When the wild violets start to pop up we make sun tea 💜✨
Wild violets are antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, and a blood cleanser. They are also full of Vitamin A and C!
Imagine a woman who looked at mothering through this lense raising you.
Yes motherhood is sacrificial, that’s why it feels sacred. If you are clocking your hours and tracking all your unpaid labor your kids are going to feel that, js
5/ Breastfeeding is also time intensive and comes with a mental and physical price.
A year of breastfeeding adds up to roughly 1,800 hours. It's basically a full-time unpaid job, considering 40-hour work weeks and three weeks of vacation totals 1,960 work hours per year.
My best choices:
Getting married
Having children
Learning to cook well
Buying land
Growing gardens
Raising livestock
Building community
Owning lots of books
Staying at home to raise my kids
Homeschooling
If you are on the fence about any of these consider this a sign 💚
9 years ago when we bought land and told our friends and family that we planned to grow our own food and homeschool our kids every single one of them thought we were NUTS. Now no one does!! Funny how life is like that sometimes. Trust your gut! Even if it makes you an outlier.
You need to growing vegetables. You need to be homeschooling your children. This society that has been built around us did not have people’s well being in mind but instead only profit and efficiency. You need to be planting fruit and nut trees and spending your money locally.
Right now homeschool looks like the big girls working on sewing projects, the littler ones making things out of play dough, me peeling potatoes while wearing the baby, and everyone listening to a fascinating audiobook about plants.
Children don’t need classrooms to learn.
Homeschool hack: if you have a child who is interested in a certain topic (gardening, chickens, mushrooms, carpentry) get catalogs related to it. They will sit and read them for hours and they are usually free.
My oldest made blackberry ice cream last night and she said “this tastes like memories” and I said “what do you mean” and she said “we have made it every summer since I can remember. It makes me think of playing on the porch of the tiny house. And fireflies. And being small”.
You need to be hugging your babies.
You need to look into their eyes.
One day you will miss their crumbs and sticky finger prints. You need to know that stewarding the soul of this tiny human is the most important work of your life.
It’s time to look for wild violets!
Making tea is simple, combine flowers w hot (not boiling) water and put in a sunny spot. I usually give it 24 hours. You can add sugar or honey to make syrup and lemon to turn it pink!
There is a common misconception regarding homeschooling that you will be educating your child alone.
This isn’t true.
You can seek other parents to co-op w, hire teachers for particular subjects, seek mentors in a vocation your child shows interest in.
Endless options.
Dear antinatalists who mutter and give me and my children dirty looks when I dare bring them to stores during the day:
- I’m a mother of 5, my sense of hearing and sight are super human
-my children can also see and hear
-you all were children once, quit being rude/mean
Had some stuff planned for homeschool today but when the girls went down to the barnyard to check on sheep this morning they saw a mama in labor and they got to watch a lamb be born instead.
One thing I love about homeschool is you get to change course if you want!
Normalize giving fruit trees, sourdough starter, and your favorite recipes written down as gifts
Give something that will continue to give for generations, instead of ending up in a landfill
We used to have sewing circles and quilting sessions and canning parties and all generations of women would be together and stories would be traded and wisdom dispensed. Where do young women go for this now? How are we passing down wisdom from one generation to the next?
It’s always weird to me when the “homeschoolers are weird”discourse comes up because one of my deciding factors to homeschool was that almost everytime I met a child who was exceptional, happy, and a joy to be around they were homeschooled. They always impressed me.
Ways you can be homestead-ish with zero access to land:
Learn to cook from scratch
Learn to make your own bread, crackers, pasta
Buy food in bulk from farmers and learn preservation methods
Buy or forage herbs from trusted source and learn to make infused oils and tinctures
If you are not already growing food this is your year! And right now is the perfect time of year to plan and prep.
I will be adding to this thread over the next couple of months to share how to plan a garden so that this spring you are ready to go.
First up:
Water
Sun
Soil
For thousands of year humans baked bread w home produced leaven. In 1943 Fleischmann’s Company introduced the first dry active yeast to the market and now 4 generations later most homemakers no longer even know how to produce a leaven and they have to rely on store bought yeast.
