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@prisonculture
@RebelliousVal
Working towards a new reality requires that a) people name their complicity in the way things are, b) they rightly speak of our complicated histories, & c) those with unearned privilege have to share access/resources so we can live equitably. Most folks just arent that committed.
I really can't shake how profoundly evil it is to tear gas folks protesting the suffocation of a man by the police during a pandemic driven by a respiratory disease.
Please be careful about how you speak about election results in places you're not from, especially the South. Gerrymandering & other forms of voter suppression continue to play a significant role in outcomes. The people are doing what they can but so are the systems blocking them
Ten years ago, I attended Pride & it changed me.
I was a moderately conservative 27 year old at the beginning of her justice journey & literally felt God telling me pretty loudly to volunteer at Pride despite me not yet being affirming of LGBTQ+ folks.
But I listened & went.
Just in case you need a reminder that this pandemic is not over, over the last 7 days, there were 73,000 new COVID-19 infections, 5,000 people hospitalized, and 1,000 people died on average *each* day.
I found the most beautiful, radical love in the church that was our training ground, alongside parade goers, on the dance floor, and in the company of strangers.
I am proof that who you are is not who youโll always be & if you respond to the sound of the genuine, you can grow.
Amazon has so deeply integrated itself into our lives thru things like its web hosting that it may be difficult to *completely* boycott today them but you can abstain from using Prime, going to Whole Foods, or using it's services.
#PrimeDayAmazon
#PrimeDayStrike
#PrimeDay
Between what happened at the Oscars & the Supreme Court nomination hearing & the (lack of) coverage on certain wars, I think we are overdue for conversations on what constitutes violence, who we see experiencing or perpetuating violence, & what our ethics around violence might be
@thrasherxy
No but realities they face are diff including recruitment. Military targets young, often marginalized ppl looking to better life for self & others, cops are recruited to uphold โsafetyโ & need degrees in some places. The exposure to violence, protection & benefits differ too.
@ClaireLiz4Life
Iโm going to join others in hoping that time, experience, and growth help you expand your sense of empathy and develop the discernment to stay out of business that is not yours.
What I found at that Pride so long ago was deeply formative. Iโll post words from my younger self so you can see how.
Iโm grateful she responded to the spiritual prompting she felt because that paved the path for me to be my gloriously Queer self now.
I find it real funny how we say we want voting rights, student loan cancelation, affordable housing, and defunded police and the government heard Maya Angelou on a quarter.
How have I never watched Parks & Rec??? I've been watching the last 2 days and this is exactly my humor. I feel so known and am literally laughing aloud.
Folks I genuinely love are going up for Dave Ch*pelle which warrants me sharing some thoughts.
Y'all, it & he are not worth your time. Regardless of whatever comedic genius you feel he had/has, his reliance on using marginalized people for his material in 2021 should concern you
Some of you are genuinely surprised & dismayed by the incoming election results & while I'm not, I'm touched by the tenderness present in that.
You genuinely believe that people can show up at the polls & vote in ways that reflect care & freedom for others should be priorities.
White supremacy isn't all white sheets and hate speech. Sometimes it looks like would be allies taking up all the space in a room to center their feelings and musings about the injustice and pain BIPOC face instead of falling back so we can speak for ourselves.
I'm gonna say a thing & it might hurt some of y'all's feelings but that's ok.
Deconstruction is not an identity, it is a state of being and functioning that some of you beloveds are dangerously attached to. It is not a forever place & at some point construction should be an aim.
Dear White People,
We don't need y'all to performatively wash our feet, cut your hair, wear kente cloth, or do the wobble.
We need you to address your personal complicity in white supremacy & to work in solidarity to confront white supremacy in your communities & in the world.
Out of her own mouth
@staceyabrams
is telling you she didn't do this by herself.
Listen, learn, & embrace the truth that working for a more just world is a COLLECTIVE work. What happened in Georgia/ elsewhere happened because different people offered what they had for movement.
