@sacha_coward
Growing up in the 1970s and 80s, I vividly remember this as well as the anti gay campaigns in general. Also the cis world's vindictively gleeful reaction to the aids pandemic. Until they realized that it wasn't confined to "those people" and that "normal folks" could get it too
The tweet making the rounds dismissing late transitioners due to their male privilege is pissing me off.
My 2 su*cide attempts, my lifelong depression and dysphoria, my constantly sabotaging my career goal due to self-loathing ... Golly, such privilege!!
We are ALL valid.
My heart is broken today. We lost family this morning, one of the sweetest women I know. Anyone who knew Robin will miss her, she touched so many of us.
Rest in peace, dear sister.
@BadPhysicsKaya
My brother's reaction was pretty similar, though a little more effusive (he's a really emotionally demonstrative guy 😊). My two sons reacted similarly, as they both have trans and non binary friends in their social circles. Family support is such a joyful thing 🥰💜
One year ago I posted a brief note on FB telling everyone that I was a woman named Stephanie. I had spent the previous few months gradually coming out to family and close friends, and this was my last step out of the closet forever. So, Happy Anniversary to me 🥰💜🏳️⚧️🎆🎇🎆🎇🎆
So it's official. The last hurdle was cleared when I changed my name on FB and posted a little note explaining things. Now I'm fully out and Stephanie 24/7. No more boy mode for this girl!! 🥰❤
@persenche
It makes me a little sad that the concept of learning from one's mistakes is being lost, along with 2nd chances. Judgement is often swift and arbitrary. How can people grow without being given the opportunity to do so?
@fakegothsarah
100% true of my female friends. One of my male friends gave me an awkward hug (which I really appreciated) and another gave me a high five ... lol. Guys just don't know how to process, I think. Even if they're supportive.
@Transition_Vamp
No she is not. Accidentally deadnaming someone in a conversation is one thing. Unfortunately accidents do happen. Committing pen to paper is deliberate. Your wife is completely wrong.
Good morning, Friends.
I'm parent to 2 grown sons, 22 and 20. Since I came out, at my request, I've been Dad or Daddy. They initially asked about changing that, but I assured them I was content, as I'd always been their Dad. And I recall how it used to feel to hear them ... 1/
@Angel9591a
Of course there is. There's a racism problem in society in general, why would the trans community be exempt? We should know better, but sadly transitioning doesn't eliminate all the nasty baggage that existed prior. We need to do better.
... do not to start crying at the supper table.
How easily their support just flows from them. And it's so beautiful.
Have a lovely day, Friends!
Sincerely,
David and Michael's Mom
💖💖💖
Zero spoons today and executive dysfunction is really high.
But I shaved, my face and torso at least, and I showered and washed my hair.
Any chance a girl could get a W?
So, grocery shopping with my wife. Dude keeps staring at me. Like every aisle, he's there. Staring. Following. I'm not proud but eventually my response was, "Buddy, if you don't stop eyeballing me I'm gonna drop you right here."
My wife was not impressed ... 😔
@EmmsyEmma
So horrible and so unnecessary. I don't understand why this happens to sweet girls like Emily. Press charges if you can. Get legal if you need to. The school is responsible for her safety while she is in their care. Sending all my best wishes to her, and to you 😔💔💜
@PinkRangerLB
Hi, I'm Stephanie. Over the last 3 months I've started a new job, come out to everyone and socially transitioned. After stealth DIY HRT most of last winter, I finally have my first appointment next week to begin my legit medical transitioning and hopefully soon start HRT again
I just finished this wonderful book. I laughed and cried in almost equal portions. Ok, maybe I cried a little bit more, but it was the good kind of tears, mostly.
Thank you
@MavenOfMayhem
for sharing your and your family's story. It means so very much. ❤
@zekedrinkswater
No, but having to correct folks does, when I'm misgendered. The thought of correcting people fills me with anxiety. The only people I feel comfy enough to correct are friends and family who never misgender me anyway, my Mom aside.