Some friends and I were talking today and we have all noticed groceries are definitely climbing considerably. Please share your favorite dishes that are inexpensive and nutritious, or ways you stretch your families food budget! Let’s help each other.
My oldest (almost 12) has wanted a milk goat as long as I can remember.
This year she saved up her farmers market money and yesterday she bought 2 Saanen goats. She was ecstatic! She was up at sunrise today to check on them.
So proud of her and happy for her 😭😭❤️
Just found out my daughter bought a pack of bacon with her own money to make me breakfast for Valentine’s Day and I kept cooking the bacon and my husband had to replace it 3 separate times lol
There was a whole behind the scenes bacon drama going on all week I was unaware of
Did you know that somebody wanted to know why you weren’t supposed to wear linen and wool together (Deuteronomy 22:11) and so they did a frequency experiment and linen and wool both measured 5000 but when worn together on the same body the frequency was zero!
If you have woods on your property and are interested in producing more food I highly recommend this book!!
It’s one I keep going back to again and again over the years, always glean something new.
People be like, “Mommy bloggers aren’t doctors don’t listen to their nutritional advice”
I would rather get advice from a person who obsessively reads every scientific study regarding nutrition as soon as it is available than a person who took 25 hours of nutrition 20 years ago
How much do you actually remember from 16,000 hours of time you spent in school from K-12?
Homeschool. Give children a chance to learn things that are important to them and spend their time doing things they care about.
It is their one and only life.
Friend of mine just told me her daughter (10) was getting teased at school by other girls Bc her mom drives a 2017 suv and it’s not even a bmw, Denali or Benz?? I didn’t even know what those were at that age.
Not a day goes by that I’m not grateful we homeschool.
The biggest psyop in humankind has been to send all members of the family to different boxes daily in pursuit of careerism and education.
Families should be doing life together, instead most people spend a majority of their time w strangers who they won’t even remember.
Every mom I talk to lately is so tired of feeling like they have to do constant investigative work just to protect their families from the chemicals in literally everything.
I think there is about to be a massive economic shift. And moms are going to drive it.
When I was a young mom and realized I went through all those years of public ed and would have starved to death standing in a field of carrots or potatoes because I never would have recognized them I decided to homeschool
You guys I got bees for my Mother’s Day gift! And my husband found this bee suit used on fb on a local bee group page. He also got all the equipment we needed used locally! He caught a swarm w help from a trap his friend made.
So excited! Have wanted hives for years.
It’s funny how modern western culture normalized no primary caretaker at home and no one ever thought that might cause some issues. The home is like a building block of society, if no one is paying attention to forming the blocks well you can’t have a stable structure.
When I was a young person I wanted to change the world in a positive way. After decades of trying to figure out the way I could impact it positively what I realized is that what I did at a household level mattered most. The hand that rocks the cradle really does rule the world.
It became a habit when we started homeschooling to do some kind of character/virtue lesson in the morning. Before writing, before math or science. Character matters the MOST, my hope is that by touching on it first everyday our children internalize this. Here are some books:
the ballerina farm mom has an elite athlete level of energy and ambition that she has applied to momming and homesteading and I think it’s amazing and I feel so inspired but not bad at all about my own abilities sort of like when I watch Olympic gymnastics floor routines
Cutting homegrown luffas up today to make bath scrubbies and put into soap for Christmas gifts!
Luffa is so easy to grow and we have used it to replace all our scrubbies and sponges w something totally compostable💚
At my shower for my first child an older wiser woman said to me, “you cannot become what you are becoming without letting go of who you were” and it has stayed w me all these year.
Motherhood didn’t make me “lose myself” it was a caterpillar into a butterfly situation
Unpopular opinion:
Having children sounds terrifying.
As if I’d lose myself, my relationship, and my career. Yet everyone seems to do it.
Are you all happy?
Happy mostly when they’re older and you have people to come home for Thanksgiving?
I wish people would honestly reply