The fact that school kids these days don’t get panic attack at 10:30 pm when they forget to print an important assignment or buy a political map of India doesn’t fit well w me. This & also that they’ve OTTs to watch cartoon & not the good old channels with set time to air shows.
The fact that Kapil Sharma show decided to move to OTT is a horrible business decision given they’re running it in exact same format. Netflix has never been Kapil’s audience. It has always been the TV viewing folks. It’s in no way even going to benefit celebs from movie promo!
At 27 years of age — Luxury to me is slow mornings, being able to travel whenever I want, organic groceries that don't harm my
body, good quality clothes that actually last and fit my body, rich fragrances, tender love and great friendships.
I've come to believe that soulmates and perfect timing are myths. A successful relationship is built on two people intentionally choosing to be together and recognizing their desire to make it work. Every single day. For the rest of their lives.
Current mood summed up in a quote by Sylvia Plath — “What horrifies me most is the idea of being useless: well-educated, brilliantly promising, and fading out into an indifferent middle age.”
How lovely it is to be bored with someone. Not bored of them but being bored with them. Like I have nothing to say but can I quietly exist with you today?
We don't have to be interesting or entertaining all the time to keep each other company. We can just be.
I now truly believe - after seeing multiple relationships & personal experiences, that couples who stay away from Instagram & are not sending memes & reels all day, but have 1-2 elaborate text/call conversations are the most content & gruntled camaraderie.
Does anyone else who isn’t very big on alcohol, smoking & clubbing feel out of place in today’s world? Have passively smoked so much in the last 3 weeks that I feel to have exhausted my social battery for the entire year. Where are people who enjoy cafés, slow music & silences?
If you woke up tomorrow & had instantly achieved all your major life goals, you wouldn't know how to handle any of it. It'd be completely overwhelming because you hadn't grown and transformed through the process of creating it all. The process is magic. It's the becoming of you.
This is wild but anyone in Bengaluru who would want to go to Lucky Ali Concert on the 9th December? My friends don’t like him. And I can do a lot of things solo but not concerts. 😭
The fact that Ranveer Singh despite being the kind of enthu cutlet he is lets Deepika talk and not interrupt is something I didn’t expect from him tbh.
Obsessing with someone is only possible when the person is unavailable to you - physically, emotionally, or intellectually. We’re obsessed w the version of person we’ve created in mind; coz you’re unable to know them IRL. It fades once you get the person — Human mind is amaze!
It's Friday, work laptop's off, weights lifted, skin's glowing, dinner finished, book ready, bed beckoning w crisp sheets, lights and candles softly lit, all of my loved ones are thriving.
This feeling, at this age, is unbeatable.
At the end of the day, every ambitious, outspoken, high-achieving eldest daughter desires to find her soulmate, a few trusted friends, a job she enjoys, and then break free from the noise of social media, embracing a calmer, more purposeful lifestyle, just doing her own thing.
I still hold onto a small, childish hope
that there's someone out there in this
crazy, wild world so completely, utterly
meant for me even the stars will sigh, at
last in relief at our meeting.
"The older I get, the more I realize that success at most things isn't about finding the one trick or secret nobody knows about. It's consistently doing the boring, mundane things everyone knows about but is too unfocused/undisciplined to do. Get good at boring." - Mark Manson
Everyone saying this kind of commitment & belief on your partner at his/her lowest only happens in movies need to reevaluate their relationships. This is real-this is how it should be.Nothing less than this. I’ve done this, & have had someone do for me. You just need to find it.
My fave cheap thrill lately is rewatching old Shark Tank India episodes & geek out on their current cap table, revenues, churn rate, burn rate, Instagram following, & other related metrics, especially for the startups that were roasted by the sharks. 😅
Contestant: Our revenue was 10 cr last year.
Shark from Shark Tank India: It’s a difficult biz to scale & would need lots of my time, I’m betting on you and not your biz and will offer 50 lakhs at 5% of equity on 10 crore valuation.
Other shark: “Very Fair Offaaa yaaaa”.
🤦🏻♀️
Most people forgetting - it’s not about being able to afford Netflix. It about having smart TVs that can run Netflix - penetration for that in tier 2/3 is minimal.
If there's one thing to consider when seeking compatible companionships in love & friendships, it's finding people who are equally thrilled about grabbing a meal at a humble roadside eatery as they are about dining at an upscale Michelin-starred restaurant with you!
It’s never about who likes you. It’s about who is brave enough to & takes the risk of pursuing you intentionally and consistently, with the decision to keep choosing you, followed by actions matching words.
