Be cautious of those who bounce back from everything meant to destroy them. They're watched over by the universe & their ancestors
Messing with them could bring heavy karma, as they are divinely protected & not meant to be underestimated or played with
~Unknown~
Narcissists target empaths who have no boundaries, are too trusting and don't know their power yet.
They can't touch an educated empath who practices discernment and protects their energy at all costs. 🦋
Narcissistic abuse can turn you into someone you don't even recognize.
I went from an award winning gymnast, a straight A student & an advanced ballerina to a completely screwed up individual.
I completely lost my way. I'm still finding my way back. These people are dangerous.
If you're extremely smart, super talented or have an attractive aura you will most likely be bullied. Not only bullied but there will be those who will try to destroy you
Your amazing qualities spark the insecurities of a narcissist & they can't stand that you exist. Stay strong
When you grow up in a narcissistic family, you aren't prepared for adulthood & don't leave the family in a supported, healthy way.
You're lucky if escape the family & when you do you're generally lacking adult life skills that were never taught... so you have to teach yourself.
Trauma survivors often get in the habit of spending time alone because alone is safe, relatively anyway.
Alone is controllable. We understand alone. We don't have to stress about alone.
People are unpredictable. When we're alone, there's less risk to manage.
~Dr Glenn Doyle~
An abuser will say their victim has mental health issues, when the abuser actually caused their mental health issues through abuse.
This is part of a strategy, so no one will believe the victim... since they have "mental health issues."
#NarcAbuse
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You absolutely have to become ok with not being liked
No matter how loving or kind you are, you'll never people please your way into collective acceptance
You could be a whole ray of sunshine and people will still hate you, because they're used to the rain 🌧️
~3am thoughts~
If you survived a narcissistic relationship and maintained your mental health, you are one of the strongest, smartest & most resilient people on the planet. Period. 🏆
Empaths can't stand liars, game players or manipulators.
One of their best & most rare traits is being completely authentic at all times... in a world sometimes full of self-centered narcissists. ✨
#TheEmpath
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Narcissists will target an amazing, gifted & talented person and literally gaslight them into believing that they are not, destroying their self-esteem.
I'm here to tell you, you are all those wonderful things & that's why they targeted you in the first place. Stay strong. 🤍
Never underestimate a cycle breaker. Not only did they experience years of generational trauma, but they stood in the face of trauma & fought to say this ends with me
This is brave. This is powerful. This comes at a significant cost. Never underestimate a cycle breaker
Unknown
When you've been abused or betrayed by family, especially immediate family, it becomes almost impossible to trust again.
Tread lightly with these survivors. Their walls are high. It's a privilege to be let in. Anyone who re-traumatizes a survivor of this, is pure evil.
Once an empath develops a strong sense of self & educates themselves on narcissism, they become masters at identifying narcissists
It's an immediate physical reaction. Our spidey senses go off. We get that sick feeling of past experiences & a strong boundary naturally pops up
Feeling safe with someone is so valued by a trauma survivor. It's one of the most precious gifts you can give to them. It may even be a new, first time experience for them. So always handle with care. ❤️🩹
As empaths we are known to absorb the energy of those around us. When I realize I've been around deceitful energy, I get physically ill... like nauseous. 🤢
Anybody else❓
If you grew up in an abusive narcissistic household, you most likely grew up with no good role models to teach you basic life skills.
So you had to teach yourself as an adult.
Be easy on yourself for mistakes you've made & give yourself credit for how far you've come. 🌷
Dear abuser,
A victim telling their story of your abuse doesn't ruin your reputation or destroy your "perfect life". You did that, when you chose the behavior
Just becuz you're well liked or have a "nice family" doesn't erase the evil your capable of... no matter how long ago.
Narcissistic abuse by a sibling isn't just teasing, bullying or sibling rivalry. It's goes much deeper. It's a true hatred
They'll literally try to destroy you through humiliation, manipulation & psychological abuse w/no respect for your boundaries. The entitlement is unreal.
