@triggerpod
@LozzaFox
@francisjfoster
@KonstantinKisin
34% of childhood sexual assaults are by family members (statistics from
@RAINN
) - although this may seem unfathomable to someone who would never hurt their child, itโs so important to remember not every child has that safety, and learning about boundaries and consent may really
@hoebiscus
1) start speaking back. โShut the fuck upโ was a regular of mine when transitioning out of this ๐คฃ
2) arguably the harder partโฆ figure out whose voice it is, that has been internalised. No one is born self hating. It is learned, sadly, sometimes it is the voice of a parent.
How I am a โnew artistโ at 38 ๐คฃ๐
โขgot signed at my 3rd ever open mic gig at 23 (had been working in a bank before that!)
โขrecorded an album
โขthe label went bust
โขself released the album using money from my Mumโs will (ยฃ20,000)
โขalbum flopped
โขfelt huge amounts of
Today I am 5 years sober.
When I first walked into a meeting I was a nervous (and hungover) wreck.
A failed music career, 10 failed relationships, ยฃ40,000 in debt, and a mountain of self hatred.
They tell you in recovery that youโll โlive a life beyond your wildest dreamsโโฆ
At 22, I tried to kill myself
At 23, I worked in a bank
At 24, I released a song
At 25, I got signed
At 26, my label went bust
At 27, I swore never to sing again
At 34, I got sober
At 35, I got therapy
At 36, I released another song
At 37, I sold out my first show
internet, can we share this message?!
@Aidan_Real
was on the X Factor & had to pretend to be straight, his current label didnโt want him promoting himself as gay. so he is releasing THIS song. letโs let the music industry know we SUPPORT GAY ARTISTS ๐
pre save BOYS in his bio
In 2017 I used to get drunk & cry because my music career didnโt work out. I was 32. I knew Iโd missed my chance. It was too late.
In 2018 I got sober. And started working diligently for a goal that seemed impossible.
In 2023, I just sold out every show of my first tour. ๐ญ๐๐ผ
I just won BEST UK BREAKTHROUGH ARTIST at the
@heavymusicawds
At 39 years old.
Never, ever let anyone tell you itโs too late. Especially not yourself!
Thank you to the
#37club
that voted for this. As always, I owe you EVERYTHING.
I have a new termโฆ industry weeds. ๐ฑ
No one believed in you, there was no big label (or family money), and you were told you wouldnโt make itโฆ
But you stuck around long enough and started growing where you werenโt supposed to, and now they canโt get rid of you ๐๐ผ
Seeing myself on peopleโs Spotify wrapped blows my mind. 2 years ago I wasnโt even releasing music. Iโm 39.
I had to make some pretty big life changes to give music another shotโฆ maybe some of them are helpful.
A thread for people who think itโs too late: ๐งต
Me at 32: knowing I was too old for a career in music. Drinking till black out most days. Full of self hatred, and a deep sadness for the dreams I would never achieve.
Me at 38 years old: heading out on my first tour in May. Sober.
Life really can do a 180 on you ๐ค
Being an artist is hard.
Being an artist dealing with daily transphobic abuse both in print and online is near impossibleโฆ
But thatโs what
@noahfinnadams
does. A brave and incredible artist.
His debut album is out TODAY! And I am so grateful to have co-written some songs.๐๐ผ
iโm playing
@DownloadFest
2024. beyond grateful for this ๐ฅน whoโs coming?!
p.sโฆ I TURN 40 NEXT YEAR WHAT THE FUCKโฆ. IT ISNT TOO LATE TO GO AFTER YOU FUCKING DREAMS
When I met my person I was in debt, newly sober, with a very poor credit rating, and very unstable mental health.
It was his love and support that helped me heal ๐ฉต
Love is the best medicine we have, and you donโt need to be anything but human to receive it ๐๐ผ
my hot take is i donโt think anybody should be dating until their shit is together. eating healthy, working out regularly, having a morning routine, a spiritual practice, a therapist, financial discipline. things like that have to come first.
