“I have been suffering from night terrors...When I have them, he will hold me until I calm down. The last time it happened, he put on his collar and leash and gave me the leash to hold, so I would feel in control of something. […] Pets can take care of their Mistresses as well.”
The mileage may definitely vary on how folks like their aftercare, e.g., snacks, cuddles, orgasms, etc. I do think appreciating the knowledge, skills, and abilities of your dominant partner can be a good start. ...How do you check in?
I just finished listening to Legends & Lattes by
@TravisBaldree
. I’m pretty sure that if everyone reads this, we’ll heal the world by at least 10%. Plus, I love how he did the voices. Thanks for the excellent read, TB!
@aXXXakis
-takes off his glass and rubs his eyes- I’m, uhh, going to need a moment. The world makes a little more sense now.
(You’re so talented,
@aXXXakis
!!)
Alright, don’t laugh. I’m attending a class on dominance today to get tones right in my comics. Between my submissive bent and living as a masc person in a patriarchal society, I worry that I may not do my comic D-types quite right. Wish me luck? Lol.
#lifelonglearning
Sketching around and getting all inspired by a few of Nat's drawings. I think I might be forever preoccupied by power exchange in unexpected places. Nothing obvious here, but I have a whole ass backstory in mind.
Mm! Such great points. We might need one of those education units like they had in grade school. Who would be the months in a Submissive Men of History calendar?
Wonderfully positive feedback for my guide
"How to make your first BDSM scene amazing"
(even though the readers weren't newbies)
<3 <3
If you want to take a look, you can find it here:
Alright, I'm going to 1000% recommend continuing education. It was great to hear someone riff for a couple of hours on ways dominance can look, that it's different for every person and every relationship, and that it's not certain activities or types of play.
#learnrelearnunlearn
I’ve got some downtime tonight! What should I draw? Bonus points for D/s-type things that might be in the category of “sleepy” and/or “cuddly as f*ck.” I do have to sleep after this. :>
Does time actually slow down when you are waiting for a reply? -squints- I have a hypothesis.
I salute everyone who’s waiting for anything at this current moment. An email, an orgasm, an Instacart order… we’ll get through this. I hope.
Heyo, my United Statians. Join me in committing to smart, effective action to make sure that sexual and reproductive health services are available for all. Today, I’lI donate to protect those who will travel to my state for care.
#donate
#vote
Your feedback is always welcome! There’s no one way to be, but I’d like to reduce harm. The whole point of these is to make you smile, “mm!” to yourself, and/or spread 1% more good vibes in our communities.
Series inspired by an original prompt from
@GeekDomme
! Flying Lotus Suspension reference from
@shibari_study
. Thank you for your permission to use your wonderful content! 🪢
“Car, vois-tu, chaque jour je t’aime davantage, aujourd’hui plus qu’hier et bien moins que demain.” — Rosemonde Gérard
Translation: “For, you see, each day I love you more, today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.”
Friends! I’m struggling this morning. What’s your preferred method for returning to a work headspace after a couple of days of off-the-clock kinky shenanigans (either with folks, a partner, or by yourself)?
I lick their hands clean of bark and bite
So they can sleep deep at night
Ah, all my girls like to fight
— Hope Tala has a perfect song for a rough day. 🏹🗡⚔️
@Ferns__
Thank you for your clear and consistent communication that submissive guys are a-okay. I’ve relied on your writing and observations for a lot of strength over the years. :)
Do not build your hopes for revolution on things getting bad enough to make people protest. Worsening conditions are not what empowers people to act, robust networks of care that build up collective capacity are, and we have to create those ourselves.