I watch a lot of Dateline. The loved ones of the victim always say things like "She lit up every room she walked into."
Mine would say "She was a royal pain in my ass, I can't believe it took this long for someone to stab her."
I don't know who needs to hear this, but I was sexualized young because I developed early. Often. Not by a flag. Not by trans persons. Never once a drag queen. But by grown men my father and grandfather's ages. Every. Single. Time.
Read that as many times as you need to.
I don't know if people know this or not-everyone gets fucking haircuts. And if you want to talk about haircuts? Harper kept a hairstylist ON STAFF. And his hair still looked like THAT.
My mom and I are driving home from me just having a hysterectomy. We just stopped at a gas station that's not open, but mom says to me "do you want to get out and spread your legs?"
She meant STRETCH. Neither of us can breathe. She's been saying "wtf" ever since. ๐
Warning: lengthy rant to come, with some colorful language thrown in and personal anecdotes. Read at your own risk, but men...I might urge you to.
I'm not a thin girl, never have been in my adult life. How I've been treated at times has not been fun because of that.
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To the men I've seen weigh in on the sexual assault within hockey culture this week:
The next time a woman you love is assaulted, whether it's a sister, partner, friend...better ask them for proof so you can believe them.
That's who we are. Your sisters. Partners. Friends.
GUYS. My surgeon called today, about pathology from the large cyst they couldn't biopsy before my hysterectomy. It was benign, I am all clear, hooray!
The remainder of my staples also came out yesterday, and I should heal up fine now. Onward! ๐
If that was your goal, congrats. You achieved it. So go on, keep saying things like "she has a pretty face" when I know it's code for "she'd be hot if she were thin." You'll keep looking like the douchebag you are.
And my super hot friends? They'll agree with me. XO
Rant over.
An unvaxxed hockey coach in my town has infected 11 of his players with covid. Kids, too young to be vaccinated. We're supposed protect the ones who can't protect themselves.
Please, call me stupid. Tell me I'm wrong. I'll stay over here on the side of healthy kids, thanks.
@VikkiMatheson
That doesn't bother me a bit, and if you want to talk about my experience I was raped by two straight men in a public women's room more than 20 years ago. So, maybe we were never safe there to start with? I have zero fear of trans women. Zero.
@LaParkasChair
@ScottyWho69
@AmbientSynthy
Oh look, a guy who gets it! Could you give Scotty here a webinar or something? You could call it "Not All Men, But Definitely This Fuckin' Guy 101"
And guys, let me tell you...even if you're not like this, but you hang out with guys that are? If you're not calling them on it, you're not much better, and your friends are dicks. Which doesn't make you look awesome. I'll reiterate-the company you keep, matters.
The girls you think are 'hot' and 'beautiful'? They're friends with girls like the one on the cover of this magazine. They love girls like me. They're our sisters, our friends, our allies. What you manage to do, is look like an asshole to pretty much all women.
For those who think we weren't being taught anything about sex education when we were young, don't pretend you weren't tuning in every chance you got. Sue Johanson was real, she was warm, and she taught us everything we needed to know. RIP.
#SexWithSue
Quarantine question: what was the best piece of advice anyone ever gave you? I'll go first. When I was maybe 15 or 16, my grandfather told me this, and it stuck...
"Pay attention to how a man treats a waitress, it's how he'll treat you in ten years".
I am a woman who couldn't have children. No one really knows the extent that it's broken me.
That said, I will defend every woman's right to safe health care. Every. Single. Time.
God it sucks staying with my parents while I recover. You know what they're making me eat for dinner? My dad's homemade sour cabbage rolls, and my mom's linguine with clams. It's the worst here!
I'm not leaving now. Ever.
Hi, friends. I muted this yesterday, and haven't looked in the comments since. I just want to point out here, that if you come into this thread to disagree with me by calling me ignorant, moron, stupid, naive-your argument holds no weight because you have no argument.
He thought he was hilarious. But here's the thing. Who was he impressing? Not my (in his mind) much hotter friends, that's for sure. When he treated me that way, my friends wanted nothing to do with him-or anyone who would hang out with him. The company you keep matters.
The
#NoVaccinePassportAnywhere
hashtag has people making comparisons to rape culture. As a woman who's been raped, if any of you making this comparison have any questions, my fully vaccinated ass will be right here waiting for you to get your heads out of yours.
