Spiky author person with a rad jewelry shop. I like animals and tweeting a lot. She/they, either works. Queer, ND, and probably watching a horror movie.
I'm supposed to be writing but instead I'm researching the star-shaped sand of Okinawa which are actually SKELETONS OF MARINE LIFE FROM 550 MILLION YEARS AGO.
Autistic masking includes knowing the point someone is going to make in two minutes but having to pretend the lead up to that person getting to their actual point isn't actively killing you.
Can we please normalize the fact that LOTS of women shave their faces? Tons? At all ages of life, at all body types and ethnicities? No, it's not even A LIITLE BIT WEIRD. Yes, some woman you know has a full on face shaving routine daily, promise.
"Bernie disrespected the election by dressing that way."
No, you dipshits. Bernie's from Vermont and he didn't want to be 80 and cold when it's fucking freezing outside.
Poor kids spend their forties and onward collecting all the shit they wanted and couldn't afford from their childhood.
Incidentally, the Snoopy Snow Cone Machine is really loud.
Tip:
One of your friends, right now, weighs well over 200 pounds and you don't know it. They wear a 16 or 18, and you wouldn't guess.
People carry weight differently. In writing, don't assign fatness or lack therein to a size, bmi, or numeric pound because you'll look foolish.
Hey so--not aimed at anyone here because I saw it on FB, but remember, please, that girls enjoying femme things aren't lesser feminists.
The feminist concept is choice of expression, for every gender, and yeah, that includes empowerment from lipstick, pink, sparkles, and tiaras.
My screaming into the void moment is HAVING QUEER CHARACTERS DO NOT MAKE QUEERNESS A "PLOT." WE'RE PEOPLE, NOT PLOTS. QUEERS GET TO BE IN BOOKS THAT ARE NOT ISSUE-BOOKS RELATED TO QUEERNESS. WE GET COMEDIES AND LOVE STORIES AND ADVENTURES. End screaming transmission.
The first few days after your pet leaves you are so hard. They're still there. The food in the bin. The collar in the drawer. The leash. The medicines on the shelf. The treats and toys and favorite blankies.
And you pick these things up. And you put them in a box. And you bleed.
My family:
"Why are you going to Disney AGAIN next year?"
Because:
A) None of your business
but
B) It's accessible to my disabled friends
C) 99.9% of its attractions are fat friendly with the exception of Flight of Passage in Avatarland
D) It's a full vacation resort
Please know that whenever you lose a pet, whenever you are pouring your heart out about that loss, whenever someone dismisses that pain as "just a (dog/cat)", there's a stranger on the internet who's crying for you because they understand all too well and it kills them, too.
Fuck the
@nytimes
for firing a queer Jewish woman for being relieved she no longer had to live under a regime that glorified antisemitism and homophobia.
This is my friend Steph. The photographer is my other friend, Kimberly.
As a fat author whose girls get thin washed on covers, I want art like this on my cover. I want beautiful round women who get to be as mystical and as enchantingly gorgeous as thin girls.
This shit's toxic no matter what, but it's particularly egregious when it's her fiance, who she's pretty likely fuckin' like a monkey when Dad's not creeping outside her door.
Worth noting: this is the OH rep who said you can reimplant an ectopic pregnancy into the uterus.
I wrote twelve books. I was a NYT bestseller. I never, ever got as viral as this dog.
So for the folks who were here to enjoy Fielder's pictures, know that his departure was about as peaceful as it could be, with very limited discomfort. The potato went to his rest gently.
The people stepping up to help vulnerable folks pay groceries/rent/medicine costs are predominantly other vulnerable folks who had to ask for help themselves before.
The notion that the poor just take is SUCH UTTER BULLSHIT. They're keeping each other alive.
Boss at Starbucks refuses to use proper pronouns of a trans employee, boss posts anti-trans memes on social media concurrently.
@Starbucks
insists this isn't harassment. Harassed woman resigns. Anti-trans boss still works there AND defended by company.
@sarahhollowell
Them: "Your appointment is at one o'clock."
It's eight in the morning. I start preparing. Somehow, at twelve-thirty, I'm crying and have actually managed to run out of time because I spent those four and a half hours panicking instead of DOING ANYTHING.
I miss silly stuff.
Like going to the craft stores. And getting broccoli cheddar soup at Panera. Shopping the remainder makeup at TJ Maxx. Hanging out in my basement with friends.
Just normal, unexciting things that are so banal in literally any other circumstance, and yet.
As a fat person with diabetes who has, on more than one occasion, been told I deserve to die because of the disease I have that I "brought on myself" by looking the way I do, these notions that Rona is a morality scale issue bug the shit out of me.
