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Rts don’t 🟰 endorsement. Views are my own. I speak truthfully about liars. I’m the problem, it’s me, “fun AF”

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Lauren
2 years
I remember when a youth pastor was fired for “inappropriate texting” w/ a teen. Of course, they never gave details. 6 yrs later i heard what the text said. I felt physically ill and furious. I learned that day when a church says “inappropriate” it is almost never the right word
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Here is 15 yo homeschooled daughter. FIFTEEN and their “beloved friend Josh Hunt” is 29. TWENTY NINE. Two years later and they announce the beautiful love story “courtship” 🙄 of their now 17 year old senior in high school daughter and her 31 year old boyfriend. #actualgroomers
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1 year
Fell down another “Christian leader/sex abuse groomer” rabbit hole. I’m over the justification of sex abuse because they ✅use Christian platitudes ✅ prayed about it and ✅God showed them ✅Holy Spirit gave them peace. So much for being the one with a moral compass.
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5 months
Regular people have no idea just how weird American evangelicals are about literally everything. blaming the devil instead of working on fixing problems is a sure fire way to have a terrible marriage.
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4 months
Literal tears running down my face the second and third time I watched this omg. And the comments :
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2 years
These men literally do inappropriate things all day every day. So if someone is going to draw national media attention you better believe there was a bigger reason than inappropriate.
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2 years
His wife is a middle school GIRLS counselor at the Christian school. 5 years later he was caught on a dating app & the single teacher that saw him on it was fired for gossiping. no one cares. Because “everyone makes mistakes” but only the lowly sheep are punished & unprotected
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2 years
At our church the lead pastor was buddies with the YP so he Obvs told the older brother to delete the evidence of his the YP sexting his little sister. Then the youth pastor went on to be a girls TRAVEL team coach. These men have no souls that’s all I know. But it gets worse…
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3 years
I’m not avoiding church so I can live a life of debauchery. I am avoiding church because I can’t make sense of the people outside the church being kinder and more understanding then those inside the church who gave me pat answers and shame with a side of victim blaming for 25 yrs
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7 months
When I was a pastor‘s wife, a woman told me of her husband‘s infidelity & abuse. His parents were influential in the church & wealthy. She told me I was the first person who told her she could leave. And she did. This weekend I get to watch this brave friend marry a good man.❤️‍🩹
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1 year
Here’s the difference between predators in public schools versus predators in Christian schools or churches. I have never once met a public school parent who was willing to overlook the predator past of a school teacher, and want them back as a teacher. But
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1 year
Fell down another “Christian leader/sex abuse groomer” rabbit hole. I’m over the justification of sex abuse because they ✅use Christian platitudes ✅ prayed about it and ✅God showed them ✅Holy Spirit gave them peace. So much for being the one with a moral compass.
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1 year
Here’s the real kicker- yesterday a woman came forward on FB, although she is now private, and exposed Josh for grooming her since she was 13 and then harassing her till the day she turned 18, and after. Some of their families music songs are written about her. A 12 yo child.
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26 days
to him- and told him never to talk to her like that again. Then she had a conversation with the manager- whom she knows. Turns out a coworker, woman, heard him- and had already reported him. This was his second strike. This is why you Speak up. Someone else is counting on you.
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2 years
Really did not expect this much interaction with these tweets- the pain from the abuse and cover ups is overwhelming . @ddlovato ’s song is healing for so many. Seems like a lot of people will need it.
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2 years
CW: youth pastor SA Since the church won’t do it, here is @ddlovato calling out grooming for what it really is. Youth pastors grooming the students should be a crime. Regardless of the physical nature. This happened at our old toxic church more times than I can count. #Finally29
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Two weeks ago at a sports bar my friend was harassed by a trainer she knows from the gym with inappropriate comments. She let it go- but kept her distance. Today at the gym he did it again. She called me. Shaken. I encouraged her to report it. She got off the phone & first went
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3 years
“No church is perfect” is such a straw man when talking about church abuse and trauma. Literally zero victims were expecting perfection. But you *are* allowed to expect human decency.