Many times victims of long term abuse get diagnosed with having psychological problems...
When, in fact, if they were never abused, they would never have had any mental issues.
Abuse can change the chemistry of the brain & affect the nervous system, robbing victims yet again.
When you're in an abusive household as a child, your home never feels like a safe place
There is great importance in making your home sanctuary as an adult
Things like candles, soft music, live plants, sweet aromas & comfy blankets help
Add on any more ideas in the comments:
The narcissist has trained the entire family, by example, how to treat you.
Once you have been labeled "the bad one", you are fair game for siblings, spouses, relatives, even family friends to pick on.
~The Black Butterfly~
#Scapegoats
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One of the hardest things for someone being abused is watching their abuser put on a show for the outside world
They are masters at this, to the point where no one would ever believe they're an abuser... that's why it's so important to listen to, believe & support survivors 🩶
If someone tells you they're being abused by a narcissist or sociopath and your 1st reaction is to think they're lying to you because the alleged abuser is such a "great, nice person"... think again.
Superficial charm is one of the top criteria for both disorders.
~Unknown~
The body can literally reject somebody's energy. Your anxiety will start acting up anytime bad energy disturbs your spirit. Listen to your body.
~Higher Vibration~
It may not feel like it, but if you survived narcissistic abuse you are extremely intelligent, perhaps genius level
It is so complex, insidious, deceptive & subtle.. that to maneuver your way through it successfully, takes a great amount of intellectual ability. Bravo! 🎉
Narcissistic abuse can destroy the ability to trust. It can leave you always thinking you're being lied to, played or manipulated
Becuz the fact is you were & usually by those who claimed to love you the most. Trust is such a horrible thing to take & very difficult to get back
I completely forgive my younger self for being a bit impulsive, somewhat reckless & slightly out of control
I was dealing with unresolved childhood trauma & likely walking around w/some PTSD. So if you knew me then, give me a break.
I accept all of it, all of me, completely.
"Whenever I see someone with an abundance of empathy, I want to ask what heartbreak they have endured... for compassion is often birthed in the valley of despair."
~Zoe Clark-Coates~
#Empaths
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Can't clean the whole room? Clean a corner of it. Can't do all the dishes? Do a dish. Can't get in the shower? Wash your face.
Always look for the thing you can do, with the energy & focus you do have. Little wins pave the way for bigger wins...
~Dr Glenn Doyle~
Never underestimate a cycle breaker. Not only did they experience yrs of generational trauma
But they stood in the face of trauma & fought to say, "This ends with me"
This is brave. This is powerful. This comes at a significant cost. Never underestimate a cycle breaker
Unknown
If you survived a narcissistic abuse relationship... you're one of the strongest people on the planet
There's no doubt about it... I know what it took
It's a twisty ride of betrayal, manipulation & head games
And recovering from that kind of psychological abuse ain't easy 🏆
You don't realize how much long-term interaction with a narcissist, takes a toll on your physical health... until you're finally away & completely free from it. 🕊️
~Unknown~
#SelfCare
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As an empath I truly am most happy at home, with my own vibe & my own energy.
But I'll tell you, when I go out... there is some weird freaking energy going on in the world right now.
#Empaths
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She said.. Let me be clear. For years I let everything slide, but now I have boundaries
You don't get to talk down to me. You don't get to smile in my face & secretly despise me
You don't get to throw jabs at me innocently thru jokes. You don't get to use me
Unknown
You don't have to forgive the person who harmed you. Telling people to forgive is a boundary violation.
There is a popular myth that says forgiveness is required for healing. It isn't.
And whether you forgive or not... is nobody's business but your own.
~Molly Davis~
It doesn't matter how good looking someone is. If their energy is ugly, they're ugly
And once you realize their vile nature... it's something you can't "unsee".
What you once found attractive, becomes completely irrelevant. Narcissists are ugly beings...