I lost someone today. Someone I've known since the 80s. An amazing talented musically gifted powerful warrior woman. And the first trans woman I knew in rl. Rest in power Ginny ...
Finally, the day is here! I'm about to head out to the airport and begin my journey to see my husband. It's been so long, and I can't believe it's actually happening!!
Wish a girl luck 🥰
... week, I've been Mom. To distinguish from my wife, who's always been Mommy.
Last night at supper, my wife inadvertently referred to me as Dad. Both boys chimed in, "No, Mom", as if rehearsed. She corrected her mistake and moved on. No big deal.
But it was all I could ... 4/
@TheLetterTen
Told them this past Saturday. They were surprised but seemed accepting. Said the right things. So far have been calling my Stephanie instead of the other name ... so we shall see. It did go better than I had anticipated
Good morning, Friends.
My heart is broken after last night's events. We all saw the story.
The only positive message I've got at this moment, sadly, is a frivolous selfie of a 54 year old trans woman just trying her best to live a happy life.
Stay safe, Love to you all 💖💖
Taken on a day when I looked and felt better. Everything's getting harder and harder, and I'm running out of steam. Starting to honestly wonder why bother?
Good morning, Friends
Monday again. Didn't we just have a Monday, just the other day??
Hope everyone gets through their day, smoothly and swiftly!
Take care of yourselves and those close to you. Sending you all love and good vibes this morning!
Peace and Love 💖💖
Good morning, Friends.
No selfie this morning, sorry! Instead, I'll share this picture. It moved me greatly.
Stephie is still pretty sleepy today, ngl ... 🥱🥱🥱
Hope you all have a wonderful day. Please be kind, to yourselves most of all.
Peace and Love 💖💖
@sethpuertoluna
@ZOE_SEQNC
I hate the patriarchal discourse surrounding trans men. They are our brothers, and they struggle just as much as we do. We need to support and love ALL our trans siblings.
Good morning, Friends
One of the worst nights in recent months turned into a good day. Got final confirmation that I can begin with my new therapist next week.
After my laser session yesterday, the tech took me aside and told me that future sessions will be heavily ... 1/
Good Morning, Friends
I have bloodwork scheduled today, and I'm anxious about it.
On a somewhat related note, I've been up since about 1 am. Panic attack. But I'm doing my best and still showered, put on make-up, etc.
Please be kind today, Friends. Someone might need it 💖💖
Heading out to the monthly board meeting for the women's center and fighting dysphoria hard ...
First time in such a very long time. Guess that's something ..
😔
Body hair dysphoria as bad as it's ever been. Finally worked up the energy to shave my chest. Cut my nipple shaving. Now I just want to curl up in a ball and cry until this day is over and it's not even 10 am. FML
... call out, "Daddy!" And run to greet me at the door, when they were little boys.
Recently, I've been struggling a great deal. Anyone close to me knows this, and the depths of my struggles.
In an attempt to help, both boys talked and decided to broach the subject of .... 2/
Good morning, Friends
So, first real bra yesterday - one of my wife's older ones. Turns out I'm almost a full B cup! Kinda euphoric about the whole thing, and I guess I have to go bra shopping now 🥰
Hope y'all have a great day and a solid start to the week!
Peace & Love 💖
It's Monday morning. Blerg.
If I don't start posting selfies again, I won't. So, Stephanie getting ready to face the week selfie it is!
Hope you all have a good day and please remember to be kind, especially to yourselves.
Love to you, friends 💖
Even though I shared the pic with my prescriptions yesterday, I officially started this morning.
I get up a couple of hours before my wife every day, woke her up just a couple of minutes ago, she hugged me and said, "Happy Birthday" ... 😭😭😭❤❤❤
I love her so much.
So, after 7 months on HRT, I'm finally on at least a moderate dose (4mg E - 200mg Spiro). Yes, i know it's lower than it should be, but she's so conservative in her treatment, I'm good with that for now. Plus, I got her to prescribe Finasteride. So all in all, a good appointment!
... calling me something other than Dad.
My youngest approached me at a particularly low point and made the offer. I initially refused, honestly thinking I didn't "deserve" the title of Mother and gave my reasons. He promptly shot holes in every reason.