White folks - as you sort through your feels, I wanna encourage you do something. Take time to hold the reality of how hellish today has been for Black, Indigenous, Asian, Latinx, MENA, & other people of color.
White people stormed & occupied the US Capital with no consequence.
Last Friday, my love arranged for me to have a pre-birthday photoshoot. For the final shots she had our photographer lead me to a reflection pool where she took my hand and invited me to consider our journey and our love. It was here that she asked me to her wife & I said yes!
A Non-Asian PSA:
In light of some of y'all being determined to show your ass in the wake of
#AntiAsianHate
here is are some tips to help you not do that:
- an appropriate response to someone mourning is "I see you". Center them, not yourself
If it's possible to sit in disbelief but be wholly unsurprised, that's what I am right now.
The floors of the Capital would be flooded with blood if these seditious people were anything other than white.
White people - do the work of decentering today. The only "I" statements you need to make are:
I'm sorry.
I'm here for you.
I'll take care of XYZ for you so you can rest.
This IS an exhaustive list bc idk if we even need to hear you "can't imagine" bc that's part of the prob.
The fact that Samaria Rice is dealing with harassment because she called out that grifter is beyond disgusting. That is only heightened by the fact that today is her baby Tamir's birthday.
#BlockShaunKing
& report him for targeting harassment & doxxing bc he's up to that again.
"We do not yet know what America could be if we lifted the shackles of white supremacy."
@Sifill_LDF
out here telling
@maddow
and
@JoyAnnReid
the truth tonight.
Here's your semi-regular reminder that you don't get to distance yourself from problematic Christianity if you're in the tradition.
You don't get to conveniently point fingers, say it isn't real or true, or call it "Churchianity" bc you don't like it. You get to wrestle with it.
Lifting my Asian & Asian American kin up in prayer tonight. The violences you've experienced & navigated in the last few days is seen & known to those who love you.
You are seen & known to us.
May we find ways to hold you & your grief, anger, & being in the days to come.
One of the things troubling me is people calling 45 childish.
Being a child is not insulting - it's a life stage full of incredible growth & discovery.
Call the man petulant, immature, or a bully but please stop comparing him to children because kids are worthy of our respect.
If you haven't done so already, it's time to upgrade your masks to N95/KN95.
You can find authentic, quality, affordable masks via
@projectn95
and
@BonaFideMasks
.
Non-Black friends: As you witness the ways in which this world is hostile to the very being of Black people, are you considering how you can help us cultivate space for our rest?
In a culture full of gatekeepers,
@rachelheldevans
used her influence to amplify the platforms/perspectives of POC, LGBTQ folx, other women, folks with disabilities, & the neurodivergent. She shared resources & opportunities alongside her wisdom.
Blessed & a blessing is
#RHE
๐
I need white folks to continue
@rachelheldevans
work in uplifting Black and Brown faith leaders. In addition to grief, this is so devastating for us because we know the slim chance of another white Christian with a large platform publicly going to bat for us like she did.
#RIPRHE
While I love
@theestallion
, tonight I'm intentionally praying for Megan Pete. The woman who entertains so many but who we don't really know. Who is open about her missing her mama, her grief, & her trauma. The sis who deserves care, justice, & love.
#WeStandWithMegan
I just watched a few clips from the
#asburyrevival
. While I don't doubt the sincerity of these young people, there's need to name the distinction between religious euphoria & revival.
A mass unmasked event in a pandemic that's racially & culturally homogeneous is not a revival.
Wedding Update: Many of y'all knew Alexis & I were getting married in December & that our wedding was going to happen in Hawaii. This is no longer the case so that we honor our Hawaiian kin asking people to stay away due to covid surges & natural resource shortages affecting them
It is time for you to learn how to hold onto hope while working to disentangle yourself from US American myths.
This country's foundation is rotten. Genocide, exploitation, disenfranchisement, & enslavement were & still are priorities for people - they've just changed forms.