In total shock ๐ญ
Iโve been nominated for โBest UK Breakthrough Artistโ by the
@heavymusicawds
๐ณ
I truly hope this happening to me at 39 can encourage others who may be feeling like itโs too late.
If youโd like to vote, here is the link๐๐ผ
the hallowed grounds just blew my mind.
@DownloadFest
that was absolutely biblical!!!
beyond grateful to everyone who showed up so hard for me. memories I will never ever forget. THANK YOU.
I was emotionally abused by someone in the music industry for 5 years. He told me I would never work again, and that he would bankrupt me when I broke free from him.
Now Iโm singing the song I wrote about him on a sold out tour of the UK.
I always worried life would be boring sober.
But I am currently in bed at 9.20pm listening to a podcast on psychoanalytic theory and I am as happy as a pig in shit. โค๏ธ๐๐ผ
I am actually extremely boring.
And boring is elite.
Boring is life goals.
RรRY chats with us backstage at Slam Dunk Festival 2024 - their first ever festival appearance. She talks collaborating with
@BlindChannelFIN
on 'Die Another Day' and working on more new music
Watch:
in 3 years sobriety has transformed my lifeโฆ
โขengaged to the most wonderful person after 10 very toxic relationships (I was the toxic part)
โขdebt free and an improved credit rating
โขa calmer / happier relationship with my Dad
โขwork success beyond my wildest dreams โค๏ธ
Hereโs 36. One for every month. ๐
Met TLOML after 10 failed relationships.
Became a step Mum.
Moved house three times.
Wrote 3 UK Top 10 songs.
Got a gold record.
Got a platinum record.
None of the records made me happy.
Got out of ยฃ40,000 debt.
Changed credit rating from
DONโT MAKE BIG DECISIONS ON BAD MENTAL HEALTH DAYS
DONโT MAKE BIG DECISIONS ON BAD MENTAL HEALTH DAYS
DONโT MAKE BIG DECISIONS ON BAD MENTAL HEALTH DAYS
DONโT MAKE BIG DECISIONS ON BAD MENTAL HEALTH DAYS
UK TOUR ANNOUNCEMENT 2024! ๐ฌ๐ง
If youโd like access to pre-sale tickets, comment which show youโd like to come to and I will DM you a private link for tickets tomorrow.
General sale: Friday @ 10AM
Advice I would give my 28 year old self:
โขexcessive drinking and drug taking is linked to a difficult childhood. There is no shame in it, but getting help for the underlying causes will save you a lot of pain
โขyou are struggling to maintain a healthy long term relationship
My brand new EP โFAMILY DRAMAโ is coming October 6th.
Including FAMILY TREE, ALTERNATIVE, hurt myself, the apology iโll never receive plus three brand new songs.
Pre-Order signed CDs and exclusive merch now. ๐ค
Happy New Year from 2016 me.
Blacking out. Self harming. Having screaming rows. Racking up massive debt. Feeling like a piece of shit most of the time.
That all changed with the decision to put down the drink.
Thinking of those getting and staying sober this year. ๐ฉต๐๐ผ
TRY comes out Friday. ๐ฅบ๐ฅบ๐ค๐ฝ๐ค๐ฝ
a song about NEVER GIVING UP.
wrote it at a time of personal heartbreak & struggle with my identity. so happy it will soon be yours ๐ค๐ฝ๐ค๐ฝ๐ค๐ฝ๐ค๐ฝ
thank u
@MitisOfficial
and
@OpheliaRecords
for the magic xxx
PRE-SAVE:
I donโt just want โgirls onlyโ mosh pits.
