I was listening to a podcast on how to learn a language. Key takeaway: children learn better than adults not just because they are “sponges” but because they make mistakes.
“That men force women to sell their bodies at a price, and that the lowest paid body is that of a wife. All women are prostitutes of one kind or another. Because I was intelligent I preferred to be a free prostitute, rather than an enslaved wife.” - Nawal El-Saadawi
Sometimes when I feel myself procrastinating I remember an article that said: “procrastination is an emotional regulation problem not a time management problem.”
Younger millennials (26 - 35 maybe) and gen z(s) want the same thing. So I find the slight divide interesting. If there’s any difference, gen z are a bit louder about their boundaries. I love it.
I took this as a reminder that I/we should take on life as a child. Be open to learning, being okay with not knowing everything, and making mistakes. Making A LOT of mistakes.
If we look at children, we get to witness how their pronunciations evolve as they practice and make mistakes. That’s how we should learn (with everything).
What hinders us as adults is that we are not always around people who encourage learning, and spend more time picking at our mistakes. So I understand why people don’t take the fail fast approach.
@wayneomari1
@RejiYates
Why do you have to operate from a space that could potentially make someone uncomfortable, when you could simply ask if something works for the person 1st? What’s hard to understand?
Hmmm Tulisa’s video has reminded me that a lot of (White) people don’t understand how racism works. We ask people to unlearn false perceptions because a lot of them are unconscious.
Do men crowd around tweets regarding sexual violence with "we don't know the truth. Innocent until proven guilty" because they are scared they will find themselves accused of it one day or? How do they have the same script?
The foul behaviour towards Black women hasn’t changed. It’s insidious. So instead of insulting women explicitly it hides behind “preference,” it looks like sexualisation, it uses antagonising tones.
I still believe that a lot of people should not be parents. It’s not an easy job. I wish we could get past “well we are married now let’s have children.”
It’s hard to articulate. But it doesn’t sit well with me when a Black person implies that the Black community only thinks about “body counts,” drugs, and fraud.
I understand the importance of having research/stats to support a point. But when people ask people to provide evidence regarding their experiences it’s so dismissive. Are you even listening?
Experiencing love expressed in a healthy way that gives no space for unnecessary pride, but leaves room for vunerability and growth can be life changing.
I am a big believer in making women aware that they can have better standards, and that they deserve better. But I don’t believe we should use misogyny and people’s situations against them to do this.
Black women's work is often overlooked and people are reluctant to call Black women geniuses. To deny that means you are not listening/paying attention.
It's interesting to observe how people dictate how and where Black women should express their daily struggles: especially when it involves breaking down how Black men contribute to it.
I think people get caught up on the concept of relationships requiring work. But if we agree that no one is perfect, and even if your values are aligned,
new habits need to be formed, many discussions to be had. If it’s not work it’s something.
@ChendGolden
I don't want to be the person that says it's the people you are surrounded with or have come across because I find that dismissive. But in my experience, I've been introduced to those experiences via Black people.
@wayneomari1
@RejiYates
It defeats the points because to you dominance doesn’t require communication or consent? You gain power over a woman if you don’t ask if she is comfortable with something? You can’t see how you have assaulted someone in the past and probably will do in the future?
The problem we face is that people think we have solved the “equality” issue because (some) women are now “allowed” to speak, work, buy a house, and have access to education.
We really need to analyse the psychological impact on kids (and now adults) who’ve grown up in a generation where seeing broken and unstable families/households in their communities is a norm
A moving piece worth reading.
The women who wish they weren’t mothers: Society "demonises mothers who want to be women before being mothers, women who want to be happy and not sacrifice everything for their children."
The list is long and that’s what excites me. Being able to explore new hobbies and interests. Travel. Start a new business. Be an Aunty. Family. Learn something new about myself and others. Learning never stops which is also exciting. Do nothing. Do something.
Constantly telling women to take accountability for how someone treated them does not make sense. You can have high standards and still find yourself in horrible situations.
It becomes an "anti-Black men agenda" when Black women describe how Black men have contributed to daily abuse. But we never mention that sexism is an "agenda."
To me it translates to “we can see people are suffering, but we need time to get used to people having rights. Please give us 100 years to make basic changes.”