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1 year
Once again, someone in the “world” gets it right- Demi Lovato as an adult coming to grips with the reality of being a teenager groomed by someone who was 29. (Song below) Meanwhile, the Christian parents with the superior moral compass are doing it to their own daughter.
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2 years
CW: youth pastor SA Since the church won’t do it, here is @ddlovato calling out grooming for what it really is. Youth pastors grooming the students should be a crime. Regardless of the physical nature. This happened at our old toxic church more times than I can count. #Finally29
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3 years
I still cannot get over the fact that a group of people that told me they were prepared to get their head chopped off in a guillotine to prove their love for Jesus, can’t wear a damn mask without crying about it, to prove their love for their fellow man.
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3 years
Young people aren’t deconstructing their faith because some sneaky secular professor is feeding them lies, but because their trusted Christian leader was living a lie.
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1 year
@DrRamblings You’re not wrong, but it’s actually the mom saying it so it’s the mom using a lot of words to say we let this man groom our child
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1 year
I have spoken to countless Christian school and church parents who tell me that the pastor with a predator past is forgiven, and they want him back.
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3 years
My heart just aches today. Like, how is this my life? How did I go from spending every free moment either in church or inviting someone to church to being physically triggered if I drive by the building? I knew all the answers or someone that did. And now I question everything.
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2 years
Preach!
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2 years
I’ll never forget one of our pastor wife Christmas parties when we were given the task of having sex with our husbands every day for 30 days… In December…. I’ll also never forget the face of the woman in the group who- because of physical reasons -could not. #ItsACult
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2 years
So many parents are living in despair because they believe their children have turned their backs on God when in reality their children woke up to who God is and turned their back on this man made evangelical complex.
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3 years
“I don’t like the way that youth pastor was looking at that student” I said to my husband. Women know that look. But what can you do about a look? Keep paying attention. That’s what. So I did. And when I saw something concrete we brought it to an elder. Then truth came out.
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9 months
So you mean to tell me that for all these years i could have been walking around my neighborhood meeting neighbors, with kids getting dressed up in fun costumes meetings other kids, building community but I was hiding from Satan at fall festivals with people who ignore me now?
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The problem with speaking up at Church,however, is there is no one to speak up to. They all have too much skin in the game. It’s a sad state of affairs when you will find better community, higher morals, & better support when abused at your local gym than your local church
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1 year
Healthy churches don’t ask members to sign NDAs. Period.
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2 years
CW: youth pastor SA Since the church won’t do it, here is @ddlovato calling out grooming for what it really is. Youth pastors grooming the students should be a crime. Regardless of the physical nature. This happened at our old toxic church more times than I can count. #Finally29
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What it looks like to take the Lords name in vain
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1 year
CW clergy SA Just realizing the other video, never download it all the way so here it is. The whole thing is so powerful an important. Thank you. @ddlovato for your brave and vulnerable song and Thank you Allison Winkle for yours as well.
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1 year
I wish I would’ve videoed my 18-year-old daughter watching the video of that Pastor. She didn’t realize it was a pastor at first but even still at his objectifying words her mouth dropped open. Then when she realized he was a pastor- after he invoked scripture- she yelled “ He’s
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2 years
Won’t He do it 🙏🏽
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3 years
Turns out the real danger to my kids souls wasn’t the risk of hearing public school kids use four letter words and live a life of debauchery, but watching Christian leaders use God’s name in vain and live a life of hypocrisy.
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2 years
You can cut a sermon down to 20 min, but you would have to cut out 1. Humble brag story 2. Fauxnerable sin story (speeding or before Christ days) 3. Negative joke about your smoking hot but nagging wife 4. Embarrassing story about your kids 5. Checklist for cultural holiness
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2 years
Old me: Always vote republican because it’s the responsibility of the CHURCH to take care of the poor and the govt will only waste our money! Megachurch: hold my offering plate
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1 year
Churches that are still promoting Dave Ramsey in the year of our lord 2023 like google isn’t even a thing. Ignorance is getting a little harder to claim at this point.