Maybe that comment sent her into a panic attack afterward, and she still thinks about it 20 years later, when you never thought about it again.
Maybe that 'beautiful' girl you're with, is too terrified to tell you that she worries if she puts on ten pounds, you'll leave.
So this take right here, is never going to be the flex you want it to be. Because these guys like this, make these comments, having no idea what the person on the other side gone through. No. Fucking. Idea.
Maybe she's had an eating disorder since she was a teenager.
Tomorrow after nearly three years out of the work force from chronic illness, I start training for my new job. I'm nervous, but excited to take my years of customer service background and apply it in a tech environment. I have big plans to make 2023 my bitch. Look out! ๐ฅ
So. Guys. It turns out "chronic illness" didn't even begin to cover it. I'm pretty sick. I'm not ready to talk about it, but I'm admitted in the hospital for a while. I have my family and my emotional support animal, so I'm better than most. ๐ค๐ค
The next one says "Except the fat one, you can go!"
So, to have that shouted after you in a crowded bar, you don't know if anyone heard, but it doesn't matter. It fucking stings. I pretty much wanted to crawl into a hole and die. One of my friends told him off, and we left.
Not once, but twice I've had comedians take shots at me about my weight, just sitting there in an audience in a small town bar. I hadn't uttered a word.
I've had random comments made in bars, malls, restaurants. Just out living my life. I'll give you a specific example.
If you want to have meaningful conversation about differing opinions, I'm open to that. But to spewing hate and vitriol like it's your job will not get you the response you want. What do you think you're going to get with that? Be kind. Nothing else works.
This will be a lengthy medical post. ๐งต
At the end of March, I had an appointment with my family doctor. I had numbness/weakness in my legs that was getting progressively worse. I was at the point that I couldn't walk and needed a lot of help, so I was staying with my folks.
I'd like to point out that not once under the NDP government when anyone complained, did I say, "You don't like it? Leave."
Alberta has been my only home for all of my 46 years. I've voted since I was 18. I belong here as much as anyone, and my opinions are just as valid.
One night out with girlfriends at a bar when I was maybe 19, the group of us were walking out to leave. We walked by a group of men playing darts. As we neared the door, one of them called after us "Hey ladies, don't go! Come back!" and then another one chimed in behind him.
@HeyItsCherrry
Oh, my girl...I am so, so sorry. That is another can of worms in itself, I can only imagine. I've been lucky with the men who raised me, this I know.
I am immunocompromised. On the day restrictions are set to be lifted, my husband (double vaxxed and boosted) came home to test positive. My rapid test was negative so far, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little scared and a lot frustrated by a day like today.
#COVIDAB
Kylie Jenner asking her fans to donate to a GoFundMe for her makeup artist who needs a $60,000 brain surgery after a horrible car accident when her kid has a handbag that costs $15,000 is peak 2021. Oh, but at least she donated 5K when her net worth is 900M. ๐
I have a confession to make. And if it changes your opinion of me forever, then so be it. *Deep breath* Ok...here goes. I...have never eaten a Big Mac. And just so you all know, I will never now, just on principle. The end.
I just checked in with my doctor at the weight loss clinic at the Royal Alex. She told me "You're doing a great job, and you should feel good about yourself."
I've struggled for so long. I'm not done struggling, because there's a ways to go. But today? I'm taking this win.
I am challenging everyone to post a photo you've taken from a place you've been. The only thing is that you NOT appear in it. Just a pic, no description. Let's flood Twitter with landscapes to ease this isolation. Copy this, post a photo & let's travel virtually around the world.
I'm on my way...I'm on my way-ay-ee, home sweet hooooooooooooome!
I'm being transferred to my hometown hospital, hooray! Not sure exactly when, as it's by plane, but it's happening!
I was once put into the position of having to address a woman for regularly not wearing a bra to church on Sunday.
I was accused of body shaming.
The truth is, it is incredibly unloving to allow a fellow sister in Christ to continue causing brothers to stumble without
I'm so thankful for how loved I am. I'll never be able to repay the love I've gotten. To everyone who's been there, thank you, and I love you. โฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธโฅ๏ธ
Today Robin Williams would have been 70. Whether he was Sean Maguire, Mrs. Doubtfire, Popeye, or doing standup, he was a joy to watch on the screen. Happy birthday to a true master of humor. ๐
@2whmitmayconcrn
@VikkiMatheson
Do you know any transgender people? My cousin is. And we knew from the time she was just little that she was struggling with her identity. She's not out to groom anyone. So until you've actually known that struggle for that person, how that goes? Just don't. Inform yourself.
