Dr. Henry Cloud @DrHenryCloud Twitter profile

Last Seen Profiles

@sky_inuha

@Alex_Gee_6

@breaking_spine

@Somaia16_

@stwmaniax

@lzym55155

@HornyBavarian95

@RongoDonat86027

@baiyun24017284

@dewa_aditya19

@naeyuki0331

@XXXSavageChris

@cukienaknikmati

@theblksmith

@BinorRaja

@bokeplokalmalam

@JaydenAxson

@MertieStac14621

@AnceletClay71

@BeavisHarold

@bokeplokalmalam

@penyukastw21

@aoi_nanai

@stw46

@msnn88

@bokeplokalmalam

@ConceptKits

@cmrstage

@meicholtz

@stw_pdg

@Watashiwakainin

@SamaFrenie

@ConceptKits

@BinorRaja

@Ayah21689632

@ConceptKits

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Strange site in LA sky tonight!!

55

356

1K

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

People who know how to say “Sorry....my mistake” have the best lives. Period.

11

313

968

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Just because a thought comes into your head doesn’t mean you have to grab it. Most of the negative or fearful ones are just noise. Leave them alone. They will fall on their own weight if you don’t dance with them or fuel them. Don’t touch them. Just Let them fly by and dissolve.

16

371

944

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

Pick 1 small behavior with value, practice it daily for a month and see what happens. A short daily walk, calling 1 friend a day to encourage them, prayer time, reading 1 article in an area where you desire growth. You might be surprised at compounding growth from small steps.

3

218

895

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

Always leave things better than you found them.....especially people.

0

560

858

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

I am continually amazed at how many conflicts can be avoided if people would not make assumptions and just check out the facts first.

17

367

841

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

After having dinner with my daughter who is a senior in high school and will be leaving next fall, I want to remind parents of young children: the days are sometimes long....but the years are short.

12

160

796

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

I sometimes wonder how many times the word “maybe” is really a “no” that lacks courage.

13

289

643

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

One of the biggest differences in people who get what they want in life and those who don’t is the willingness to do things they don’t feel like doing. Simple but true.

7

317

647

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

My Navy SEALs friends taught me the moment they touch ground after parachuting in, they immediately ask themselves 3 questions: Where am I? Where is the enemy? Where is my buddy? That’s great advice for us in ALL of life. Find the answer to #3 and u can better answer #’s 1 & 2

8

226

595

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

4 years

When you are quiet about your boundaries in an effort to seem more likable or to avoid conflict, you will only become more resentful.

Take a FREE Boundaries Course with Dr. Henry Cloud

Set boundaries and silence the chaos.

www.boundaries.me

13

111

405

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Be careful what you say when you are scared, hurt or angry. It is probably not going to be your best.

6

325

584

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

Most bad choices have to do with what’s easy or feels good now vs. what will be better later....

4

212

579

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

When u have to do something difficult, like a tough part of work, say “thank You” for first of all, having the work, and secondly having the ability to do it. Gratitude fuels.

1

185

582

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

One of the biggest differences in people who get what they want in life vs. those who don’t, is the willingness to do things they don’t want to do and which are painful to do.

10

280

553

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

External conflicts are difficult to resolve before resolving the internal conflicts that fuel them. That’s why so many people give up and walk away, thinking they have left the conflict by getting away from the person....only to see it again with another.

10

278

536

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

You don’t have a choice at times over what happens to you or around you. But you always have a choice how you will respond.

7

216

529

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

My mother used 2 tell me “save ur pennies. Pennies turn into nickles. Save your nickles. Nickles turn into quarters. Save your quarters, they turn into dollars.” Love is like that too. Small acts of care in a relationship, over and over, turn into deep love.

4

129

516

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

I love this....

9

214

508

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Something I was reminded of today: you never know what doors are going to open or what answers will appear until you enter into the process. Trust the process.

11

139

515

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

People without boundaries respond automatically to the anger of others. They rescue, seek approval, or get angry themselves. There is great power in inactivity. Do not let an out-of-control person be the cue for you to change your course:

8

205

510

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Remember....you can love and support someone without taking responsibility for them. They are not the same.

3

159

500

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

It’s a New Year!!!! Celebrate wins, learn from losses, and take that wisdom into ‘18. Don’t let anything from last year ruin this one....learn, let go, and move on! The future begins today!

3

224

493

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Time doesn’t heal all things. If you have an infected finger, all the time in the world won’t heal it. The right ingredients with time will heal it. Are you getting the support you need?

6

207

495

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

If you are thinking of someone strongly for “no reason,” there may be a reason. They may need your prayers, or a call to see how they are. We “sense” what is going on with the people we are connected to. Act on it.

9

166

485

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

10 years

Remember: No problems, no profits. No problems, no intimacy. No problems, no trophy's. Nothing of value has no obstacles in its path.

9

510

476

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

When we truly trust someone, we can be “careless.” We don’t have to watch our back....they have it for us. We don’t have to be on guard, or walk on eggshells fearing to say what we are thinking. And, we don’t have to constantly worry about what they are doing. Trust rocks!