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2 months
One of these days I’ll write about all of my unfounded fears and the ways public school was better for my kids than homeschooling could’ve been and better for me as well since I’m teaching there also but today i’m just thankful for those who encouraged me to take that step. ❤️‍🩹
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1 year
@PartainSam Or the more obvious she’s a child and he’s a grown ass man
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1 year
How will my kids ever re-dedicate their life to Jesus over and over if they never go to youth camp? I mean-what if they just live their life and aren’t constantly made to feel mind bending shame for being normal humans throughout their teen years?
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3 years
If only “pluck your own eye out” was strong enough imagery to make people understand who is responsible for lusting .
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25 days
I believed in the concept of keeping track. I didn’t want to make a big deal about what happened at my church. I wanted it noted. I thought they should know a pastor put his hands on me, but instead, I was humiliated and shamed. TLDR: you will find me at the gym on Sundays
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Three summers ago I came to the realization that we had to put our kids in public school. Homeschooling wasn’t working for a myriad of reasons- number one being the church induced depression I was in. It was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. It felt like I had failed and now
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@jodicarlee Good for them. In this case the lead pastor told the older brother to delete the evidence. I don’t know what happened after that except for the fact that the youth pastor went on to be a girls travel team coach. These men have no souls that’s all I know.
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I was failing my kids. For years I had been to homeschooling conferences and even spoken at conferences warning fearful parents about the pEriLs of Public school. But I am here to say it is the best decision we could have made. All three of my kids are thriving and better off.
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2 years
Toxic church gaslighting protocol: 1. That never happened 2. OK it happened but it wasn’t that bad. 3. OK it happened and it was that bad but you need to get over it. 4. Ok we really don’t care if you get over it-we just want you to stop talking about it.
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1 year
Imagine your whole personality is WHOLISTIC EDUCATION and all the conferences and books and Charlotte Mason and classical education and hours and hours in family time and out door play and and and and you end up here!?!?
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8 yrs ago, I advocated for a victim, and it cost me a friendship. My longtime friend “Cindy” was in love w/ a worship pastor, Mike. They were 40. But every time she talked about the “relationship” it got more confusing. The weirdest being she seemed jealous of his 17 yo cousin.
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@ArkansasWester1 Actual Data tells a different story. Also, when you believe you have to obey your husband, or you’re gonna burn in hell, you’re more likely to stay married. Hope that helps.
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You guys there is stuff in my DM’s about flannel Pastor that I haven’t even processed or posted yet- some that is private. This isn’t over. More is coming out. We have to stop platforming uneducated untrained charismatic men with zero humility while doing so In Jesus name
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1 year
The best response to the Connmans latest rage bait tweet about breast reduction surgery. Watch till the end. 🗣️
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1 year
I had a childhood friend I always thought I had to save. He watched MTV. I was outraged. Then when our church destroyed me and my fam decades later. He opened his home to us as a sanctuary. He & his unchurched family loved us like Christ loves the church & bound up our wounds.💗
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1 year
This man…”pastor” putting on a religious show and then shaming the congregation for supposedly acting like it’s a religious show is my peak mega church experience my goodness.
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4 years
Looks like someone should have stopped, collaborated, and listened.
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Vanilla Ice has canceled his Fourth of July concert, saying he "didn't know the [coronavirus] numbers were so crazy!":
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@TheoManBabies Her language is absolutely unhinged .
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My first year as a teacher, 1999, I got into a discussion about submission in marriage with another teacher, and he said, so matter-of-factly, “the Bible actually says that we should submit one to another.” And it was the first time I ever heard it. Today I saw him at our faculty
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What if all this time it wasn’t a matter of denying Christ with one question in front of a shooting squad to save your life. But instead it was a series of questions over the course of your life in which you deny Christ to save your power, your comfort, and your pride?