So, since last ... 3/
So, here's an interesting one. First pic showed up on my FB page as a 1 year memory. Not a totally fair comparison, as I think my new glasses are quite gender affirming. But I think it's safe to say there's been some changes over the last 365 days ... 🥰🥰🥰
Just found out about the 2nd "family event" I wasn't invited to, by my cousin, who thought I'd be there. And apparently, my parents aren't correcting anyone when asked how DEADNAME is doing.
One thing to know they're uncomfortable, another to learn the depths of their shame ...
Good morning Friends
Angry Stephie is banished ... 🥰
Tried something new this morning, hated it ... lol. I think pink is more my color! But if you never try anything new, how do you know?
Hope you all have a great day!
Peace and Love 💖💖
Thank you, everyone, for your kind words.
I'm sorry I'm such a disappointment.
I'm not sure when I'll be back, but I need to go away. I'm not doing anyone any good here.
I love you all.
Good morning, Friends
Purple this morning, because why not? 🥰
Long, but very positive day yesterday. The time spent with my old friend, one of the most truly badass women I know, was a joy!
Try to have a good day today. Love yourselves, and please be kind.
Peace, Friends 💖
Good morning, Friends
Update.
I have a Dr's appt later this morning. My therapist has suggested more than once I should be on meds of some sort to address my depression. So, finally going to explore it.
Can't "Tony Robbins" myself out of this, I need help.
I'll let y'all know.
@EuphoriTori
I mean, this is a vacation we're talking about here! It's not like it's about your daughter's comfort, mental health or well being or anything!! 🙄🙄🙄
"Sure, you can be trans, Honey. Just don't bother anyone with all this gender stuff, okay?"
Jfc ...
@FairieNamedMars
Stephanie is the feminine version of my first given deadname, which I never went by. Parents used my middle name which I hated. Stephanie was the first name I tried and when my wife used it for the first time it just felt right. It felt like me ... 🥰💜
@alliqie
What a disgusting POS. I'm glad you don't work for that garbage heap of a person any longer. As are you, I know. I don't know why some have to behave this horribly.
Good morning Friends
Bit of a different post this morning.
I'm kinda over the moon about
@EitanFtm
Stephie has a boyfriend 🥰🥰🥰
Hope you all have a wonderful day!
Peace and Love to you all, my darling friends ... 💖💖
Good morning, Friends.
Long day ahead for Stephie. Starting with a new therapist today plus a 500 km round-trip drive.
I hope you all have a wonderful day!
Peace and Love 💖💖💖
The board of directors of my local Women's Resource/Sexual Assault Ctr voted last night to accept my nomination, and starting next month, I'll be serving on the board myself. I'm thrilled to be able to give something back to the sisterhood who have been so supportive of me ... 😭
Sometimes the stars align and you catch a break. I was able to get a referral to a nurse practitioner who specializes in trans health care and who just started accepting new patients. I now have an appointment on May 3 to start the process, instead of Feb 2023. Pretty happy 🥰💜
Goodnight all, it's been a great day, and I thank you so much for all the kind and supportive words. I love you all 🥰
I leave you with my pre-pandemic vs now picture. Sweet dreams, friends 💖
Good morning, Friends
Therapy was rough yesterday, but ultimately helpful. Thank you all for being there for me ... 🥹🥰
Retail therapy was much more fun, though! Stephie's first swimwear ... 🫣🫣🫣
Have a lovely day, Darlings
Peace & Love ... 💖💖
Lovely evening out with my wife (she didn't want the beautiful picture I took of her posted on Twitter. Don't blame her). 30 years in, she's still my favorite person to spend time with. Then to our favorite bookstore, owned by a queer couple, to pick up some bedtime reading 🥰
Good morning, Friends
Hope everyone slept well and is rested and ready to face the day!
It's Friday Eve, and in my little corner of the world, they're calling for a snowfall warning overnight. We will see what tomorrow brings.
Stay safe, be good to yourselves
Love you 💖