10

214

479

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Have a difficult conversation, apologize, make a thousand sales calls with 998 rejections, study, fast, get another degree, pray long and hard, open up and share your pain, swallow pride, try something u may fail, face a fear. Just a start:)

7

172

466

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

There is a difference in patience and avoidance. Patience is waiting for a good reason....avoidance is waiting out of fear.

3

332

459

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Many of our conflicts with others, maybe most, have to do with conflicts with ourselves.

3

183

465

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Daily habits, day after day, turn into years, which produce the results of your whole life. Choose them well.

3

252

453

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Life goes by fast. Period. Savor each day and every moment of connection.

6

169

444

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

I love the verse that says God’s mercies are new every morning. Remember that EACH day can be a new beginning for you...and to offer to others. Keep boundaries, but offer, and seize, new beginnings. Forgive and begin again.

3

122

446

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

Remember: Research shows that only 10% of our happiness comes from external circumstances. A huge portion comes from our life practices.

2

295

424

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Would you rather be resented or feel resentful? When you say “no” to a controlling person, you may be resented. But that’s better than saying “yes” and then resenting them for “controlling” you. Harboring resentment will kill your heart.

4

163

430

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

The tone with which you begin a conflict is one of the most important predictors of the outcome. Begin softly and lovingly… You’ll end up in a better place.

5

97

423

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

I've learned to not listen to fear. It is a lousy guide, a terrible teacher, a worse student, never learning anything...and no fun at all.

3

322

407

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

When you feel resentment, ask yourself: “Who am I not setting limits with? Who am I not saying ‘no’ to?” Boundaries begin with ourselves!

5

134

409

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

A sure sign that you are getting wiser: when you are increasingly becoming more aware of your own faults than the faults of others. Hard to do.....but it brings life and problems that we actually can solve.

1

177

415

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Time & energy are all we have. Where & how we invest the energy of our hearts, minds, souls & strength in the moments of time we have = our life. When you look back at a day, or week, or year...what you will have left is the fruit of where u invested those energies. Invest well:)

4

186

412

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

10 years

Character trumps ability. With good character u can up your ability. With poor character u will render your ability useless.

8

503

397

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Don’t desire to be “right.” Desire the “right” answer....even if it does not come from you.

6

134

394

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

If you can’t follow, you can’t lead.

4

142

396

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

If someone can't follow.....they can't lead. Be careful of promoting or believing people who can't submit to others....

5

250

389

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

4 years

Remember: Every time you say “yes” to something that involves time, energy, or money......you just said “no” to something else that you won’t have that time, energy or money to spend. Make sure that “yes” was worth it.

5

114

393

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

The person you are struggling with may be your biggest opportunity for growth, wisdom, and maturity.

8

125

386

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Motivation alone won’t accomplish ur goals. It waxes and wanes. What accomplishes goals is prioritizing the activities that make them happen. “Prior” means “before.” Those actions must come before other things that are less important. Otherwise, they’ll inevitably get neglected.

2

152

382

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Tomorrow....go to work and let someone know how much you appreciate what they do to make things better. Tell them how they make it better for you.

1

145

383

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Expecting something to happen while doing nothing to make it happen is called a nap.

5

200

371

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

10 years

A good sign of how secure you are is what it takes to "offend" you. The more secure we are, the less we take offense.

27

402

359

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

3 years

Sorry does not equal trust. Sorry equals forgiveness. Changed behavior equals trust.

6

87

377

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Don’t compare urself 2 where someone else “is.” Use others’ examples to inspire you at times, not to judge you. If you want to compare, compare the way you are working on something to the way that fruitful people work. Imitate their process vs. compare yourself to their outcome.

3

159

370

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Treat “that person” better than u were treated. Don’t let darkness make u dark 2. Don’t be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

0

176

365

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

A little quiet time every day can change your life.

5

93

361

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Emotionally intelligent people recognize the difference between someone opening up their heart and sharing something when they need support, and letting someone simply spout off useless negativity.

0

159

359

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

4 years

If you are always the smartest person in the room, you should find a different room...

3

75

361

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

In your past, you may have survived by not trusting, or being vulnerable to anyone around you. Now, in a different place, with good people, you have to do exactly the opposite to thrive. Make the leap.

8

127

355

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Be open to hearing before you disagree. You might learn something that improves your view. At worst, you’ve shown respect and care.

2

184

357

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Don’t make people who you want them to be. Find out who they are. Honor people by honoring how God created them. Don’t make a pig sing.

5

138

357

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

When you name a feeling it increases your brain’s ability to deal with it.

3

107

354

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Each time you do “the new hard thing,” whatever that is for you, it strengthens your ability to one day have it be second nature.

0

159

359

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

Remember…take charge of the things you can control, and don’t worry about the things you can’t. Good reminder for this season! Take care of your health the best you can!

4

92

358

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

Remember: "Connect" before "correct." Rules without relationship leads to a lot of problems...and fixes nothing.

3

231

354

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Trust is the most important foundational element of a relationship, in life or business. Nurture it, protect it. Everything rests upon it.