My spirit won't rest til I speak on this
#BreonnaCon
situation some more.
One of the things I noticed is that in every promotional photo,
#BreonnaTaylor
's name is absent & her face is faded or obscured while the images & names of others are clearly seen.
That is the problem.
Your hope is beautiful. Your hearts are in the right place & it's OK to feel grief over what early projections reflect: some people do not hold the same values that you do.
They do not believe in freedom for all. They do not weep over the pain & loss so many feel.
As someone who strategically uses BIPoC, POC, & WOC designations for describing groups, I think it's important for me to say this:
VP-elect
@KamalaHarris
is Black & Asian. She is Indian & Jamaican. Conserve your character count elsewhere so you rightly speak about her heritage.
I donโt care who's pissed about that slap, y'all not gonna see me upset about Will Smith running up on Chris Rock for telling a "joke" about his wife's hair that had hundreds of white folks around her laughing at her expense.
I get it. ๐คท๐พโโ๏ธ
I'm alarmed when people with influence get defensive & cling tight to power when challenged or critiqued. No one likes to be wrong but not being willing to admit you've messed up signals to me that either you're insecure or don't trust your community.
Both are problems.
Has Kamala Harris dealt with racism & sexism in this campaign cycle? Yes
Are there people who should've dropped out before her because they're less qualified? Yes
Is Kamala problematic and a cop? Yes
We walk & chew gum here so all these things can be true at the same time.
People calling 7-time team sport winner Tom Brady the GOAT while Serena "I toss 2nd place medals" Williams is yet kicking butt AND calling The Weeknd's drug & sex referenced performance "clean" while tripping over Beyoncรฉ & J.Lo wearing tights is wild.
Just say y'all hate women.
@DeeLaSheeArt
For me, it was more a "so some things got said and we need to talk to make some boundaries together but i also need some space to process this" deal. I think that's implied but not outright said which I think matters here.
May your embrace of hard truth clarify your commitments. May you be inspired to more fully and intentionally embody love and justice. May you find ways to embrace wisdom that helps you nurture and sustain hope for a tomorrow that looks different from today.
I woke up with Kamala Harris on my mind this morning and found myself sitting with the reality of what she is going to endure as a Black Asian woman in an interracial marriage over the next few months.
I swear some of y'all are really making me itch with your bad Lil Nas X/
#MONTERO
(Call Me By Your Name) video hot takes. Imma break some things down so you can stop being so doggone obtuse.
Let the anger, betrayal, sadness, fury, lament, & other complex emotions you feel push you to release the false notion of people being better than who they choose to be. Then you might find capacity to more effectively consider how your energy and power need to be exercised.
So brown Jesus is out here washing all the white feet including military & cop feet but weren't no POC feet that needed washing???
Whew God, y'all just be telling on y'allselves and not even knowing it ๐๐๐.
I want to live in a world where Black folks become elders, where our murders & deaths aren't blamed on us, where people care enough about us & those we love to not thoughtlessly post videos or pictures of our bodies online.
I want young Black men to experience peace in life ๐
Many people - including those you love & live alongside - are invested in white supremacy, xenophobia, cisheterosexism, & so many other systems/forces that stand in opposition to liberation for us all.
While this is a thing to grieve, it is also something that can motivate.
Gendering products is really so weird sometimes. I'm shopping for deodorant & on one end you've got stuff like "sunshine sparkle berry kiss" & the other is "mountain lion's dry cough supreme".
I just want to not stink. It's really that simple. The rest is really unnecessary.
Someone somewhere is doing work to track how folks' ideas of meaningful action went from a Black man kneeling to call attention to police violence (& paying a steep price for it) to corporate funded activists dancing in videos to a white rapper defying a *request* to kneel.
There is a need for those able & willing to minister to conservative Christians. Folks who will sit with them and unpack that abortion, socialism, democracy, & other things that positively/negatively shape their values are not in the Bible. Folks who will teach them about Jesus.
