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4 years

Being honest is great but don’t forget delivery. Being honest in a crappy way is not the same as being honest in a respectful way.

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4 years

I was listening to a podcast on how to learn a language. Key takeaway: children learn better than adults not just because they are “sponges” but because they make mistakes.

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“That men force women to sell their bodies at a price, and that the lowest paid body is that of a wife. All women are prostitutes of one kind or another. Because I was intelligent I preferred to be a free prostitute, rather than an enslaved wife.” - Nawal El-Saadawi

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"Marriage also is s3x work" -- The Slumflower

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3 years

A good manager makes a massive difference.

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4 years

Colleague: Helen your camera isn’t on Me: I know Colleague ... Me: ...

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@HelenAndI

4 years

I’ve noticed people have no sense of emotional responsibility for other people.

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@HelenAndI

3 years

We say it takes a village to raise a child but that goes out of the window if a woman is not suffering enough for people.

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4 years

Sometimes when I feel myself procrastinating I remember an article that said: “procrastination is an emotional regulation problem not a time management problem.”

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2 years

Younger millennials (26 - 35 maybe) and gen z(s) want the same thing. So I find the slight divide interesting. If there’s any difference, gen z are a bit louder about their boundaries. I love it.

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5 years

There are Black guys on here who insult Black women indirectly. Hair is a common one.

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4 years

I took this as a reminder that I/we should take on life as a child. Be open to learning, being okay with not knowing everything, and making mistakes. Making A LOT of mistakes.

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4 years

If we look at children, we get to witness how their pronunciations evolve as they practice and make mistakes. That’s how we should learn (with everything).

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@HelenAndI

9 years

Black teachers are so important. I look back at what my black teachers did for me. They are like parents

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@HelenAndI

4 years

What hinders us as adults is that we are not always around people who encourage learning, and spend more time picking at our mistakes. So I understand why people don’t take the fail fast approach.

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@wayneomari1 @RejiYates Why do you have to operate from a space that could potentially make someone uncomfortable, when you could simply ask if something works for the person 1st? What’s hard to understand?

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1 year

It worries me that people are not questioning what they perceive to want. Why do you want to get married? Why do you want kids?

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@HelenAndI

4 years

Hmmm Tulisa’s video has reminded me that a lot of (White) people don’t understand how racism works. We ask people to unlearn false perceptions because a lot of them are unconscious.

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@HelenAndI

4 years

Here is the link to the podcast. This is one of my fav psych podcasts. Happy to share some of my fav episodes later:

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@HelenAndI

5 years

No one's "legacy" is important enough to not be held accountable for abuse.

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@HelenAndI

2 years

The way Jacques told Paige to “come here.” That looks like something else many years down the line. #LoveIsland

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@HelenAndI

4 years

Do men crowd around tweets regarding sexual violence with "we don't know the truth. Innocent until proven guilty" because they are scared they will find themselves accused of it one day or? How do they have the same script?

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@HelenAndI

5 years

The foul behaviour towards Black women hasn’t changed. It’s insidious. So instead of insulting women explicitly it hides behind “preference,” it looks like sexualisation, it uses antagonising tones.

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@HelenAndI

4 years

I still can’t believe that people still think a “woman of substance” excludes embracing sexuality.

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2 years

I still believe that a lot of people should not be parents. It’s not an easy job. I wish we could get past “well we are married now let’s have children.”

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4 years

I don’t have a problem with having cameras on but sometimes I need a break. No one should call people out for it.

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7 years

Men who never speak up on rape culture, but are very quick to share stories of men being falsely accused of rape are so transparent.

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4 years

Tulisa’s “apology” wasn’t an apology. She wanted to say her side of things and let us know her dad was raised in Congo.

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5 years

It’s hard to articulate. But it doesn’t sit well with me when a Black person implies that the Black community only thinks about “body counts,” drugs, and fraud.

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@HelenAndI

2 years

Shaming women for men’s poor behaviour isn’t it.

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5 years

I understand the importance of having research/stats to support a point. But when people ask people to provide evidence regarding their experiences it’s so dismissive. Are you even listening?

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@HelenAndI

6 years

Experiencing love expressed in a healthy way that gives no space for unnecessary pride, but leaves room for vunerability and growth can be life changing.

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2 years

I am a big believer in making women aware that they can have better standards, and that they deserve better. But I don’t believe we should use misogyny and people’s situations against them to do this.

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6 years

Black women's work is often overlooked and people are reluctant to call Black women geniuses. To deny that means you are not listening/paying attention.

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@HelenAndI

9 years

Representation is important in schools. Having teachers who understand your culture and experiences are also important

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@HelenAndI

4 years

People also want to be honest without consequences. You can’t say something and walk away, it doesn’t work that way.

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@HelenAndI

6 years

It's interesting to observe how people dictate how and where Black women should express their daily struggles: especially when it involves breaking down how Black men contribute to it.

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@HelenAndI

10 years

You can love black women but if you are not standing up for them you are the problem too.

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@HelenAndI

2 years

If people knew how dangerous incels have become, Black women wouldn’t be called incels for justifiably criticising Black men.

