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Today I pray for you that every ache in your heart will be delivered by the miraculous hands of God. Every disappointment will turn around into multiple blessings. Every enemy in your circle will flee at the sight of you. I pray u know peace and genuine love within your heart.
“ride or die” or trying to show “sacrifice” in a relationship is not staying with someone as they completely destroy your essence—disrespect & ridicule the commitment they promised to you. No way! Especially if they see the harm & they have no remorse to change & do not
We scream “Nigerian blood”!
Average man still cannot eat
Workers owed for ages
Beautiful disaster—graduate still cannot elevate to a job
No pay—Doctors--Police officers are riddled to corrupt practices
A fallen iroko
Corruption..politicking with no conscience
Own blood looting
Someone will treat you like trash..be toxic with you & still be a saint—“a perfect lover” to their next. It has nothing to do with you; but everything to do with the person. They made a choice to devalue you, disrespect your essence—you made it linger though by accepting it.
the culture &
connotation attached
to a woman losing her
“virginity” is
senseless—a social
construct to devalue &
degrade women. The
man is congratulated
while the female is
made to believe she
lost her honor to the
man—basically the
woman’s glory is at the
mercy of man.
hate you
for making me think of you
knowing you do not love me
but my brain
still doesn’t get the clue
hate you
for making me
a fool for you
-chinyere m. ugokwe
Sometimes from the deepest part of your brokenness comes glory; from the marination of your darkside & it’s agonizing pain comes light..baptism—rebirth of strength & greatness that makes you whole..formidable.
-Chinyere M. Ugokwe
It hurts different..when the people you brought closest to your heart does something shady to you....It hurts different when they play you. Trust gone..💔
Can we talk?
Not through mixed signals
& subliminal messages
Can we talk ?
Not through liked pics
Of love cries
& heartbreak advice
Can we talk?
Not through silence
& spiteful vengeance
Look at me,
Listen,
I'm down--for a heart to heart
-Chinyere M. Ugokwe
Don’t wait till death
to tell them
How much
they mean to you
tomorrow isn’t promised
Why don’t you
Do it today
as they breathe
Give them flowers
when they can
smell it
not when its scent
serenades their
graveside
-chinyere m. ugokwe
Lots of toxic men define “a good woman “ as someone they can take advantage of—someone that doesn’t question their toxic character and nasty attitude! Someone that gives them endless chances as they continue devaluing and destroying her very essence. Sis you deserve better..move
She stood by you when you didn't even think you were good enough for yourself. She gave you all of her pieces to fix your broken issues. When you were whole, you tore her heart apart because she wasn't as brand new as before. She wasn't as "brand new" because she gave you
“Sorry” is senseless without a changed action. “Sorry” is nothing if you continue to do the same toxic behavior over and over again. Stop using “sorry” to silence my reaction—my expression.
Tales of the youth
I see brains dying
I see young revolutionists slacking
Tales of the youth
I see a capital death happening
The government murdering
The very youths they are supposed to be protecting
-Chinyere M. Ugokwe
To everyone that cries themselves to sleep
You wear your heart on your sleeve
I hope your tears baptizes your pain
To endless bliss
Tear falls just like the rain
I hope the rainbow, colors your soul
To everlasting peace
May you know true love
To say the least
-Chinyere M. Ugokwe
Ada you are not defined by marriage
You are not defined by child rearing
Or the status of your virginity
Ada you do not live for a man
Ada you are your own being
Ada marriage is not a gift
Ada you have a choice
Ada do not chase after a man
That continuously destroys your being
That I have male friends doesn’t mean I have sexual relations with them or i’m dating them..WTF is wrong with people—we are humans & should have friends of opposite genders without stigmatization. A friend is a friend regardless of gender—stop implying absurd thoughts
“Being the bigger person” have silenced so much trauma! Call people out; let them know your boundaries and what you do not accept—stop accepting maltreatment and torture
Emotionally I was done
Long gone
But I kept lying to myself
That there was something
more
To hold on to
So I stayed,
That fucked us up
-chinyere m. ugokwe
Either you love me or you don’t—please take your confusion back to your zone..I don’t have the space for hot & cold..stay alone with your confused soul...leave me the hell alone
If sex is the only act keeping your relationship together then you’re in for a rude awakening—if sex is the only foundation that your partnership is built on then you’re off to a wrong start—the building of your partnership is already shaking; soon it will collapse (spoiler alert
Sometimes my heart just feels all over the place..I'm not happy..I'm not sad..I'm not angry..I'm not excited--I'm just in a chaotic state of some messed up neutrality😨
-Chinyere M. Ugokwe
I do not give endless chances anymore with toxicity because people will continuously beg to come into your life just to act good for 24hrs..then it’s back to the disrespect🤦🏾♀️
Don’t expect me to sleep and get over things—that’s not how good communication works. We have to actually “talk” to sort out things!
-chinyere m. ugokwe
You raise your daughters to be everything a man needs when they get into marriage
You forget to teach your sons to be everything a woman needs in marriage
You totally forget that your daughter, is also a human—-not an object nor a dumping ground of burdens
Both need to be
Are there any checks & balances for the “hate speech” label?—Freedom of speech by democracy is about to get impeded on! This is heading to a dictatorship—whereby the government dictates what you are allowed to say. Knowing the history of the Nigerian govt—So many loop holes for
Men are taught that losing ther virginity makes them a “man”—a great one at that. Women are taught that losing their “virginity” makes them less of value—less honorable, less virtuous. A “loose” woman..society yells. Madness reigns—shame on social construct.
when someone deeply hurts you
Even after forgiving...
When you speak to them
some part of your pain still feels provoked
It’s like one of those things
you really can’t control—leaving it up to the hands of time to quench the agonizing thirst of the bruises they caused
💔
Stop overestimating people’s place in your life—especially when you see them diminish your value while you heighten/nourish theirs...They really do not regard you at all...
Imagine you waking up to love of your life
Next to you
Their scent you continuously breathe
Their hearbeat you consciously feel
Imagine you waking up to the love of your life
The peace it gives
The bliss it is
The long life and happiness it fulfills
-Chinyere M. Ugokwe
Date your preference; when I state my needs in the beginning or the type of lover I am..if you can’t match my love language..please leave me the hell alone.
I’ve noticed that people hate to hear the truth..they’ll rather accept lies..facades then cry their eyes out when life teaches them a lesson for ignoring the truth—don’t be a fool..accept the truth.
As the decade ends—I hope you understand that “Feminism is a range of social movements, political movements, and ideologies that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve the political, economic, personal, and social equality of the sexes” We are not ‘bitter’ women🗣
I swear when my phone beeps & it’s not from you..my heart sinks a little..actually I feel it drowning in the pool of my own anxiety😩
-chinyere m. ugokwe
Liars..
Cheats,
Will accuse you
Condemn you
without a cause
Because they know
what they are doing
Behind close doors
Manipulators
Always have a way of gaslighting
& twisting your own conscience
For their own good
Notice patterns..
Do not fall victim
To their absurd games
Sorry is just a word
Changed behavior
Is what shows remorse
Stop abusing the word SORRY!
Stop accepting the same
Dreadful story
Over & over again
If they were actually sorry,
They wouldn’t let chaos rain on you again
-Chinyere M. Ugokwe
Stop over explaining yourself
Sop trying to please everyone
Say NO with your full chest when you’re not interested
Set healthy boundaries
You don’t have to do what everyone is doing
Being unique is good
Stop belittling yourself