Just bc there isn't a Christian Leftโข operating through branded content doesn't mean there haven't been left leaning folk who've committed their lives to working for social change as an act of faith.
We walk in the footsteps of our Civil Rights/Quaker/Catholic worker/etc kin.
Dear White People,
Allow me to remind you that every conversation is not for you. People get to talk about culturally specific or relevant things you don't understand without clueing you in on what's going on. Part of antiracist work is accepting that everything isn't about you.
Folks pushing to make Juneteenth a federal holiday while Black folks are still getting abused & murdered by the cops, have our voting rights restricted in myriad mays, & deal with an onslaught of casual racism is laughable.
Stop prioritizing symbolism; make systemic change!
It's blessing me to know how many Black folk are watching the
#ClarkSistersMovie
. Some of us have complicated relationships with the church but even with that being the case there's something about Gospel music that speaks to our souls.
Please don't tell us you're trying and/or how hard it is to confront other white women.
We know it's hard yet this is your work to do.
You sharing those things acts as a solicitation for emotional labor of those with higher degrees of marginalization & that too is exhausting.
*white Christians.
To get at a root requires precision and that means that we must name this as white Christian nationalism so white folks can do their work.
Black, Indigenous, Asian, & Latine Christians have work to do but lemme tell you it ain't this.
The final shot of the shocking
#January6th
video was an insurrectionist waving a Christian flag. Christians across the country must take the role Christian nationalism played seriously and we must unite to defeat this terrible ideology.
#January6thCommitteeHearings
I sideeyed Shakira & JLo playing the Superbowl after Black performers passed but can appreciate what they used it to do.
They took the stage & visibilized kids in detention, Arab/Latinx/AfroLatinx culture, Puerto Rico, feminine agency/power, the Spanish Language, & more.
I just realized where part of my frustration over
#Juneteenth
becoming a federal holiday comes from.
As Black Americans, nothing that's ours is ever reserved just for us.
When we know better we do better which is why some things from the past aren't socially relevant anymore. It's not about folks being overly sensitive, people have just become more mindful of the lived realities of others so shifting certain language & practices made sense.
We came to value his absurdist takes because they pointed to real shit.
That's why his stand up in recent years is so disappointing.
Instead of being sharp, he's dulled his wit and conflates punching down with provocation. Then says that he's been canceled while cashing checks
If cancelation was an actual consequence DC had to deal with because of his comedy, then he would not have special after special & be pocketing millions.
The reality is that the only ones paying consequences for DCs comedy are the marginalized people he's making fun of.
@thrasherxy
Look into moral injury work because folks studying it may have things documented there.
There may honestly be more informal documentation on this via blogs and op-ed pieces because there might be more freedom in writing on this critically there than in the academy.
@vix_fur
@LilNasX
This gay minister is asking that you leave our brother alone. His "ways" and brilliance are helping people be free which shows that the Spirit of God is with him. God delights in him and is celebrating his gay genius helping people. Please be blessed while you leave him be.
- The MAJORITY of you do not possess the empathy or range of skills to come alongside this ethnically diverse population to talk about racial identity in the US. If you can't fluidly speak about US imperial function, war, Christian colonialism, assimilation, & internment, hush.
The violence we are seeing starts & loops right back to the police.
The people are not violent. Even them tearing things up to get justice is not violent.
Hurting people is violent & police using bullets, rubber projectiles, tear gas, pepper spray, & bigots w/guns does that.
The bipartisan talking point right now is to express support for police while condemning โnon-peaceful protesters on both sidesโ and of course that talking point completely ignores that police are the primary source of the violence & unrest.
@lizabethdevon
I am too. It sparked something in me that led to me recognizing my own queerness and that has led to so much love and goodness and joy ๐
This week has been full of toxic messages on bodies, weight loss, & diet culture so I want to offer some encouragement.
Your body is precious, beautiful, & worthy of being honored for what it is, as it is.
