Learning from your mistakes is a crucial part of growing up. Instead of reflection and growth, our current climate seeks to destroy. My newest piece in
@WSJopinion
is all about "cancel culture" and its impact on our teens. Calling in ≠ calling out.
In case you missed it, in the run-up to
#ARC2023
, ARC Research has released six new papers. Mine delves into the science behind a baby's first 1000 days and the crucial role of mothers within it. Read the abstract and the paper in full here:
“It is time to bring a more optimistic vision and to believe in ourselves, in our civilisation, and in the things which made it such an extraordinary civilisation.”
WATCH: The ARC Vision Trailer | A hope-filled invitation to the future 👇
Decline is not inevitable. Purpose is
.
@drwarrenfarrell
’s address was so timely and true. Boys are falling behind rapidly in terms of mental healthcare and academic attainment.
Secure attachment figures and healthy male role models are key to saving our future men.
At
@arc_forum
, Warren Farrell explains the irreducible importance of fatherhood
In the UK, more men and boys commit suicide in a year than have died in all wars since 1945
Boys have fallen behind girls in every one of the 70 developed nations -- according to the UN, who still
Join us as we build a space for tough conversations and form an alliance that stands the test of time.
Let's put our heads together and execute a vision for a better world where progress and modernity do not mean eschewing our societal building blocks.
THREAD: Introducing the Alliance for Responsible Citizenship (ARC).
ARC is being established as an international community with a vision for a better world where every citizen can prosper, contribute, and flourish.
Read our launch announcement here:
We need to understand the impacts of the childcare situations we promote.
Thanks for having me to explain more about the importance of motherhood and contrasts between both the Swedish and American systems of parenting,
@foxandfriends
!
Opening Session 2 at Day 2 of
@arc_forum
,
@EricaKomisarCSW
drew upon evolutionary psychology to make compelling case for repairing our frayed social fabric
Komisar reccomends economic and education reform, and extended-family childcare policies, to replace institutional daycare
How do we discuss politics with our children — and should we? In this divisive time, we need to make sure that our children feel safe. I speak on a panel of mothers on
@foxandfriends
in a couple of minutes. Tune in!
Congrats to
@prageru
on their 500th 5-minute video! Check out mine from August of last year on the important role that faith and God can play in a child's development.
Thank you for the feature
@nypost
! As always, the nuance of my book is not always captured in 4 minutes, but my point stands. 90 minutes a day is not enough to bond with your child.
My commentary on the
@APA
‘s recent stance on masculinity in
@WSJ
.
“What’s unhealthy isn’t masculinity or femininity but the demeaning of masculine men and feminine women.” -
I don't want to shame mothers, but a society that tells them that everything is more important than being mothers. Babies are not vases, they feel stress way before they are able to say that they do. This is why
#momsmatter
.
It doesn’t have to be any faith in particular, but instilling a feeling of hope, trust, and order in your child through faith can set them up for a socio-emotionally secure future.
Please send this to every father you know. Fathers regulate aggression. Men in the home are vital. They teach kids how to separate & practice wise risking-taking. This is how dads “provide.” Brothers, please follow
@EricaKomisarCSW
!
#DadsMatter
Boys can cry, boys can show emotion, boys should be encouraged to have a healthy outlets and a dynamic range of attitudes towards life.
However, they shouldn’t be told that having more masculine traits make them lesser. They should be told to harness that energy productively.
Every child deserves an opportunity to experience self-discovery and form their own identity on their terms and at their own pace. To encourage self-discovery, however, we should not risk their mental and physical health. My latest for
@WSJOpinion
:
Marijuana is often seen as harmless but in teens and young adults, who are in the midst of the most crucial stretch of brain development, it can prove to be detrimental to their mental health.
If we don’t want to experience the ramifications of raising “iPad babies”, then maybe we shouldn’t be “iPhone adults”.
My latest on the impact of screen time on language and social development in children for
@FamStudies
As we strive for equality, we should create an equal playing field and not disenfranchize one group in service of another. My latest for
@WSJOpinion
is about how we failed to do so for our boys.
"Babies are not born resilient. It’s time we stop parenting them like they are and give them the support they need in the first three years of life." My newest piece on
@thrive
As parents, it is our responsibility to use these trying times as a lesson in embracing uncertainty. That means teaching our children to relish the journey and embrace the unkown more than favored outcomes. My latest for
@FamStudies
is here:
To avoid raising children who are excessively reliant on technology, we must prioritize being emotionally and physically available for our children rather than being absorbed in our own devices. My latest for
@FamStudies
on screen time and development.
As little as one extra hour of sleep can supercharge a child's academic performance and mental wellness indicators. See how later class times and other changes can create better environments for our youth in my latest piece for
@FamStudies
:
Caring for your child full time when they need it most is just as meaningful as having a career. You can always have years to go up the career ladder but the time you spend in your child’s 0-3 is irreplaceable.
