Feminist. Philosopher. Bitch. ๐ฆ Author of the book Feminology & founder of the podcast 'FEFO' ๐บ Seen too much ๐ฉ to not be radical ๐๐ค๐postcast link below๐
So many women give up on feminism when they realise it's not just, 'Women are great. I'm a woman. Therefore, I am great." And actually a liberation system that requires a little work at time.
"The more men a woman has slept with, the less value she has."
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So, men decrease women's value?
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So, women's association with men contaminates her?
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So, women were better before her association with men?
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So, women are better than men?
Can you IMAGINE what it must feel like to be a victim of a abuse, diagnosed with PTSD, then have the blame-shifted back on you, slut-shamed, victim-blamed, smear-campaigned, mocked, bullied, silenced, ignored, cut off from support, your career jepodised, etc, etc, etc ???
I can.
The women who support sex work are the ones who know it will never be them, or those who the need for male validation is so deeply embedded into their psyche that they see any opportunity to be validated (through sexual desirability) as "empowering". But this is the psyche of the
So we can't TALK about abuse now. EVEN if it's completely ANONYMOUS. We can't tell our OWN stories. We can't make theoretical observations on our own traumas and those of others.
Do people even realise what the fuxk is happening?!?!
If any woman wants to know what these so called "passport bros" actually look like please DM me and I will genuinely send you a pic of some real life examples.
Woman: "I have been seriously gaslighted and abused, so now I am unnerved."
Patriarchy: "This woman is insane & it is innate."
Man: "I have a pink fairy soul inside my ladybrain next to my bollacks."
Patriarchy: "You are a philosopher, my son."
This is proof that high-pitched girlish voices are not natural on grown women, and any woman who speaks in such a way is in a constant state of infantalised performance.
People would rather justify abuse by finding character flaws in the women who come forward than acknowledge that it happens in the world and the men they know and admire could be the culprits
Men do this thing where they pretend you're "not good enough for them" (especially not good-looking enough), so you then feel the need to chase them to prove that you are. Young women: DON'T DO IT.
@slxthkween
from where I'm standing, there is not a single aspect to his so-called 'womanhood' that is not entirely artificial, commodified and tied to capitalism.
IF you have never had full-blown PTSD from gendered violence then you are in absolutely no position to tell me what it's like. Not even a professional opinion. Not having it.
Men don't want women to speak with one another without men present because we'd figure out that they treat us all like shit. We'd figure out that the issue isn't us or the fact that we do something to deserve it or bring it on ourselves. The problem is them.
The most painful realisation in most women's lives is when they discover how much the men in their lives - whom they have been taught to admire, cherish and centre their lives by - are completely and utterly indifferent to them at best.
@littlesammyxoxo
They literally HATE the idea that other men are getting sex that they're not. Honestly, men are SO SO SO competitive with one another. That's partly why the orchestrate female competitiveness.
@liliandaisies
Yes!!!!!!!
So few see this!!!! Retaliation is only accepted if it's from a man!! Women will be witch-hunted for self-defence, while men will be celebrated for anything that can be interpreted or misconstrued as remotely heroic. Male worshiping is just unreal.
@femme_4
I was literally just thinking about this - why do people no longer acknowledge the importance of women's fincial freedom within feminism anymore?
Getting older as a woman is just realizing most males, especially powerful ones you looked up to when you were younger are predatory and a very high likelihood they are grapists.
Men see marriage as a punishment so you always see this behavior coming from them. Women see marriage as an achievement so they push other women for that flower. I've always hated this culture
This is the "love" that society tells women they shouldn't miss out on
@DrProudman
@Independent
I love everything you post but as a feminist academic and a victim of VAW I really would literally take you out for coffee to explain this if I could. There are so many problematic elements being silenced by the screams of "transphobia".
@emrazz
Spend your 20's building your own "base": your own career, qualifications, friendships, finances to fall back on, buy a house if you can, learn to drive, do things solo...you will thank yourself when you get to 30. Never make the base a man cause he can leave & you won't grow.
My life as a woman:
1. Escape patriarchal and abusive family
2. Escape misogynistic and abusive men (which includes quite literally leaving entire counties)
3. Generally not listened to & ignored as a small blonde woman.
Man in a dress:
"I AM FIGHTING 4 THE RIGHT TO EXIST!!" ๐ฃ
@Kissmyazz24
This is always the deal with polygamy - men think they'll have loads of women, but the reality is that women are a lot picker than men so it is usually just a few top tier guys who get all the girls leaving the majority alone.
@cath_heseltine
This is where the lived reality of trans ideology isn't ethically applicable. This is what leads me to believe the non-trans supporters are privileged white women living within a specific geographical and social-political demographic, unfamiliar with the complexity womanhood.
Women's economic freedom is vital to their liberation. Financial freedom is an integral part of feminism. If someone controls your finances, they control you.
Despite beating their chests about being โprovidersโ males donโt like working anymore than yโall do, but they understand that money is power, money is freedom. So they suck it up, cause rather that than be someone elseโs doormat for life.
Women create life; men destroy life. The hierarchy is there. Matriarchy is the natural state of human civilisation, that's why we have so many issues- we're out of balance.
Look at him fondly and ask, "Has anyone ever told you that you're really pretty?"
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He'll inevitably say no because pretty is feminised.
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Then go, "Didn't think so. ๐ People tell me all the time!"
@slxthkween
These men make me sick. I think we need to ensure we share our feelings about these outside of TERF communities, because they are frighteningly good at gaslighting.
"Why don't you just leave?"
Escaping misogyny and abuse can be like being trapped in a maze of mirrors, each time you think you've found a way out, it's just another trap.
Women need female speratism - or at least female spaces - because patriarchy IS male separatism. As a woman, you are NEVER 'cool' enough to be part of the boys club. Stop placing yourselves above other women and think you get a golden ticket. They will not accept you.
Men will tell compliant women, "you're better than the other girls" & she will relish in it. But what she is actually relishing in are the shackles of her own oppression. What makes her "better" makes her depressed and unfree.
@Radfemfuture
I want a TV show where they ask a female panel what they think of incel (who love to critique women), and it's basically women rating men 1/10, putting them in hierarchies, and me just calling men ugly mugs.