3

154

344

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

If you want to reach a goal in work, health, spiritual growth, a hobby, skill, or a relationship, DON’T only measure the goal. MEASURE the adherence to, implementation of, the ACTIVITIES that cause the goal to be reached. Keep track of what you DO. That will make the goal happen.

5

134

349

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

When someone is talking to us, it is an invitation to listen deeper, not to remind us of something we want to say about ourselves.

4

210

341

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

When you analyze the thinking patterns of great athletes & other high performers, 1 factor stands out over and over: the lack of self-critical, self-attacking thinking about their failure or mistakes. They do not make themselves “bad,” but learn from it and move on to do better.

2

150

338

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

Research shows that how you view stress is as powerful as the “amount of stress you are under.” Those who view stress as a good thing, a challenge to grow, & interpret it positively have a 43% less chance of dying early, & do better throughout. “Consider it all joy..” James 1:2,3

1

89

336

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

In a conflict or when u r struggling with someone, one of the most important questions to ask urself is "what's my part in this problem?"

0

156

330

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

“Nice guys finish last” is not true....Strong, nice guys, in fact, do very well. Combine strength with care and you will go far. Be strong, and be compassionate.

3

117

332

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

4 years

Some key words to making life work: I need your help; I’m sorry; Please forgive me; I forgive you; I’m scared, but I’ll do it; I don’t like that so please don’t do that again; I love you; Thank you; I’m sad; I disagree; Dear God; Not my will but thine.

3

80

332

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Ask yourself: What is the 1 thing that if u do that today, u can go to sleep tonight and say, "So glad I did that today." Then........do it.

3

177

327

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

When you r in a tuff conversation & feel urself getting riled, use that as a signal 2 not instantly speak. Wait, don't respond till cool.

9

143

325

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

You can love someone without taking their abuse

7

76

323

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

For my praying friends...please pray for a friend of mine who is in critical condition...for him to recover. Thank you very much:)

23

13

322

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

People pleasing will give you a false sense of control....like u can make others like you. But, it is exhausting...and not true. Be urself.

4

182

325

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

Life runs on two words: “Yes” and “No.” It is how you use them that determines where you end up. Say “yes” to life giving things, and say “no” to things that diminish you or your life or others you love. Usually when we get these backwards, it is because of some sort of fear.

2

126

321

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

4 years

While you might be attracted to someone’s externals, talents and accomplishments, remember: what you will actually experience long term is their character. Look past what is shiny.

5

108

319

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

If u want 2 have good relationships, we have only 2 options: find perfect people or learn to forgive. Hint: perfect people r boring unicorns

1

187

305

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

If you can't say "no," how does someone believe your "yes" is true?

2

133

316

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none. William Shakespeare

2

133

318

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

6 years

You don’t “overcome” a person. You overcome your poor or negative internal and external responses to the person.

2

115

309

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Encourage one another......neuroscience backs this up.....the brain needs 5 positive inputs in order to use 1 negative criticism well.

2

203

312

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

When you listen more than you talk, you learn things worth talking about.

1

181

308

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Every now and then I love having a day like today. I am doing absolutely nothing. It’s awesome:)

17

24

307

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

When you can observe a mistake without anger or guilt at yourself, you are more likely to learn from it and less likely to repeat it.

0

67

308

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Not all things or people are toxic. There is no reason to start a war over someone’s immaturity or perfections that rub us the wrong way. That is the time for us to grow in patience and longsuffering, the ability to wait on people as they grow and mature.

4

112

311

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

Lower your threshold to being personally offended and you will open the door for greater understanding and connection with others. Don’t take things so personally and you will be able to love more. Decreased drama equals increased life:)

3

112

308

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Why are you trying to please that person who is unpleasable?

7

103

307

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

Anyone feel like your “no” requires justification? Remember, “No.” is a complete sentence:)

1

79

304

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Remember...relationship proceeds everything: obedience, followership, investment, learning, modeling. Connect first...lead and guide second.

2

155

302

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

9 years

We judge ourselves on our intent, others judge us on our behavior, results and consequences.

8

216

297

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

'People have uphill goals and downhill habits. The only way to fix is to add intention to your life.' @JohnCMaxwell #GLS16

0

215

294

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

11 years

Sorry does not equal trust. Sorry equals forgiveness. Changed and different behavior equal trust.

27

334

298

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Don't blame someone for what they feel. Try to understand it, even if it makes no sense to you. That will help.

1

113

305

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

7 years

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you sow. Robert Louis Stevenson

3

115

300

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

Just like food, we must metabolize experience. Keep what's helpful, its wisdom and skills. Eliminate the rest through grief & forgiveness.

4

216

289

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

5 years

Pick one thing....anything (how you treat someone, how you eat, how you do some aspect of your job....anything) and do it 10% better today than yesterday. Watch what happens. Then tell someone what you learned.

5

60

294

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

8 years

Stop. Get quiet, undistracted. FEEL what's most important to u...whom u care about....whom u love. Let those things help u find direction.

2

128

291

Dr. Henry Cloud

@DrHenryCloud

3 years

I love this: "Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God." Corrie Ten Boom

1

47

299