After Kelsey’s procedure we walked back to the ferry and Kelsey wanted to hold my hand because he was still a little dizzy. A woman saw us and yelled, “Ew! You people make me sick!” I feel so sorry for my LGBTQ friends out there.
This is Harley, an abused rescue dog who wanted to eat me for the first year she knew me. Today, after a lot of work, she’s kind and gentle. No one is shooting Harley. ❤️
This goofy face turned 60 today. I’ve spent the past four decades caring for others but now it’s time to care for me. I’ve been looking forward to this for a long time.
This is not a drill. The goals of these Christofascists are to 1) completely subjugate women to men; 2) physically harm and marginalize LGBTQ communities; 3) return to the Jim Crow south; and 4) remove all constitutional guardrails to our democracy. Stop them. Vote.
Back in college, a close friend showed up at my dorm one night. She found out she was pregnant. She was at a party a weeks earlier, was drugged and raped. She asked for my help with an abortion and I gave it. It was the right thing for her and I'm glad she had that right.
Mother’s Day is hard for me. My mom was neglected and abused and she gave the same to us. But my big sis Karen here was like my mom. She’s Dr. Karen now. She loved, protected and taught me all the good things. Raised 4 good children herself. Love you Karen ❤️
Got a call from my nephew Aaron today just to say he loved me. I raised him off and on from birth. Same age as Kelsey’s big brother Sean. Gentle kid 6’-5” and wheelchair bound for years but after many surgeries can now walk with braces. Love him like my own son ❤️❤️❤️.
I’m at dinner with Kelsey and he’s feeling much better. But says he’s self conscious about his face thinking he’s not very attractive. I think he’s handsome but I’m his dad.
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I keep asking, why do vets keep supporting Republicans? Why do cops support Republicans who arm criminals? Could it be that racism and sexism is more important than their own health and safety?
Folks, unfortunately, it may be a while before you hear something positive from him. I'm doing all I can but his mood is not improving. I'll just keep at it. Thank you all for the support. ❤️🩹
One of my clients, a 50-something yo woman, lamented to me today that she no longer turned men’s heads. It saddened me to think our cultural concept of beauty is all aimed at youth. I think we take on different and deeper beauty as we age. Wisdom and experience are lovely.
I've been on the phone with my mom for an hour now and it's like listening to the worst Trump rally ever. Picture Trump with an old woman voice slurring on endlessly about the "coloreds" and "orientals" and how nobody works and how we need Jesus in schools. 😵💫😵💫😵💫
Happy International Women’s Day to my big sister Dr. Karen. She did her best to protect me from a crazy mom, taking many blows herself. Got married at 17. Had four great kids. Dumped a loser and went to med school. She’s my mentor and hero.
There are two kinds of characters in the MAGA Cult: The first are rubes like my dad who want to believe all the Trump lies about race, women, gays, etc. The second are the grifters (who know they are lying) who bilk the rubes and feed their anger. It's a simple ecosystem.
With all the bashing of immigrants, please meet my amazing DIL Ankitha. She came to US at 8 after father died in India, raised by a single mom. She made her way to university and then grad school and now leads teams of UX researchers all over the world. Love her so much.
Fortunately for me my big sis Dr. Karen is a respiratory specialist and expert at treating Covid. She put me on the right course of treatment this morning.
“Something I ask myself all the time. Why am I different from so many other guys who are sexist and crude? I don’t know why I’m not like that but I’m glad I’m not.”
Your outpouring of love for Kelsey has been overwhelming. Thank you. It means so much to us during this difficult time. If you don't hear much from me for a while it's because I am also trying to heal. Kelsey and I will get through this ❤️🩹
Folks, unfortunately, it may be a while before you hear something positive from him. I'm doing all I can but his mood is not improving. I'll just keep at it. Thank you all for the support. ❤️🩹
This election is serious. But my prediction is that Trump is going to lost to Biden by 10M votes and the electoral map will be exactly the same in November. Then Trump will go to prison for the rest of his life.
I have a lot of friends on this platform who are sole caregivers. I just want to send love to all of you because you give and give and get little in return. And some days it’s all overwhelming. Just know that you are not alone.
Good morning. It might be awhile until I post again while I deal with some personal things. Wanted to leave this with you this from a few years ago. Now more than ever we need real emotional connection with each other. Find a way to love someone today❤️
Thank you for the well wishes for Kelsey. We are cutting our trip short and heading back this morning. Fire alarm late at night didn’t help. Hopefully anxiety and depression will pass soon. I’m ready for a vacation.
At one time Kelsey was an accomplished sculptor and his pieces would sell online for some really good money. But this is my favorite. It’s a self portrait with Kelsey looking at a bird on his hand. This is who Kelsey is to me.
Saw the doc. Looks like it was Covid that went into a sinus infection. The Covid is gone so they are treating the infection. I just have to hang out for an hour until the pharmacy opens. Happy Father’s Day everyone!