It is your spirit's shelter in this violent world & deserves care.
IDK if y'all are paying attention but a lot of what's been recently newsworthy has a direct link to Christian religious violence & trauma. Kirk Franklin, the Atlanta Spa Shootings, the Derrick Jxn mess, & Montero.
Spirit is speaking & she's saying it's time to tell the truth.
It is not lost on me that the architects of our present harm are using the Christian faith tradition as their vehicle for violence.
This is my tradition. This is my Christianity.
I will not distance myself from them as a form of absolution but will say this is violent & wrong.
Jesus asked his Father to forgive the sins of those with an active hand in his harm when he could not. I believe that's because sometimes your oppression is too close or too deep for you to be the one to impart grace.
Let God be God since we are not & let the people truly emote.
It takes a certain degree of hubris & fucking gall to do profound harm to people in one era of your life & then try to profit off their healing in another.
May Josh Harris intimately know the unrest of accountablility God & the beloved of the Divine call him into for his BS.
- Focus on the pain of *Asian people*, not your relationship to *Asian produced objects*. No one gives a fuck about you driving a Hyundai
- Asians have long dealt with being invisibilized yet othered in this country. The hypervisibilty that's happened in the last year is jarring
@GoesByWalton
If folks mean Black, say Black. If they mean up to 2 other groups, name them. But this is a viable and useful way to speak about coalitions & communities in which 3+ groups are named, especially if you're speaking across contexts. And I've seen this be true in global & local ways
White People (& others with privilege) - I'm telling you this because some of y'all listen to me.
Stop looking for superficial, cheap, lazy ways to symbolically signal support of minoritized Black, Native, Latine, Asian, & Arab folk & move to solidarity.
What are y'all doing to give your minds and spirits some reprieve from all of the heavy or toxic stuff you're taking in every day? What are you doing to set stuff down and rest (even if it's just for a moment or two)?
@stewartdantec
This statement primes the space for liturgical action & that is something people could do to disrupt this farce. High profile non-Black clergy could put their bodies in this space & say since the issue is with Black pastors we will extend the spiritual care you're trying to stop.
I've been sitting with my thoughts on
#SimoneBiles
& realize that I'm full of pride in her. This good sis took inventory of her state of being & capacity, knew that she wasn't where she needed to be, & prioritized her wellness by saying, "no more".
May we learn from her example.
This isn't hyperbole.
In his latest special, DC crudely speaks about some trans women's genitals, suggests that LGBTQ+ folks are overly sensitive & are responsible for getting people canceled, & names himself as a terf -- all of which have real life impact for folks.
US American resistance to masking & vaccination is WILD.
In the last 24-hrs I've seen a white man acting like masks were shackles & a woman drawing a false equivalent between vaccination & r*pe.
For fucks sake these are public health interventions not oppression or violence.
All these things project & uphold bias that unfold into physical, social, emotional, spiritual, and material violence for LGBTQ people.
Trans women are routinely fetishized, assaulted & killed with impunity. LGBTQ discrimination is downplayed or ignored. Terfs literally exclude.
Whew whiteness is some shit. Incarcerated folks have long spoken about food that was inedible and our Muslim sibs have to fight to not be fed pork products but this fucker gets Whole Foods???
FOH
UPDATE: Jacob Chansley (AKA Jake Angeli or QAnon Shaman) will be fed organic food, in line with his strict shaman diet, while in federal custody. "We will abide by the judge's order," U.S. Marshal David Gonzales said.
@abc15
If you wanna support the South Shore Chicago fam reeling from police violence tonight but can't lend physical presence, please signal boost/give to
@BLMChi
/DM me. I've got friends assisting w/ practical needs like getting food and water for folks and will connect y'all.
What's bothering me in watching this is the age of these kids. I'm reminded that racial hatred & supremacy are things instilled early on in life. Their parents could've taught them empathy but instead opted to pass on bias and superiority complexes and it shows ๐.