I get angry sometimes thinking about how people will ring the warning bell about a celebrity, almost WITHOUT EXCEPTION a marginalized person, and the fans will CRUSH THEM... and six months later, like clockwork, said celebrity reveals their entire ass and everyone's like "TRASH."
Seeing more and more stories of the people who "did it right" getting Covid. While it's important to stress that we all take safety precautions seriously, Shit Sometimes Happens.
Catching Covid isn't a moral failing, says a person who got it and has been home since March.
People who ignore leash laws piss me off. Just because your dog is friendly doesn't mean every dog he charges at is just as friendly which puts both dogs In Harm's Way. Never mind that some people are afraid of dogs or allergic to them and you're forcing them to interact.
Something I haven't talked about.
I'm six days into Covid. Becky found out an asymptomatic student infected five teachers. She was one of them.
We did everything right.
No holidays. We stayed home beyond grocery shopping once a week and a mailbox. We masked and washed a lot.
People who had to do Christmas with the fam, who went to work and gave it to my girlfriend, a teacher, who brought it home to me? Yeah, you brought it into a care facility that housed my friend's mom and she's not going to make it.
Merry Christmas you miserable fucks.
Feh. Your wandering gypsy narratives would be much more accurate if instead of a mystical, whimsical compulsion to travel, you showed Roma & Traveller people being forced out of the places they try to settle by angry, armed gadje or forced governmental deportation.
😬
Shakespeare died 403 years ago today.
In celebration of his life, I will go yell at the skull of an old friend and consult with witches on a mountainside.
After a huge swath of people working home, successfully, for over a year, corporations everywhere start readying excuses for why people cannot continue to work from home post vaccination.
Queers who seem to think everyone can be out irritate the shit out of me.
That's a relatively new thing. It's not everyone's truth. Glad you live in a place, a family, a financial situation that is safe enough for you to display your queerness. See it for the privilege it is.
Just watched someone on FB say to one of my very good friend's who's about to have a baby on Thursday (that may be elevenish pounds) she's "sensitive much?"
If you don't get to be optimally sensitive two days before you have an eleven pound baby, I don't know when you get to.
I wish a doctor or someone with adequate qualifications would write a YA nonfiction about stuff people are too embarrassed to address with their kids.
That pants parts are all different looking. What a yeast infection. That diarrhea during a period is normal, etc.
TW: Rape
You'd hear so much less sexual assault survivor talk, whiny fucking cis guys, if you'd just stop assaulting people.
Funny how that works.
The onus of sexual assault is not on survivors to be silent, it's on rapists to stop fucking raping.
So I work in video games now.
Can't talk about it, but... this is something I've wanted for years, since I was a little forsaken deader mage wandering the Undercity on an RP server.
Life goal. ☑️
Plus, in New England, that puffy Lands' End/LL Bean coat? Is worn to weddings, funerals, walks in the park, going to the dump, possibly taking a dump, and everything between.
That puffy coat is part of our culture. And if you don't believe me, go visit Burlington in January.
"Listen to your body" doesn't take into account that my body can go 22 hours straight without telling me it's hungry and THEN it'll convince me gas station hot dogs at 2 am is a good idea so maybe you listen to your body. Mine has bad ideas.
I'll admit it. I love selfie culture. I wish I'd grown up with it. I spent so much time running from a camera as a kid. To see people of all shapes, colors, sizes, genders using this tool for empowerment... I just can't get my head around the selfie hate.
Look, as a fat girl I roll with a lot of language we've come to lean on to avoid using "fat" because "perceived as a pejorative" but I swear to God if you use "pleasingly plump" about me I'll throw a damned shoe at your head.
Hate.
LOOOOOATHE.
*Rocket eyes*
Carano, JKR, Pratt... every single one of them were called out on their shit, every one of them JUST GOT WORSE OVER TIME until the privileged people couldn't ignore them anymore.
But no one ever considers what happened to the /first/ people who spoke up.
"What would your parents think" doesn't work in general because people aren't beholden to their parents BUT it especially doesn't take into account that some of us had abusive parents we hate so 💁♂️
Left, crocodile.
Right, alligator.
While this picture was put on the internet to show us side by side snout comparisons, I cannot help but wish they were on a grand adventure together--going places, seeing things, eating people.
TW: Self Harm
After my last self harm attempt, I took Prozac (among other things) as part of my program to prevent me from attempting it again. Weirdly, the three dogs and three cats I had pre-attempt didn't touch my PTSD and chemical imbalance.
This is wildly irresponsible.