Don’t value the maybes and what ifs if you desire sanity!
It’s funny how everyone thinks I travel solo coz I’m a brave independent woman who earns a lot, while the truth is I don’t have any friends who are on the same level of financial irresponsibility & lack of self control and yea- I still get cold feet before every solo trip. ☹️🤣
A few months back when I wasn’t very happy in my professional life, I used to be watching every 2nd series on Netflix back2back as an escape. Recently when I got back to being happy with my career, I barely open Netflix & usually go out- cafés, grocery, window shopping.
A few months ago, I liked a guy.
I’ve had a few sour experiences so the day we decided to give it a shot, I went to gurudwara & prayed “Pls take it away from me if it’s not meant for me, & pls make it work if it’s truly mine to keep.” (1/2)
I've learned that in life, even when you pray for something specific, it might be delayed because the blessings you've received so far won't allow you to accept anything less than a fully intact and wholesome outcome. And, Karma, well, it’s as real as it gets.
he changed his outfit just to match mine, brought red & white flowers for both me and my sister, found a book that was unavailable everywhere just coz I said I wanna read it, came home early so he could help me set up for my party. LADIES, NEVER FUCKING SETTLE FOR LESS. 🧿❤️
The joy of living in the moment & not waiting for a ping that’s basically no personal info but a funny reel. The sense of fake “we communicate so much” that Instagram DMs instil in our heads do more harm than good.
I just love how the industries have found out a cunning way by having “Chief of Staff” positions that are just fancy designations to lure top MBA grads into executive assistant roles. Top Finesse.🤌🏼
I've got this untalked-about theory that men who watch sports are way more better at communicating in relationships.
They’re constantly analyzing plays, discussing strategies, & debating calls. This does in many ways translate to better communication skills w their partners!!!
The guy told me in a few weeks he’s not ready. Honestly, it was a surreal moment for me, coz for the first time in my life there was no extended situationship & a peaceful ending when the goals didn’t align. God is always protecting you. Trust in the timing! (2/2)
Took a law firm’s LinkedIn page from 600 followers to 16k in less than a year with no background in digital marketing; simply on my interest in visual design, pantone, SM planning & knowing what works for Linkedin. One of the best things I’ve done in my career. This.
My first ex got married last week, 2nd ex got engaged in 2022, and 3rd ex is getting married next month.
Looks like I was the problem. ☠️🥲
God, me when?
Woke up with a friend finding out his 2 years old boyfriend went on a dating app & spoke with few girls after a 3 days fight. At this point, I don’t even know what’s the lowest bare minimums like “loyalty” have come to.
I've learned that in life, even when you pray for something specific, it might be delayed because the blessings you've received so far won't allow you to accept anything less than a fully intact and wholesome outcome. And, Karma, well, it’s as real as it gets.
Some cute things this year -
• learned to make amazing filter coffee
• swam with sharks
• Completed Ladakh circuit with just Vicks & good vibes
• Delivered lecture in auditorium, 200+ students
• walked out of an unhealthy relationship
• shopped less
• laughed more
One part of me wants to take up a masters in Europe & explore different countries while studying & the other part of me just wants to marry, build a beautiful home in India & occasionally travel with a partner. Ooofff, the choices when you’re in your late 20s.
Law school takes 5 years in India, as an integrated course and 3 years as LLB. I am increasingly convinced that the integrated course should be 4 years. Here's why- (1/5)
This year I've started paying close attention to how I feel after spending time w others.
Do I feel happier and more energized, or do I feel drained & low?
It makes me think abt how connections impact our well-being and how imp. it is to surround ourselves w positive energy.
@so_radhikal
@IdlyVadaa
As a recruiter who works to bring back women legal professionals after sabbatical back to work, I don't think not asking about the gap year is a good move. Being honest about having a gap year is the call of the hour. That's what is necessary. To be open about it & not treat
Jan-March 24 takeaway -
• Stop playing it small & light up every room you walk into.
• Things meant for you won't pass you by.
• Take them random flights to meet your fam & friends.
• Dating apps suck.
• Believe your instincts. They’re never wrong.
• Dance - a lot.
Two people willing to work on their differences with respect, patience & faith are better than two people who are insanely in love with each other & really don’t know how to channel that in the right way. - the most important thing I’ve learned about relationships that last.
Whenever someone asks why I want to get married, I tell them, "I want to build a home with someone I love. Y’know, buy furniture together, figure our mutual home style”
They say, "You can do that alone!"
