This
#blackhistorymonth
, we gave 60 Black Beauty Supply Kits to
@UNCPsychiatry
, which means we have given a total of 300 Black Beauty Supply Kits made by
@HairizonBeauty
!
We had so many kits we needed a
@uhaul
to bring them to UNC!
Your donations made this possible.
This world is a dangerous place for black women esp those with social anxiety/mental health challenges. I really hope Summer Walker keeps creating even if she isn’t in the industry anymore.
TW: rape
I will never forget my graduation because she walked that mattress across the stage and one of the school’s administrators didn’t shake her hand.
We desperately need therapists who are abolitionists. So many of us can't tell our therapists that we have suicidal thoughts because we fear the police will get sent to our house. It's terrifying to see your therapist as a cop.
“Reach out and ask for help!”
The help: a police wellness check that can get you killed, involuntary hospitalization, therapists you can’t afford, sub-par care marketed to marginalized communities with low income
TW: suicidal ideation
It’s very possible to talk to someone, call a suicide prevention hotline, and use a mental health resource and still feel suicidal.
I want to hold space for people who have chronic suicidal thoughts even after doing all the “right things.”
Growing up in the south is a constant act of negotiation. Can’t boycott Wal-Mart because it’s the only grocery store in town. Can’t boycott Uber or Lyft because your town has no reliable public transportation.
Not everyone has the privilege to appear as “woke.”
TW: suicide
I really appreciate Regina King for affirming her son's humanity and struggle. Suicide can be an unwanted but valid response to excruciating pain. Validating what suicidal people go through is what keeps many of us alive.
Regina King speaks on the loss of her son Ian two years after his passing: “I’m a different person now than I was. Grief is a journey. I understand grief is love that has no place to go… I was so angry with God. Why would that weight be given to Ian?” [🎥:
@GMA
]
Black women saved my life. I had the longest panic attack ever at the Beyonce concert and Black women reminded me to breathe and helped me to my seat (I’m afraid of heights). They even checked in on me during the show.
I love you Houston! I love you Black women!
TW: suicidal thoughts
My heart breaks for Megan. She was betrayed by the friends she trusted and the industry peers who took an abuser's side.
I want this new year to have softness and ease so Megan can truly heal.
TW: suicide
I attended my first Alternatives to Suicide group. Typically, talk about suicide is banned because it’s a “contagious behavior” but not in Alt2Su. It was freeing and I did not get more suicidal hearing other people’s struggles. I felt that I was seen and not alone.
Someone asked me what I would say to a suicidal person and I said I didn’t know how to answer that because suicidal people need more than a hotline, we need structural support. And then it got awkward lol
These issues are happening because non-suicidal people are dominating conversations on suicide.
We could have told y’all how hotlines are hit or miss, friends get tired of listening to your problems, and many mental health resources are a part of the prison industrial complex.
Black students with disabilities are often targets of police violence. I applaud disability justice activists who have been fighting against this form of targeting for years.
I’m moving back to the East Coast and my therapist asked me four questions that can help me have what she calls an “Honorable Closure.”
1. What am I grateful for?
2. How was I challenged?
3. What am I willing to forgive myself for?
4. Where do I want to go from here?
TW: suicidal thoughts
I called the suicide prevention hotline and the counselor was so quick to ask me if I am a danger to others. She basically talked over me. I hardly spoke.
I wish counselors confronted their anxiety and need for control.
I really hope teletherapy continues after the pandemic because my current therapist lives over two hours away and she is amazing. Finding Black DBT therapists is so challenging. I do not want to start over.
I really want Black people to be freed from the shackles of caring about how white people think especially when it comes to Black folk dealing with mental health and substance use issues.
I want to hold space for Britney when she said "I'm not crazy" to express that she's capable of making her own decisions while also knowing people who are labeled "crazy" are also deserving of agency and liberation from conservatorships.
It’s time for us to interrogate how presenting mental health resources as a “cure” for suicidal thoughts can produce more suicidality in the people who are not cured by them.
We need self-reflection to determine if we’re giving someone mental health resources because they need them or because we are terrified of sitting with their suicidal thoughts.
What made the Montgomery bus boycotts so powerful is that black folks offered their cars to black people who could not boycott buses on their own. The boycott wasn’t just a bunch of rich black people shaming others for not owning a car.
So much of suicide prevention conversations is about giving people “hope” but not tangible resources like housing and a living wage that can actually give people the will to live.
As a chronically suicidal person, it’s amazing to have a “I’m so happy to be alive” moment. Today, I got that feeling from a strawberry lemonade cocktail 😂😂😂😂
If Simone Biles has a bad mental health day at her job, she can potentially die. We've overlooked how life-threatening her moves are because she makes it look so easy.
Simone made the right decision.
TW: suicide
Punishing suicidal people is not going to end the suicide epidemic.
You have to actually address the root problems of suicidal people and meet their material needs. I am so tired of saying this.
I'm trying to name my emotions instead of randomly saying "I want to die" every time I feel something unpleasant. My feelings seem smaller and less overwhelming when I name them.
I dropped off 20 Black beauty supply kits at UNC Psychiatry for their adolescent unit and let me tell you, I want to keep doing this. I was deeply moved by their appreciation.
Please send this donation link to someone who has the resources to give!
If doctors listened to the disability justice community this would have never happened. I am enraged that children are losing their childhoods to medical ableism.
Depressed While Black is officially a 501(c)(3) non-profit!!! After I receive a license to solicit donations in the state of North Carolina, you can give tax-deductible donations to my Mental Hospital Wish List program!