Kelsey has thoughts on Pride:
“It’s confusing to me why some people are sexually attracted to others of the same sex. But it’s even more confusing to me how others could be cruel to them and keep them from living a good life. I stand for love.”
Thank you all so much for your kindness these past couple days. I am facing some difficult choices right now and I'm sorry I haven't been posting from Kelsey. Not sure how things will go but we really appreciate the support ❤️❤️❤️.
When Kelsey heard his brother was going to have a wedding here in the US and one in India he said, "Wow! Two weddings without even a divorce in between."
On the way to urgent care today Kelsey said, “I’ve had a lot of loss to grieve in my life but that only makes me more empathetic towards others who are grieving.”
This from yesterday is important and blew me away:
"My whole life people have told me to learn to communicate better like it was just a skill. But communication takes knowledge as well and that can be hard for people on the spectrum."
Kelsey and I just drove across the Hood Canal Bridge. I said, “This is the home of our nuclear sub fleet. It keeps America safe from China and Russia. And without missing a beat Kelsey said, “and Godzilla.”
I can't believe my baby boy is 36 today! His mom went into labor during her Masters ceremony. She went up the ramp and to the hospital and Sean was born a few hours later.
Kelsey loves funny women so he bought two tickets to see Tina Fey and Amy Pohler and asked his mom to go with him. Glad they could share the experience together.
"Even if I had millions of dollars there's not much I would want to buy. My favorite things in life are getting together with friends and family for a potluck party or going to see a funny movie in a packed house. I love laughing with a large group of people."
We just saw the doctor. Kelsey probably had Covid and now he’s got the residual symptoms. Doc said he shouldn’t be contagious at this point but needs decongestant and fluids to flush it out. Thanks for all the love ❤️
Thank you all for the good thoughts. Kelsey is finally better today and wanted to go to lunch. He also wanted to share a dream he had with everyone and I nearly lost it 🤣🤣🤣.
Folks, I want to be really clear with everyone that the reason I am sharing Kelsey here — the joys and the struggles— is because Kelsey wants me to. I always ask his permission before posting. He wants everyone to feel loved and to have some insight into life on the spectrum.
I’ve been Kelsey’s primary caregiver since his birth. I’ve made many personal sacrifices to try to keep his life as normal and routine as possible just as many of you have with your special needs kids. I am still working hard to continue that and appreciate your love and support.
This from Kelsey today made my cry 😭
“When I was a kid I didn’t know how to use my own words so I said a lot of lines from movies instead. Sometimes I would see neurotypical people smile at me and it gave me hope that one day I could be one of them.”
Let me also explain why Trump gets away with stuff. Trump is just a pawn for organized crime, bad foreign governments, and creepy billionaires. They use him to launder their money and cover up their crimes. That is Trump’s real power. He’s a total tool.
This was the day life changed for us. It was the day I realized something was wrong with Kelsey. He plucked a small flower and wouldn't let it go all day. From there, I spent the next three years trying to get a diagnosis. When it finally came I wept with relief.
On our walk today Kelsey and I were talking about movies. He said, “I like to laugh but don’t like movies that are too crude. I’m not a boys-will-be-boys kinda guy.”
Thank you to everyone asking about Kelsey. He’s been pretty sick with what I think is Covid since last Thursday. He doesn’t appear to be getting better so I’ll be taking him in to UC in the morning if he doesn’t improve. 🙏🙏
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the love so many have sent for Kelsey and me during this difficult time. Thank you so much and hoping things will turn around soon for him. Here’s an old post that really sums it all up for Kelsey. Others make a big difference ❤️
“It’s frustrating to hear people talk about those of us on the Autism spectrum like we all share the same issues. Those with ASD are as diverse as neurotypical people with different levels of functioning. Please get to know us as people first before understanding our disability.”
Just now I saw Kelsey standing at the edge of the water staring. I asked what he was thanking about. He said, “ Absolutely nothing” and he’s ok with that.
I managed to get Kelsey out for breakfast this morning. He wants to thank everyone for all the kind wishes and hugs. He said, “At least I’m able to talk about my pain and I feel for all those who are non-verbal who can’t.”
I want to say thank you to all who follow Kelsey here, many of whom are also caregivers with challenges far worse than I've ever had. I hope you can feel the love and admiration I have for you for all your sacrifice and devotion to your loved ones. You are not alone ❤️❤️.
I hope you all can make it to Butchart Gardens some time. The blooms were glorious! Poor Jamie is 6 months pregnant so the hike was a little tiring but it was so beautiful 😍 🌸🌺💗
Ok. I spit my drink out my nose. I told Kelsey Jamie made another AI photo of us, this time as women. Kelsey stared and said, "Oh my God! Why do we look like Germans?" 🤣
(Don't ask I have no idea why he said that)