Many progressives put Sweden on a pedestal as the land of ultimate equality, but at what cost? In this piece for
@WSJopinion
, I outline why the grass is not always greener on the Scandinavian side for mothers.
Many parents don't realize that their children are often a mirror of the struggles they face as mentally as parents and that can have dire consequences. I discuss this in my latest piece for
@FamStudies
.
Look at this lovely photo that my husband
@JKassalow
took of me as I launched my book, Chicken Little The Sky Isn’t Falling: Raising Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety at the Houses of Parliament thanks to my lovely hosts
@LegatumInst
and
@Civitas_UK
!
ICYMI: I recently chatted with
@louise_m_perry
on
@maiden_podcast
about the immense importance of present mothers as attachment figures and the role we play in our child’s emotional growth. Listen to the full episode here:
Thanks to
@LilaGraceRose
for having me on her podcast to discuss raising resilient children and how we can use the first three years of a child’s life to ensure their best outcome.
Should moms of young children stay home? What is the truth about daycare/nannies parents should know? What are practical solutions for single moms?
Psychoanalyst
@EricaKomisarCSW
joins the podcast to discuss how we can ensure the best outcomes for kids
LISTEN:
@EricaKomisarCSW
joins
@SandraSmithFox
to discuss her op-ed titled "School is a Hostile Environment for Boys," explaining what's wrong with how we educate boys. Plus, her thoughts on the growing conversations about two-parent households and their importance for children.
Proud to announce that pre-orders are open for my new book, Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety published by
@HCI_Books
.
Available in October 2021. Details here:
6) Finally, by prioritizing motherhood, I mean prioritizing child wellbeing above all else, especially in those early years. We only have a short time with our young children before they're old. Let's just get those early years right.
Science has finally confirmed that "there's no such thing has holding your baby too much"... as if that's something that mothers didn't know all along.
One of the most important lessons in life one can learn is the importance of trying your best and knowing your self worth. In a culture of hustle and fame-hunting,
@Simone_Biles
decision to step away shows the importance of prioritizing yourself.
For decades, girls have been told they can “have it all” without being told how hard it is and how much harder it has gotten to do so. With this mismatch in expectations, it is no wonder that we are facing a crisis in motherhood.
I've spoken a fair bit about what our current schooling system does to boys... but how does it affect girls? I discussed this and more on
@DadSavesAmerica
during our hour-long conversation. Watch/Listen here:
My book was on the fact that American society doesn’t appreciate motherhood as demonstrated by our lack of parental leave, flexible work arrangements, and other factors.
But continue ...
@WSJ
@WSJopinion
@EricaKomisarCSW
She wrote a book called “Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters” where she argued that mothers don’t do enough for their kids in their early years. Shame on
@WSJ
for giving her this platform to elevate such nonsense.
My first book,
#BeingThere
, is still sparking conversation over eight years after its pub date. Motherhood is crucial. It's time we as a society treat it as such. Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters is available here:
It hurts to see our children struggling in school or in social situation, but medication is a quick fix and does not assist our children in developing resilience to stress on their own. See my latest piece on overmedication on
@WSJopinion
-
Check out my latest interview on
@DadSavesAmerica
. John and I had a long and fruitful conversation that covered everything from my early career and why I became a psychoanalyst to the root causes of anxiety in society. Watch our entire conversation here:
"To be abandoned by mother in infancy – and the neonatal brain is wired by evolution to interpret being left alone even briefly as abandonment – not only damages our ability to connect with others, but creates the self-loathing that can destroy a life."
#ThursdayThoughts
about the relationship between motherhood, work, and feminism. Choosing not to do it all at the same time does not make you anti-feminist. Everyone must prioritize at some point.
#ThrowbackThursday
Donald Sylvester acknowledged how his wife’s choice allowed his family to thrive and Twitter decided her choice to be “just” a mother clipped her wings. Being a mother is a rewarding undertaking. It’s a shame that some others don’t see that.
@WSJ
@WSJopinion
@EricaKomisarCSW
My kids’ school has a heavy male presence and I think it makes a huge positive difference in how the boys navigate the day academically, socially, etc. My husband teaches in a school where he’s one of only a few men and it’s a lot harder.
We need maternity leave; but, we also have to be realistic about why we need it. At the same time, we can want a family-centric society where parents can prioritize their children but have to put the policy in place to make it a reality.
“Most politicians in Sweden are concerned with gender equality and work opportunities, which are important issues for women. But they shouldn’t come at the cost of the emotional and mental health of children...”
