got a box in the mail with my mailing addy as the return address... it's full of old family photos and i have no clue who sent these.

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the greatest trick the devil ever played was convincing any of us that participating in the use of Blood Quantum to determine “membership” was a viable way to protect our kin, cultures, lands, languages, ceremonies, relationships, ancestors, stories, our very existence.

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it's so fckn shitty to make someone feel badly about taking meds to help them manage symptoms related to their mental health.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

it's wild to me that we've lost hundreds of medicines/plants/foods that once thrived among us. in one of our cultural classes Dad was talking about how those gathering places were like "safe travel" paths among us (all)

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tw // mmiw, assault, violence with police this was a very triggering tweet to see, esp cause the additional tweet w/ this could've spoke to the harm of the "mmiw" epidemic being used by people for personal gain. i'm a survivor of a kidnapping & assault from my home/rez.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

TL cleanse. Baby Kikwé living her bestest Indigenous baby life. 💗

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

In the past month I've had two different people, in two very different situations claim to be "Empaths" and tell me they "could never do the work you do because" they're empaths 🙄 Like what the fck ever. You're not a fckn empath and you don't even know what my job entails.

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some people cannot afford to “wake up and choose violence” because the rage they’ve learned to contain and not yet heal from, would fucking destroy everyone & everything in its path

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i'm humbly asking for prayers for my daughter, for her safety and clarity in making decisions that will keep her happy and whole and that she's moved to continue her recovery and healing journey. Miigwéch.

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@bigeyekwse

3 years

being married or partnered with an Indigenous person doesn't automatically give you access to every closed practice. #NativeAmericanHeritageMonth

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3 years

a love letter: it's me, your future self, reminding you that you're gonna make it through this moment.

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3 months

Being in survival mode is so mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and socially exhausting

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