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Them: you just need to try another church! *another church*
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4 years
I spent my whole life in the church being taught by pastors and teachers the importance of standing up and going against the crowd. I never thought that the crowd I would have to go against would be those that told me to do so in the first place 💔 #churchtoo
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4 years
The fact the churches are hiring marketing executives instead of licensed clinical therapists should tell you all you need to know about whether they are concerned with your care vs their image.
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2 years
Imagine knowing the youth pastor you fired for sexting a teen is going to get a job as a teen girls travel team basketball coach and staying silent?? These men have no souls. No remorse. And yet speak for God every week from the pulpit. I will never be quiet.
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2 years
When I was in college at liberty University I would often choose going to Wednesday night church rather than studying for my exams because I was convinced that doing otherwise would be choosing the world over God. I’m so glad my kids aren’t gonna have those effed up mind wars.
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3 years
People are abused every day because bystanders are afraid of “gossiping” or have been taught not to trust their gut. Trust your instincts. And please, if you see something- say something. If you know something say something. You are not protecting the church by covering sin.
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Me: we need to address the abuse in the church Them: what abuse? Me: here’s an example Them: ok one example- nobody’s perfect Me: *More examples* Them: ok fine a few cases-I would do something if there were more Me: *floods them with examples* Them: why do you hate the church?
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Funny how when a pastor, who uses the name of God to manipulate and abuse people gets caught he "fell" "failed" or "made a mistake" but an average non Christian woman, supposedly hitting on a married man HATES HIM HATES HIS FAMILY HATES HIS CHURCH AND HIS UNBORN CHILDREN. These
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4 years
It takes a special kind of wickedness to push someone to their breaking point and shame them once they break.
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2 years
“I have 106 in math. Joe should see me now. I messed up counting once and he said I was an idiot. He also called me fat and look how tall I am.” That generation lead with shame and insults yet now blame all the repercussions on “progressives” It’s a lie #ChildrenDeserveRespect
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One of the hardest things about leaving a toxic faith environment is realizing so many of your “friendships” were merely transactional. Out of sight out of mind. The only thing harder is watching your kids realize the same thing.
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4 years
The number of professing Christians that are proudly declaring that they will not sacrifice their comfort to save one life of the vulnerable is overwhelming and frankly so bizarre. The fact that they wear it like a badge makes me sick to my stomach. Lord have mercy.
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1 year
So my good behavior is supposed to bring people to church but my pastor being a predator isn’t supposed to make people leave? Am I doing this right?
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3 years
Oh good, we’ve moved on from “smokin’ hot wife” to my “modest hottest daughter.” Nothing weird about that at all.
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For my entire life I have struggled with ADHD symptoms believing they were not only character flaws but sin. But no matter how many Bible Studies, morning “quiet times,” countless “takeaways” from even more countless sermons, nothing changed. Instead
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3 years
I don’t personally know one person that left the church because of the satanic images in music videos in the 80s. But I know many that have left because of abuse and covering of abuse. So- maybe- just maybe our focus should reflect that.
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I had no idea he was carrying that around all these years. Protect your children as much as you can from those type of people And that harmful ideology. They deserve to be loved and to feel special. We have believed so many lies about our worth for far too long
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🧵4 yrs ago I got a phone call from my single friend, on the last day of school. She taught at our churches school, a church we attended for 25 yrs. “I just got fired” she cried. “For gossip” she added. Two months earlier she saw a former predator youth pastor on her dating app
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2 years
This was another ministry from our old church. Only the survivors know how horrific it was. It’s still going on but at another church now. The leader has never shown any remorse. The damage is incalculable.
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Calvary Chapel ( @CCSouthBay ) pastor Chet Lowe runs a Christian boot camp in southern California that has included ‘simulated torture’ as part of its discipleship process, according to numerous former students who spoke on the record
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Unpopular take: It’s not completely shocking to me, a math teacher, who has heard people say they will never use math later in their life, when people are spouting talking points that prove they don’t understand percentages, exponential growth, and logic.
