Elderly iconoclast interested in most things.Books,music,politics. Please don't try to sell me your books on self help, resilience, etc.Been there done that
OK. It's the end of the day,so I shall say it. I am 80 years old and am sick of being the co ordinator for my husband's care . I'm not well myself, and the health implications( mental and physical) are overwhelming. I've had the worst day
@SnotSurgeon
My husband's got dementia and is no longer able to cope with finance .I have told them this, and I am a joint account holder. But they still refuse to speak to me
When the NHS recovers a bit I know what I should like to see. Sessions of advice on how to live/cope for 24/7 carers of people with dementia. I feel as if I'm flailing and wading in treacle
GPs who advocate strongly for tech.
My husband has rapidly declining dementia and sets out to order his online prescription. He's failed, as he' s failed for a year now . Please bear these people in mind ( not to mention their exhausted partners)
Dear media. Please stop saying "due to an ageing population A & E is full". I am 77 and I think the last time I visited an A&E dept.was when I was 3 years old and my father dislocated my shoulder.This was before the NHS was set up. I realise I'm.unrepresentative but....
I mourn my husband. I mourn his love of music which has disappeared.i mourn his artistic abilities. But he is still alive and breathing. Sorry for the outburst
Just lost it in the supermarket. Some oldish man, unmasked,coughing his guts up in the queue behind me. I yelled "put a mask on, you fucking moron". He was only buying a copy of the Sun and some lottery tickets.
Now at sat at home crying my eyes out.
Hilarious. The chairman of Melton Mowbray Pork Pies has just said they don't export to either Thailand or Iceland, and very difficult to US because of short shelf life. Evidently being PM is as fact free a zone as journalism was for BJ
Got to the nearest branch of Santander today (in another town).With great difficulty. Wanted help with online banking Got sent away with a flea in my ear. Plus an 0800 number which turned into 0300 number. One hour before speaking to anyone. Why is it like this?
Don't want to sound dramatic but I question how long I.can carry on this looking after dementia patient 24/7 . I feel so poorly. The assumption that people do it "out of love" is questionable
@dr_shibley
He's totally opposed. He doesn't remember much, but he remembers I told him about a very good day centre. He said to me last night "You're not going to send me away today,are you? " Totally demolished me
Seriously impressed with the comms at my GP surgery. Had a F2F consult with GP this morning. When I arrived home found found a text giving details of a referral
@drmoderate
When is someone going to decide that syringing ears is well within the competence of practice nurses and HCAs. Deafness contributes greatly to dementia
I have a letter from the Director, My University Hospitals , Sussex to donate to a charity, for things provided in hospital. The standout is £50 food voucher for a trainee nurse. What have we become?
An essay. Loneliness is worse when your family is grown. It's worse at Easter..No excitement , no eggs. Just a day with a husband who doesn't remember a procedure he had in hospital this morning. Family seems to have disintegrated
Heard the interview with Timothy West and Prunella Scales. They've been married 60 years as have we . Impressed with how articulate Pru still is, considering how long she's been dignosed
Warm words for my local health centre this morning. The phone was answered within 7 minutes..I was asked whether I wanted F2F or phone consultation. They were fine with either.
We need a counter narrative sometimes.
@drmoderate
@DrSimonHodes
@DrSelvarajah
I have a problem with all these "strong women" posts . I don't feel in the least bit strong( withering ,perhaps). But I have to keep supporting my poor husband. Which is draining, not strengthenning
Why does no one listen to old ladies? I couldn't connect to daughter's wi-fi. Everyone in the house had a go. All the way through I was saying "turn the router off and on". Guess the result.
I am a woman in my 70s. While no violence was involved I can only see now how much of my earlier life was defined by coercive control. I thought at the time it was the norm
Don't think I've ever known exhaustion like this
Another day, another irrational argument.
Cruel and unusual punishment. Someone of 80 caring for someone of 90 with dementia.
Sorry folks . Another pity tweet
A large part of the source of my anxiety has been removed! I've found all the things I thought OH had thrown away. Things like birth certificates, wills, etc, etc . Lifted my mood considerably
The hardest thing about living with someone with dementia? The silence. The utter silence. From someone who loved playing the piano and listening to music...just silence. He has his own music with auditory hallucinations
Dear
@elonmusk
. I would appreciate it if you would eliminate all the female half-clad bots from my t/line. I am an 80
year old grandmother, and it's boring to have to keep blocking them.
Thank you
Will the media stop infantilising.older people please.?? We have the power of thought, We can decide if we want to be visited at Christmas. We do not , on the whole, wish for a deadly virus.
And enough already with *loved ones".