But, it's just not the same w/o someone to argue over throwpillows with!
I love Bangalore, I really do! But Christmas Christmas-ses more when in north India where the weather is cold, you’ve Christmas sweatshirts and socks on, and you get to attend Christmas bonfire parties with long boots.
Changed jobs, finally found the work I love, moved cities, made a home from scratch, made new acquaintances, Did an MBA, Got fat, got fit again, got over someone I never thought I would, took a solo Europe trip, fell in love when I least expected, fell out of love, patience.
@so_radhikal
@IdlyVadaa
it as a certain red flag, for both the candidate and employer. Own your gap years and speak about it. It's only when everyone talks about it openly is when we let go of the stigma associated with gap years for caregivers, self growth etc.
The feeling when Rohit Sharma shook hands with everyone & went straight inside all disappointed can’t be put in words. This victory is what he deserved after not being chosen in 2011 for WC. Hard luck today.
This year hasn’t been kind to me personally, but in a way has been the type of year u need in your life which makes u realise the importance of a satisfying job, sane friends, fair amount of travel & a doggo to sit besides you in rainy days. 2024, give me my sabr ka phal now?
Adult money is wild. And honestly I love it like that — One day you're stressed & label yourself “hopeless” for spending 400₹ on a coffee and the next day you drop the equivalent of a small house downpayment on a trip.
And guess what? You don’t need to justify it to anyone. 🤣
Today marks 5 years of crafting my own career path w my law degree that’s more of a conversation piece than a tool.
I’ve gone from lawyer to legal consultant, had a brief but exciting fling at a startup, & ended up doing exciting non-legal shiz at a law firm.
Wild & wonderful.
Major outtake from the year of emotional riot that 2023 was - Let people earn you. We are so quick to give, grant access, & get comfortable with others without merit. Just to end up disappointed from failed expectations and reciprocation.
I dated a boy last year who used to post quotes from Goodreads (by tags on love, life, friendship) on his stories, w/o quoting the author/poet and v nicely tell people that “he’s passionate about writing”.
So I think not knowing what goodreads is a better deal. 🥲
So now that the UK is in recession, who will give us (India, the 5th largest and the fastest growing major economy) aid for running our space programme? 😢
Anyone else between the age group of 23-26 feeling lost with the entire covid situation? I've this constant feeling that pandemic is taking away my most priced years of hustle, travel, professional & personal socialisation. And there's no end.
When I’m in BLR (at my own place), I miss my home, the dog & dinners w my parents. When I’m at home (w my parents), I miss the discipline, hustle, the office, food deliveries & solitude.
3.2 L per year for NLU Delhi? Which means 16 L for 5 years of law school. (this does not include ancillary expenses of ~ 5L). And then your lordships wonder why law students don’t take up litigation and desperately run after law firm jobs. 👏
Deactivated Instagram & experiencing the most blissful & productive 6 days in a long long time.
If this goes well, might not return to that social dopamine addiction app again. 🧘🏻♀️
There is a Japanese word to describe the sense a person has upon meeting; that future love between them is inevitable. This is not the same as love at first sight. For eg - your smell was never unfamiliar.
It’s called Koi no yokan.
It’s the most bful feeling I’ve experienced.
Cried my heart out to mom over phone call and booked a flight back home - I guess that’s what they say about growing up and organically getting closer to your parents. I never believed it, until it’s happening in real.
It’s funny how barrier to most people from Asian countries to take their first trip to Europe isn’t the land costs (acco + food + travel) but the exorbitant flight costs from here to Europe & hassle of Schengen visas.
Euro travel internally in my opinion is like what Goa costs.
Insanity; And as per my random research among my girl friends of different heights - shorter girls are more obsessed for a 6 feet+ guy. I am 5”9’ and I’ve never had a height filter on.
Changed my height to 190cm on Bumble as a joke. Got 9 matches in a day. Nothing else in my profile was changed.
I've now changed it back but I've realised, you're not ugly, you're not poor, you're not unfunny, you're just short.
Urging everyone in North India to pls put out some water for our feathered and furry friends—birds, dogs, and cows. Delhi just hit a record high of 52.3°C today!
Stay indoors as much as possible. Trust me, this isn’t the kind of sunlight Huberman suggests for morning routine!
For last few yrs, I’ve been too hell bent achieving my timelines- mostly re career & finding a guy. I’ve unknowingly succumbed to great Indian rat race of ticking off all I can by 28 & “settle” down. This year-I strive to do more things that bring joy to me & f the timelines.