I think women often get cast as controlling micro-managers when, in reality, they just have way too much responsibility foisted on them and would rather NOT always have to think through and solve every problem their family/workplace/community faces…
I HATE the mandatory confession circle. This activity is toxic and it's not a good way to date. You should NEVER feel pressured to share your most vulnerable secrets with a new partner before you're comfortable.
#TheBachelor
More body diversity, please! Women over a size two are worthy of love, too! No shade against skinny women or anything. I just want to see women of ALL body types on
#TheBachelor
.
I think I’m officially done with the Bachelor franchise and I’m really sad about it. Not seeing any plus size people chosen to find love is actually effecting my mental health…It’s ridiculous.
#TheBachelor
do better!!
So Becca could choose Blake, who raises awareness about gun violence, Jason, whose gay brother is his role-model, or Garrett, who LOVES guns and HATES gay people. This should not be a hard decision...
#TheBachelorette
I'm not a Peter MacKay fan, but I'm getting such joy from seeing the conservatives discuss Scheer's replacement before Canada's even voted. I try not to find happiness in the suffering of others, but I'll make an exception for
#AndrewScheer
!
@aprilhussar
Omg, I was just meditating on this bizarre phenomenon. We totally do! For some reason, we live in fear the “good mugs” will break and then the “bad mugs” will have their day!
@SamanthaDarby
@inaribriana
I met my husband on OKCupid too! The cutest part is we went to brother and sister high schools as well as the same uni but we never met. We even already had friends in common and had attended some of the same parties but not crossed paths! Instead, we met at 31.
@anjgi
I like really solving problems too. I just don’t like seeing my female friends feel like they have to solve ALL the problems in their lives without help. That’s my only issue.
@MegStEsprit
I am so sorry! We have a similar problem. My daughter is multiracial but presents as white and my husband is frequently pestered by busybodies who don't believe he's her father when they go to the park. We've yet to decide on the correct response as a family!
@annehelen
Impacts on postpartum health were severe. Because of the pandemic, I NEVER had an in-person exam with my OB/GYN to make sure everything healed properly. I'm still not 100% sure it did!
I have only one kidney. I am making a list of people who live(d) full and happy lives with just the one. Right now, I only have Bob Dole (hate his politics, inspired by how long he lived), that lady from Bad Art Friend, and
@DrJenGunter
. Would love to hear more examples!
I know what happens with Hilaria Baldwin's womb is none of my god damn business, but why do I get the impression The Baldwins really WANT us to care about the origins of their latest child?
#hilariabaldwin
Hannah G's secret pain is her mom destroyed her dad's lawn? That's all the producers could get out of her? I guess it must have been a really nice lawn...
#TheBachelor
While I despise
#MaximeBernier
, I'm hopeful his ridiculous new party will divide the right enough that the conservatives have no shot at winning the next election.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but you don't owe anyone your most painful secrets after a few days of dating. You're allowed to take your time getting vulnerable.
#TheBachelorette
If you vote NDP today in Parkdale-High Park,
@BhutilaKarpoche
could become the first Tibetan woman to be elected to office in North America. That's pretty damn cool!
The
#GwynethPaltrow
diet is certainly alarming, but it surprises ME that so many people are genuinely surprised she exhibits characteristics of disordered eating. This sort of diet is what most female stars in Hollywood are doing to stay skinny. It’s just that almost no one
Why are people surprised the man who mansplained Taylor Swift's album to her (by recording his own version of 1989) is being accused of sexual misconduct?
#RyanAdams
"I had to remove myself from that situation. I had to be there for him." The fact that Tayshia felt that way is proof we women are socialized to be TOO accommodating.
#TheBachelor
@emilykmay
I had an epidural but still pushed the baby out in twenty minutes (first birth) and didn’t even crown. She was completely inside me and then I pushed her head and shoulders out in one go. It’s my favourite thing to brag about!
Here's a question: WHERE are the evicted residents of the encampment at
#TrinityBellwoods
supposed to go??? You can break up an encampment, but they'll keep forming and reforming until all of us have access to safe, affordable housing. If you hate encampments, build housing!
Some professional news! I've started a new role as the ED of The Canadian Children's Book Centre. I'm delighted to be working for a place that has done so much to foster the love of reading in our kids.
#CanLit
#ChildrensBooks
Got the Pfizer vaccine this afternoon. It’s the fastest, least painful vaccine I’ve ever had. Just a tiny pinch! Everyone
@UHN
in Toronto is doing a fantastic job and deserves a shoutout. Thanks for giving us jabs, guys!
#COVIDvaccine
I don't like how Elizabeth Warren appropriated indigenous culture. However, why isn't Beto O'Rourke getting more flack for being a privileged white man who appropriated a name from the Latinx community as part of his "cool guy" identity?
#DoubleStandards
@emilykmay
I also love it when a mom is all, "So my boyfriend is great but his ex-wife, whom I've never met, is toxic and she is so angry at him all the time for no reason! How do we deal with this evil woman who has no legitimate grievances and couldn't possibly be upset FOR A REASON."
Literally the solve rate for women’s murders is only higher than men’s because of how often the husband is the one who did it. When it’s not the husband, we’ve seen police bungle or neglect so many women’s murder investigations - especially murders of racialized wmn!
I want to address this "dunk" because misogynists use it a lot.
Men are more likely to be murdered than woman. Literally nobody has denied this.
The issue is thinking because men kill women that means "equality" is women kill men. Except men are being killed by OTHER men 🧵
This may sound blasphemous, but I think Claire Foy was a far better Queen Elizabeth than even the Goddess Olivia Colman. Her accent was more authentic, her mannerisms more true to life, and her aura just CAPTURED the queen. Don't @ me!
#TheCrown
Hugh Grant doesn't have an Oscar for the same reason Rachel McAdams doesn't - they both make it look TOO easy. They're such naturalistic performers with exquisite timing and realism. No matter what they are doing, you can't see the seams or the effort...
@aliciaandrz
It says everything about our society's complex fear of women's sexuality. Boobs are associated with nursing and motherhood but they also turn people on, and I think that combination scares people. They're just too powerful!
It is interesting that so many American retailers fail to gain a foothold in Canada despite many Canadians knowing and liking their brands. At the very least, the Nordstrom at the Eaton Centre always seemed popular. Is the chain’s failure just mismanagement?
My toddler has COVID. We've followed all the rules but Omicron is super transmissible. Worrying about an unvaccinated kid who contracted is definitely the worst parenting experience I've had by far. If you haven't vaccinated yourself or your 5+ children, please do it ASAP.
I am at home, actually shaking with rage over what
#RyanAdams
has done to women - and children - and how so many dudes are minimizing it or defending him.
I don't want
@MonicaLewinsky
to have to be MARRIED to a billionaire like Bill Gates, but I DO want her to be the ex-wife of one because I think she'd do AWESOME things with a Melinda Gates-sized divorce settlement!
Katie's confession that she was sexually assaulted is very brave, but I hope the show made sure she had the support she needed afterwords.
#TheBachelorette
Please stop asking me why I stopped at one child. It’s extremely triggering to be reminded of how I lost a kidney while pregnant every time someone implies I am obligated to procreate again…
@emilykmay
His take is the opposite of what is actually happening. Many men expect their wives to do EVERYTHING while they neither meaningfully help provide for the family nor do the domestic labour. And that’s why lots of WOMEN today want to stay single
It’s always male marriage experts who advise not keeping score, and I can’t help but wonder if that’s because they KNOW a huge number of men actually aren’t doing their share. NOT keeping score allows that inequality to continue….
3) NEVER KEEP SCORE!
I recently tweeted
“If you keep score in a relationship or marriage you’ll both LOSE.”
Stop the poisonous attitude of I did:
•trash
•dishes
•laundry
•cleaning
You are teammates.
You are LOVERS!
Act like it!
End score keeping so you can both WIN!
The first time I experienced sexual misconduct, Ontario's
#SexEd
curriculum was so poor I didn't realize I had been sexually assaulted until years later.
#WhyIDidntReport
This is true for so many of us. It’s also try that you might be able-bodied but have loved ones who use wheelchairs or even strollers (our cities are neither wheelchair nor stroller accessible). Disabilizing features and policies should concern us all…
#FleishmanIsInTrouble
is lowkey one of the best shows of 2022. It tackles many of the class issues White Lotus does with comparable nuance and humour. It also has a lot to say abt contemporary masculinity, heterosexual marriage, and women's internalized sexism. Watch it!
After 18 months of false starts and feeling scared, I finally submitted the official, formal complaint against a person in a significant position of power who sexually harassed me for years. I thought I'd feel scared, but for now, all I feel is relief...
One of my first friends to get married - who once chided me for being single at 26 - is now divorced. I’m not saying this to be petty, but rather to say that ppl who shame you for being single probably just internalized misogyny, and it’s definitely hurting them too…
To celebrate
#IReadCanadianDay
, here is a photo of one of the
@kidsbookcentre
’s beautiful bookshelves. Hope your bookshelves are also overflowing with fantastic Canadian books!
Kirstie Alley's performance in Drop Dead Gorgeous is honestly an all-time comedy great for me. Some comic actors can make you laugh with just a slight change in tone or the most perfect, subtle pause, and she was one of them.
@clhubes
Rory also wouldn't have gotten into Harvard even at Chilton, because she barely did ANY co-curriculars. In fact, the only activities she did, Paris MADE her do. Paris is the real hero of the show!
I'm never going to stop reminding people that Brad Pitt got divorced b/c he hit his kid on a plane, and yet everyone is rooting for him to win an Oscar tonight.
#Oscars2020
I will NEVER understand how TMZ can see
#AngelinaJolie
as the villain in her divorce from Brad Pitt when he's getting divorced because he hit their kid while drunk on a plane. If this isn't sexism, I don't know what is...
Jessica Mulroney has made a fortune - and become famous - from her association with a Black woman. Now she's threatened to SUE Sasha Exeter for pointing out she hasn't supported Black women, even though Meghan made her famous? F-ck that noise!
#JessicaMulroney
Brad Pitt is getting divorced b/c he hit his kid, but SOMEHOW Angelina Jolie is being portrayed as the villain by multiple major news outlets. That's a GREAT case study in misogyny:
#BradPitt
#AngelinaJolie
For those of you who are wondering, YES, I was pregnant at my wedding. This is all part of my plan to model my life as much as possible after Reese Witherspoon's. She was born on my birthday (ten years before me) and was pregnant with Ava Phillipe at her first wedding.
#LifeGoals
I got my booster on December 17th and I contracted COVID last week. Even with the third shot, I'm so weak I can barely stand and it's a struggle to look after my (also sick) toddler. I cannot imagine how sick I would have become without a booster. Please go get yours!
Uber has failed to get back to me about a creepy driver who only took me home after I explained I'd "shared" the ride info with my fiance and put him on speaker phone. What has
@Uber
done to you? Let's share. This is an old-fashioned naming and shaming exercise!
#ShameOnUber
My critique of the critiques of
#Expats
. I'm hopping mad about the racism and sexism of people who think this show is bad b/c it's derivative when they love similar shows made by white guys. And, why do you HATE Nicole Kidman for being good at her JOB???
When you're pregnant, there's a lot of pressure to be happy all the time, but the truth is, I'm not. It's taboo to say you're miserable during a planned pregnancy. I'm super grateful to be having a baby, after all. My child is very wanted, but I'm still sad...
I have no patience for anyone spewing Islamaphobic, racist hatred on the Internet right now.
#faisalhussain
's actions should NOT be seen as a reflection of Muslim-Canada communities.
@girdley
A lot of these points are great, but millennials came of age in the worst recession during The Depression. Afterward, many of us had children during a global pandemic. I don't think we're known for our positive experiences or optimistic expectations...
#Antidepressants
saved my life. Therapy and exercise are helpful to me, but I don't have the will to do either without my Wellbutrin. Let's not vilify antidepressants. Not everyone needs them, but they're an invaluable tool for those who do...
You know, 35 is the age I've feared being since I was fifteen and read that fear-mongering Time Magazine article about women's fertility! But I've been 35 for a few hours now, and I actually feel FINE.
#EarlyMiddleAge
#NewDemographic
#FleishmanIsInTrouble
offers one of the most powerful depictions I have ever seen of childbirth trauma on television. What the series gets is that these experiences can scar you for the long term, even if you are fortunate enough to complete a live birth...
Remember their names, remember the lives they did not get to live. Remember that this was not the end of violence against women in Canada, which is still an epidemic...
33 years ago tonight, 14 women went to bed thinking about their finals, future in STEM and the upcoming holiday season. They didn’t know that these dreams threatened a man’s sense of self worth and that they wouldn’t survive to see their goals and aspirations become a reality.
The fact Dr. Jill Biden wants to keep her job is groundbreaking. A First Lady has never kept her employment after her husband becomes president. The very concept of First Lady assumes wmn are just ancillary figures to their husbands. Keep that job, Jill!
Jill Biden, a college English professor with four degrees, including a doctorate, plans to keep her day job after moving into the White House as First Lady of the United States.