As a member of Green Party Women the now entirely-transphobic committee emailed me today asking me if I was interested in co-proposing 3 transphobic motions for conference. Obviously they can get stuffed.
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@SundayTimesSco
a) so-called 'Self-ID' for a GRC has nothing to do with access to spaces (that's the Equality Act) and b) in the innumerable countries (Argentina, Belgium, Ireland to name but 3) that have enacted similar laws there's been absolutely no evidence of any increase in such incidents.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
I've just had a makeup lesson in the ladies and while we were there plenty of other ladies came in and they were all completely unfazed and uncaring about my presence; in fact had a really lovely conversation with one of them! Real life isn't social media bigots.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Well, I just quit my job and will be working a week's notice starting tomorrow before beginning early retirement. Time for a celebratory beer with lunch. De Vossen Dubbel Porter 7.4%.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@CateSpice
For 4 months before I came out publically I swam with an LGBT swimming club as Caroline. All the lesbians couldn't have been friendlier and one of the venues had single sex changing rooms where I changed with the ladies chatting away totally issue free.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
I was on the already busy train from Liverpool Street with my Luton scarf on and a load of pissed up geezers (mixture of football fans and darts bods) got on at Stratford. I thought "f*ck" but it couldn't have been more okay. Properly gendered in all the banter all the way back!
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@HaileyAdamsXXX
Almost 58 now;1 yr full level HRT with a few months bridging level before that. 1st pic Aug 18 just as I started bridging HRT, 2nd a few days ago. This is the only before pic I have and the first time ever I've posted it.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
#transontrains
Off to meet my birth mum for the first time in 59 yrs. โบ๐ฌ. Having to stand because the train is bloody rammed! Mask just removed temporarily for the selfie.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@TheLastLeg
#dickoftheyearnominee
has to be Graham Linehan for his all-encompassing transphobia. Currently making up lies about Caitlin Jenner and also saying that trans people are a Russian plot. Tried and failed to get Mermaids stripped of their lottery funding earlier this year.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Post-shift beer. As we have
@QueerBrewing
Fight Like Hell DIPA on draught at the moment it seems an excellent idea to toast
@LilyWaite_
's imminent surgery. Best wishes Lily and cheers!
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Be interesting how I sleep tonight. Tomorrow me and my birth mum (I'm adopted) will be meeting for the first time in 59 years (last time I was weeks old). It'll be emotional as I believe the saying goes. Hopefully piccies tomorrow.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@Emmy_Zje
When I came out quite a few of my women friends (and my sister) donated me bags of clothes. Some of them I've worn, some didn't fit, some I don't think suit me. But grateful and pleased that they offered. Most recent from said bags:
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
My new 2nd family. Clockwise from left: half-brother, mum, me, half-sister, half-sister, mum's childhood friend (who went with me to the children's home to see me and I've seen a picture of her holding me).:โค
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@Pollik
Me! I'm one of the managers and removed them immediately. Our cleaners come in really early each morning and are gone before I arrive so I'll leave a note asking them to preserve any future l ones they find and to let me know.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@BBCPolitics
This list does not include trans women as the compiler does not consider them women. Jess Phillip's knows this and does not care because she doesn't either.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
I'm being targeted. Following on from the intrusion/keys theft earlier this week and the bike theft from by the back door yesterday just got home to find a large muddy footprint on the back door and the catflap smashed in. I'm worried now.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
#TransOnTrains
Eurostar Christmas edition. Off to Gent for 4 days. Standard Premier was only ยฃ10 more than Standard both ways so I treated myself. Breakfast should be served soon. Having totally buggered the wheels on that large wheelie case I bought a more sensibly sized one.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Today is not only my 3yr anniversary of coming out female presenting full-time but also 1 week to GRS. This time next week I'll be in the operating theatre. ๐ฑ
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Well, as of this lunchtime I'm officially retired. Gonna save any significant drinking session until later in the week but with my late lunch I'll continue the De Vossen theme from when I handed I'm my notice with De Vossen Tripel 10.2%.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
#TransOnTrains
Eurostar edition (month 3 of 6 consecutive!). 3 days in Lille as a change from Belgium. Not been to Lille for 15-20 years. Lots of beer there now.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
First Christmas Day beer is an Orval in the Gouden Mandeken. It's a Haacht pub with a pretty crap beer list but it's in the freebie book and there's a few drinkable beers! Happy Christmas!