The wise know this.🤓
I know some people say "everything happens for a reason" or "what happened to you made you who you are today"
But I think that's bullsh*t when it comes to abuse.
There is no "reason" that justifies abuse & I would LOVE to know what my life may have looked like without abuse.
When an empath gets sucked into a narcissists web, it's not because they are foolish.
It's because at the time, they believed that everyone had the same beautiful heart that they do.
Oh but trust me, when they know better, they do better. They become like a narc detector. 🧐
Narcissists are not smarter or more talented. They are just willing to stoop the lowest levels, to get what they want... things that a "feeling person" would never dream of doing.
~Unknown~
Abusers will use multiple ways to break down their victim's self-esteem. Their goal is to make you feel damaged, unworthy & incapable
Abusers are liars & deceivers. None of it's true. It was just a tactic... part of their strategy. Don't believe it. None of it. Not any of it 🩶
With full blown narcissistic abuse, they'll attempt to destroy their victim's entire life
They'll influence the people around their target to participate. This may be family, friends, co-workers, neighbors anybody
They basically surround their victim, while creating a smear
Narcissist are always putting on a show. They cover up their maliciousness by "copying" good people
They're acting in order to fit in with society, while doing their dirty deeds behind the scenes
That's why it can be hard to identify covert narcissists
Know the red flags ⛳️
Childhood trauma robs us of more than our childhood. Many of us enter adulthood w/undiagnosed PTSD from trauma, until we realize it
We then spend the rest of our adult life trying our best to heal & cope with it, while trying to navigate through life & relationships
#Trauma
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Narcissists have an incredible ability to triangulate third parties into abusing a victim...
This is done on purpose so the narcissist's hands "stay clean" from the abuse.
~Shannon Thomas~
If you're begging a narcissist to stop hurting you and to please love you, you are most likely in a trauma bond
Wanting to stay in a relationship with an abuser says you have a deep emotional attachment to someone who causes you harm
You may not even realize it, until you do.🩶
If you've made the decision not to spend the holidays with toxic or abusive family members... congratulations on protecting your mental health & honoring your emotional boundaries🏆
#SelfCare
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Psychological abuse is an evil & insidious form of abuse. Many narcissists are masters of this.
It can go under the radar to others, because they'll twist things around to make it undetectable
To survive this the target must stay grounded, balanced & focused. 🦋
Everything a narcissist does is for show. While genuine people just "do what they do" w/out any strategy to manipulate
Everything the narcissist does says, "How will this make me look? Will this manipulate others to get me what I want? "
It's carefully choreographed & it's a
If someone tells you they are being abused by a narcissist or a sociopath
And your first reaction is to think they're lying to you because the alleged abuser is such a "nice great person"
Think again
Superficial charm is one of the top criteria for both disorders 💯
~Unknown~
Anyone who says you have to tolerate & forgive toxic behavior from an abuser because "their family"... hasn't dealt with the evils of a narcissistic family member.
We don't "get over" or "move on" from trauma.
We are forced to "make space" for it.
We carry it. We learn to live with. And sometimes we thrive... in spite of it ❣️
~Unknown~
#Survivors
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Narcissists will talk horribly about their targets. They get to people who have never met the victim, to make sure the first thing they hear is negative.
Then it spreads.
It's usually that the victim has mental problems, this way no one believes the abuse.
#SmearCampaign
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It's so freeing when you realize you are not obligated to have anyone in your life and that eliminating toxic people is not only your absolute right... but it's in your best interest.
Cutting ties with people who consistently hurt you isn't enough...
You must also cut ties with the version of you who allowed that sh*t to continue for as long as it did.
~Unknown~
#Facts
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She said...
"There isn't room in my back for anymore knives. If you're going to stab me, you're going to have to look me in the eyes when you do it... "
~Concrete Angel~
Family is not "everything"...
If your family is a threat to your mental & emotional health you don't have to keep up this charade that they're "everything".
Your mental & emotional health & the relationship you have with yourself is everything.
~Adriana Bucci~
#Selfcare
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