#R4
@mancunianmedic
@ballater6
You get it David. I was trying to explain to someone just now that my husband has used an ATM twice in his life .Both times under my supervision. He's 89
Old ladies like me be warned. I've found that the face mask impedes my vision and I can't see my feet. Must be something about the shape/ size of my nose. Twice I've tripped over the curb. Be careful
We carers can't win. My son and daughter took my husband to a dementia day centre today for a "taster" . He can't remember anything about it, but accuses me of " wanting to get rid of him""
@youngvulgarian
Can I have a slot as the partner of someone living with dementia facing a 12-18 month lockdown . I would absolutely love to be on my own
For anyone in doubt about the value of GPs my son who lives in New York can't find one.
His cardiologist has explained that it's because a) they don't get paid enough and b) the vast range of knowledge required. She said she has a small subset of knowledge
Please GPs and geriatricians listen to the family and especially spouses when assessing dementia
Just had the following conversation. Me " I really need a holiday". Him "Well , go then". Me "you can't care for yourself 1)
@rubytandoh
Shame. Your column was the only one I could take seriously in that Feast supplement. We take bets in our house on how many ingredients will be in the 'quick' recipe
Not a boast but pride in his hard work. My grandson has made the Dean's List in the Faculty of Social Science at Southhampton Uni.
For outstanding achievement
Statement. I have spent all of today doing admin tasks for husband with dementia . I wasn't interviewed for this job .I wasn't asked if I wanted it. I am nearly 80. Enough!
My grandson and girlfriend have just moved into their University flat.
Everything is neat and ordered with boxes labelled , e g. "snacks " and "medicines". Meal plans have been drawn up( specifying the menu and who's cooking )
What's happened to University students?
Husband came with me to help pack click and collect . A man tripped over him, and subjected him to some foul abuse. I reacted as calmly as I could ( wasn't husband's fault). I'm now destroyed. He has forgotten it.
Please, all you younger people, have some tolerance
I would love to hear an old person in public life saying that they had turned down the prospect of seeing their children/grandchildren at Christmas, rather than the other way round
We still have agency. We are still capable of making rational decisions
@DrRobgalloway
@LucyGoBag
I really see your point, but I would really confine this to nearest and dearest. In the past I have been in hospital, and have felt compelled to "entertain" casual droppers in, while in pain and exhausted . My close relations know when to shut up!
My 17 year old grandson is working at Tesco,combining it with 6th form studies. He's just been till-trained and is already upset that a customer has ranted at him for asking permission to sell a bottle of wine. This is because he's under age.Till operators are human too
Sir Nicholas Soames interview on
@BBCr4today
"appalling" " divisive" "if only he could moderate himself"
"destabilising rhetoric" .
And he wasn't taking about Corbyn
@Etienne_Sheff
@Laconic_doc
It certainly was. I did it myself 50.years ago. Remember prams were huge, there were no supermarkets, and we always had a view from inside the shop
I love Twitter. The fact that an old lady in a Sussex village can have civilized transatlantic conversations with intelligent people is worth the price of admission
Let me shout out for the head of year 11 who on my grandson's report said he was academically excellent and worked hard,but,more importantly,that he was a very kind and empathetic person and she hoped he would never lose those qualities. It's not just results that count
Please don't convey your displeasure by re-tweeting the scenes at Trafalgar Square. The BBC podcast of her son's distress at his mother's behaviour confirms that she thrives on the oxygen of publicity
The kids are OK! My 2 English grandchildren visited me today. The 22 year old is starting his first job ( a good professional one) after Uni and my granddaughter is starting University in 3 week's time. They were polite and respectful in the face of their Grandpa's dementia.
I think I'm allowed to say this at my age.
Why prioritise the very old
in this pandemic? We've had our lives. Don't sacrifice the chances of a whole generation
I've just received a letter from the DWP saying that as I shall soon be officially Very Old I shall get an extra 25p a week on my pension.
What presents would you all like?
I know I complain about mydementia. But he remains so.kind ..He has climbed the stairs to.bring me 5 glasses of water since I went to bed. I only need one😪
I have absolutely no idea how most elderly partners keep up with the sheer bureaucracy of having a spouse with dementia, in this age of online everything
Please could we ease off on the nuclear consequences with maps, etc..Some of us have been through this before with the Cuban Missile crisis. We do NOT welcome this disaster porn.
We can do nothing about it anyway
I am finding it impossible to speak to an actual person at British Gas. They are "very busy" .You would think they would spend some of their profits on employing extra call staff when they anticipated being busy. Wouldn't you?
Please can everyone sweep the leaves off the pavement in front of their houses. I fell today. I know that this is special pleading , and nothing drastic happened to me, but it could increase the numbers of elderly in ED departments