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@HelenAndI

8 years

"Women have been socialised to reduce themselves. Our world has praised and rewarded women for reducing themselves." Chimamanda Adichie

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@HelenAndI

2 years

I think people get caught up on the concept of relationships requiring work. But if we agree that no one is perfect, and even if your values are aligned, new habits need to be formed, many discussions to be had. If it’s not work it’s something.

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@HelenAndI

6 years

@ChendGolden I don't want to be the person that says it's the people you are surrounded with or have come across because I find that dismissive. But in my experience, I've been introduced to those experiences via Black people.

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@HelenAndI

3 years

A good mother can’t be a well rested mother. She has to be tired and actively showing the world that she is looking after everyone but herself.

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@HelenAndI

7 years

If she didn’t provide proof she would be accused of lying. She provided proof and she is receiving backlash. Nigerian women are not protected.

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7 years

Here’s The Full Video Of Miss Dorcas Fapson Narrating Her Ordeal With The Taxify Driver Who Assaulted Her.

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9 years

Black teachers also know how the systems works when black students leave the educational system, so they don't play when you are messing up

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@HelenAndI

7 years

All the traits society tells you to get rid of, you can find a wonderful man who encourages you to shine a light on them.

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@HelenAndI

2 years

If my sister spots me working late by a minute they shout “capitalism” 😂

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@HelenAndI

7 years

It's never worth your wellbeing to be in a relationship with a man who enjoys and appreciates you dimming your light to make himself happy.

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@HelenAndI

3 years

Then when women come on here and say they don’t want children people will argue with them. Make it make sense.

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4 years

Article:

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6 years

I'm always reminded that I can't make people happy. I can create an environment that encourages happiness, the receiver does the rest.

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@HelenAndI

7 years

Men like this exist. Abegg don't settle for rubbish

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7 years

He should be reminding you of your passions/goals during times when you forget them.

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@HelenAndI

4 years

This is what you don’t do when a parent has to multitask while working from home. How does cutting her off help?

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ABSOLUTE SCENES ON SKY NEWS

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@wayneomari1 @RejiYates It defeats the points because to you dominance doesn’t require communication or consent? You gain power over a woman if you don’t ask if she is comfortable with something? You can’t see how you have assaulted someone in the past and probably will do in the future?

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2 years

The problem we face is that people think we have solved the “equality” issue because (some) women are now “allowed” to speak, work, buy a house, and have access to education.

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4 years

Pre-birthday celebrations 🎉

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7 years

Maybe women would stop trying to be docile & obtaining silly skills that don't fit their personality. All in the name of being someone's wife.

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7 years

Communication, vulnerability, & intimacy are extremely important to me in all types of relationships.

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5 years

This is why I promised myself that I would travel for my birthday. It has made a big difference. Every birthday keeps getting better.

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5 years

Someone once told me that it’s nobody’s job to make your birthday special but you. That was the best advice ever. Saves you a life of disappointment.

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2 years

Complaining about having 1.2k left after paying bills and necessitates when a lot of people barely have anything left. A lot of people can’t save.

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8 years

This book 😭😭. The storytelling. The metaphors. Beautiful.

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7 years

No time for social likeability. No woman should aim to be liked by anyone but herself.

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4 years

Jill Scott said we need to release our work to the world. “It’s mandatory.”

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1 year

The obsession with creating a nuclear family and keeping up appearances are the problem. The conversation has to go beyond categorising families.

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We really need to analyse the psychological impact on kids (and now adults) who’ve grown up in a generation where seeing broken and unstable families/households in their communities is a norm

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1 year

For a lot of women, they are crappy roles to take up. So at least know why you are doing it.

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@HelenAndI

2 years

Why do they have to justify so much why they kept Danica? This is ridiculous #LoveIsland

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2 years

“Motherhood generates a lot of contradictions and one of them is this: I love my daughter as a person, but I regret becoming a mother.”

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2 years

A moving piece worth reading. The women who wish they weren’t mothers: Society "demonises mothers who want to be women before being mothers, women who want to be happy and not sacrifice everything for their children."

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@HelenAndI

3 years

People don't pair swallows with the right soups then come on here and disgrace themselves.

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3 years

We're cancelling each other over African food takes today. Post your cancellable African food take.

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2 years

The list is long and that’s what excites me. Being able to explore new hobbies and interests. Travel. Start a new business. Be an Aunty. Family. Learn something new about myself and others. Learning never stops which is also exciting. Do nothing. Do something.

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8 years

It's very important as a woman not to make long-term life choices based on men's temporary, never ending goal post moving emotions

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@HelenAndI

3 years

It’s a ridiculous term because it belittles people’s experiences and reduces sexism to people being petty.

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3 years

This gender wars term is the equivalent of when white people accuse people of pulling the race card. Gender, like race, permeates everything looool

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4 years

Unfortunately they are only 7-8 mins long.

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2 years

Constantly telling women to take accountability for how someone treated them does not make sense. You can have high standards and still find yourself in horrible situations.

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@HelenAndI

6 years

It becomes an "anti-Black men agenda" when Black women describe how Black men have contributed to daily abuse. But we never mention that sexism is an "agenda."

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4 years

To me it translates to “we can see people are suffering, but we need time to get used to people having rights. Please give us 100 years to make basic changes.”

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