@haroriks
Thanks so much to
@yoalexrapz
for having me on The Spillover to discuss motherhood and the key tenants of my first book
#BeingThere
. The conversation it has sparked online has been fierce. Listen to our conversation via podcast here:
ICYMI: My latest piece in
@WSJopinion
explores what happens when women are made to prioritize what’s toutes as good for the economy over what’s good for their families.
"Kids who grow up without social media miss out on nothing. What they gain is deeper relationships with friends and loved ones, never being cyberbullied — and having less risk for depression and anxiety and more time playing. We simply need the courage to give them these."
"We’re not meant to raise children alone; we’re meant to raise children in close-knit families and communities." Thanks to
@CTmagazine
for featuring me and my message
We’ve seen a lot of policies that prioritizes daycare and childcare institutional but what about policies that encourage extended family relations and funds familial caregiving?
Mothers don’t have to be martyrs, but we need to understand that life changes with parenthood. Putting aside selfishness is the first step to present parenting.
#ThursdayThoughts
The loneliness epidemic is real and has wide-ranging consequences for the future of our society. We must look into the past as much as the future to see its fixes. Read more in my latest for
@FamStudies
here:
Happy
#InternationalWomensDay
to all! To me,
#IWD2024
's theme of
#InvestinWomen
: Accelerate Progress means that if we look at empowering the women around us, we enforce a net positive on society as a whole. From CEOs to SAHMs, we are all worthy of respect.
We need to modify the social, economic, psychological, and cultural factors that make parenthood devalued in modern society for the good of the next generation.
Thank you to
@rosannascotto
@BIANCApeters8
for having me on
@fox5ny
’s Good Day NY to discuss the Surgeon General’s new guidelines on loneliness and isolation and how we can cope.
I’m all for giving women the opportunity to be at home with their children when they need it the most — but on their terms. Read more in my piece for
@WSJopinion
:
Strong and healthy families are the thread of our social fabric. To get the best of it, we need the right tools and machinery in the form of policy and changing our attitude to life and relationships. See a summary of my remarks below!
When we continuously look at motherhood as a "penalty" with no benefits and just financial losses, we do a disservice to women and their children. A great piece by
@HadleyHeath
"My message that mothers are valuable to society and that children need their mothers in the first three years for their emotional security and mental health isn’t a dated message but a necessary and timely one."
As mothers, one of the most important things we have to navigate is balance. Balance just doesn’t mean spinning 500 plates at once. It can mean healthy decisions about when to drop a ball to prioritize what matters, knowing you can pick it all up again.
Every culture has prevailing cultural norms on parenting. Where we can learn form Indian culture is a respect for sensitivity, patience, and empathy in parenting.
2/3: It’s about the importance of prioritizing children over everything else when they are young and being as present physically and emotionally as you are able given your circumstances. No one can deny this basic reality and truth. Creating a child-centric society is crucial.
Our boys' academic and social performance woes are not due to any fault of their own. It is because we have established a system that contradicts their natural inclinations instead of aligning with their instincts. My latest for
@FamStudies
➡️
Parentel leave policies are crucial investments in the social and emotional health of our future leaders. It is time our government gets serious about their investments in children -- starting with investing in parents. Read my pice in
@NYDailyNews
:
"Sometimes stepping out of the fast lane, and living at our own pace, can put us on a more interesting, and more fulfilling path."
One of my
#Fridayreads
on the bad deal we as women have negotiated.
I have spent the last week in Sweden discussing the importance of prioritizing the first three years of motherhood! Thank you for having me and for coordinating such a great event
@HaroRiks
!
With mothers often craving support that's increasingly hard to find, it's no wonder that many women are delaying motherhood. We as a society must do better to support families, not only financially, but mentally as well.
Thanks so much to Pete Hunt for having me on the latest episode of his podcast, The Privileged Man. In it, we discuss how our modern culture of go-go-go and our increasingly detached nature has affected our child-rearing. Listen here:
Congrats to my husband
@JKassalow
on the release of the paperback version of his book
#DareToMatter
! A great read, particularly in these trying times, about how we can do our little but to make the world better.
The American parenting style is diverse but it seems that one thing is common: hovering. Kids need protection and guidance, but how much is too much? When does the judgement end? One mom says: “The hostility toward mothers in the U.S. just blows my mind.”
A new study out of the University of Glasgow indicates that breastfeeding for just the first six weeks helps a baby to transition and positively impacts their right—or social-emotional—brain development. See my blog post for
@FamStudies
on this here: .
For
#ValentinesDay
, let’s think about how love can transform our society.
@BradWilcoxIFS
’s book looks at marriage as a cornerstone of society and why we should promote it. Even if we all cannot live in the ideal, understanding it allows us to move closer.
Thanks so much to
@AuthorityMgzine
for including me as one of their social impact authors. It was a pleasure to speak to Edward about my journey as an author and the lessons I've learned in spreading the message of prioritizing our children. Read here: