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2 years

World Narcissistic Awareness Day, June 1st. Be the voice of those who suffered in silence, never knowing what this was. And for the ones who are no longer with us because of it. 🕯️ #NarcissisticAbuseAwarenessDay

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8 months

"Once a woman loses respect for a man, everything he does disgusts her." Once a narcissist shows their true colors, it's amazing how different we see them. Those things we thought were kindnesses, never were. Everything is an act. (& their attractiveness goes down 110%)

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"Once a woman loses respect for a man, everything he does disgusts her." Especially true when a narcissist reveals their true selves. From then on, when they're "nice," we can't unsee what's underneath. 🔪 Even their attractiveness goes down 110%.

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8 months

Narcissists are always building themselves up. If they were so great, they would hardly have to put so much effort into convincing others.

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11 months

Narcissists are notorious for bad gifts. What's the worst gift you received? My daughter got an empty cd once from my sister. Another time, she "couldn't wait" to have me open my gift, wanted to film my reaction. Dollar store frame, I kid you not.

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1 year

I saw this on TicToc, and now I wonder if there were people I cut off unfairly. Growing up in a narcissistic family, we were never taught to work things out. Not when others around us had the emotional capacity of a toddler. One toxic trait can make us paranoid.

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1 year

"It's okay not to forgive & forget. Sometimes it's better to remember & avoid." Why on earth would we forgive someone who will never be sorry? It only gives a narcissist permission to continue. We deserve better. We always did. ❤️

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1 year

I don't know who wrote this, but it's so beautifully said. Rejection hurts. Being ignored like we don't matter (& in a narcissistic family, we're told and shown this all too often) hurts. We did always deserve better. So much better.

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11 months

"Before you diagnose yourself with depression, first make sure you're not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes."

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1 year

"Some people are great at giving you just enough hope to keep you holding on to nothing." Every narcissist does this. Every relationship is a manipulation.

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7 months

Narcissists share the same brain abnormalities as psychopaths with their inability to feel remorse, compassion, or empathy. But don't be fooled. They can fake it by mimicking others' responses. Ever caught a N staring at you? Another reason they watch us so closely. 👀

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1 year

I don't know who the author is, but I'm sure it speaks to every survivor here. Do you ever fantasize about going back in time, picking your younger self up, & driving off to a place you're taken care of and loved?

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9 months

"A jealous family member is more dangerous than a hateful enemy." What surprised me the most with my narcissistic sisters, saying no didn't just bring out their ugly side, but the attack on things I did, or had. They actually hate us for what they can never attain or be.

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9 months

"Some people were not put here to evolve. They are here to remind you what it looks like if you don't." The nicest thing I can say about any narcissist, they're fine examples of everything we don't wish to be.

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1 year

Sharing from The Malignant Narcissist.. no one leaves a narcissist, we escape. It's one of the hardest things we'll ever do.

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2 years

Something to remember. We just don't get over relationships with narcissists, they're by far very different from every other relationships with normal people. Having a spouse, parent or siblings who were narcissistic, it's like returning from a war zone.

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9 months

We had to teach ourselves everything or figure things out on our own. (the things we did learn, we had to unlearn) Narcissistic parents have nothing worthwhile to teach their kids, & we do end up with some toxic behavior. But the difference? We recognized these & changed.

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1 year

"She had a strange feeling at the pit of her stomach, like when you're swimming & you want to put your feet down on something solid, but water's deeper than you think & there's nothing there." Perfect example of how it feels to be around someone you now know is narcissistic.

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3 years

People want to know why I don't want to date yet, they think I must be lonely. What they'll never understand, being married to narcissist we were always alone. We were always single parents. This new found peace, is probably something I'm always going to fear losing.

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8 months

Never reveal plans to a narcissist. It's unsettling just how far they go to sabotage us.

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7 months

If you ever need to know what evil deeds the narcissist is up to, listen to what they're accusing someone else of. This truth never once failed to be true.

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1 year

Sharing from Narcisstic Families.. I'm not sure if we ever get over this. The bond others have with siblings is so very different than what we had. (might as well have been living on diff. planets) Sometimes it just hits us from out of the blue. A longing that never really dies.

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10 months

Growing up in a toxic family, than marrying what we escaped from, we've literally spent our whole lives in a heightened state of anxiety. Clean, cozy & organized give us a sense of security & safety we've never had before.

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1 year

There comes a moment when we realize we don't have to engage. We don't have to respond. The realization comes knowing a narcissist is going to do what narcissists do. Forever. Nothing we do or say will ever change anything.

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2 years

Never reveal plans to a narcissist. If anything, tell them the opposite of what you want. A narcissist hates when anyone is doing better, in any way.

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1 year

If you grew up in a family where narcissists reigned, this was very much you. Our every day normal. The saddest thing was that we believed the things we were told. Our everyday struggle to make it through was our normal.

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1 year

"Being unbothered when someone tries to trigger you is a superpower." This takes practice, so forgive yourself for reacting. Remember, the narcissist knows our triggers well & by not getting the response expected, goes above & beyond.

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1 year

When we finally realize any disagreement with a narcissist will never get resolved. Finally realizing they try getting that reaction. In my marriage I eventually stopped arguing, what happened? He carried on without me. (even answering at times) It's not you. It never was.

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8 months

Who else relates to this? Routines are comforting, but nearly impossible when living with a needy narcissist. Working for himself, the ex was often around. We never got the comfort of having him gone that was predictable.

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10 months

It's never recommended we send a letter explaining our grief to a narcissist. (They may even keep this to look back at with satisfaction) We're not dealing with normal people here.

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8 months

If you're raising children with a narcissist, you are very much a single parent. Only the narcissist adds 10x to the stress. Children are a walk in the park in comparison 🌳 They outgrow tantrums, mature with time, and learn from mistakes.

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10 months

One very true thing after discovering someone is narcissistic, we really can't un see it. Every supposed kindness, show of concern, etc, is seen as an incredible act of deception. & one very important thing, never let them know we know. 🐍

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2 years

Lack of empathy is probably the most defining characteristic of a narcissist. We won't see anything uglier than a person lacking this. They have the ability to fake human emotions,🎬 but if you're around one long enough you can see right through them. #ThereIsNoCure

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10 months

We find this out the hard way. If you're ever wondering if someone is narcissistic, ask yourself this, when they there for you in difficult times, even emotionally? (& were they the cause of it) If the situation were reversed, would you even consider asking the same?

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11 months

The next time we're expecting anything from a narcissist.. (sharing from Tictok)

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9 months

😂😂

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6 months

Narcissism runs in families. When we discover someone is narcissistic, it's easier to look back & see who it came from. One thing to be eternally grateful for, always, we didn't inherit this disorder. There's never a need to wish harm on them, who they are is punishment enough.

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2 years

It's so unreasonable expecting us to just get over this kind of abuse. Once we realize someone is narcissistic,there's usually a whole lifetime of things looking back on, we're just realizing. (Especially with the coverts)& do we ever stop cringing over things we once tolerated?

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1 year

We never "overreacted." We reacted perfectly normal to an abnormal amount of crazy. Not reacting to the provoking tactics of a narcissist wouldn't have been humanly possible. Unlike them, we feel things deeply. Never be ashamed of how we had to survive in unbearable conditions.

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1 year

This is one of the hardest things after growing up in a house where narcissists reigned. I want to cry for that girl who did so much, hoping for a shred of acceptance from entitled narcissists while being treated horribly.

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11 months

Growing up in a family where narcissists reigned, this was very much you. While there were some things especially tramatic, our everyday struggle to make it through was our normal.

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11 months

Beware of the "helpful" narcissist. The nicer they are, the bigger the knife behind their back.🔪 Never, ever expect a narcissist to do the right thing.

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10 months

It changes things when we realize the narcissist intentionally provokes us. They need that response, they actually enjoy seeing our grief. Happy, having a good time? That's when they're most likely to strike. & when they've accomplished this, that's when we see it. The smirk.🐍

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6 months

"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes."- William Gibson ...

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1 year

When the golden child is the one most like the narcissistic parent, you end up with a narcissist on steroids, a malignant/psychopathic narcissist. There's a heavy price they pay. We may never fully recover, but our lives become infinitely better once we cut contact.

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2 years

"Some people were not put here to evolve. They are here to remind you what it looks like if you don't." The nicest thing I can think of to say about narcissists, they're fine examples of everything we don't wish to be.

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1 year

I've forgotten where I saved this from, but I think it speaks of every type of narcissist. It really is unnerving how alike they are. Whether they grew up wealthy in Manhattan or poor on some remote island, the behaviors are exact.

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1 year

Something I never understood about my sisters, why couldn't they be genuinely happy for us? I wanted them to do well, have families they loved. I never expected the intense hatred & vindictiveness. If a narcissist resents you, take that as a compliment you're doing okay.

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1 year

#ThingsNotToExpectFromANarcissist

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1 year

Ever met someone you thought was handsome before getting to know them? Or someone who became more beautiful when you got to know them? There's some things you just can't unsee with a narcissist.

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1 year

Is it safe to ever keep a NPD person in your life? No. They're always going to be envious, sabotaging every one of these good things. But they're being "nice?" That's when we worry. That's when they're putting their evil deeds into place.

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1 year

The scariest thing is how they fool people. One thing we can say about the malignant ones, they show themselves early. What was the longest you've known someone before they showed their true colors? I knew my boss for 20 yrs before working for him. 20 yrs.

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2 years

Sharing from Narcisstic Families.. I know we all long for a close-knit family for our children. But if a parent or sibling is narcissistic, things will be no different. Even worse, they resent our relationships & become even more sabotaging, more evil. & it's all done covertly.

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1 year

Can anyone remember a genuine laugh from the narcissist? (unless of course it was at our, or someone elses cruel expense) The covert narcissist especially, had this forced ha -ha- ha laugh that still triggers me when I hear it from others.

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7 months

Sharing from Narcissist Sister.. if you're a young person, don't be hard on yourself for not being where others may be. Narcissistic parents never prepare a child for independence. You were busy learning to survive on your own rather than learning basic life skills.

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2 years

Narcissists are so much alike it's almost scary. Once we start learning what NPD is, there's some undeniable universal truths. Number 1.."Never trust that the narcissist will be a decent person. Ever." -kim Saeed

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1 year

Being with a narcissist, especially coming from a toxic family, we never stop doing. We're always hoping for approval, some shred of appreciation. We could bring them the moon & they'd ask about the stars.

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2 years

"You have to pick your battles." When it comes to a narcissist, it's not worth engaging at all. Ever have an argument or discussion when anything was ever resolved? They're not interested in how others feel or what they need. It's about them & their needs, every single time.

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9 months

Moving into my my college dorm yrs (& yrs) ago, I remember the lonely feeling watching others with parents & siblings helping & becoming so emotional at goodbye. While I sat there alone with my luggage 🧳 Being independent isn't always a good thing.

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11 months

We all experienced the silent treatment. I've forgotten where I saved this from, but it's such an accurate description. We never should have been treated like this. We deserved to have normal conversations where things were resolved. But this is who they are.

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1 year

One thing about us survivors, after experiencing a lifetime of narcissists & becoming educated, we know when we're being lied to, sabotaged,set up & any other kind of toxic behaviors we've become accustomed to. We know the next move before they make it. #DoorMatsNoLonger

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1 year

When a child is loved & cared for, everything seems right in the world. A narcissistic parent slowly removes each one of these. Neglecting & isolating the scapegoat or scapegoats, making them a target for others to. It pleases them to see them suffer.

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2 years

We go from joy to anger to sadness and back again. 🎢

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7 months

Growing up in a family where narcissists reigned, this was very much you. Our everyday struggle to make it through was our normal.

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9 months

Sharing from Kim Saeed.. how many times did we ask them to stop before realizing those were the very things they were targeting? What I appreciate so much in someone now is the ability to just "be" in someone's presence.

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1 year

If you're planning on cutting contact with a narcissist (especially a malignant one, they're notorious for this), check your privacy settings, & have any & everyone even remotely close do the same. This becomes an obsession of magnitude proportions with them.

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1 year

Narcissistic families will team up on the scapegoat, or scapegoats, giving them no safe place within the "family." No wonder we end up with someone just like them. We often escape only to find ourselves in the same situations.

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2 years

"A jealous family member is more dangerous than a hateful enemy." You know what surprised me most with my narcissistic sisters? Saying no didn't just bring out their ugly side, but the attack on things I did, or had. They actually hate us for what they can never attain, or be.

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1 year

Worth repeating.. Dealing with a narcissist is like a card game. Keep things to yourself, bluff enough to let them think they've won, then run like hell.

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2 years

Narcissists don't change. Ever. Remember this the next time they come around acting "nice." They have an agenda, to use abuse & discard. (until next time)

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9 months

Some very wise words. When did we ever hear the narcissist talking well of someone? Except of course to compare us unfavorably. Or something I noticed with my NF, would brag about another's accomplishments as if they were his own.

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11 months

Standing up for ourselves is hard, but it gets easier. & it feels so much better than letting someone step all over us.

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1 year

"The best way to kill something is to let it starve. No response, no action, no altercations, just don't feed it. That's where your true power lies." Nothing pleases the narcissist more than getting that reaction. It's hard sometimes, but even a negative response is their supply.

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1 year

How often have we asked ourselves why? Why did they have to be so cruel. Why do they have to be this way. We didn't deserve it. We didn't cause it. We certainly can't fix them by continuing to give everything we have. #ColdHardFacts

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1 year

It's normal wanting to let the narcissists know how much they've hurt us and how much grief they've caused. A healthier way to vent these feelings.. writing, a blog, a support group, Twitter. Feeling remorse though, something they're just not capable of. #DontFeedTheNarcissist

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2 years

A narcissistic family will use the scapegoat to cover up the enormous dysfunction. We're the peace keepers, pulling everyone together, hoping for something that will never really be. Once we're gone though..

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3 years

😂😂 Don't waste any time expecting one.

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9 months

What I remember most was the brain fog, where even the simplest things took a great amount of effort. If you're in a relationship with a toxic person, be kind to yourself. Take every chance you get to recharge, whatever works best for you. It's not always going to be like this.

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3 years

It's funny how the narcissist thinks they're so special, so unique. Yet we here we are, describing the same exact reactions, behaviors, even the phrases they use. They're carbon copies of each other.

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8 months

Narcissists like to hoover, especially when they've run out of supply. My ex boss has sent a friend request I'll just ignore. (They never give up!) I'm liking this new version of me, the old me would have gone running back, eager to please. #NotTodaySatan

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2 years

You know when we should worry about a narcissist? It's not when they're doing the expected things, it's when they're being nice. The nicer they are, the bigger that knife is growing behind their back. 🔪

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1 year

Do you think the narcissists know they're narcissists? Naturally if anyone suggests this, they'll automatically project this onto them. But secretly, are they looking up ways to be more devious? Finding better ways to sabotage others? Have secret clubs to compare tactics? 🤔

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1 year

I only recently discovered tiktok. Some of these quotes really get to you 😥 Does anyone else have dreams (or nightmares) of being in the house you grew up in?

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1 year

Has anyone ran into a narcissist they've cut contact with? I only thought I saw the covert narcissistic sister while waiting in line at the grocery. A feeling of sheer terror with nausea ran through me before realizing it wasn't her. I hope I handle it with this grace if it does.

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11 months

"Sometimes you block your blessings by allowing people in your life that should have been gone a long time ago." Narcissists love ruining special occasions, but especially the holidays. Even when setting boundaries, it only fuels them. 🔥 Have a plan, & be just as relentless ✂️💪

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1 year

No need for revenge when you know how many things the narcissist is missing in life. All these things that make life worth living. Wrap your mind around this for a moment. They're already living a never-ending hell on earth.

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2 years

When given a choice, it's always okay to just walk away. Why did we ever feel guilty for this in the past? It's really sad what narcissists do to our self-esteem to make us think we should allow their condescending disdain & disrespect when we did nothing to deserve it.

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1 year

Narcissists can go undetected for a distressingly long time. This is one of the more evil things they do, wrecking what should be close relationships. Not having the ability to authentically connect with anyone, they resent any healthy relationship. 🚩🚩

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1 year

Some undeniable truths about NPD. They actually get worse as they age. The scariest thing we'll witness, a "collapsed narcissist." (One who has has lost all supply & spirals) #ColdHardFacts

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10 months

You would think a narcissistic parent would realize an obvious neglected child would be a reflection on them. Maybe that's why the golden children were so lavishly cared for, with every need met. But still, those others were hard to see.

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10 months

Was there someone growing up who you felt safe around? Coming from a family where narcissists reigned, then marrying what we escaped from this feeling is often so foreign. But if we were lucky, we had someone safe. We knew that feeling, & we never stopped longing for it.

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1 year

Biggest regret? Not getting away sooner from a narcissistic ex. Keeping narcissistic "family" around at all. We don't get any do overs. Imagine if they had loving extended family, a loving father. So many regrets. Kids deserve so much more. #LateNightThoughts

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1 year

Still funny.. 😂

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1 year

I wish I had known about this when my son was growing up. Even though his father was there, he was never in the way that mattered. Narcissists never are. We try as mothers to be both, but I'm sure there were times my son wished for someone more knowledgeable.

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2 years

Be kind to yourself. No one could possibly know the extent of devious sabotaging behaviors we've experienced not just with a spouse, but from a family of origin.

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2 years

Can we ever trust anyone again, as survivors? Sometimes it just seems to much.

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2 years

We eventually realize how their "helping" was sabotaging us all along, & in so many ways. Just trying to explain this sinisterism, is nearly impossible. You really have to go through it to understand it. "The mind was never meant to go to a place this dark."

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1 year

Has anyone else experienced the "narcissistic attitude" where they're boasting, thinking they're so much better than everyone else? It's like they're the grand chicken, walking back and forth squawking like one. Even have the head movement thing going on there. 🐔

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1 year

What is it like having narcissistic siblings? Imagine.. everyone gets a hot cup of delicious aromatic tea, and you get served a cold cup of used dishwater. Then you have to pretend to like it. Pretend it's the same because no one understands. #LateNightThoughts

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1 year

Life after no contact.. let the magic begin.. ✨️ ✨️

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