extremely disappointed but not surprised. they are all the same. that entire beef was literally the spiderman meme in real time. predators all pointing at each other
Y’all if someone doesn’t want to date u bc of ur skin tone, weight, sexual orientation, etc. leave it at that. Don’t start arguing & pointing out isms and phobias. They don’t care & ur exerting emotional energy for what? Ur not for them, they’re definitely not for u. Block!!!
@toptierzu
@Oloni
girl, i am so so so sorry. i been praying for your since i read your story. i wish you the utmost best, moving forward and i truly hope you know that you did not deserve that
its a luxury to “prioritize rest” for more people than not. i think we should start being real about that. and maybe figure out more realistic ways to encourage people than to use that phrase
it just sounds like another way people shift responsibility of balance away from those in power and the collective to individuals trying to survive under absolutely impossible circumstances.
we were not meant to face the struggles of life alone. we were meant to share the cost and burden of living with each other. but we largely dont do that anymore so now we have phrases like “prioritize rest” to try to fill that void and ease the soul crushing exhaustion
@MeekMill
mfs so quick to say nobody cares about mens mental health. here he is asking a genuine question and its mainly men tryna clown him and make silly lil jokes at his expense. oochie wally or one mic?
see below for a decent place to start learning:
@DeeLaSheeArt
!!! facts. relationships that remain healthy and enjoyable over time are the ones that have developed skills and boundaries around navigating "negative" emotions retroactively and as they arise. not necessarily the ones in which there is no tough conflict
thats actually really scary. only 15 pounds and she talkin bout "it was horrible" what was exactly? not fitting into clothes she could extremely easily replace..? this mindset is not healthy
there’s something so sinister about people who practice abrahamic faiths when it comes to convos about indigenous African religions. all the nuance in the world for everything else but on this particular topic, it’s black and white. how convenient
there’s something so sinister about the agency that’s often robbed from Africans. That they’re apparently too stupid or uneducated to rejection something they don’t want.
A whole circle of men & woman, don’t you think if they had an issue with it they would’ve stop it?
i know its said in earnest but its not rooted in the reality of the majority of our present circumstances. so it really begins to falls apart once you lightly tap the surface of it. bc its not sustainable for most people, particularly bw
and i didnt even mention raising kids, navigating personal health issues, caring for elderly family members, having/maintaining a fucking hobby, etc
so again, what does it or what can it look like for a regla degla person?
its like people really believe that words cant be violent. or that they can’t cause actual factual harm in the way physical violence can…. and im here to tell you that is not true
i think the hardest pill to swallow for jaded and/or "enlightened" people is that people are allowed to complain about the shit they dont like/are just learning about that sucks. and the point is not always to make the party with more structural power "care" and thats ok
@rahsh33m
i... kinda wana watch her eat more stuff like this. i like her vibe. i would not touch that can with a 10 foot pole but i respect the fact that she's bout it lol
because fat people have existed and will continue to exist, regardless of whatever diet people think is comprehensive enough to erase an entire body type/composition thats normal and natural
@pettyyonce
@tressick
@RichAintShit
yours is a very important perspective, thanks for sharing. when adults fantasize about these scenarios, they never factor in the fact that their kid is going to have to be in the position you described. im glad your granny helped you feel better abt all that <3
it is lowkey shocking to me that Americans are upset that they have to carry current immunization records. bc everyone else who comes here with the intention to live here has to do it so we dont "infect" you all with our "foreign germs" presumably. its a common ass practice
financial stability is not a static state of being for most people. you can be stable today and have the rug pulled from under you and your investments tomorrow… i think thats a big missing piece in this discourse about having kids and not having money
@missLuluSimmons
internalized misogyny is whooping your ass. so she deserves to get her spirit put thru the spin cycle bc she doesnt paint her nails or wear lipstick? this is such a wicked thing to say.
learning to let people have their harmless joy no matter how that looks is an important part of maturity. dont be in a rush to kill someone's expression of happiness when it looks different from yours
i've already decided that mask wearing in public is going to be a huge part of my life going forward. i know too much now to live how we was living before
not landlords making themselves victims bc their tenants want to be cool and comfortable in a house they're forking over damn near their entire income for?
i high key don’t want anymore shows about these kinds of people. what do you mean she killed a classmate at age 11 and should get more seasons on netflix bc of that?? they all need to not be valorized any further
griselda B kidnapped & killed her classmate @ 11 yrs old after his family took it as a joke & didn’t pay the ransom . no shade but they ain’t even scratch the surface of how cold blooded she was on the show. Pablo got a full two seasons where we got to explore all sides of his
“you’re all so traumatized you can’t see the good in anything”
“teacher shortage”
“YALL (lmao??) got this man fired”
“it ain’t that deep”
“it’s bc he’s a black man”
“yall so miserable”
that’s a high school bathroom. you think his teacher ass wouldn’t have peeped that?