I want:
-people under 5ft 4 mosh pits
-people who hate being touched gentle mosh pits
-people who are really socially awkward just bobbing mosh pits
-sober mosh pits
This is why I stand at the back ๐คฃโค๏ธ
3 years ago I was drunk and high on drugs for the last time.
it was also the last time Iโฆ
โขcheated on someone
โขdidnโt sleep for 3 nights
โขpartied with strangers
โขmissed important work
โขtook drugs not knowing what was in them
halle-fucking-lujah to that โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
โWhy didnโt you just leave?โ
Because I thought it was love, I thought I could fix him, and I thought I needed him to survive.
It took 2 years after leaving to realise it was abuse, and 5 years after that to realise I learned these dynamics in childhood.
@DrMcFillin
My identity before understanding it was ADHD was โlazy, useless, loserโ.
Living with an incredible amount of shame and confusion as to why I couldnโt do certain things.
It felt like a breath of fresh air to have a word to describe my experience that didnโt involve personal
Imagine if someone told you that the 924th song you wrote would be a hit.
How much easier would it be to accept the 923 rejections, KNOWING, you were one step closer to successโฆ
Thatโs exactly how it works. We just donโt know the number in advance โค๏ธ
just taking a moment to reflect that 3 years ago I was about to go bankrupt & now things are going pretty well. fuck me life did a 180 and I am very grateful.
Notice the warning signs when you are starting to feel low.
For me itโs sleeping in my make-up, not showering, and much higher screen time.
Noticing can just be a little reminder that maybe we need to slow down, speak to someone, or work through something ๐ค
New music is coming in April.
Which means leaving behind the โGOOD DIE YOUNGโ eraโฆ
A record filled with so much sadness and deeply personal stories, it was truly a surprise how many people resonated. If that was you. Thank you ๐ค
From my therapistโฆ โself harm will often affect the chronically invalidated. Those whose emotional worlds have been ignored and shamed.โ
If you are fighting this now, or if you are in recovery, I hope you know it isnโt your fault.
Iโm six years free ๐ค
Just found out the entire tour SOLD OUT ๐ญ no words other than thank you. We are doing this ๐ฏ independently and the only reason we can do itโฆ is YOU!
Massive love to
@LiveNationUK
for this unbelievable plaque ๐ญ๐ฉต
So many people find success later in life. Not just at work, but in their personal lives too (which is arguably more important!)
For those who have been through traumatic events, debt, mental health struggles, or come from difficult families the timeline is different. ๐ฉท
why do we put limits on ourselves bc of our age? Iโm not even 30 yet and I, for some reason, think that I canโt achieve my dreams now bc itโs โtoo lateโ. itโs so stupid. if
@its_R_O_R_Y
did it after 30, then so can I and so can you. stop limiting yourself just bc of your age!!!๐ฉท
The most beautiful thing about loneliness, is that when itโs felt deeply by people in the same room, it ceases to be loneliness and becomes connection โค๏ธ
Best thing to beat imposter syndrome?
Remember that LITERALLY EVERYONE is an imposter ๐ (yes, even the people you admire the most!).
No one comes out of the womb doing epic stuff, itโs all just practice and audacity. โค๏ธ
I have so many reasons why
@noahfinnadams
and
@bearsintrees
are some of the nicest people in music, BUT, my favourite reason is that my teenage step-child called me โnot totally cringeโ for the first time because I have met them both ๐
Stream their
I didnโt make art I liked for a decade. Hereโs what I wish I had known back then:
1. No one is coming to give you permission. Only you can do that.
2. Low self esteem is beaten by hard work.
3. You cannot control the outcome of an artistic project, only be brave enough to
Mothers Day in the UK.
It always stings, having lost my Mum many years ago.
I didnโt cry at my Mums funeral. Now, 17 years later, I tear up almost daily at the thought of her.
The 5 Stages of Grief always struck me as so over simplified. Trying to understand, and
Some days youโll hate what you make.
Some days youโll think itโs pretty cool.
Only make important creative decisions with the second mindset โค๏ธ
(Imagine how many incredible works of art have been abandoned or thrown away due to self doubt)