I'm at a loss. If we're friends, and there's an issue, I'd much rather you talk to me about it than to cut me out with no explanation, when I have no idea what I did to be cut off. We're all adults here, and I'm a rational person. That's all.
My brother is home from Calgary. I'm having a sleepover at my parents' house tonight, and they now live in my grandparents' old house. I'm hoping there will be shortbread. We will definitely bug mom to open a present early. My heart is full. Happy Christmas Eve, friends. โฅ๏ธ๐
Today we said goodbye to our boy Brew. He gave us 15 years of companionship and was the best boy we could have asked for. Even though it was the right thing for him, we're heartbroken. Love you so much little dude. โฅ๏ธ
I got my email about my contract for my new job, it's official! I have a zoom meeting tomorrow to sign on as a customer service specialist. Training starts next month, eeeeeek!
Fun fact: The pacemaker I needed implanted has a defibrillator element to it. I've got a defibrillator in my body! I didn't even know that was a thing. So, if I have a major episode, I'll get a shock that'll feel like a judo kick to the chest. How crazy is that!?
@p00rpete
If you think I'm not against child abuse of any kind, you can kindly exist this thread. But to ASSUME that trans people are abusers is grossly misinformed, and the vast majority of sexual assaults are perpetrated by straight men, and that is cold hard fact.
This is one of the hardest things I've ever done. Warning, there's sensitive subject matter in this post.
The Double Standard Between Women and Men via
@wordpressdotcom
Finally watching Schitt's Creek, and got to
@danjlevy
lip syncing Simply the Best...that sums it up nicely. Epic scene. This show lives up to every hype, and then some.
My mom finds my take on those house hunting shows on HGTV funny, but I can't watch them for this reason...
She: Works part time at a flower shop.
He: Has a solid ant farm going, and an idea for an app he wants to market to dolphins.
Their budget? $875,000.
Like. HOW.
@AlottaMilez
I find it still happens, even here with random tweets I'll get creepy comments from random men where they'll after try to pass it off as "just a joke" and then they're surprised I don't think it's hilarious that I was sexualized by some man I have no idea who it is. It's gross.
I've shared this before, but back in my bar days even in this weather this is how I'd go out. I was not smart. Often I was the driver, and I had a friend that when last call was accounced he'd yell "Is it time to start the car?" and I'd toss my keys across the bar. Good times.
Can I just take a second to mention how amazing my parents are? They've been here at the hospital every day, holding down the fort with me. Bringing me treats, playing games with me, and just being here. Even though things have been hard, I'm so grateful for the things I have. ๐ฉต
The chances that it's happened to women you know and you don't even know about it are staggeringly high.
It's happened to me. It's happened to my friends. It's happened to women I'm related to. Look around you, men. You know them. I promise you do.
Had a job interview this morning. It went well, and it's a work from home job which would be ideal for me right now. Be proud of me, I suppressed my urge to say that I'm a serial killer when asked about any crimes I've been convicted of.
Paul Bernardo should rot in prison (or hell), and I'm glad he was denied parole. But Karla Homolka lives a normal life with children, and that makes me sick.
Kristen French and Leslie Mahaffy never got to have children. They were children themselves.
#NotAllMen
might be trending, but every single woman I know can tell you a story of how they've been made to feel unsafe. Every. Single. One.
No. It isn't all men. But what does that tell you?
I also can't thank my husband and parents enough for their love and support through all of this, it's been hard on all of us in so many ways, but we've found laughter wherever we can and that's so important. And to all of you who've followed along and given encouragement!
@abbythetweet
It's a remote customer service position, but it's with a huuuuuge company that was interviewing a lot of candidates, so I didn't think my chances were great. Thank you, I am happy! This is ideal for now.
Here's an account of how my assault was handled. Read it or don't, but this is how we can be made to feel when we report, and it's no wonder many, many women don't.
Obligatory hospital pic. Do not recommend a hysterectomy that's not laparoscopic, -5 stars. This is the worst I've ever smelled, and I miss sleeping on my stomach! But I'm on the mend, and the worst is over! โค๏ธ