sometimes this is ppl only avenue to really deconstruct + somehow strike back at the shit that got you in a chokehold. i dont think its fair to say that people shouldn't vent bc the other person wont care. who gives af about them? that venting is for the person feeling discarded
@Marz_Hendrix
@GhostFaceDrizzy
lol there is A LOT of objection to teenagers being able to participate in all that youve listed. you may not be plugged in to those convos but they are definitely happening
conversations encouraging people to think deeper about why they worship a skinny body and -hate- bigger bodies causes most people to intellectually short circuit. sad, but predictable and played tf out
plus pointing that shit out and venting about it is a great way for others feeling similarly discarded to know that they are not alone and what's been said about/done to them is not ok.
yall please stop posting pics and vids of the little kids you teach with their faces visible 🥺🥺 particularly when the child is not yours. it’s way too many creeps out there
there is a great deal of merit to calling shit out and listing the isms and phobias. it is only a waste if you are centering the party with more structural power. it can be powerful if you are centering the other party and their experience
@wishinguluv
your rage is sacred and im proud of you for wielding it in this way. burn their shit down and keep yourself warm. im proud of you for making a new way for yourself. i pray that all your efforts be divinely protected and rewarded. best of luck to you.
@_cabrera7_
each thing you mentioned sounds exhausting on its own and you're doing it all together... i hope you're adequately supported and you get chances to rest. best of luck.
the projections and shots at bi girls in the QTs is indicative of the growth that still needs to happen within everyone who is not cishet. reading this and reacting like its only abt wanting to be DL says a lot
Why is someone's queerness only real to ya'll if it results in a committed relationship or marriage? Why does it *have* to exist in public, for your consumption, to count?
@ItsDanaWhite
and let it not be two of you who just like to sit in peace together and share an occasional chuckle or two and its over with. you'll both be accused of being exclusionary, plotting something or being mean to others smh
some people do bc of their body chemistry. its not as big a deal as ppl are making it seem and its a bit odd that folks are lowkey shaming others for doing what they can to work with their body and maintain their personal hygiene
@SaucySantana_
tell them Santana!! that was a fucked up thing for them to say to you and you handled it so well. the success you've envisioned and been grinding so hard and consistently for is already yours and they will deal.
she needs to find somebody with an absolutely ironclad left hand to work on bobs ass. that’s the only answer. legal stuff ok fine but he needs to be spiritually decimated. this is horrible
i mean he’s right in line with several civil rights leaders at the time. putting up similar signs then getting on their knees at night to suck white p/bussy
the concept of having financial debt that keeps accruing is just so fucking inhumane. like... we couldnt do better than this as a species?? THIS is the pinnacle of our collective intelligence?? das sad
@budgetOdogwu
i dont expect to have a productive convo with someone who enters the chat with "you guys never get it" then proceeds to be condescending.
i mean you doin the same thing you're sayin has no upside lmao clearly voicing a different opinion has its uses
going to make it a point to document the small but lovely things that happen to me daily. i’m tired of my brain remembering only traumatic shit so imma help it out and keep a record of the good shit so i can go back to that when it feels like life and everyone in it is against me
@Phil_Lewis_
this is SO pleasing to me and my homegirls. its a great start. now they need to take every cell in his body, redistribute it, then take his soul too.
is that the nuance im looking for or is that the only nuance you are capable of providing on this topic? bc the only one bringing up being backward and African when it comes to embracing one faith over another is you.
The nuance you’re looking for is that, Arab colonialism is real AND people can actively choose what faith they want to follow.
But saying that Africans are too backwards to know whats good for them is a lot more progressive to you, so you’ll choose the latter.
i think its important to thank your spouse for doing mundane and necessary tasks for the household like sweeping, cooking, laundry, dishes, etc i think its very important to acknowledge and thank your kids when they do these things too
@LenValyrian
thank you for that response. so directly engaging that thought and refuting it can help. ok, i will tuck this away in my mind for when my nephew gets older. i will do my best to listen and counter the fuckshit in a way he can understand. im so glad those boys have you
this is why im determined to be super supportive of my kids till they reach 31/32. if they leave in their 20s to go find themsleves imma impress upon them that they can always come back home if shit goes awry, as it often does when one is that young and lacks general foresight
!!! studying African history in college definitely contributed A LOT to my mental distress. people have been horrible to us for centuries for no justifiable reason and have spent even more time tryna convince us its our fault
yes not having money makes literally everything difficult. but the premise that life is only worth sharing with others when you have money (and the assumption that having money is a state of being with exponential growth trajectory) is definitely something to interrogate