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@BenPBradshaw
@mcashmanCBE
@UKLabour
Fully implement the Cass Review? Bad
Still requiring medical diagnosis for gender change in contrast to most of the rest of Europe and further afield? Bad
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Having been cooped up since Monday I'm in the hospital "garden" which is extremely scenic with 2 skips and an (as you can see behind me) electricity substation! Home tomorrow.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
#TransOnTrains
Off to Bristol for the weekend for
@TransPrideSW
. This event holds special meaning for me as the 2018 Pride was my first ever solo outing as the real me (prior to actually coming out 6 months later) and I made friends I still have today 5 years later.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
I don't normally drink early in the week but tonight is justified. I had my 1st phone call today with my birth mum (who at 20 had to give me up for adoption in 1962), after she got an agency to find me; & friended 2 of my new 1/2-sisters on FB. Cheers to my new extended family!
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
So here I am behind the bar. All went fine. Now tomorrow night behind the bar again and then first time as Caroline in my season ticket seat at footy on Sat
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
This brewery leaflet from
@GoddardsBrewery
was just posted in the Blue place. The footnote immediately removes them from consideration for my ever touching their beers again. Hopefully my LGBT+ followers and allies agree.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@shonfaye
We must also remember that one of their 4 directors is in fact a heterosexual anti-trans woman ex-counciller who resigned from the council over trans rights.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Prompted by another thread I'm feeling very rash. 4 days on HRT vs now, just over 4 years later. I think this is the first time the photo on the left has been public.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
#TransOnTrains
Yet another Eurostar edition. Off for 4 days in Hasselt, where I've not been since 2012. Touring around cafรฉs in Limburg plus a few in Brabant on the way there and back. A fair proportion will be first time visits which is good.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
#TransOnTrains
I bought a small number of shares in the company opening a Dutch beer bar on the Bermondsey Beer Mile and tonight is their shareholders' preview night before it opens later this month.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
The sun was just too bright for the obligatory leaving selfie with the Parkside sign behind me so you'll just have to make do with this
#TransOnTrains
as I delicately travel home with my upgrade fitted!
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@SpillerOfTea
@Felix_F_Fern
And given that only about 1000 in total have been prescribed PBs in the last 10 years the odds of them all suing are infinitesimal.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
#TransOnTrains
That there London again for Ealing Beer Festival, to be preceded en-route by a quick one at the Bear, Paddington and pie & mash in Portobello Road.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
I've just heard that the 1st person I told I wanted to transition in Sep 17 (a trans woman a few years older who I'd known for ages) died on Boxing Day after a short illness. I'm stunned. She liked a beer (or 2!) & always visited the pub when in the area. Will toast her tonight.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Today is a nice gentle afternoon wandering around Brugge before my teatime train. First stop the resurrected Dickies on 't Zand, now called Bernies. Straffe Hendrik Tripel on tap. Very busy due to Saturday market on 't Zand.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
@maitlis
1/2 Under the Equality Act 2010 trans people (whether or not they have a GRC) can legally access the spaces (toilets/changing rooms etc.) of their acquired gender. My passport says I'm female. A GRC would allow me to change my birth certificate (which I've never shown to use ...
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
Just put my GRC application in the post. Wish me luck! (especially given I ticked the "pay by cheque" box and forgot to include the cheque so have had to email to ask them to phone for card payment!)
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
#TransOnTrains
off to a 40th birthday party at Iron Pier brewery in Gravesend. I'm travelling half an hour early to sneak in a quick three thirds at Tap East, Stratford en-route.
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
A small positive post amongst the current horrors. Two years ago today that nice Mr Bellringer retrofitted me with a new vagina. A beer will be had with lunch to celebrate. ๐ป
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Caroline Debenham ๐ ๐ณ๏ธโโง๏ธ reclaiming the ๐ฆ
A nice 2020 story for a change. I'm adopted and have always known it. I've considered tracing my birth mother but never really did anything about it beyond half-heartedly looking for my birth certificate online. Anyway I got a letter from an agency that traces adopted ...
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