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FTR I don’t tweet because I’m bitter. I tweet because there’s a mega pastor giving a sermon on the four signs of bitterness in which he basically lays out PTSD symptoms Christians deserve better than to be gas lit in a sanctuary by some pseudo-intellectual. Just teach the Bible.
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4 years
The most nonsensical defense of Christian anti-maskers is their claim that they won’t make decisions based on fear. Like.....since when?
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3 years
The fact that parishioners have been taught to use scripture as a chess move to win a match instead of a balm to heal a wound has contributed immeasurably to the negative reactions so many have towards scripture. 💔
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Oh my gosh I found my prayer journal from Liberty and I’m pretty sure if I read the entries for a TikTok account it would go stupidly viral but I’m not sure I’m ready to subject myself to that kind of embarrassment. Needless to say, I won’t be quiet anytime soon. No 18 year old
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3 years
Some men will literally recreate the Tower of Babel instead of actually dealing with systemic racism.
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4 years
Despite my evangelical Republican upbringing, I no longer believe that all Liberals are out to destroy the good in America. In fact I now understand that it’s this belief that is the real danger as it fosters an unnecessary culture war based on a constant fear of an apocalypse.
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My church ran a psychological torture camp masquerading as a discipleship program (w/ $$$ tuition) that traumatized people so badly that 10 yrs later they can’t talk about it without risking massive triggers & a traumatic disruption to their life. But the “leaders” stay silent.
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2 years
If you report inappropriate behavior before it turns overtly sexual you just misunderstood and should stop overreacting. If you report it after- why didn’t you say something earlier?
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1 year
And these people will use the name of God to defend all their actions. They will disciple your children into this kind of garbage. Endangering them. It doesn’t have to be this way, but it is. Burying your head in the sand won’t make it not true. I know story after story like this
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I sat w/ 20 other pastors wives in a pw meeting at our mega church feeling alone and unknown by all of them. The lead pw announced a new pw to the group who everyone knew so well. To welcome her, everyone around the table shared a memory about her. It was my bday. No one knew.
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I did everything they said Went to youth Youth group Served in it Women’s studies Married the Bible College guy Served in almost every ministry 5 babies dedicated Our kids served We taught. He pastored. Until 2/9/19 We walked away & they kept everyone we loved. #Sadiversary
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3 years
If you are running a Christian youth camp I am begging you, please don’t use the music, the lights, and the emotion, to guilt children into dedicating their life to “full-time ministry” so that they can live with guilt for the rest of their life or be forced into a man made job.
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What if the real stumbling blocks to faith weren’t tattoos, cuss words, and R rated movies but are predator pastors, racist congregants, and misogynistic mandates? Jesus be near. I’m exhausted.
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If you think Ashton and Mila asking a judge for leniency for their r @pist friend is sick- wait till you hear about all the Christian leaders defending their pastor bros for doing the same things and worse- cause of “all the good they do” in Jesus name.
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He was so proud of “disciplining” his 4 month old infant that he told the whole Internet! This is disgusting and twisted but what it is not- is unique. #shinyhappypeople
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In the year of our Lord 2021 I heard a pastor say from the pulpit that he won’t even entertain an accusation about a person unless that person is in the room. My God some churches are so unsafe for the vulnerable and literal safe havens for abusers. How can people not see this??
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3 years
I’m really amazed how many educated people expected doctors & scientists to perfectly analyze & correctly project the impact of a novel Corona virus. I feel like I’m listening to confused children complaining about how long a road trip is taking while stuck in a 10 car pile up.
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4 years
If you have no problem spouting unproven conspiracy theories, but you are going to wait till the facts come out on the videotaped murder of a black man, your racism is showing.
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Lauren
7 months
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you are an admin assistant for a narcissistic, abusive mega pastor, & you stayed quiet these last 4 yrs. Not one text, not one “what the hell happened to you guys?” Not one admission of all the abuse you have helped him cover, and
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