A kid who literally threw me to the floor and tried to crush me with my own desk in junior high school just tried to friend me on Facebook.
I swear that place is a ghoul breeding ground.
Maybe, if I repeat "saying no might disappoint someone else temporarily but will save YOU immediately" 400 times over, I will get better at preserving myself and my energy resources.
Head's response is totally at odds with Tudyk's "I've known him for 17 years and this doesn't seem true."
We're up to five or six women now. One of those women was Whedon's own wife.
Tudyk looks like an asshole, which is sad. He's a great chicken.
The thing people don't seem to grok is that fat people accepting fatness and the word fat removes so much of its negative power.
"You're fat."
"Sure am."
" . . . I said you're fat."
"Yep!"
"But you're fat."
"And?"
" ... fat?"
*THUMBS UP*
Me: "They didn't email me back. Why am I freaking out about this so bad?"
Becky: "Because the silent treatment and emotional distance was used as punishment as a child so you assume it's a sign you've done something wrong."
Me: "You're really rude, Becky."
Folks, it's okay for me to self identify as fat. You don't have to correct me, I used the word on purpose.
Fat does not instantly = bad. Can it be wielded as a weapon, sure, but when I use it about me or people like me, it's just a descriptor like "blond."
"What do you want to do for your birthday?"
Age 8: "A party at the bowling alley!"
Age 24: "Get so drunk I see Jesus."
Age 40+" "Stay home, wear no pants, pay no bills, drink coffee, not have to answer the phone, like, ALL DAY. Possibly nap."
Your perennial reminder that people who abuse power pick their spots, because abusing power with everyone gets you kicked out of the clubhouse a lot faster than picking on people who don't have the clout to defend themselves.
Hey internet. This is Walter. Walter is in the semifinals for Dogster magazine. His mum does basset rescue. If Walter wins, she's going to donate $5k to rescue. One vote a day is free so you can vote multiple times.
If you're storming the Capitol and the guy on your left has an Auschwitz sweatshirt, the guy on your right has a noose, and your best buddy has military grade tethers to take Congressional hostages, no, you're not the good guy, no matter how many American flags you wear.
FYI for my fellow fats:
Not spoilery but there is an entire fatphobic plotline in Endgame that devolves into some pretty shittastic fat jokes so go in armed and mad.
Not linking to any of the news coming out of GA today on account of trauma but extra love to my Asian American friends today. For the rest of us, here is a list of 50 charities you can contribute to that are working to build up Asian communities:
Artists who make your books, TV shows, and music are people. You can consume the art, but asking THE PERSON to stop talking about their political values turns people into commodities for your consumption.
We, the humans who make the work, aren't for sale. The art is.
Facial hair is common in all genders. It's not weird. If you have weird feelings about it, it's flawed perception, not an aberrant reality.
And if you are a face shaver, consider this product which is drug store accessible and leaves your skin feeling baby butt smooth.
My life would have been so much easier if I'd recognized earlier, "I'll put this here so I can't possibly forget where it is" is actually an infernal curse.
Needless to say, while other customers did NOT get their gold, The Mad Trapper did.
There's really not a moral here, except if a dude walks into a bank with wolverines tethered to a stick, he's walking out with what he came in for.
I see Firefly is trending.
It's okay to like problematic things but be cool and let people talk about those problems in their spaces. Doesn't mean you have to like your thing any less--just means you need to understand that it wasn't as good to other people.
My beautiful Fielder, my best, stinkiest buddy and perfect old man, turns twelve today. Born 11/11/11, he's had a couple close calls the last year, but he's doing great now and every day is a gift.
I'm actually glad Wanda Vision/MCU avoided the Roma origin. I know The Mary Sue did an article talking about missed opportunities, but unless a Romani creative was brought in with the power to alter and redefine canon AND allowed time to explain the cultural contexts, Nope.
People who live in climates with snowy winters who have infrastructure and clothing to combat expected snow mocking the parts of the country without those benefits during freak sub zero temps and snow have grown to be an Unfavorite Thing.
Don't be a dick. This WILL kill people.
Also, apparently The Mad Trapper had THREE total wolverines but could only fit two on the pole to get into the bank.
So note to all of you: two wolverines tied to a pole doable, three not so much.
Someone asked me how Dave and I weathered the storm for 20 years and my answer was our wedding was inexpensive.
My limited observational skills have told me the more you spend on your wedding, the higher the likelihood of your weird af divorce ending up in a HuffPo article.
Man tries to kidnap and assault woman.
Woman escapes and runs into nearby dojo.
Assaulter followers her, confronts dojo instructor.
Mistakes, as they say, were made.