TW: suicidal ideation
But be careful disclosing that you're suicidal because you may be told to drop out of school and get a police escort to the hospital! That happened to me. If you can, try to have someone who can advocate for you.
A list of mental health resources for yourself or loved ones are available online here:
If you're experiencing an emergency or need help right away, please call 911.
#StopTheStigma
TW: suicidal ideation
People need to realize that for folks who deal with chronic suicidal urges, doing nothing and just being alive is an accomplishment. Doing nothing is a sign we are actually doing a whole lot to resist what our pain tells us to do.
TW: suicidal ideation
I wish there was a greater focus on making people's lives worth living than preventing access to suicidal methods that people don't even have ideations about.
I am so disturbed by the way people have responded to COVID and it's all hitting me at once. The ableism, the way human beings are discarded, it's so evil.
The US has a certain genocidal whiteness that is fueling all of this.
A lot of these wellness activities didn't work for me because my brain was not well. Now that I'm healing I see why neurotypicals think yoga will save people. Because they're well enough to feel the benefits. That's privilege.
There comes a time in every depressed person’s life when miraculously, they have both the right amount of confidence and the right type of lighting. This was that moment.
Being mentally ill is hilarious because people will give you advice that will literally send you into a crisis and you have to smile and thank them for being completely oblivious to your struggle.
-Childhood abuse and institutionalization
-Life-threatening bronchial asthma
-Bipolar
DMX was a survivor. I’m just learning how trauma and disability impacted his life.
"We have the right to have mental health support that acknowledges how our journey is different from others."
I wrote this article for a majority white pub and tried to comply with their toned-down standards but they got shook so here it is on Medium.
Two years ago to this day I was released from a mental hospital with no personal care items of my own.
Thanks to your generosity, you gave a wonderful Valentine's Day gift to mental hospital patients in need. Today I dropped off clothes and personal care items at two hospitals!
TW: suicide attempt
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was a suicide attempt survivor who dealt with the devastating loss of his grandmother as a child.
When you think of suicide attempt survivors, and how much we contribute to the world, it's vital to include Dr. King.
#MLKDay
Being suicidal during
#SuicidePreventionMonth
is so aggravating because I’m watching in real-time how no one gives a shit about us while everyone says the opposite.
There is so much nuance that is being lost in these boycott/protest conversations. If the only people who have access to our actions are the most privileged, able-bodied black people, then we’re doing it all wrong.
White supremacy has deputized white people and given them permission to kill Black people since slavery.
We absolutely need to eradicate not just police but white supremacy.
One of the main features of living in a carceral state is through the deployment of regular people as Cops. Focusing solely on removing the police from “mental health crisis situations” or abolishing police forces isn’t even enough. We need to decarcerate *ourselves.*
Gospel artists who worked with R.Kelly:
Marvin Sapp
Kirk Franklin
Trin-i-tee 5:7
Yolanda Adams
The Winans
Dottie Peoples
T.D. Jakes
Georgia Mass Choir
Vicki Winans
#SurvivingRKelly
I feel like too much of mental health advocacy is people with mild to moderate symptoms generalizing their experience to speak for people with severe symptoms. We really got to check that.
I attended a Mental Health First Aid class and told the facilitator I called a hotline once and the counselor was trash. The facilitator looked shocked lol.
We need people with lived experience to lead these programs.
Mental Health First Aid has trained 67,000 Instructors who have delivered training to over 6 million people across 25 countries.
A new Cochrane review shows it has 'little to no' evidence.
It has been critiqued as neo-colonial governance shaping understandings of suffering 1/2
It just doesn’t feel right to me to say, “ask for help” to a suicidal young person who is homeless because their family kicked them out for being queer.
We as a society should provide resources and community. Sole responsibility should not be on the person in crisis.
This book right here by
@robwipond
dragged the ENTIRE mental health system! OMG. If you survived psychiatric incarceration, you will definitely feel seen reading this book.
I'm trying to name my emotions instead of randomly saying "I want to die" every time I feel something unpleasant. My feelings seem smaller and less overwhelming when I name them.
The people who need to learn about black trauma the most is white people. We should ask our white friends if they saw
#WhentheySeeUs
and not shame black folks for being too traumatized to witness their own trauma.
“The minimum federal wage is $7.25, though many states have set it higher. Between 1990 and 2015, raising the minimum wage by $1 in each state might have saved more than 27,000 lives, according to a report published this week in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health.”
TW: suicidal ideation
There really isn’t enough suicide prevention services tailored to people who have chronic suicidal thoughts. You can’t incarcerate your way out of a suicidal crisis. People need services that also allows them to live as normally as they want.
You can suffer with suicidal ideations, chronic suicidal thoughts and suicidal tenancies, but that doesn't mean you're always suicidal or a big giant risk.
There are black people with bipolar who are radically fighting oppression and love their communities. And yet that is not the representation that is being jammed down our throats.
As a person who was hospitalized, I definitely see the irony of doctors giving a discharge date based on how a Black person looks while not giving them any resources that will allow them to groom themselves properly.
TW: suicidal ideation
I’m a 2 time suicide attempt survivor.
I live with excruciating thoughts almost everyday and this year has been the hardest year of my life. But I’m still here. And it’s your support that carries me. I love us.
#WorldSuicidePreventionDay
Thanks to the mainstreaming of superficial mental health conversations, abusive people are now using “mental health support” as a way to avoid accountability. I hate it here!
My one year suicide attempt anniversary is tomorrow.
How do you celebrate not being dead? lol ... Any tips on how to make the day special but not too over the top?
My boyfriend and I spent a snowed in weekend together and whenever we got on each other’s nerves we looked into an invisible camera and did a reality show confessional.